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thanks elle - hope you have a good Christmas - i guess i am just wondering why he hasn't been in touch with kids since tues - i suppose he could have texted them but neither of them have had their phones on for a day or two and i find it hard that he couldn't have even rung today although seeing them tomorrow - i just can't make up my mind if he really does miss them or he is so busy in his new life that he just can't fit everything in - kids don't seem bothered though so not sure why i am. anyway enough negative thoughts - its nearly Christmas - Happy Christmas everyone x
Hi all. Littleredhen, hope you are okay. If the children don't seem bothered then that is good, try not to let him get to you. Take tomorrow hour by hour. We're all here for you. xx
elle, enjoy the time with R, your mum, and the lodger (not sure why, but that reminds me of a dodgy film) why????? hehe
Sparkling, so pleased the dryer is working. Are the children seeing the Git tomorrow? Hope you're okay
Louise, totally enjoy having the two boys together.
Hope everyone is okay tonight. xx
Hi hazel eyes hehe i know what you mean she used to go out with him for years and then he moved in 3 years ago as a lodger hes having xmas dinner with us tomorow as his mum died 3 years ago near xmas so think it brings back memories for him,Rs going bed at ten then its time to put all the presents out,is c tucked up in bed?
Your welcome little red hen.
Is C tucked up in bed???? No chance!!! I am waiting to do the same thing as you, as I'm more than ready to hit the sack myself. He's stuck the Santa key on the front door (we don't have a chimney), so again, as soon as he's in bed, the key can be removed, and hidden (again). Think I'll aim for 10pm like you.
Ah i bet hes shattered really bless him,i enjoy putting the presents out with my mum,does he leave anything out for santa? R used to leave cheese and onion crisps lol
Hes in bed,says he wont be able to sleep!! lol
Cheese and onion crisps hehe. C has left normal stuff, carrot, mince pie and milk. He's now in bed, so am putting presents out. Need to wait for him to fall asleep before I put a few things in his sack at end of bed. At this rate, I'll be asleep before him lol.
Enjoy your evening, and have a wonderful day tomorrow.
Merry Christmas Everyone. Don't forget to be in bed before midnight, or else Santa won't call. xxxxx
you too and hope you have a good nights sleep and dont get woken up to early!! x
Flambards. I've forgotten the milk and mince pie! Must do that now...
The Git, I don't think, is about - even though he told the children he would be. A parcel arrived yesterday with gifts for three of them. I think the present the oldest had for his birthday was combined... And needs about £80 worth of extras to make it work 
Told son he should have asked for a clutch...
Fifteen year old and the twelve year old are in bed and feeling pretty rotten.
no festive spirit, I'm afraid. Need to sort the stockings and then I can go to bed. Glad we've got the tree and fairy lights sort of sorted though. It doesn't look to bad in the living room.
I'm so thinking of you all, and really hope you are all ok tomorrow.
Good morning - Merry Christmas everyone - kids awake at 6.15! stockings opened and they are now playing on their games - ex due to arrive mid morning so i am going to try and relax so i am calm - hope everyone has a good day and everyone is feeling better!
You'll be ok littleredhen - and better still once he's gone.
I hope you have a lovely day. My lot are still asleep 
Hello everyone and HAPPY CHRISTMAS!!!
Little red hen yours were up early, hope you're not too tired. Deep breaths for mid-morning and remember all the One Space gang are thinking of you It's bound to be an emotional day so just go with it, it is OK to feel these things. However the childrens' father behaves, your mission is to keep things safe and fun for the chiildren and not to worry about his deficiencies.....so LOOK AFTER YOUSELF.
It's so different when they get older....my two went off to bed to watch a film with some cans of beer and haven't been seen since, and I am the first one to wake up. To be fair, eldest has been working some gruelling shifts.
Hope all of you will have a lovely morning and get to put your feet up at some stage, I will be here later to find out how you have got on......
Merry Christmas everyone!! Merry Christmas Louise!!
Hope you all have a super day! xxx
Merry xmas everyone,hope every one has a lovely day! x
We got up at 8 R got lots of presents hes very lucky so am i as i got a lot aswell,got the 2 things i really wanted a cath kidston bag and some stella mc cartney perfume,so am pleased with them.
