Uncooperative ex. What to do?
OOOOOH thanks for posting that, how lovely. The room will look fab!
Now, come on, you could make a little business out of this........ ;)
They're so pretty!
They were so easy to do, just felt shapes tacked together with wool and stuffed with polyester stuffing. I can't believe people charge so much for something really similar. I ordered a bunch of vintagey looking fabric remnants online (£6.00 for 1 and a half yards) and i'm going to make lots and see how they sell online. if they sell well then i'll order the same fabrics but a couple of metres of each. also the fabrics are really lovely anyway. i want to make placemats out of at least 3 of them. =D
You may think it is easy but it would be totally beyond me, IfYouSeeHer. Good luck with your enterprise!
Today's visit didnt go so terribly, his girlfriend wasnt there to make snide remarks and look down her nose at me and I had a pretty good day. We also managed to come to an arrangement about visiting as I think that little one is far too young to be spending nights away from me aaaannnddd he's paid for a DNA testing kit just so he can't keep throwing that one in my face. He still made a couple of nasty comments to me but I let them glance off me and I'm not going to let him bother me. I am worth more than that and I'm not going to let his immaturity and propensity to behave in a generally hurtful manner get to me.
ifyouseeher,
you are worth more than that, you are doing so well.
big huuug for you
sy
Well done you!!!! it will take a while for these things to get easier but it sounds as if you coped as well as you could. That would be fantastic to get the DNA thing over and done with so it can stop being an issue. Give yourself a giant pat on the back-you're right, you are worth FAR, FAR more than that. :D
Brilliant IfYouSeeHer.
IfyouseeHer I am so glad that the visit went well, that new partner wasn't there (I hope he didn't use that to make her jealous, but that is her bag now).
You are creative, I loved your bird hangings, it must be lovely to get really into your 'art' I imagine everything else fades into insignificance when you are stitching, stuffing and hanging!
Will you go to your doctors about your hair? Is there anything that they can do? Or is it about taking the time out to de-stress, whenever you feel pressure rising?
hello ifyouseeher,
i know it's a bit odd question, but what teapot did you get in the end?
You are clever attaching picture of your creativity to your post, I haven't worked out how to do that yet!
curious teapot type huuugg
sy
I got a nice white one with little blue bows on. It is lovely. I've enjoyed quite a few lovely cups of tea from it.
I've been staying with my gran the past few days though as being incredibly clumsy, I've managed to fall down the stairs and break my arm so if I was on my own then frankly, I'd struggle a lot more than I have been. My grandparents have told me that I will stay at theirs with them until my cast comes off so they can help out. I can't even bathe the little one by myself at the moment.
Oh goodness!
you poor thing ifyouseeher! Does it hurt now?
Great that you have lovely grandparents to help you. Bet they enjoy helping too.
Wondered where you've been...was worried.
Thanks for describing teapot, I'm sooooo nosy. Hehe.
Please get better soon, hope it's not a bad break on your arm.
Huug for you
Sy
Oh heck! Poor you.
I'm so glad your grandparents are helping. That's so lovely.
Take care.
If you see her I am so, so sorry to hear about your accident, it must have been terrifying for you as you fell. What a relief that you have your grandparents. How long will the cast be on? I ma gald you can still manage to type and stay in touch with us...... :) Hope you soon feel more comfortable, best wishes
Hiya, if you see her, i too was wondering where and how you are, so sorry to hear you have an injury
GET WELL SOON! ;)
What colour is your plaster??
The cast will be off in another 5 weeks. =[ It doesnt hurt so much now, more of a dull ache than anything. It's bearable and I'm getting used to it. The plaster is pink, but it's on my left arm so I'm thinking of painting it and making it pretty just because there's not much I can really do right now and I'm getting very bored.
Thankyou for all the get well wishes, I really do appreciate it.
