hi "Claire-Louise
nice 2 meet you im a proud dad of 4 boys who are 8 6 5 and 4 in 16 days whoo hoo :lol: :lol:
talk to you soon doit :D
I am Claire-Louise, a mother of 2 children. My eldest is six years old, a boy and my youngest is a girl of 4 years old. I am covering the boards for Anna while she is away so look forward to meeting you all! :D
Hi, I am pinksladie mother of a little girl who went one 2 weeks ago. I have been single since I found out i was pregnant (its complicated!).
Hi Claire-Louise
I am a mum of one 7 year old boy. He is fab.
Hope to catch up with you soon.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi pinksladie
Welcome to One Space.
I've also been single since I was pregnant. My son is now 7. We have a very close relationship, though of course sometimes things are difficult. Are you finding being a single parent hard? Does your ex see the child? My son's sperm doner has seen my son twice in 7 years, has never given maintenance. It is a struggle sometimes, but I wouldn't be without my son for the world.
Hope to get chatting soon
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hello pinksladie and welcome aboard
It's great to see you here, look forward to chatting with you and getting to know you more :)
Hello Claire-Louise
Welcome it is great to have you here as things can get hectic when Anna is away, your input is very much appreciated :D
hi everyone
my son christopher is 5 he was staying at a friends house last friday it was bens birthday it was his first sleep over so i let him stay . but bens mum and dad went out that night and and never told me. there eldest son steve whos 16 was left to look after them but his friends came found to watch a move so chris and ben went to bed at 11 but chris woke up at 12 and went down to get a drink and on the way back up he saw what they were watchin and started screamin and crying so when bens mom and dad came home at 1 they phoned me and all i could hear was chris screamin . so i got the boys out of bed and in to the car and drove down to get him when i pulled in to there drive bens dad came out to watchthe boys in the car and i ran in and chris was just lying in the corner shakenand cyring and his eyes were red and and he had wet himself. when he saw me he jumped on me an said i wont to go home so i calm him down and then asked bens mum what happend and she said that she had left steve to watch them so i asked him what happend and he said that he had fell and hut his head but i new he was lieing because chris wouldent be cryin like that if he fell .so i asked chris what happend and he just pointed at the tv and said theres abad man in the tv so i sent chris up to get his things and grabed steve and told him to tell me the truth and icould of killed him when he told me what they were watching . they were watching that friddie v jason move witch is an 18 .so i just got chris and drove home i got the boys back to bed . but chris never slept atall i sat up with him all nite in the livein room . he never slept on sat night ither and he was off school on monday and tuesday as well he hasent left my side sence .he hasent slept the night thru sence he went in to school on wedesday but he sat in the corner and wouldent play with anyone( and he was just starting to make friends to) i told the teacher what happend and shes keepin an eye on him. i went round to bens house on thursday when the boys were at school and had it out with them and said that he would never be back again . how could they be so erasponable i just hope hes going to be ok
i wont my happy little man back doit
OMG! How totally irisponsible. I hope you really gave the parents what for!!! :evil:
They offered to have him around for sleepover & should NOT have gone out, they did not even ask if it was ok which makes it worst still. I would be absoulutly furious :twisted: how dare they!
I am soooo angry about this as I am sure you are still.
All you can do now is talk to him about it if you can, maybe get some advice from somewhere. It has obviously effected him deeply.
This is always a worry with sleepovers I think. many parents have very different standards & views about things & it always amazes me!
Hope he is better soon.
Pansy x
Hi Doit
This is really outrageous, and as Pansy says, the parents should have at least told you that they were going out, and that a sixteen year old would be babysitting.
Its an awful thing that your son saw on the tv, and obviously he is really really upset by this. I think if it was my son, I would sit him down, and explain a bit about the tv, that it was all pretend, and that the cameras do magical things etc etc.
As for the parents, have you had an apology from them?
You have a wonderful trip coming up, and I hope this isn't going to spoil things with your son.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi Doit
Thank you for the post as it does help to remind us how TV has such a strong impact on children - they do really believe it to be real. I can only really echo the advice of others about talking to your son and explaining how they make films by using lots of stunts, make up and trickery. What with halloween around the corner, it would be better to talk to him as soon as possible so he is not sacred by that. Although it my help by showing him all the halloween costumes and how that is like TV and not real either. In addition lots of hugs, praise and special time - time with you and him together doing an activity of his choice at the same time each day if you can? Let us know how you get on. How is he doing today?
