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Hello and welcome to June 
let's hope for a fantastic month with plenty of sunshine.
And now, I really must urge you all to start preparing for Christmas...JOKE, not even I would be that ridiculous!
So how are you all?
Sparkling I was delighted to read at the end of May chat about your son's new job and yes I agree to get the 40 hour contract was quite unusual. Even at Asda, my boy has 32 hours, and they are a massive international concern. Well done to him and you did the right thing by pushing the boat out to celebrate (and of course he will contribute to the household from his new job now there is a more secure income, heh heh) How funny seeing your friend with his family in both your cars, dating is harder in that respect when you have to make allowances for all their family concerns, mind you I always find it a really good test of a bloke's character, how they treat their past and their family. ooh, ooh, whole new thread coming up there...
Skyflower you are back from your hols, did you have a good time with your family? How is your dad?
I am so excited about visiting my eldest tomorrow, he can't wait to show me the new house and what they have done with it
It's lovely when you can by happy in your home skyflower.
The reason my friend took his son out is because I suggested it. I said not, and then I perhaps pushed things a bit. Not quite sure how it got to be a family event, as the brothers do not get on! The oldest was late too... Sadly, the younger boy is quite the favourite.
Have a lovely visit tomorrow Louise.
Back to normal tomorrow... It was lovely working most of last week with my colleague (I know her daughter's my colleague too, but not the same). Even after all these months I miss the routine of the four days.
I went to the gym this morning. I wore my new jogging trousers, which are five sizes smaller than my old ones. I actually think I can get a size smaller too. I cried getting into the car and again once in the house. The pain is just awful at times. GP tomorrow as I had an x-ray taken a few weeks back. I'm not sure I can face another five plus years of this...
Sparkling you have done so well with the gym, I hope the GP can help you as you can't be in so much pain all the time, I'm glad your son managed to get a job with so many hours.
have fun tomorrow Louise let us know about the new house :)
Hello everyone
Sparkling good luck with the GP, you have worked very hard to lose the weight which they "alleged" was making it worse, and now you still have bad pain, how about telling the doctor that you have done your part and you want to go on the list now? Yes back to normal working, I know you really get on with your colleague.
Skyflower, great that you saw your family, very sad about your dad but pleased you have found a sense of peace in your new home.
Yes I will let you know about my son's house next weekend, he has been at the seaside today. I went swimming a bit earlier so am feeling virtuous 
it won't last.
Have a good week everyone.
Good morning,
June already! The weather was lovely yesterday. We had a picnic in the park and the girls got to play some tennis, and I got to read my book.
So glad to hear about your son's job sparkling, he must be relieved, and you too. Sorry you are still in pain, I hope the GP will do something to help you.
Hi Skyflower, glad you had a good trip to see your family. Sorry about your dad, its hard to see our loved ones in need like that.
Happy Monday All!!
sparkling i'm glad to hear about your sons new job, what a relief..... how did you get on at the doctors today?
Hi PQ sounds like you and the girls had a lovely weekend, how is your bedroom coming along?
Your new home does sound lovely skyflower!
Louise Tea Bag Folding is sort of like origami, but flat, you fold decorative paper (tea bag paper) into specific shapes and arrange it to form a decoration for cards etc. You can look here for some examples, i hope the visit to your sons went well, how did you get on with the cats?
Thanks everyone for the Birthday wishes, i had a great day, the girls put balloons up everywhere and made me breakfast in bed, had a pedicure (my treat to myself) and had some drinks with friends in the evening.
Morning 
Hope everyone had a good evening, what are you doing today?
I have a meeting in town this morning then i am in the office for the afternoon, my elder two are still doing exams it's starting to feel like they have been doing them for absolutely ages, i'm trying to think of low cost ideas so that i can treat them at the end, anyone got any ideas?
Morning all,
Ah, I imagined tea bag folding with actual teabags! I pictured bursting bags and tea leaves everywhere!!!