In other news I got a phonecall from the hospital about my expartner. He was admitted a couple of days ago with severe back pain and now can't really move at all and for some reason, rather than giving staff his new girlfriends number to call, he gave them mine. =S It's not like I can really do anything, and even if I could, I probably wouldnt. I know it sounds horrible but he put me through hell and then he left me, and now he's expecting me to drop everything and come and rescue him.
Ifyouseeher,
hope you're sleeping ok with your pink arm.
Goodness, it seems odd giving hospital your number, what do they or he actually expect you to do?
You have your own life now, and he is being cared for medically. His emotional care is no longer your responsibility. Over to new girlfriend or his relatives I think for this one.
What kind of things are you going to decorate your arm with? I guess it need be waterproof colour, of it'll become big swirly pattern in the rain :) Hey, what about those tiny stick-on diamante jewel things, with the sunny weather they would really sparkle! They about £3 all inclusive for 228 1mm ones on ebay. Not for young children though.
Big huuug for you!
sy
I'll probably use acrylic as that'll stay on and be waterproof (though I'm not supposed to get it wet at all. Showering is a nightmare.) I really like the stick on jewel idea. I'll have the most summery arm ever. I'm sure it'll cheer me up, especially with all this awful weather thats going on.
I sent his new girlfriend a text telling her what was going on as I wasnt sure if she knew. I said she should probably go and clean his house up a little bit because I know that even if he's on his own for a few days his house will be a bombsite. I'm sooooo considerate. =D I also really enjoyed the image of her scrubbing floors and washing plates and cleaning up his mess. It's not my problem anymore and I love it!
Ifyouseeher,
It's not my problem anymore and I love it!
Absolutely right on!
Sorry, I've been on ebay looking for jewels for you, hehe. Item number 140304979139. Though there are loads.
I bought Arwen lots of little glass and silver beads for xmas. Unfortunately, they are still turning up everywhere. Not as painful to tread on as marbles though. Marbles come second only to the pain of treading on an upturned appliance plug.
Can you post a picture of your arm when you have decorated it?
love sy
I love the idea of decorating the cast!
Ex sounds a plonker...
I'm glad your arm isn't too painful. So inconvenient though...
Hello IfYou See her
Ah now, why am I not surprised that it is your number he has given them? Honestly, one thing I have seen happen loads of times is.......A leaves B for another partner, A has a problem, either with B or something else. A's instinct is to "run" to B, whom A still regards as their main nurturer. I am glad you did not engage in this, and I had to chuckle at your vision of B's compulsory spring-cleaning :lol:
Your artistic tendencies could be given full rein with your cast, though. Glad it doesn't hurt too much.
Hi Ifyouseeher
Louise described the situation perfectly with A and B!! I was going to say similar. He is feeling sorry for himself, he might even be trying to get back with you in a weird kind of way. I am so glad you didn't go running, as I am sure you were, I imagine you quite surprised at your reaction as well. How satisfying to know in his time of need it is you he thinks of!
Please do send an image of your arm, I want to see it too, I think the sparkly thing is a fab idea, but is it one of those netted plasters where sticking things on could be difficult??
Hi ifyouseeher,
wondered how your arm was and if you have decorated it?
sy
Why are ex's so annoying?
It has been 7 weeks now and my little girl has not stayed over yet - ex won't allow it.
Now, apparently, she is allowing stay over this weekend. She has asked for nanny to accompany on pickup as ex not think arwen will come with me. I think drop-off will be problem, i think arwen will be upset.
Luke ask me to ask ex if he can come friday, I text politely and get zip all back. Why can't he come and stay? I'm off that day? He's been cooped-up in the flat for 2 days now.
grrr
Pick-ups AND drop-offs can both be a problem, in my experience, and we shouldn't put too much store by them. What children want is both parents, not to be handed from one to the other...BUT they are amazingly, wonderfully resilient and will get used to the new order of things if they are done in a calm and reassuring and loving way. The problem, as Sy has highlighted, is when it is conflict-ridden.
Double GRRR!
