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Will my son be taken away?

harissa

Unfortunately it can't be undone. We are stuffed!

I'm waiting for my MP to phone back and am trawling the net for campaigns and info. It makes for extremely grim reading and affects us all:
http://reclaimyourdna.org/further-information/children/

Posted on: December 10, 2009 - 3:31pm
sparklinglime
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DoppleMe

I'm so sorry to be reading this harissa, as it had all sounded so positive.

I know you'll be doing all you can, as even though you may not feel it today, you are such a determined person, leaving no stone unturned.

I really don't know what to suggest. :(

Posted on: December 10, 2009 - 4:37pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

hi harissa

How dreaful and what a shock after the "positive" outcome you had thought had been achieved

The DNA issue was discussed on the radiothe other day and if you refuse to give DNA you can be forced,so you may end up having to do this BUT it is a disgrace about the solicitor business and surely a solicitor NOW can represent your son. I am glad you have got your MP on the case. Try not to think about the work-focused interview at the moment, in fact if you are still feeling awful by the day could you postpone it on the grounds of illness?

Posted on: December 10, 2009 - 5:29pm
harissa

I had been on the phone all afternoon trying to postpone the WFI but no one picked up. No answer machine there either. It is not even at the job centre, so may have been subcontracted to some other agency.

I desperately needed to phone friends and/or family as I have been feeling suicidal, but needed to keep the phone line clear in case the MP got back to me. He hasn't yet. Maybe his meeting over-ran.

Posted on: December 10, 2009 - 6:12pm
sparklinglime
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I can only imagine how desperate you are feeling, and I'm sorry the MP didn't get back to you. It 'only' takes a phone call and they're on to something else.

I do hope you have some answers tomorrow.

Sending loads of strength your way.

Posted on: December 10, 2009 - 11:47pm

hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Hi harissa
How are you feeling today? I hope the MP rings. Stay strong for yourself and your son.
Take care
Alison
x :)

Posted on: December 11, 2009 - 11:26am

harissa

Actually I'm getting increasingly riled.

I finally managed to get through to the jobcentre to postpone the WFI and the phone call was a nightmare. They wanted to bring the interview forwards (interesting interpretation of "postpone") to NOW, as in get myself over there right NOW!! I said this wasn't possible and they demanded that I account for everything I am scheduled to do next week. I absolutely REFUSED to stick an important WFI inbetween my son's dental appontment and the police station appointment as I do not have the mental energy nor the ability to physically be in 2 places at once. They assume everyone has a car, I gather.

Having accounted for my next week's whereabouts, I suspect they will conclude I am too busy to be available for work - which is true for next week, in the current family crisis and pre-christmas everything-happening-at-once-at-school scenario!

Still, they grudgingly let me have an appointment for the following Monday. If, for whatever reason I cannot make that, bang goes my income and the roof over our heads, etc. I'll probably have to bring my son along, which could be entertaining for all.

Currently stuck here waiting for the school and MP to call back. Great!

Posted on: December 11, 2009 - 12:07pm

sparklinglime
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The pressure of the wfi...

The weather was absolutely horrendous when I had mine a couple of weeks back. As I left the girl said 'thank you for making the effort to come in with this weather'. I just looked at her and said ' as if I had a choice'!!

I really hope you hear soon harissa.

Posted on: December 11, 2009 - 12:16pm

harissa

I phoned the MP, spoke to his secretary and found out that it was possible the other secretary hadn't passed my message on...or maybe she did. MP has been busy this morning at a meeting with the chief of police to discuss DNA database issues. Could be coincidence but then it IS a politically hot topic right now.

The secretary, herself a mother of boys, was absolutely horrified that an 11 year old could end up on the database for something like this. I've found a number of articles in respected newspapers telling of little kids being dna-ed simply for pulling another child's hair or even for doing nothing wrong but simply being accused by another child. A proper witchhunt of the innocent!