Am not leaving the house today going to have a cosey day in and use all my new products and get in my new pjs read my new book and have a lovely xmas dinner.
Change of plan going to best friends mum for xmas tea,and play party games said i wasnt going this year but changed my mind when she phoned!
Merry Christmas Anna. I hope you're having a really lovely holiday too. xx
Elle - that sounds lovely.
I must have been a good girl this year as I've had presents!
Thinking of you all, and Merry Christmas to you..
My daughter and I went to a friend's yesterday, helped her wrap some gifts, and came home quite late. Got to bed about 2am..Then we were up at 9am, to have a cuppa and open gifts..I got some lovely things from my friends, and daughter...and now just waiting for her to get ready so we can leave to go to my other friend's Mum and Dad. So far it has been very relaxing, and I'm looking forward to today...
Hugs to you all xx
So glad you're enjoying the day Mich. xxx
Merry Christmas Everyone.
littleredhen. Enjoy the day once he has gone. Hugs for you. xx
C didn't get to sleep until 12.45, and I disturbed him at 7.45 (not intentionally). He is delighted with his presents, so in between trying to get dinner sorted, I'm in and out of the living room, at his beck and call, hehe. Not dressed yet, and contemplating not bothering lol.
Hope you all have a wonderful day. xxxx
Hello, and hope everyone is enjoying Christmas Day. Glad to know that there have been some happy little souls with their prezzies. I can't believe it is this time already, we had a light buffet after the boys went to their dad's and will have our turkey at 5 or 6.
Hi Anna, nice to see you and Merry Christmas to you, too 
I can't believe we're now into the afternoon!!! Just had dinner, so stuffed full now. Shock, horror, C and I decided not to even get dressed 
Now relaxing in living room, will start more games in a minute, just having a little break.
Hope the boys enjoyed the time at their Dads Louise. Enjoy your dinner, and the rest of the day.
Hope everyone is okay. xx
Enjoy the games.
We're about to watch Doctor Who.
Dinner eaten (purchased and cooked by moi), dishes washed (by moi and dishwasher), bins emptied (food bin and kitchen bin - my moi)
"friend" who's pushing it has been taken home by eldest.
PJ day - excellent!
xxxxx
sounds like everyone has had a good day - mine was mostly fine - had a good cry earlier - ex was polite and civil but treated me like i am some sort of acquaintance - sad but he has obviously moved on with his life - time for me to do the same i guess
littleredhen, I do hope you're okay. A good cry lets out all the emotion too, and today was going to be just that for you. Did the children have a good day? I'm glad that you got through it. Tomorrow is another day. xxxx
Sparkling, that's a shame that the children didn't help you today. Have to say I lost the plot a bit earlier. Probably the stress and not feeling too great still, but anyhow ........ Am now watching Corrie, then Eastenders, then playing the Cube with C.
Well... They're having a good time, which is what matters. All in a good mood - which helps
I'm going to stay in bed tomorrow. Got about 111 tins of chocolates and 73 boxes of biscuits. I'll put them in date order and see how close to next Christmas we can get!
Is 8.30pm too early to go to bed 
After all the work you've done today, you so deserve a day in bed. Wish I could do the same. Think it's going to be a long night here with games, but like you say, as long as the kids are enjoying it.
Plans for tomorrow are already changing!
Three are full of cold, so it might still be a lazy day. The advantages of older children?
Merry Christmas everyone - hope you have all had a good day. My son was with me this morning then at his dad's, he comes back tomorrow morning. I have been dreading it for months but to be honest its been fine. We had a lovely few hours this morning and he went off happy. I went for a long walk, then came back for a bath, cooked steak for lunch and have just been pottering around this afternoon / evening - bit of tv / bit of internet / bit of cooking for tomorrow. All in all far more pleasant than the old married christmasses where the stress levels were always high, and much calmer than last years with my ex and the inappropriate presents! lol. Actually i feel like today represents the steps forward i'm beginning to think i might have made in the last few months, feel i'm getting much happier at being me :)
Really looking forward to my gorgeous boy getting home tomorrow tho :)
Good night everyone xxx
So glad you had a good day pg. xxx
Merry Christmas Pg. Glad you've had an enjoyable day. I'm sure you cannot wait for tomorrow morning now though. Will you be cooking a Christmas dinner for your son?