As for the family - what can I say really? I would let them know how seriously it has affected your son and that you don't appreciate them going out when they have your child to stay. Was it his first ever sleepover?
Good luck.
C-L
Hi lloydjennywren, have 3 children ages 4 1/2 months(boy), 13(boy) and 16(girl) and 1 grandson aged 15 months , have been a single parent since January
Hi Lloydjennywren
Welcome to onespace! I am quite new to the site too and it does take time to find your way round so have an explore and I hope you will meet lots of other single parents to share experiences with. So you have been a single parent since January - how is it going? How did you come across the onespace site? Do you have a good support network around you?
Look forward to meeting you again soon.
Claire-Louise
Hi lloydjennywren
Welcome to one space. How are finding single motherhood? Do you support from the ex? I am single with a 7 year old son, I've been on my own since day one. I have to say, though it is hard, after reading some of the heartache on here, between children and their absent parent, I feel I am so lucky. My son has met his 'sperm donor' twice, so there isn't any sort of emotional attachment.
Look forward to hearing more from you. This site is wonderful for support and advise, on practically any subject.
Take care
Alison
x
Hello lloydjennywren
You are welcome here, do join in wherever and whenever you like, it would be great to see you on here regularly!
Hello doit
Like others, I am shocked at what your little son has gone through, I agree that reassurance is the key but there is something else you could do. Whilst being very matter of fact about the "silly pretend programme" you could use play to let him act out what he saw on the film, with teddies, action men etc, then when the horrid bit has just happened you could take the game a bit further and say "And now Superman is coming" and take over the teddies/action man (whoever is the baddy) and make the teddy act scared of YOUR BOY, who is now "Superman" If he can believe that the baddies from the silly programme would be scared of him, your boy will probably feel less scared.
You could also say "I PROMISE that it is just pretend and nothing will hurt you" and stay calm so he can see there is nothing to be scared of
Good luck!
hi pansy
o dont you worry igave them more than what for
hes not as bad but he still wont go to his own bed and he still wakes up thru the night
iv,e told him that its not real and that knowone will ever hurt him when i,m around
thank you
doit
hi alisoncam
i have told him that its not real and its all fake
yes they said sorry but it shouldent off happend
thank you
doit
hi Claire-Louise"
yes it was his first sleepover. it was the first time any of my boys had stayed in an houseing estate before and it will be the last .
we live on a farm and the boys go to the school (theres onely about 70 kids that go to the school) about a mile from the house so all there friends live in the country but bens parents drive by the school on the way to work so thats how ben go,s there
chris is a bit better but he still lyes in with me and he still wakes up thru the night
thank you
doit
Hi doit
Glad to hear that your son is doing a bit better now.
His first sleepover was definately a disaster, but it wasn't actually the housing estate that was the problem :lol:
The kids must love living on the farm. Being in a school of just 70 appeals to me.
Not long to go before the hols, bet you're really excited now as it gets nearer. Have you started the packing yet?
Take care
Alison
x :)
I think it can be a shock going to a housing estate. We had a house on our own with a big garden. It's been so strange moving and there being no gate!
A shock for the children, but something they now love.
Me.... I still miss my own gate!
Hi Doit
I am glad you have been able to speak to the other parents and they have admitted they were wrong to go out and have apologised. How is your son doing now?
C-L
Hi there, welcome to our site, please introduce yourself!
What is your username? Work in Slippers
How many children do you have? 3
How old are they? 12,15,19
Are they boys or girls? 2 girls 1boy
How long have you been a single parent? 10 years
(No conversations here please, just a useful tool for us to make friends and share a little about us and our families!)
Hi workingslippers
Welcome to One Space. I am single mother to a 7 year old boy. Have been on my own since day 1. I thoroughly enjoy it, though of course sometimes it is hard!!!
How have you found single motherhood?
I look forward to chatting some more.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi work in slippers. I love the name!
Hi workin slippers
Great to see you here! You are very welcome and I hope you will beocme a regualr visitor, sharing your thoughts and comments, letting us support you through issues, and offering support to others. If you have a look around the website you will see there are all sorts of topics, so find one that interests you and dive in! :D
Hi single parents.
