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Hello and welcome to the June 2012 chat thread!
How is everyone?
Hi Tania 
Hello Tania, nice to see you, tell us a bit about yourself.
Has anyone got anything nice planned for the Jubilee weekend?
Hopeful that was great about your nomination
Hi all, well done Hopeful for your Best Group Representative of the Year! We are all beaming with pride this end
hazeleyes I hope you are bearing up and managed to sort C's phone out?
Hi Tania 
I hope you are looking forward to the long weekend!
I hope everyone else is well, I am down in Devon visiting my mum, which is nice, I hope you have a brilliant Jubilee and the sun shines - catch up with weekend news on Monday.
My baby has gone, and the tears have flowed here 
Bless him, he filled up too, and kept huggging me. Also, not so good, caught him pulling his hair out, which he hasn't done in months. Maybe a stress thing? Anyhow, friend rang me, and said she can take me to pick him up on Wednesday, yessssss. He, however, not too sure on that, but I am!! He left at 7.30, and we've texted since. I also phoned him, once he was through Hatfield tunnel. (Yes Anna, I sorted his phone out) He has asked me to ring him again, when they get to another certain point. They should arrive at the house about 9pm. Once he is there, I'll feel more settled, though still tearful. Soooooo quiet here, and am not liking it.
Anna, have a lovely time in Devon.
Hello to TaniaTaylor, welcome along.
Louise, what are you up to this weekend? Did you hang the flags out for your son? Hehe.
Sparkling, are you camping? Hope you're okay.
Some more news with C. Instead of taking year 4 test papers, he, along with some others, took year 5 papers, and then this week, took year 6 papers!!! I'm delighted of course, and soooooooo proud of him.
C has arrived, so I'm less jittery now, knowing he is there. I called him twice on the journey, and texted him. Going to ring their house phone about 9.45, and that's it for tonight. Until tomorrow, hehe. Cannot believe how tearful I am (actually I can)!
hope you manage to dry your eyes
mine go away with the idiot in the summer and i am sure it will be awful
we are here for you x
Have a great weekend Anna - my eldest is off to a street party on Sunday but I have nothing planned - feeling a bit sad today as I feel like I have no friends - kids off with the idiot today
I have been awake for since 4 so not great but maybe I will have a snooze later
Have a great weekend everyone
Oh yes lrh, definitely a power nap! I quite often have those. And do something nice for yourself as well. That goes for you as well, Hazeleyes. Did you get a decent sleep?
For both of you and anyone else in this situation, I would just like to say I think it is quite hard to think of things to do for ourselves at first...we get so used to ferrying children around and just being grateful for a little sit-down and a cuppa in between their machinations. And a lot of the suggestions we might read in magazines are out of budget, such as beauty treatments and retail therapy..although a little treat is a very good thing!
I have enjoyed developing more hobbies, did I tell you I am knitting now and am on my second blanket now for the local Sally Army? Even bought a load of wool on ebay to do it with. Sparkling has her online jigsaws. What sort of things did you enjoy doing pre-children? I like going to art galleries and libraries, and I love beautiful scenery so sometimes drive out into the country...or you could take a bus.
Anna have a lovely time at your Mum's.
I wonder is sparkling is actually away on the camp? Any chance of a Travel Lodge?
I am looking forward to eldest coming tomorrow
Enjoy your time with your eldest Louise
Good morning everyone. lrh, try and have a little sleep this afternoon, or you'll be dead on your feet when the girls come back.
Louise, talking about knitting, I used to do a bit when my Mum was here. She loved to knit, and taught me. I wasn't that great to be honest. When I was pregnant, I had brilliant ideas of making him some cardigans, booties, hats etc. The hat turned into something that looked like a tea cosy, the cardigans C did wear, but that was only because my Mum corrected all of my mistakes
I do jigsaws on line too, not as much as Sparkling though.