Posted on: December 11, 2009 - 1:00pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

At least if the scretary is horrified she might be more inclined to make sure the MP does deal with your enquiry. The DNA database really is a hot topic and as I say, I was hearing about it on the radio the other day, you must get some legal support on this anyway and it might be worth ringing this Helpline: http://www.equalityhumanrights.com/our-job/advice-from-our-helpline/

How is your son in the middle of all this?

Posted on: December 12, 2009 - 8:26am

sparklinglime
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I'm glad you got through.

I really hope that you're able to enjoy a weekend together.

Posted on: December 12, 2009 - 10:22am

harissa

The email to the MP took ages and I also took the liberty of copying the professor hailed as "the father of genetic finger printing" into my email to him.

The latter has been cited in The Guardian as saying "My genome is my property. It is not the state's. I will allow the state access to that genome under very strict circumstances. It is an issue of my personal genetic privacy," he said. "I have met some [innocent] people who are on the database and are really distressed by the fact. They feel branded as criminals and I would feel branded as a criminal." Here is the article in full:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/politics/2009/apr/15/jeffreys-dna-database-human-rights-police

Should anyone else find themselves in the same boat, here are links to some of the more useful web material:

http://reclaimyourdna.org/ specifically http://reclaimyourdna.org/further-information/children/

http://www.cond.org.uk/

http://www.yjb.gov.uk/en-gb/yjs/Home.htm

http://www.guardian.co.uk/politics/2009/feb/27/dna-database-children-criminal-record

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2008/mar/16/youthjustice.children

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1205867/300-children-day-added-DNA-database-400-000-15s-Big-Brother-roll.html

Yesterday was my birthday but the stress of the police thing and the WFI thing meant no celebrations. There was just too much to do and, as much as I hate it, these days I seem to have little time to do anything other than fight for our rights to exist and to protect my family :o(

Last weekend was written off by the theft of my son's beloved (saved-up for over several months) mobile phone from the house by two of his so-called "best friends". We got it back but the other parents were very bloody-minded about it. The whole thing made me feel sick inside. On that occasion it was my son's father who emerged the hero as I was getting absolutely nowhere alone so, at my wit's end, phoned him up and gibbered down the phone. He drove over here and took over and, being a man, his words seemed to carry more strength than mine. Sadly other parents DO take advantage and try to go in for the kill if they are dealing with a single parent. Sometimes back-up is essential! :o) Crikey, it is blooming hard work being a single parent in these times!!

Posted on: December 12, 2009 - 1:17pm

hazeleyes
DoppleMe

Hi harissa
A very very Happy Birthday for yesterday. Maybe today, you could perhaps do something, although I'm sure you're not really in the frame of mind.
Take care
Alison
x :)

Posted on: December 12, 2009 - 1:22pm

harissa

Hmmm, I'm eyeing up this evening's local Xmas lantern festival.... so the weather had better behave!!

Posted on: December 12, 2009 - 1:53pm

Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

That will be nice if you could get to go to something FUN, to alleviate a teeny bit of the stress you have been through. And Happy Birthday for yesterday, although it probably doesn't feel very happy! 8-)

Thanks for those links, I will go through them and save the sites in my ever-expanding folder of useful information. Do keep us posted as to what happens with the MP

Posted on: December 12, 2009 - 4:23pm

Claire-Louise

Hi Harissa
Thanks for your posts and my heart goes out to you as you and your son have already been through soo much that this is just added stress on top of it all and at this time of year, somehow does not seem right so I do feel for you. Still I am very proud of you, taking the bull by the horns, staying strong and fighting for your rights - contacting your MP and finding out whatever info you can (thanks for all those links), I will have a look through and they will be useful for other people as well I am sure. Do you now have a solicitor who is able to represent you and your son???
Please kepp popping back for support as and when you need to.
Thinking of you C-L

Posted on: December 12, 2009 - 8:15pm

sparklinglime
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harissa wrote:
Hmmm, I'm eyeing up this evening's local Xmas lantern festival.... so the weather had better behave!!

The weather here is clear and freezing, so I hope the weather is good for you and you do get there.

Happy Birthday from me too.

