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Ah the joy of football... While I'm sorry youngest has Osgood-Shlatters disease and can't play anymore (and struggles with sport that he loves), I don't miss the mud!
Got to bed really late. Eldest came through with his quilt as he was having a panic attack. Talking until after 5am. He's agreed he needs to see GP, but also I'm trying to get through to him that he needs to help himself. Few other things discussed and heard things I didn't like (like how jolly The Gittess is) and things I did (like he finds it impossible to speak to his father).
I'm rather tired after 3 hours sleep (or maybe less!). Want to finish the Scouty stuff though. Sadly, my paper-punch is in the garage as I really do need to get receipts filed - so much easier to put on a spread sheet.
Three bags of rubbish for the tip so far. I'm letting eldest sleep - as he's on my bed and not squashed in his top bunk, he might get some decent sleep. Don't really know what to do - and I can't magic space for him to have a proper space.
Hazeleyes, I hope you're feeling a teensy bit better today, and DON'T FORGET TO TAKE THE ANTI-BIOTICS REGULARLY AND FINISH THE COURSE (that, by the way, is nagging from my Mum!)
Morning all. Don't shout so early in the morning Sparkling, it's deafening!!!! Hehe. Yes, I have taken first dose of antibiotics, thankyou for the reminder 
Friday friend is supposed to be here today, she did text in the week about it, so not really sure what is happening. I might tackle some more ironing this morning, as I don't want it mounting up again. Eager to get the decorations down now too, job for Sunday, and then concentrate on the cleaning of the flat, so I'm not pushing myself too much once go back to work. Can't say I'm looking forward to it, and neither is C!!!
Hope your eldest is okay Sparkling. What brought on the panic attack last night? Your MIL shouldn't have said that (in my opinion). Maybe she was in pain, and was just being crabby, or maybe it's her age 
Louise, I've always hoped that C never got into football, and so far so good. I couldn't be doing with the mud thing. My mum used to have it with one of my brothers, yuk!
Belle, how are you doing, apart from the bad dreams I mean.
lrh, how's things your end?
mich, hope you and daughter are okay. Is she back home now?
trying hard, is it a bit less chaotic now in your household?
elle, hope you and R are okay.
Hi to anyone else that I've missed (hoping I haven't) Enjoy your day.
Morning everyone - glad you have started your antibiotics hazeleyes - hope they kick in soon
well done sparkling with the Scout stuff - don't overdo it though
hope everyone is well - i am having a down day today - ex has got kids all day and although i took myself off to shops and bought new work trousers and jeans (weight loss is an expensive hobby!) and i felt a bit trapped yesterday as eldest didn't want to go out i woke with a bit of a migraine and just feel so lonely today - i know in the future i will plan my time away from the kids. we don't have any other contact arranged and i am going to leave it to him to let me know this time as i always organise everything. i always want to cry when they are away and just feel so sad that we are in this situation :-(
Hi lrh. Sorry you're feeling low today. Can you plan anything else for the day? Perhaps catch up on some jobs at home? Not a great idea of mine I know, but just thought something to keep your mind occupied. The day will go more quickly if you have things to do, as of course you know. xx
thanks hazeleyes - i was going to start some decorating - but i am lacking motivation - i feel bad because my mum phoned yesterday to see how i was and ask what we were doing at New Year but i couldn't wait to get her off the phone - i am just feeling sorry for myself :-(
Awww lrh. I'm sorry you're down. I used to allow my self down days and would usually feel better the next...
MiL was fine when she said that. Ok, tired, but it really has been playing on my mind. She's usually supportive, so when The Git and Gittess were up they must have been playing on heart strings.
Never mind.
She's been to the GP, and her leg is infected and she's had a telling off from the nurse for not going in sooner (she fell a week ago). She's worried in case it turns into an ulcer. She's promised she'll phone if she needs anything though. While I'm cross she has said that, I do love her so much.