Not really sure what to do today. I've got a wash on, then once dressed, I need to go to Post Office, as it won't be open until Wednesday, due to the two bank hols. Although I was only paid on the 25th, my bank account is zero!!!
I did sleep okay last night, snuggled up to a rabbit. (Not real you understand). I shall text C in a bit. Didn't want to do it too early, in case he is able to have a lie in.
lrh, I feel a bit like you, friends wise. They are married or with partners, so I'm totally on my own. It's horrid isn't it?
Hopeful, how are you doing this morning?
Hi Hazeleyes, am not too bad, still very cross (see other thread, if you want to read my rant) but hey.
Going to the theatre with my mum tonight - 39 steps - it's her birthday treat. Have been lazing in bed till now! Better get up and have some coffee! :-)
I had to laugh at your baby cardigan making efforts! I went through a phase like that. My grandmother had taught me to knit (my mum is worse than hopeless!) and I started making that really lovely cardigan. But I couldn't do sleeves and it was never finished. Awww.
Have a great day everybody!
:-)
P.s.: (Sorry I am a great
..and it didn't let me finish!
I am a great ps-er.
I see that I sound a lot more happy here than on the other thread. How weird is that? I don't feel any different.... Although talking about stupid surgeons who don't have bedside manner gets me going a bit... 
Hugs to all!
I was getting a bit confused with that last post Hopeful, and thought you'd maybe been on the bottle already, hehe. (Only kidding of course)
I have read your other thread, and I'm not surprised you're angry. Is this surgeon married? Just wondering what his wife thinks of his bedside manner. Maybe you could compare notes
His wife probably does as she's told..... Also he's a bit short, so may have small person syndrome. I should not talk like this! It is not nice and very un-Christian.
Slap my wrist!
Slapping Hopeful's wrist, but very gently
Well, am now ready to head off to the Post Office. Have spoken to C, so again feel better for that. Sister said he'd woken several times in the night, and got up at 7.30!!!
Imaginary glasses at the ready in case anyone is naughty over the Bank Holiday! They have had an extra special polishing
How has everyone got on? My experience of boys going away, Hazeleyes, was I missed them terribly at first but sort of got used to it after a couple of days, I hope it also gets easier for you. I had to giggle at the tea cosy hat. We are all different; my drawing is like a four year old's.
Hopeful have a lovely evening at the theatre!
LRH I hope your day has been ok too and that sparkling has stayed dry.
I am watching The Voice final tonight and off to meet a friend tomorrow. She used to live round the corner but moved away when she got remarried. Her daughter is getting married this summer and my other friend has made the wedding cake so we are delivering it. I am the chauffeur
Louise, you're always the chauffeur. Have you a specially made hat?
Not sure what to do here. Have been chatting to a dear friend, who has kept me sane for a few hours, and I'm itching to ring C now. If I don't ring him, he might miss me more, and want to come home on Wednesday!!! Shall I shan't I?
Yep I will. xxx
Good morning everyone, it is pouring here, not good news for people having Jubilee lunches etc And my knees are knocking thinking of sparkling and co at camp.
Hazeleyes, how did you sleep? did you speak to C? try and do something nice today. How about snuggling down on the sofa and watching a film with a few nice sweeties?
LRH hope you got a better night too.
Hopeful how was your evening out?
Yes I am the chauffeur as usual (no hat though 
) This is because I went through a long period of not drinking on nights out and so it made sense for me to drive. In the daytime, many of my married friends do not have their own car (share car with partner) and this is the case today; if we took her car then her husband would be left without a car and is on call for work.
I heard son go off at 6.30 this morning, through the back door and put the back door key through the letterbox, This means that he has mislaid his front door key, yet AGAIN. I will have to text him and remind him when I will be back, so that he is not standing outside in the rain
Have a good day with your friend Louise. A great day for you, with son coming home for a few days too Punishment for youngest losing his key outside...... Leave him in the rain, and give him a union jack table cloth to put over his head to keep dry
Hope you're okay Sparkling
lrh, how are you this morning? Did the girls have a nice time with their Dad? They are out today aren't they? What have you got planned for yourself?