The bedroom hasn't moved forward, but I will peel away at it bit by bit. I don't have the money to decorate it at the moment so its probably best to take it slowly.
Groupon is good for treats Sally.
Work has been manically busy but I have an unexpected quiet day today so I'm hoping to do some catching up.
The GP has referred me back to the hospital. She reckons they do hip replacements at a younger age now, if needed. She figures I need it. I'm terrified and wanted to avoid it forever, but figure I need it too! The right one is still tolerable.
She has given me stronger painkillers too, which have made very little difference. Never mind...
Off to work in a mo. I'll probably go in early as I hate clock watching! I enjoy Wednesdays as my full time colleague is there.
I hope you had a good evening on Monday Louise.
Re-opening Scouts tonight to see if anyone turns up. If they don't, I'm leaving things until September. I just hope we don't lose the new chap who wants to be a leader, as I'd quite like him to take over as leader and me just help when needed. His legs work!
I hope everyone is ok.
Morning sparkling, I know someone who has had both her hips done and she is in her early 50's. She's never looked back since having them replaced, especially as she is now pain free.
Still feeling very 'meh', I'm trying to just go with it rather than fighting it, but its a struggle.
Thanks for the groupon idea PQ, someone else recommended amazon local apparently they do good deals, Sorry to hear your still feeling"meh" i came across this list a while ago 39 ways to boost your mood which i found helpful!
Hope the scouts goes well tonight sparkling, i can only imagine how scary it must be to face having a hip operation, what is it that scares you the most?
Hope everyone else is o.k?
I'm excited today my new sofa should be arriving after a few delays it is finally coming it is long awaited, i had to save for it for ages!
Thanks for that Sally, I have had a look, some I do already but there are others I can try too.
No young people turned up. I will have to do more flyers...
Loads of hugs pq.
I think I'll go out for a ride, waste fuel and listen to some music...
Shame about the no show sparkling, could the weather have played a part aswell, when it is raining we generally get lower numbers at our youth group! Hope you enjoyed your ride.
Weather is looking more favourable for the weekend do you have any plans PQ?
I'm off to visit my parents at the weekend and hope to be able to sit in the garden catch some sun and read!
Morning, the sun is shining here which always makes me feel happier inside.
Sorry about the no-show at scouts sparkling.
I've been invited to a BBQ on saturday, weather permiting! I think they are going to decide today wether to go ahead or not.
The girls are playing up, I think they are picking up on my mood.
Have a lovely weekend Sally.
The weather wasn't too bad here. I have absolutely no clue here... We're perservering though.
I hope the sunshine is helping still, pq. The weather for the weekend looks, um, interesting!
Helloooo gosh it's been a lifetime since I've been on here! I'm now writing this on my shiny new Samsung Galaxy S4! :') hehehe so glad to be rid of my Samsung Tyrrannasaurus S haha
I've had some right ups and downs in the last week as well, I had a job interview with Boots yesterday, for 30 hours per week, for which my dad jumped down my throat for it and said it's disgusting I want to leave sprog with someone else and go to work! I started crying in front of him, he said I can't keep going and crying every 2 minutes, I need to grow up and get on with it, he also said lots of other horrid things that were really spiteful and very unfair :-( my father is a lovely man.....
Otherwise I've been really good, my CBT is going really well and life is.... was going quite well :-)
I'm now really struggling to decide what to do if I get offered the job :-(
xXx
Hi everyone, well the sun has been shining today which is nice, but i'm pretty sure it is raining saturday, which is a shame as im going a way to a hotel sat night! for my friends 40th quite a few of us are going, in cardiff i'm really excited, it's a lovely hotel and my friend got us all a very cheap deal. Kids are both with there dads for the whole weekend.
Sally thats exciting getting a new sofa, especially if you have been saving for a long time.