Year end is coming. I'm crap with year ends! Hate them. So I'm afraid I'm on a downer too. Trying to keep busy (went to new office to clean the loo - and I was phoned to write a cheque out, which isn't a problem) It's now raining too so matches my mood! Centre Parcs holiday add keeps making me emotional. That week we had was perfect. The journey there, the beautiful weather and the journey home. It was perfect. Trying to get son to focus on that (as that week is one we would never be able to capture again, even if we did get back there) rather than the last 7 months. I think the relief of the nightmare being over is getting to us all. I said I didn't think that anything could beat the stress of having to leave Rhosneigr, and he agreed. But, pointed out that we have survived and got through it...
Leaving scouty stuff for now. Hoovered the lovely living room, so I'm off to sit in the armchair - which probably means I'll be asleep until about 7pm!
Hello
Just a flying visit, sorry to hear that some of you are feeling low. Sparkling, you must be exhausted . LRH it is always good to have something to do for yourself at the times the children are with their dad, even if it is a pamper session, gorgeous scented bath, do your nails and your feet and some lovely moisturiser....
Anyway for all those who could do with some TLC, click here for my gift to you 
Thanks Louise - i know i need to find something for me - i guess it is still early days and still finding it so sad that i am in this situation - just had a good long chat with my amazing sister - she is such a good listener even though she has troubles of her own
sparkling i also hate year ends! been out and bought some party food for me and the kids and hope to persuade them to play on wii on nye and have some fun - youngest wants to stay up to midnight so will make that my goal - i know i will cry but that's ok- are you asleep yet??!
Am betting Sparkling is snoring her head off by now, hehe.
lrh. If you do cry tomorrow, just tell yourself that the New Year is a complete start for your little unit. It's okay to cry for the old year too. Party food and the wii sounds like just what C and I will be doing. He also wants to stay up til midnight, so I guess that's my plan too. Much rather be in bed though. To me it's just another day, another year just means another year of getting older!!! Another year of C getting older, mouthier, more grown up etc etc. Oh the joys of New Years Eve.
Louise, how has your day been?
Not heard from Friday friend, and C is starting to get itchy, meaning he'll want to ring her, but I've already said no to that one. If they come, they come, if not, it means she's forgotten! We've been playing on the wii. I didn't do the ironing, but managed the bathroom instead. So breathless, but I'm doing things slowly. 2nd dose of antibiotic taken for the day Sparkling. Forgot to say I spoke to GP yesterday briefly about C, so I'll be taking him hopefully next week. I think it is a bowel problem, as it's everytime he eats he gets tummy pains, and ends up sitting on the loo. No wonder he's not gaining weight. Unless it's my dinners, hehe.
Hi, sparkling, i went to bed at half nine and read for a while (paul o grady). I managed to sleep till half 6. The BEST nights sleep for AGES. oh i felt good when i woke up.
Just trying a bottle of crabbies orange ginger beer. Not a fan to be honest but it was cheap. £1.09 and only 4% alcohol.
Son back from 4 days at childminders (family member) and had snack and went to room. Im leaving him to himself for now. he has had people all around so now needs own space. still great to have him home and im off for few days too.
For the first year in about ten, i havent been to the sales. I cant afford to and dont know what i need anyway.
just thrown out hte rest of the turkey crown no one ate it and i was working so it just dried out.
What is everyone doing for the new yr? im popping to friends. we may venture out. i normally stay in for new yr but thats with ex. new start now.
enjoy your crabbies Bella and enjoy your time off - i have bought some party type snacks and hope to play on wii with kids for nye but not very good at nye so hope i can get through it - youngest wants to stay up this year but eldest will probably have nothing to do with us if we are having fun (too embarrassing!) no doubt i will be popping in here too
Thank you Louise.
I'm ok after a snooze 
Good morning and welcome to the last day of 2011, a year which has seen big changes for many of us and hey.....we got through, we did it!!! PHEW 
It's nice to know that you have had a better sleep Bella, that's great, and you have some time off with your son.
Did Friday friend get in touch, Hazeleyes? Glad you had a snooze sparkling. LRH it is our job as parents to embarrass our older children, now don't you forget it 
Mich, elle81, trying hard, how are you all?