We are called Susie and Lawrence. We are not actually single parents but are currently doing a project in our 2nd year on 3D design at University College Falmouth and need to get in contact with single parents, preferably in our local area (Cornwall, esp Falmouth). However, any information/anyone willing to have a chat/meet up or just email between us would be great!
We are working on a community based brief, to work with a local group of people, resulting in a joint project that will benefit the said group.
Thanks :-)
Susie and Lawrence
Hi Susie and Lawrence
Welcome to Onespace. Good luck with your studies. You might be best to start a new topic on the boards introducing what you are studying etc and how people can get in touch with you etc.
Cheers Claire-Louise
Hi, Im hayley, i have a boy of 8 and a girl of 1, im from Colchester in Essex
Hi bluebuggybuddy
Welcome to One Space. Theres lots of support and advice on the site, should you need it! I have a son who is 7, and have been on my own since day 1.
Look forward to chatting
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hello bluebuggybuddy
Welcome to the boards, hope you will become a regular visitor and share your views and experiences with us. There's lots of choice, so come on in!
Hello Susie and Lawrence
I have put anotice on the Local Information section and if any parents express interest I will let you know!
Hi Bluebuggybuddy
Welcome to onespace - how did you come across the site? I hope you find it useful. There are lots of different topics as well as an info library on the main site so have a good look through and hope to meet you again soon. I have 2 children, a boy aged 6 and a girl aged 4. How are things going during the half term holidays?
Cheers C-L
Hi Hayley.
It's good to see you here.
hi all just thought i,d say hello before we go
the boys are great and chris is getting there
we,v been so bizzy denver did 2 weeks homework today i said he couldent go if he dident do it before we go (it would onely get lost) all we need to do is his 6timestables (o and pack :) )
thank you all for your support and talk to you when we get back
doit
Hi doit
Have a wonderful fantastic holiday. You and the boys are going to have such a fab time. Don't forget to come back and check in here and tell us EVERYTHING :D
Are you absolutely sure I can't squeeze in :lol: :lol: :lol:
Take care, and all the best
Alison
x :)
Hi doit
HOPE YOU AND THE BOYS HAVE A WONDERFUL TIME AND WE LOOK FORWARD TO HEARING ALL ABOUT IT
Hi Doit
I hope you enjoy your holiday with the boys and good to everything like homework sorted before you go so all of you can totally relax, let your hair down and ENJOY YOURSELVES!!!!
Looking forward to hearing all about it once you get back.
Claire-Louise
Hi im furrytomato
i have 3 girls my twins are 10 and my baby ;) is 6
i have been single for almost 3 years
Hello furrytomato (I think I might have a few of those in my fridge! :lol: )
Welcome to One Space, there is lots of support and online friendship here. Join in the chat and I hope you soon feel "at home". Have your girls gone back to school today?
Hi furrytomato
Welcome to One Space. How do you find single parenthood?
I have been on my own since day one with my 7 year old son, and to be honest I love it. :)
Look forward to getting to know you
Take care
Alison
x :)
Louise :o :o :o
:lol: :lol: :lol:
Hope you are having a good day. Are your children back at school? Not back to school until tomorrow here.
Take care
Alison
x :)
My boy is back at school, alisoncam. The eldest is at Uni and texted me to say he had stayed up all night doing an essay. :shock:
Loads of the kids here are still off, though, the primary school ones I mean. The last day for you and your boy to have a lie in. Hope he feels Ok about going back?
Hello Furrytomato
Welcome to onespace. How did you hear of the site? I hope you find it useful. There is lots of support and a real range of topics to join in on on feel free to start a new topic of your own.
My children both went back to school and nursery and it was difficult to get my son out of bed once again yet during the half term he was up bright and early - why is that?!
C-L
Hi everyone thanks for the warm welcome. My girls did go back to school today thank god lol. While they were at school I received a letter from educational welfare services because two weeks in to the new term I took them on holiday. The headteacher referred me to them this year as she has a vendetta against me stemming back to last october when my children were too frightened to visit a mosque their class was going to. Oh god this is a long story (sorry to vent like this). Last September a new girl started in my twin's class, she told a group of children something about religion (I don't want to offend anyone so I won't give details) this frightened my girls and thy were too scared to go on the visit. The headteacher promptly sent me a letter saying if the girls did not attend the visit I would have to look for another school for the children. I found out that legally they did not have to go on the visit and told her so, she did not like the fact that I had fought my kids corner and that I was right, because of this she threatened to my face that she would refer me to E.W.S. I have taken the children out of school for 5 days almost every year and twice in 2007/2008 and she did not refer me to E.W.S so this makes me suspicious that it is over what happened last year.