Hey Hopeful, hope you and your Mum enjoyed the 39 Steps.
Have spoken to C. He doesn't want to come home on Wednesday, and isn't missing me at all I'm gutted to be honest, perhaps he really doesn't like me I've just to my sister that if he was here, I'd be telling him to tidy his room or something, whereas there he wouldn't be getting told off at all, as he'd be the perfect guest. I must be coming across to him right now as a big baddie.
Today, I think I might clean the living room, and then some washing. Gradually keep the ironing down too. Could clean the oven too. I've got one of those ovenpride bags, that I used before. Then again, I'm doing myself cauliflower cheese later, and I'll need to use the oven. Hmmmm, re-think on the oven today
39 Steps was brilliant! Everyone should go and see it! :-)
On the way home on the train was a bit of fall out from the football match - I was quite grateful that England won.... :-P
Wishing everyone a good weekend! x
I'm glad you enjoyed the theatre - still catching up with posts... I didn't realise there was football on.
Only got two hours sleep Friday night. One lad was terrified, so leader and I took in turns talking with him until gone 4am. Was up at 6am to phone home and make sure oldest and 16 year old got up for the London trip. Sixteen year old had a great day, and was telling me how people were camping along the Thames - they were on the balcony at Somerset House looking at them. His certifitcate is very nice.
Went to bed very early though as was in rather a bit of pain after standing so much.
No picnic today as its windy and a bit rainy. Only one of youngest's friends who lives a few doors away was coming anyway. I know not to even think about The Big Lunch again here. A shame...
I have a headache today, but probably due to lack of sleep on Friday night and a drama over a broken loo seat upstairs.
I should be tidying really. I have even bought a new paper shredder especially. Got three numbers on the lotto last night which will cover it and the cost of 16 year old's London trip. Just never enough zeros...
Hope every one is ok.
Watching the jubilee thing on the tele.
Nope, never enough zeros. Bad luck, but at least it's covered the loo seat!!!
So much for what I was going to do. I've sat being miserable on the settee. I've made a promise to myself that I won't ring C again. He knows to text me if he wants me to call, so I shall wait, and wait, and probably wait for ever!!!!
Think I'll go and have a nice soak in the bath, with a magazine. That might give me a bit of incentive to clean the bathroom out.
Soooooo bored, and soooooo quiet here.
He WILL be missing you. Just he's being kept occupied and its a novelty that will last for a couple of days.
My Mum and Dad used to send me to my brother's for two weeks. Clearly they hated me
Queen's been wrapped up in a blanket. Its ruddy cold here, so goodness knows how chilly on a barge.
I suspect they'll all be wearing thermals.
Awwwwww.
I'm in two minds whether to stick to my guns and have him home on Wednesday, regardless of what he says or thinks. Or let him stay until Saturday, because for selfish reasons maybe that I want to spend some of the holiday with him. I have to let my friend know one way or the other, so she can sort other plans for herself if need be.
I wonder how your sister feels?
It's not selfish wanting him home, but... And I can't put it into words what I'm trying to say.
My lot used to do summer camps, as you know, and three went away two years on the trot. I know they were always so glad to be home - but I also know that they really enjoyed their time away too.
I can always pick you up from the train station and you can come and meet the children and all our lovely pets You can even direct the children with the cleaning...
I understand how horrid and difficult it is.
I think when they used to stay with The Git was worse though as I knew they were so close and that they weren't allowed to contact me. I know I passed them once coming off the beach. Daughter (11 then, I think) watched me drive past, but didn't wave and I know it was because they weren't allowed. They'd had a good time though.
I sort of feel you know he's safe. You know your sister is going to look after him and make sure he's safe, and you know really he'll have a good time.
OK, he might sulk when he's home - whether it be Wednesday, Friday or Saturday, but he will soon be C again. Also don't doubt for a second whether or not he loves you. You are his world, just like I am to this lot... I think...