I need to go to the counselling place to put all the stats on the computer but they have been having some work done, damp treatment or something, anyway I did not want to go while workmen were there so I am thinking today or tomorrow might be a good bet. The party I was going to has been cancelled as friend is not very well, I have some things in to do a little buffet for me and youngest (well, not that little considering his gannet tendencies ) but I expect he will be going out later, I will need to put a time limit on lift-giving though, so that I can get into PJs and relax
Good morning all. Yes, the last day of 2011. Let us all hope 2012 will be a better year. I had a long hard think last night about the school, teacher thing, and I've now decided it's not so much about him wanting to be in control, but rather he knows certain things aren't my job, and doesn't want to put on me, unlike some of the other teachers and their TA's. I'm hoping my long hard think is the right conclusion anyway!!! As yet, I'm not really feeling the benefits of the antibiotic, so hopefully by tomorrow. Maybe it's because I left it so long, who knows. Tablets are 500, so should be working. Friday friend came, only for a few hours, so that suited me fine. Not heard a word from the other one (C's half sister's mum). I messaged her privately via facebook, so I'm sure I won't hear from her now. To be on the safe side, still doing 1471 for bit longer.
Bella, I'm glad to hear you've a few days off, and had a good sleep too. Is your son going with you tonight? I bet he's delighted to be with you at home now.
Louise, sorry to hear your night has been cancellled.
Sparkling, you obviously need those naps, so keep taking them, that's what I say. Lazy hehe. x
lrh, you'll be okay tonight, hopefully your eldest will join in.
elle, trying hard, mich. Hope you're all okay.
I need to pop to shops for few bits, and maybe get C's haircut at same time, though I'm betting it will be full today, being New years Eve. Completely forgot it would be Bank Holiday on Monday. It's not on Tuesday as well is it?
Hi all.
lrh-i try to have a long bath with bubbles etc then watch a dvd whilst wearing pj's. you could also try that. its indulgent and feels great.
Sparkling-I also think of happier hols we had, exotic ones too, however there are new memories waiting to be made from now on.
Louise- YES, we did get through the year.We can do even better next year.(my insomnia is back with a vengence but im hoping it will ease. im reading so im not wasting time, fretting about being tired. reading makes me tired so it helps too.) My son also likes footy-mud seems to be attracted to him though!!
Hazel- son going to grandparents tonight (i kept him last night) as ive not been out on nyrs eve for ten yrs or more. have got to get out as im used to staying in with ex for past few years and having a wonderful relaxing, caring time. I have to break the connections of that night and stopping in wiht him. Son has me for the next ten days or so as ive taken time off job for "presonal probs". (then ive had calls offering to have son for me. why didnt they say this before? grrr).
Son still in bed.
think we may go out to shops to spend xmas money and get fresh milk.
have good night all. no doubt we will be toasting each other again,like xmas day.
xxbella.xx
The most significant memory of that holiday is that it will have been the last... At least to that place. I used to save and take us all there when they were small for the "Lapland Experience"! They'd see Santa there. Youngest was in a pram hahahaha!
We were chatting and perhaps next time will be when they have a family and we'll all go (yeah right) for a big family thing.
Nice that they think they want to do that. Taking son to work as his car won't start.
A buffet sounds nice Louise. My Mum used to do that each year
hello everyone - took girls out shopping and bought them more than i meant to - a bit silly really as this is the first month of managing on my own so i have no idea how the finances will go - sat watching a film with youngest and we do plan to stay up although i didn't sleep well last night - hope you all have a nice evening - shame your party has been cancelled Louise - i am feeling sad today and can't seem to get round it so will just have to go with it - tomorrow is a new year and a new chapter isn't it - will pop in later
Well, guys there is no obligation to be happy! and I think New Year can be much more difficult than Christmas so be kind to yourselves.
I have discovered a new book for people who have recently separated and am reading it to see if I can recommend it. So far, so good, it is very, very easy to read with no heavy psychology, and has lots of magaziney-type quizzes so will let you know how it goes
Hazeleyes, the doctor said Sunday for you to start feeling better so you are nearly there. Glad you sent a message to that other lady, get that off your mind. No it is not Bank Holiday on Tuesday, just Monday. I THINK my boy is back at college on Tuesday but as usual he is rather vague on the subject 
Hope everyone's feeling okay. Belle, enjoy your evening out. lrh, like you say, just go with the 'low' feeling. It's perfectly natural to be feeling as you do. Louise, I'm also laying on a sort of buffet for C and I. Sparkling, what are you all doing tonight?