Just one more thing to mention then I will zip it lol ;) my twins have been bullied at their school for almost 5 years now and have been to see the head, dep head (who lied to my face TWICE), class teachers and the support staff, every time I complain my kids get into trouble, I feel like I am banging my head against a brick wall and it has broken my heart to watch my girls go from happy kids to glum childen who rarely smile when coming out of school and knowing that even though I have tried my best I can't stop the bullying. I have even tried to move away from the area and have been waiting 5 years for a transfer from my housing association. Is it possible some peoples luck just runs out? Another apology for waffling on and on.
all my best furry :)
Hi again furry tomato
Sounds like you have had a deal of trouble with that school. You're right, they don't have to go on school visits. In fact we have had cases on here of children risking being left out of trips because the parent could not pay.
As far as the Educational Welfare people go, I think you have a fairly solid argument that as a lone parent the only time you can afford to take the girls on holiday is with term-time prices. I do have to say that once they get to senior school this may get more difficult. Schools have different policies about this.
The bullying thing is very worrying. You may see on our Separation and Divorce section there is a thread about bullying so have a look at that :) Also One of the things that a lot of people seemed to suggest keeping a diary of events. If you are not getting the school to take you seriously then it is worth writing to the Area Education Office. Ths school will be obliged to tell you the contact details as it will be part of their Complaints policy
Hi furrytomato
At my son's school, parents are allowed to take the children out in term time. I know most schools don't like this, and some even have fines. Our Headmistress is pretty good on this, and I always write a letter beforehand. Have only done it the once though, but I know I shall probably do it again!
As for the bullying, I have been having lots of probs with my son and another child. I am in and out of the school, and now the Head seems to avoid eye contact with me. I write letters, keep copies, and also keep a diary going of every incident.
It is awful when the children don't want to go, (though I have to say my son loves school, and won't let the bully stop that). I do see a change in him when something has happened. Homework not done, his attitude toward me etc. It is so upsetting isn't it? You know you are doing everything for the twins, and sometimes it seems like you are bashing your head against a brick wall, but keep going in, and keep writing, and even take it further if you have too.
I hope the twins are enjoying school at the moment. Best of luck with the Headteacher!!!
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi Furrytomato
Thanks for the post and sorry you are going through the mill a bit with your twins' school, I do feel for you as it can make you feel quite helpless if you go in to try to resolve the situation and nothing seems to be done about it. I echo the idea about asking for the complaints procedure and alos ask for the bullying policy. They probably also have a policy about authorised and unauthorised absences so you could ask for that. As far as I am aware you can take up to 10 days per year outside of the holidays before the school gets into trouble. I think that is a national level but I know each school seems to have its own way of administering that. So it might be helpful to you to find out what your schools policy is on that.
As for the bullying - check out the other thread as you might find some useful tips there. Also there is some info on the main onespace site:
http://www.onespace.org.uk/articles/bullying-1
Are there any other schools in the area that would suit you and your children? If not then keeping notes on all the incidents and keep plugging away - informing the education department and keep hassling the housing association.
It can seem like such a struggle though and so disheartening to see the affect it has on your children.
Keep getting support from here where you need and don't be afraid to rant as that is what this site is for really!
good luck
C-L
Hi its furry again, I just wanted to thank you for the replies. I will start to record the things that take place.
It is so nice to have someone to talk to about the things that single parents have in common as I am a bit of a loner really and don't have friends although I do have my mum and sisters that live locally.
Thank you all again for making me feel welcome, furry
Hi furrytomato
It is nice to have others in the same situation isn't it? That's what I've found so great about One Space.
Keep posting about whatever you want. Have you been able to find your way around ok?
Hope you are having a good evening.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi there!
I am Claire-Louise, a mother of 2 children. My eldest is six years old, a boy and my youngest is a girl of 4 years old. I am covering the boards for Anna while she is away so look forward to meeting you all! :D