Good for you, lindsaygii, you do indeed have option 4. I feel that if you are assertive with them that they are more likely to play ball, if only to stop you ringing up :lol: Seriously, it is a disgrace that you have to resort to this! :x
Anyone who wants to know who their MP is can find it here:http://findyourmp.parliament.uk/
Uhmmm, would an MP be any good to me regarding BT? hahaha
I think that's a good idea, if Trading Standards don't get anywhere and Ofcom won't act because they don't have it in writing.
You're right, there is even a website which promotes a major (and ridiculous) loophole for those who should pay...and no, I will NOT be mentioning what it is :lol:
Let's hope that the pressure from the MP will work!
Good for you going ahead with the MP. I wish I had done all of this when my son was born. Now of course, the father has got away with it because he is in another country, (which suits me just fine, shame it's not further mind you) :lol:
I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. Though it is hard feeding and clothing babies, it certainly gets a lot harder as they get older!!!
I get £5 a week and that INCLUDES paying back three hundred odd quid in arrears : )
In all reality when it comes to small amounts like that I don't think it benefits anyone.
Hi Leefern
The whole situation is ridiculous isn't it? I actually think Bubblegum is right about the piddling amount not worth the hassle, but then again, every little bit helps right.
My son's half sister's Mum was receiving some money for only 3 months, then the 'sperm doner' disappeared out of the country. He owes her £4000, and she knows she will never see it. I can't do anything about money now because he is out of the country. The CSA did tell me that if he came to England, and I knew when, I could then have him arrested and his passport taken from him.
Now, this sounds very vindictive, but I would do it :lol: :lol: The Mum to his daughter would rather the Spanish authorities got involved, as she says, their prisons are far worse than ours :lol:
Personally, I would love to see him castrated!
In time it is he that is going to be the loser. One day he will be old, and (hopefully)need looking after, and I shall be there to spit in his face.
CSA arrears are suposed to be included in the assessment, however if the parent without majority care has an income below a certain level then there is a ceiling (£5 a week in some cases!) So when you get the assessment, lindsaygii, (2011?) in theory it will spell that out.
I agree that there are few things more annoying or frustrating than a parent who doesn't contribute or seem to be interested :evil:
I agree that there are few things more annoying or frustrating than a parent who doesn't contribute or seem to be interested :evil:
There isn't? 8-) :shock: :? :roll: :twisted: :D
....well actually I can't think of ANY!
The CSA is the result of a vote grabbing agenda gone wrong.. just like most everything else our governments push around at election times it really has no grounding in reality beyond a few surveys and a database in excel.
That's ridiculous, lindsaygii. The "philosophy" (I use the term loosely! ;) ) behind the system is that no-one, whether a Parent With Care on benefits or Non-resident Parent should have less than "X" amount to live on. I have seen lots of parents (mainly dads) living in total penury after the payment of their child maintenance, yet on the other hand, poeple like your boys' dad appear to be in a VERY much better position! :x
Lindsaygii, I salute you! :P What a saga of long-winded hassle and difficulty this has been for you and WELL DONE for persisting and I hope so much that Scoop Aid will be able to get you a good result.
I'm taking the matter I have to the MP too - or at least I will when I have time! :roll:
The Git works full-time, but has told CSA he works 12 hours a week - which he does with one employer, PLUS loads of overtime. He's also a bank nurse (auxillary) with the NHS. I've asked a few times now for an attachment of earnings to be put on his wage. I can only assume the nursing home where he does the overtime pays him in cash.
He should pay just under £53 a month for the children, but is forever in arrears. I was probably ok about things until he gets married in the USA last year and then holidays in Greece this year. He also pleads poverty to the children if they ask for things. He has told the youngest he doesn't have to pay for things as he doesn't live with us.
On one hand, I don't want anything off him. Him moving to the USA was a dream for a while, but I figure he's too old now at 49. Yet the thing that gets me is the fact he lies. If he was a responsible father, he could lie as much as he wants :D But he's a Git...
I think on CSA the idea on paper is absolutely brilliant. In reality though, I think if people choose to lie about their income, and hide it well, (don't forget there are mother's who are the NRPs and lie) I don't really see what any body - official or otherwise - can do to change that.
As I say to people. I married badly. Clearly the 'Jones' gene must be pretty strong though, as the children do seem to be 'quite' pleasant 8-)
Hello sparkling lime,
That £53 a month sounds very low. I know you lose most of it from your Income Support but it is the principle here! The more MPs put pressure on the agency, the more likely it is to be reformed. I know that the new Child Maintenance Options scheme is excellent, but it does rely on parents co-operating together.
I hear a lot of stories of non-paying parents (both men and women, as you say) and I also hear of parents who have the kids almost half the time yet not only do they not receive any of the Child Tax Credit/Child Benefit, they also pay child support and half of everything like nursery fees and end up in poverty themselves. I know that one system will NOT fit all but surely we could have a better way of enforcing fair payments from reluctant payers (soap box now :x )
There must be a way of sorting this out, really.
As you say it is the principal. If you felt that things were at least sort of fair, you lose some anger.
This month there's been £22 payment from the CSA. £6 per child for a month.
He could actually turn me to violence, and I don't actually consider myself to be a violent person.
(I could be wrong there, of course)
I understand that you wish you hadn't bothered. But I for one am so glad that you have. SOMEONE has got to stand up to them! I know you would rather it wasn't you. :(
Hi lindsay
Sorry to hear you are going through a bad time with the CSA. Have to hand it to you, you are great for sticking with it, and going further etc. Good on you. I wish you well.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi Lindsaygii
How did it go with ScoopAid??
I would love to read your blog, lindsaygii. I do take my hat off to you; you're a woman after my own heart!
I'd like to read your blog too :)
I keep one too, not as much now as I used to, it kind of comes in waves. Sometimes my entries come from something I have started in a thread somewhere in a forum.
later.
Do you get lots of people reading your blog Bubblegum? and do you advertise it to anyone?
Brilliant idea for a thread!
I really think that the key to it is what you are doing, lindsaygii, keep on their backs.
it would be great to hear peoples' experiences. I know sparkling lime has had a long history with them......