Have been out food shopping. Trying to think ahead, so as not to do too much of it next week. I really want to ease into work with doing as little as possible at home! Bought some mince, so one day we can have bolognese, and then I shall make shepherd's pie or something and freeze it. That's the plan anyway
Hi all, popping in quickly to wish you all 'Happy New Year!'
( Well it's GOT to be better than last year, right?)
I'm going to my friend's later and then we're going to someone's house party that she knows( at least i won't be on my own because my daughter is going to a prty with her friend's too).
She came back from her Grandmother's saying how his OW had bought her some MAC makeup, and bless her ofr being happy that my daughter liked it( BLESS HER!!!)Just trying to get into her good books more like!....Wasn't happy when she said thet...but then the more sensible me just thought that one day she might be her Step mother, so better they get on than not I suppose( Grrrr)...
Chat to you all later, and Roll on new ( better) year! Thank you all so much for your lovely support this year though. Love you all...Hugs xxx
oh having a bit of a wobble here,.
Have text mate to ring me to talk me out of ringing ex up. she hasnt rang me.
he text me that he was waiting for my call as agreed. im waiting for this lonely, sad feeling to pass.
I know im not the only one alone at the mo. I know im healthy and alive. I should be grateful, and i am. However i just need him to smash my heart by telling me he has got a gf. thats what i need to hear then i DO get over, eventually. It worked with ex hubby. I need to hear it then the chapter closes. JUST TELL ME.
Ahem, im fine. really.
Will be thinking of you all. Louise, I do agree that nye may be harder than xmas. folk tend to be alone more at nye. oh well we will laugh at all this worry and stress when summer is here, all that lovely relaxing sun and happy children running about.
Thinking happy thoughts. its taken my mind off ringing him, so thanks you guys for listening. xx
aww Bella - hope you are ok and your wobble has passed - i feel a bit the same - if he just told me there was someone else i feel my heart may heal quicker (on the other hand maybe not!)
Hi all. lrh and Belle, sorry you're both having a bit of a wobble. I'm thinking though if your ex's told you that they'd moved on and got g/fs, then you'd be feeling very much the same as you are now. In fact you may even be feeling worse, knowing they were with someone, and you weren't. When you're having a wobble, just keep reminding yourselves of the reasons for the split. Sorry, don't really know how else to help at the moment. xx
C is ready to play on the wii and I'm ready for bed, am in PJ's. Have nibbles in the oven, so trying to show willing. This is the very very last late night for him. I also need to get myself into a routine too.
Happy New Year to each and everyone of you. I honestly hope 2012 is a great one for us all. xxx
Am sure I'll be back on here later.
thanks hazeleyes - words of wisdom indeed i know you are right!
we are just having our nibbles and watching 100 greatest toys - my two keep asking "did you have that" "oh yes i had one of everything!!"
have good evening everyone!
As the eldest lrh, you should be having two of everything hehe. Have a lovely evening. xx
going to crack open a beer although that might mean i am asleep before 10!
hope you have a great evening too!
I am just about managing to stay awake, LRH 
Hazeleyes are you in your PJs? heh heh. Mich, sounds like you are needing a VERY big pinch of salt to take things with!!
Bella, New Year is such a wobbly time, try to be strong
My youngest has gone out now to his mate's house, but my friend is coming over for a drink so I had better keep my eyes open.
Hope everyone has a relaxing time, and go with the flow, there may be some tears but there will be laughter to come. Promise.
Time for tennis? OH NO!
Louise, have a lovely evening with your friend. I'm having the same problem with my eyes. Matchsticks anyone???