All in all not a bad day. C is now reading in bed He's well and truely tired, but doesn't want the day to end!! Am hoping for a lie in tomorrow, at least until 10pm. C I'm sure will wake up late.
Hope everyone's managed to muddle through the day.
Happy Boxing Day. xx
Good morning all, and well done to everyone for tackling the various challenges that Christmas Day presented... the cry will have done you good, little red hen, all those stress hormones leaving your body 
Sickening, though, for your children's dad to behave like that.
Sparkling now why do I have this mental picture of you in bed, barely visible under a mountain of biscuit tins? perhaps waving a small flag with your requests written on, such as "Weetabix please" ?Hope you get a decent rest today.
PG glad that it all worked out Ok, I did the same as you the first year after I split up with the boys' dad, it was fine and I felt very empowered that I could cope.
Hazeleyes, how is your cough? I know that you tend to get snowed under with playing 6 million games with C, perhaps you could tap into his tidy instinct at some stage and say oh you will have to rearrange your bedroom to incorporate your new stuff? heh heh.
I watched Downton Abbey last night, got some peace as boys were watching Armageddon. Youngest is off to work this morning, eldest still Sleeping Beauty. A quiet day today, tomorrow eldest goes back and I am doing visits.
Trying hard, Mich, elle, hope you are all OK
Hello everyone just didnt have two minutes peace yesterday to pop on so hope every one had a lovely day, ours was busy but we really enjoyed. Tried to get my daughter to phone her dad to wish him a merry christmas but she wouldnt couldnt make her, did feel a bit sorry for him as he was on his own (i think!) but there was no way iwas phoning him, his choice his loss as we had a great day.
Hazeleyes the kids and i stayed in our pjs all day too, they were too busy playing and iwas busy setting up toys and cooking dinner so no time to dress nice and of course not going anywhere. Glad you and c had a nice day xx
Salad turkey and chips today cant wait !! Have a good one everyone xx
Glad you enjoyed your day trying hard
Hello everybody,hope you are all well today,had a few drinks last nite so was a wee bit fuzzy this morn but in fine now,slob out day today staying in my pjs all day going to read my book eat and watch tv,bliss! am back home tomorow i miss my cat so much i cant wait to see his little face,
Hope is having an equally as relaxing day today x
Hi all. Trying hard, you had a good relaxing day by the sounds of it. Have another fun day today with the children.
Louise, glad you're getting a bit of a rest today, and able to spend some time with eldest alone as younger one at work.
Sparkling, how are the younger two feeling today? Hope all getting better.
elle, your time at your mums has gone so quickly. Hope you and R have enjoyed your stay. Pleased your head is okay after last night. C and I have managed to get dressed today hehe.
mich, Bella, Hopeful, Pg and everyone else, hope you're all having a good day.
Bed late last night. I was awake at 8.10, but went back, and slept until 11.30 I really did need the sleep though, and hopefully it will be the same tomorrow. Have just put bits and pieces on the table, C doesn't seem to be eating at all, so I am stressing about that one! Louise, he did some tidying yesterday, and has helped with preparing things for lunch/dinner, but the games are still ongoing sigh
Hi Hazel eyes,yes it has gone quick i am back for 3 days at new year,glad i have got a good friend who lives near and is feeding my cat for me,i feel a bit guilty about leaving him again,no arguements or anything this end so thats good,
I hope c has something to eat soon R didnt even want breakfast as he is playing his new games,mums lodger is just putting Rs pool table together he is giving us a lift home tomorow with all our stuff.
Glad you had a good sleep i think i will sleep well tonight as i kept waking up last night.
hi to all.
we all got through it then. we knew we could.
working first thing in morn for me. wont see child for four days now. then collect him and take to next child minder till his dad picks him up. son cannot stay over at his dads ever again as new thai bride over. they are to marry asap as she had bother getting her visa. As soon as they get a flat with two beds son can stay over.