Only the very best thermals Sparkling You wouldn't catch me watching this in London, even if the weather had been brilliant.
Is Harry not there? Haven't spotted him. Not really been tuned into it, but do flick over from time to time
Yes, Harry was there. He's with William, but was wearing a beret which made him almost unrecognisable.
Hello everyone, long time no see!
Things been very hectic here, but they will be settling down very soon hopefully. Hazeleyes, I know how you are feeling. J has gone to his dads today for a whole week . The longest we have been apart before is two days! It helped that we were on holiday together last week so I had him to myself for a whole week and we had a great time. I definitely picked the best week! J is not too sure about staying at daddy's for so long, especially as ex's girlfriend is having the week with them. Don't get me wrong, he likes her and likes spending time with her, but she is now there all the time and he is not getting his special time with daddy. Have tried speaking to ex about this, but apparently I take too much notice of what my four year old says. J has even told him flat out that he doesn't want her there all the time, but ex just laughs at him and says he enjoys her being there. Cue roll of eyes from me! They have some great days out planned so I'm sure he will have a lovely time. He's also been told that he can phone me whenever he wants and that helped him go. As for me, I'm off to Blackpool with friend tomorrow for the night. We're going to the Jubilee Party at the Pleasure Beach and am also going to see the Circus. I love the circus. Will be very busy at work for the rest of the week and also need to build the guinea pig hutch that I bought today. Yes, I have finally given in and we are having guinea pigs. J originally wanted gerbils, which I don't mind, but after talking with the lady in the shop I decided on guinea pigs. Just got to build the hutch. Man in the shop said it should take me half an hour and a couple of glasses of wine!
Hope everyone has lovely things planned this weekend.
Guinea pigs are lovely. I lovely the squeeking when I open the back door as he's pleased to see us.
That was one of the things that sold them - they talk to you!
Good morning to you all. Looby, guinea pigs sound cute, but not in my garden, thankyou very much!! Have you started building the hutch yet? Enjoy your day in Blackpool. Hope J has a good time with his dad, I'm sure he'll have lots of fun, whether the gf is there or not. If I was working this week, I know it wouldn't be so bad not having C here. At least you'll be kept busy!
Sparkling, hope you had a better sleep. You've a lot to catch up, what with missing so much of it, looking after the lad on camp and everything else. What are you doing today?
Feeling at a loss still. C rang me at 8 last night to say Goodnight. They were all going to bed, and he was going to watch a DVD on his laptop. It was so obvious he didn't really want to chat, and I asked him if my sister had told him to ring. He said yes!!! Gutted again to think he had to be told to call his own mum. I'm probably being silly. I didn't mention him coming home, as he had said during the call that he was only missing me a tiny bit!!! Now the weekend is over, I told him my phone calls are no longer free, so I wouldn't be able to ring during the day or anything (just so he was aware). Was he bothered? NO. At the point now, where he might as well come home on Saturday, obviously doesn't want to spend part of the holiday with me, as he'd said in the week before he left.
Do you think this is all perfectly normal for a nine year old? Is he that desperate to get away from me? Am I being silly in getting so upset by his reactions?
Yes, it is all perfectly normal for a 9 year old...
I used to give my lot permission not to miss me while they were away, which might sound daft, but I think I may have been doing it for me too.
Its a big adventure for him. Nothing to do with not loving you. For him, its good that he's not missing you - however much that hurts.
I think it was the chap who did Scouts that told me that. Ok, my lot were 10 joining, but by then they were going to stay with their Dad, and youngest was 5.
Its not nice.
But hazeleyes, you are his world as much as he is yours.
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Yep, it does hurt, and yep, I'm being silly. I should be over the moon that he is enjoying it. I guess it's all down to the fact this is soooo new for me. Overnight stay yes, but days?? I should also be thanking my lucky stars that he isn't with his dad, hehe. Now, that would be a nightmare for me.