Hi all am at mums till monday,been invited out tonite but i want a quiet one in,and ive got rs bday in 3 weeks or so,im paying off my tv too,my mum said i can get a laptop on her argos card so will get that in a few weeks,i have wanted one for years!,
I have missed coming on but the librarys shut till sometime in jan,hope i havent missed too much!!
forgot to say hope everyone is well x
Hi elle. We've missed you on here too. That's great news about you being able to get the laptop. Does your son turn into a teen? Enjoy your evening at your mums. Hope all okay. xxx
thank you hazel eyes,i cant wait can pop on when i want then,he will be yes altho it feels like he has been a teenager for years lol,hope you and c are well its lovely to have a lay in isnt it?! X
A lie in??? What's that?? Hehe, only had one really through the hols. Had a chest infection, so have been quite poorly really. On antibiotics now since Thursday, so feeling lots better tonight. Am wanting my bed though, but have been playing on the wii with C. No energy mind lol. x
Ah sorry to hear you have had a chest infection,am glad that you are feeling a lot better,ah i bet c loves that,its been pool and jenga with me and R lol maybe you could have a lay in next week x
He elle, good to see you. Hope you're having a lovely time at your Mum's.
My fifteen year old turns sixteen next Sunday!
Glad you're feeling a bit better hazeleyes. xx
Happy New Year to you all,
hope you all ok, we have had a lovely evening chinese and a few drinks, my eldest 15th birthday and new years eve to celebrate so just want to say thinking of you all and hope we all have a better 2012 xxx
Good morning everyone and Happy New Year - i didn't make it to 12 - went to sleep about 11 and amazingly didn't get woken up with sound of fireworks. i am off to make a list of all the things i intend to achieve in 2012 - wish me luck!
Have a good day everyone and sending a hug to all those who are struggling x lrh
Good morning all. A Happy Birthday for your son yesterday trying hard. Hope he had a good day.
Hi Sparkling, see from your post you made it til midnight. lrh, you lightweight hehe. Actually I should be saying lucky you, as that's what I wanted to do, but 9 year old wouldn't let me!! Weren't many fireworks round here, just a few, but not loud. The ones displayed on the TV were magnificent. Louise, how did your evening go with your friend? My Friday friend was supposed to pop in after she'd finished work, (just like Christmas Eve), but once again she didn't. I was half expecting it, but still..... Not sure if she's getting forgetful or what!!
Yesterday, I took Xmas cards down, so today it's the tree, and a thoroughly good clean. Cannot believe the dust it all collects. A bit of washing to do, then some board games with C. Although I'm feeling better, I'm still getting breathless and coughing. If no change after I've finished tablets I shall go back to GP. Won't leave it this time either!
What's everyone up to today?
Morning.
I have also just taken the tree down as son got upset at the thought of him helping me. (xmas not the same as past years, he said).
Ive been awake since 6 and seeing as i didnt get into bed till around 1230/0100, im tired but cant stay in bed. just watching naff tv repeats. need to get washed, dressed and put decs into garage. poor car still not been in garage since the one off in october.
son home later on. he going to the shops with his dad etc. (we never managed t get there as the traffic was horrendous when i passed by).
Im tempted to have a drink of wine tonight and have a little new years days celebration with child.
I think i WILL.
yes, its a deal and i will toast you all. something to look forward to.
HELLO! I have started a new thread, January Chit Chat. This December thread will be read-only now, so just reply on the new January one, OK? See you there!
Oh sorry about your dreams Bella, not surprising with what you are going through. DId you get your medical things sorted out?
Hazeleyes, yes I remember about the message on the answerphone, what a ridiculous system. At least now you have spoken to the GP. I think it is good for them to know how the system treats us, I remember some years ago I was going through a lot of problems and my GP said anytime you need me I am here and I said so I phone up and get told I can see you in three weeks then? and she looked shocked and said you have my permission to say to the receptionist Dr X has said I must be seen straightaway and she will put an extra session in her surgery to see me. I never had to use this facility but for those few months it felt fantastic that that safety net was there. Anyway...hope the antibiotics soon kick in for you.
Sparkling, you are doing well with your Scout sorting
That is strange about your MiL's views on the money stuff. In fact I feel quite angry reading about it 
Why the heck shouldn't J's dad help him through college? it was his behaviour that led to J having to do an extra year in the first place! not that you have ever asked his dad for anything, I know.
Son went to the Chinese buffet last night with his best friend (who has been away over Xmas visiting his dad), I had to lend him a tenner, which I am very keen to get back today, as he has been paid. That was after he had come home from football COVERED in mud. I made him sloosh his trainers and trackies under the outside tap and then put an airer in his room and drape all his clothes over it to dry before they even go in the wash bin
How is everyone today?