Posted on: December 12, 2009 - 8:42pm

harissa

The MP's advisor got back to me and said that the police can simply take DNA now, following a 2007 change in the law.

I have been considerably cheered by the supportive reply from Professor Jeffreys who furnished me with 2 excellent links:
http://cmiskp.echr.coe.int/tkp197/view.asp?item=1&portal=hbkm&action=html&highlight=DNA&sessionid=39730277&skin=hudoc-en
and
http://www.liberty-human-rights.org.uk/news-and-events/1-press-releases/2008/04-12-2008-retaining-dna-samples-of-innocents-breaches-human-rights.shtml

The first link is a landmark case taken to the European Court of Human Rights in December 2008: "The applicants complained under Articles 8 and 14 that the authorities had continued to retain their fingerprints and cellular samples and DNA profiles after the criminal proceedings against them had ended with an acquittal or had been discontinued." It discusses and answers many of the same questions I have myself asked.

Another very useful link which prints off in word format
http://www.archrights.org.uk/docs/ndnad.doc

My son had a dental filling booked for this week on the same day as the police appointment, so the latter has been postponed until January with little fuss. The PC I spoke to was reassuring about how my son would be dealt with regarding the reprimand. Once given it is immediately "spent" and does not have to be declared on future job applications.

I shall be phoning Liberty (as recommended by Prof Jeffreys) tonight as they have human rights legal advisors available on Monday evenings to give advice over the phone. My argument now concerns the legality of the taking of genetic samples from children, when the retention of such samples has already been ruled against. Basically, why take them in the first place on such dubious grounds?

See http://www.out-law.com/default.aspx?page=7945 "DNA database 'will span most of the UK population'", if you want to understand the full implications.

Posted on: December 14, 2009 - 3:17pm

sparklinglime
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DoppleMe

On the other hand, I'm glad that the PC you spoke to has explained things. In a way this is out of their hands. I'm glad you have these links.

Posted on: December 14, 2009 - 9:50pm

Claire-Louise

Hi harissa
Thanks for the post - those links will no doubt come in handy for someone else too. I am gald you heard back from your MP and got given those links. It all seems a bit pointless to me and causes unnecessary stress and worry. We are here for you and hope you are able to keep strong and see this one through.
Let us know how it goes.
C-L

Posted on: December 15, 2009 - 4:27pm

Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi harissa

It never rains but it pours! :?

What a crazy couple of weeks you have been having. You know all this information you are learning about: legal, law, dna, MP's, council, police, housing etc etc, you will be well qualified to work in your local voluntary sector!! You have reams of knowledge!

You have said that you need to speak to family and friends as you sometimes feel like hanging up the towel (is that the right phrase??) Do you ever call the Samaritans? 08457 90 90 90

They can be SOO supportive and probably give you better reassurances than even your closest pals, who are probably as just as much of a loss as you are regarding all this stuff.

Glad to hear that your ex stepped in and made his manly voice heard! Is your son looking forward to Christmas??

Posted on: December 16, 2009 - 11:51am

harissa

I'd never call the Samaritans as it is an 0845 number, which can work out quite costly if you are on a budget and every penny counts. Annoyingly, the police number is also 0845, as is the Liberty legal advice line. None of them are on the saynoto0870 website.

I phoned the Liberty line every 10 minutes on the 3 sessions it was open and only ever got a recorded message saying it was busy and to call back later. I am dreading next months phone bill as it would have cost me to hear that. Would have been better to have just got an engaged tone, dammit! Finally I got a message saying the line was closed for Xmas and won't reopen until January 4th --- too late for me as the boy gets DNAed on the 6th. I'm going to try the sayno2id people and see if they have any advice.

Posted on: December 18, 2009 - 11:35am

sparklinglime
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DoppleMe

0845 numbers to official bodies are a disgrace.

Posted on: December 18, 2009 - 1:00pm

Anonymous

Hi, Just for the record,I have checked with BT and they confirm that 0845 numbers dont cost any more than a local call, they are used so that the cost is same from wherever in the UK you call.

Posted on: December 18, 2009 - 3:59pm