Sister has just phoned, and I got tearful (silly). C spoke. Told him I had to let friend know today about picking him up on Wednesday. He said Saturday he'd prefer, so I've agreed
You are NOT BEING SILLY. What's silly about missing him? This is for him, not for you, and hazeleyes, I would cry buckets...
Hi all, I had a lovely time in Devon, I always think the air smells so great down there!
hazeleyes, I think it is brilliant that he is having such a great time and yes I think you are worrying over this far too much - you need to get on and do something else with your time.
When you were younger did you want to spend every minute with your mum??
I think you have too much time on your hands at the mo and that is why you are thinking on this so much. Might sound harsh, but I do believe it to be true.
He's having a great time, it is good for his confidence and his independence. I also think it is good that you can't phone him, let him contact you - you are his everything and wouldn't be without you - but he does need his time without feeling guilty.
So now we need to focus on you. Did you look at our article on Top Tips for when your child is away?? There is a link in the article to Netmums' Tips on Making mums happy - it is absolutely brilliant - so you task for today is to have a look and do some of the options, then come and report back. Deal??
Hi sparkling - congrats on your lottery win, I hope your headache has gone and you are relaxing today - forget the tidying - its a bank holiday 
Hi looby - nice to see you again! Guinea pigs eh? I wish I had got those years ago rather than a hamster. My daughter wanted something to cuddle and a hamster just runs everywhere, whereas a guinea pig just snuggles into the crook of your neck and makes cute noises! Good luck with hutch building.
hopeful - SOOO glad you enjoyed 39 steps - it is fab isn't it! I hope you and yours are having a good Bank Holiday Monday.
Just wishing everyone a great bank holiday! :-)
Would make lots of comments, but have to work... sigh... x
Anna, of course it is brilliant that he is having a good time. If I've come across that I'm making him feel guilty about that, then I most certainly haven't. I wouldn't do that to him. Yes, I have a lot of spare time on my hands, but that's because I don't have family, don't have single friends, am obviously not at work this week either. I can and have done the cleaning etc, but there's only so much I can do of that. Had a look at the site you gave. Horse-riding? Wow, wouldn't be able to afford that!
Sorry, if i'm sounding like a whinge bag. Perhaps I'll go and get the hoover out again!!!
I'm feeling low, and putting it here kind of helped me. Sorry for being so gloomy
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Not surprised the Duke of Ed is in hospital with a bladder infections. It was perishing yesterday, to think they were standing for well over an hour - he is in his 90s and she's in her 80s... I couldn't have done that and I'm not quite 50.
I'm not particularly a royalist. Have to admire them though...
I really hope he makes a quick recovery, and that the after effects of getting so chilled is short lived.
hazeleyes, I don't think that you are making him feel guilty, I just re read my post and thought that it may have come across as harsh, but please read it in a gentle voice - which is how it is meant - not telling you off. I am sorry you are feeling low and I am not trying to batter you whilst you are down. I suppose I see this time as precious for you and I want you to enjoy it. Although it is your first experience of it, so sorry for bull dozing in! Here is the reason...
When my ex SiL was training and then working nights, she would drop my 5 yr old niece off for the night. It was great because my daughter was the same age and the two cousins got on really well and had a great time building dens, making up plays, playing with toys etc etc. I was always up for it because it meant I had a bit of time off knowing my daughter was 'entertained'! So it was always an enjoyable experience for all!
Anyhooo, every time my ex SiL would drop L off, she would overhug her, tell her she loved her a million times, say she would miss her etc etc - everytime - I would find it wearing because she obviously felt guilty for not being with her daughter, but we all have to work, that's life, her daughter was safe and all was well. After a couple of years of doing this my neice then starting copying mum - when her mum dropped her off she would cry and cling to her mum, saying she didn't want to stay and then her mum starting saying 'well I have to go to work' 'you like staying with Auntie Anna', 'grow up' etc. I think my niece was doing it because she thought it was expected of her - as soon as mum was gone, she was a different person! Fun loving again.