Not heard from ex today. he sent happy xmas text as did i. only civil. sent lots of them. It appears that no one wants to invite single parents over on boxing day! thats ok. im relaxing on large sofa with choc n wine n kids tv. ha.
normal life resumes at 06:00 27/12/11.
Enjoy the rest of the night.x
good evening everyone - not sure whether to post as i just feel sad all the time at the moment - yesterday was ok and kids seemed to enjoy it (most important thing!) girls went away to family gathering with ex today but instead of enjoying my time i just felt so terribly sad - still feeling sad and trying hard to get over it - i am reading all your posts and feeling inspired by all your courage but can't pull myself up to your level - so glad so many of you have managed to have a positive time - maybe next year for me - thanks for listening
Hi littleredhen. Of course you should post. It doesn't matter if we're sad or happy, we're here to hear about it. Sorry you haven't had a good day. It's your first Boxing Day without the kids and the ex, so of course you're going to be sad. You got through yesterday, and like you say, the kids enjoyed it, which is what it's all about. Are the kids coming back later or are you on own the whole night? Could you perhaps call a friend or something?
thanks hazeleyes - everyone is so kind - i am normally such a positive person and a "pull yourself together" person but finding life so hard - girls are back and they had a good time - youngest sat on chair cuddled up with me and told me all about it - its so strange though - none of my friends have been in touch knowing it was my first Christmas and i am so sad that none of them thought of me -
what are you doing this evening hazeleyes
Aww that is so sad littleredhen. I've come to believe though, that people just don't think. I have told my sister who lives 5 mins away in a car, that each year, being single with C all that time, Christmas is just a like a normal day for us, being just the two of us, and each year it is the same, never an invite. This year, I more or less told her I was going, and she didn't respond, so I took that as a No. I spoke to her yesterday briefly, told me to enjoy the day, she'd speak to me today, but hasn't!!!
I'm sorry none of your friends have been in touch though, that must be hard for you. You've made it the best you could for your children, and they've had a brilliant time, which is down to you. I hope you have a lovely evening with them. Are you playing games or just relaxing?
This evening I'm going to watch my soaps. Love em, hehe. C is playing on the Wii at the moment, and I've also been playing it. Think I'm too old, as I'm puffed out, hehe. Going to get PJ's on in mo, and then settle, much to his disgust I'm betting. At 10, after Eastenders, I'll give him another game of something. Ruddy worn out these past few days, and not even ventured out lol.
that is hard hazeleyes - you are right - everyone is so tied up with their own enjoyment - my sister is amazing and has been supporting me every day by phone but lives a long way away - thinking of my dad tonight who also lives away and has been on his own.
we are watching The Borrowers - all cuddled up on the sofa!
our posts crossed!
already in my pj's!
how old is C?
I think many people feel alone over Christmas, whether they are in a family unit or not. You have a very good sister there. Maybe next year you could work at saving to go and visit her. Does she live a big distance away from you, is it feasible to get there if you manage to save (I know how difficult that one is). Have you spoken to your Dad?
yes spoke to my dad - he seemed ok - my sis lives with her husband but doesn't really do Christmas so we get together other times of year
At mums we are just relaxing at the min and we had takeaway earlier,R excited and i let him have one thing out of his stocking!there only little bits,
Hello louise yes i managed to get all Rs presents down to mums as i took a few each week, i hope you enjoyed your casserole and ive patted myself on the back,thank you.
Hi hazel eyes hope you are feeling better today,and c is well,i think it will be fine here at mums as i have thought even if she does annoy me i will bite my tongue,my mums lodger winds her up but it makes me laugh so hope he dosent start her off lol.
Sparkling hope you had your snooze and you are feeling better today too seems like you always really busy!
Little red hen sorry you are feeling a bit down i wont tell you to pull yourself together as its only natural to be wondering what hes doing ect my friends the same with her ex partner it must be hard,hope you have a lovely day tomorow.
To everyone else merry xmas for 2mo and thank you for taking time out to read my messages.