Am back home now, but will be going to stay with my Gran for a couple of days next week so I can go out for my birthday with a few friends which I'm really looking forward to despite my cast. It looks really pretty, I bought lots of sequins and beads and paint and it's all flowery and not at all tasteful. I ended up having to use rubber cement to stick sparkly things on because nothing else worked on the cast. =D It should be interesting to take off to say the least.
Took little one to see her father yesterday, unfortunately he seems to mistake the fact that I'm being pleasant and polite for the babys sake for "please try and have sex with me" which made things a little awkward. I'm still standing my ground. His new girlfriend broke up with him apparently because he has a daughter and that's a big commitment for her?!
Hello ifyouseeher,
missed you.
You're the only one who knows how to post a picture, can we see your cast? You did promise*.
You are being very confident, taking charge of contact, being steady and polite. Goodness, bet the sexual advance was really awkward. Look how well you coped though!
Not tasteful is "in fashion" at the moment re cast style. Oh c'mon, I want to see!
love
sy
*allright you didn't, but it was worth a try!
I've misplaced my camera, but the moment I find it I'll post a picture and you can admire my handiwork.
I'm not really being at all confident, I'm still being sick and my hair is still falling out in clumps and I'm not sleeping at all well. It's just a facade that I've put on just to show him that he can't phase me. I let him get away with so much during our shambles of a relationship, he was so controlling, I just don't wish to be controlled by him anymore. It's a good job my mum's around so I can ring her at ridiculous o'clock in the morning to have a good cry.
In other news, one of my close friends recently told me that he'd been in love with me for quite some time. Not really sure where to go with that to be honest. I can definitely see myself being in a relationship with him one day, but I'm not sure that I'm ready for that yet. Things are getting awfully confusing. I'm going out with him for my birthday though. Maybe I'll have an epiphany, one can hope I guess.
ifyouseeher,
I reeeeaaally want to see this cast decoration. :lol:
It's not really a facade, you are being brave and doing and behaving in a way that's not natural for you or anyone. But you see the good in it and put aside your own feelings for greater good. I think that's marvellous. Well done you.
That is being a strong person. I didn't do what you did. I think you're fab.
Re romance, weeell, I've only had one partner so I'm not best placed in this. If he has loved you from afar, maybe he could wait a bit longer for your emotions to be more settled?
What triggers the sickness, is it sad thoughts, or worry - which worry is it? Hair, hmmmm. Are you tugging with stress? Stand in front of mirror, and tell yourself how lovely you are. You need to mean it. Tell yourself you will have bad days, and they will be followed by good days. There will be more and more good days.
love
sy
How fab you are to be able to put on this brave face in front of your daughter's dad! (well done). I was once in a rather absusive on-off relationship and for some reason, once we had finally finished, I used to meet him for lunch in an effort to prove to him (and me) that I was soooooooo not bothered. I was always sick afterwards, though :oops: It is harder for you as you have a child together and all I can say, in rather trite fashion, is that it WILL get easier.
That's lovely that you have an admirer. Don't rush into anything, just enjoy the admiration :)
HAPPY BIRTHDAY by the way
Hiya IfYouSeeHer
[b]Happy Birthday 20 today![/b]
Welcome to the rest of your life!! I hope you had a fab night out, with no regrets (re -male friend who has told you he has fancied you from afar for a while).
Please be careful, we are so vulnerable in the early stages of a break up and we need time to heal and be strong again otherwise we end up being someone elses hobby, nuturing us back to happiness. We also can become quite dependant on them, or we might lose them because we are still fixated or torn up by ex.
You sound as if you know this already, I just wanted to reiterate it, so take care!
Tell us all about your birthday AND find your camera so we can see your plaster!! :D
Hope you have a brilliant birthday!!
Happy birthday!
hug
sy
Hope you had a WONDERFUL BIRTHDAY, If You See Her!!
My little girls room is sky blue, so I'm going to make lots and string them from the ceiling. I saw ones similar online but there's no way I'm paying £25 for something I can make myself from felt scraps and ribbon that I already had in my crafts cupboard.