Long story short, I want C to only get the impression off you that it is good that he is away, you trust that he will be looked after and you know he will miss you and that is ok and you are there if you need him - but actually he is going to have such a good time that you give him permission to not miss you!
Oh sometimes it is so hard to get things across via a message - can I pop to yours? Fancy a cuppa??!
Whatever you do this evening DO NOT DO ANYMORE CLEANING - please 
Did you see the link that lrh put on about Radical Self Love - brilliant, I think you need a project to get your teeth into
I am trying to be creative at the moment - is there anything creative you could do? Do you have a digital camera? - Go into the garden/park and take photos of every flower that you see, then when you get home upload them to the computer and create a collage - it doesn't need to mean anything, it is about 'doing' something.
Its horrible when you feel at a complete loss of what to do isn't it - anyone else got any ideas??
I know I am heading for the same when the idiot takes mine away for the summer hols - I have registered with meet ups and for the last three months had to reject all days or nights out because i can't go - but now there are things coming up that I will be able to go to because the kids are away - yes I am very scared but i am going to go - I joined a ladies over 40s so i hope its not too scarey - what do you think hazeleyes? hope your ok anyway - i have spent lots of weekends days feeling awful while they are away with the idiot so i know how hard it it
Did you see the link that lrh put on about Radical Self Love - brilliant, I think you need a project to get your teeth into
I am trying to be creative at the moment - is there anything creative you could do? Do you have a digital camera? - Go into the garden/park and take photos of every flower that you see, then when you get home upload them to the computer and create a collage - it doesn't need to mean anything, it is about 'doing' something.
Where is the link and how do you do a collage on the pc?(thanks)
How about going for a walk or do some gardening it is what i have been doing lately never was into gardening but now i am loving it and have even drawn a design on where i want plants etc.
Write a job list of things you want / need to do NOT IN THE house if poss and NOT every day stuff like housework another thing i did.
Yes it is lonely very lonely but something will come when you least expet it or so i am told.
You just have to keep busy or try.
Hope this helps :)
hazeleyes if you want and live in GM you can help me with the garden or walk the dog or just have a cup of tea:)
It would have to be tomorrow or someother day cos it is my bed time now work at 3 AM
sorry to be forward but if you dont ask you dont get.
ITS good to talk
Hi Anna. I'll put the kettle on If I had planned everything better, I know I wouldn't be feeling as I do (don't think so anyway). My sister has often said she would have C, but it never happened (no fault of mine). Because of this I didn't actually think this holiday would happen either. This is a such a huge adjustment to me. I'm probably also feeling so low because the arrangements have changed, and I'm not happy about that, but at the same time, I want him to enjoy his time away from me. Am I making sense? I also feel my sister should have been telling him her end, that the arrangements should be kept, but then again, I'm his Mum, and it is down to me, so can't blame anyone really other than me.
Not sure where to start with the collage, but worth a thought, thankyou.
Hi Pash, not in GM, sorry. The gardening is down to you I'm afraid. Wow 3am, what do you do?
lrh, it's great that you are preparing for the time apart from the children. Does sound scary, but I'm sure you'll meet lots of people and make lots of friends.
My life is so thrilling that I'm watching the Jubilee concert alone. Eldest out, other three in seperate rooms! I don't think they're into Tom Jones and Stevie Wonder... Watching William and Harry chatting, its nice to think they do get on.
We're going to pile into my room after though, just in case we can see the beacon that they're going to light at the top of Snowdon. The mountains are clear, so, hopefully, if it burns bright enough, we should see it.
Had a nice long chat with a friend, although I'm not sure if we managed to cheer each other up or not. Managed to defrost the top half of my freezer while chatting - so the lid now closes. Not the freezers fault, but sixteen year old doesn't always close the lid properly so the ice builds up.
So, hope the skies are clear where you are, just in case you get to see a Beacon - if you want to see one that is.
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