Sparklinglime, sorry to hear you may have to have a hip replacement, but if it means you are pain free that would be amazing can imagine it's quite frightening thought though.
pancakequeen yes groupon can be brilliant and have some really good stuff on there.
Louise your post made me laugh about christmas although it wil be here before we know it! I am very much looking forward to the summer holidays with our amazing weather we have been promised!. Pancake queen reading a book in the sun sounds nice, you realize your kids our getting older when you get time to do things like that at the park.! hope everyone has a lovely weekend and fingers crossed we all get some sun, sun does seem to make everyone so much happier! including me!.
Hi everyone, just wanted to pop in and say to CleverMummy2012, I think it is fantastic that you went for a job interview, well done you. We have to be proactive and as much as I am sure you would like to be at home playing with your little one whilst someone else brings home the bacon, right now that just isn't an option. I think getting a job and having time with adults can be essential when you are parenting alone.
Let us know when you hear something.
Well that's what I thought, but dad says it's disgusting :-/ my nan doesn't think it's a good idea either, but she put it a lot more nicely, and urges me to wait til she's 2 in a few months, which I'm thinking of doing, as I'll get time to myself without working, but I still don't know, I have always felt like I need my parents to hold my hand when I'm trying to make my decisions :-(
Hi CleverMummy how great you just went for this interview, fantastic you just did it no matter what others think. In this time of recession it is just wonderful if you can get a job and anyway it was a good experience to go through an interview. I think you did really well to take this initiative no matter what the outcome. And if you get the offer you can always go for it and try before deciding what to do as you will have a trial period.
Sally so great you had a nice birthday and hope your visit with your parents went well though I don't think you had much sun.
PQ hope you feel a bit better and your mood has lifted somewhat as the weather was so much better today, hope your mood doesnt go down because your ex is playing his games because he is not worth it for you to feel low xx
I am a bit scared right now as my digestive system is terrible actually, right now. I did go to GP yesterday God how difficult it is nowadays to get appointment so immediately blood tests, other tests and I will get colonoscopy within 2 weeks. I am scared because my mum and grandmother died of colon cancer and am afraid I could lose the children if I have a disease like that as I have no family support. I might be lucky and it might be diverticulitis or C diff. Why can't life just be fun ? I really need a break ...
Hi skyflower, sorry you haven't been well. I know your mind can work overtime when we are faced with these things, but there are lots of potential reasons why your digestive system isn't working as it should. You have done the right thing by getting it checked out, and once you have the test results back you will know what can be done. Try not to think too far ahead. Big hug x
ahh thank you Pancakequeen, yes there might be many reasons why this has happened, I forgot to ask how long it would take to have results back does anyone know? Thanks PQ I feel a bit better x
Loads of hugs Skyflower. I hope all goes well. Hugs from me too.
Hi Skyflower, they should give you feedback on the day you have your colonoscopy about things they see. If they take any biopsies you will have to wait for the results.
I had a breast lump a few years ago, I had to wait 2 weeks for my appointment, during that time I had imagined the worst diagnosis, all the treatment including loosing my hair. The day of my appointment I had a full set of tests and was told it was a lymph node.....phew! A lymph node was never part of my thoughts yet it was one of the most likely, our brains can tie us in knots when we are faced with these things.
Hi sky flower just read all the posts hope all goes well also
Hope it goes well today, Skyflower :-)
Thanks for your supportive comments :-) still can't decide what to do though, l feel like either way, I won't win as if I take the job, family will be disappointed and disapproving, yet if I don't take it, I'm worried I'll regret it, plus I don't know if I'll be able to claim IS again if it doesn't work for me cos I'd have made myself unemployed again :-(
I think it is great that you have found a job so many single mums find it hard to return to work, I agree hard if you don't know if will be able to return to benefits if you decide it not working . Can you talk to the job centre about this ?
Hi Clevermummy, I'm sorry your dad has made unhelpful comments that have upset you. At the end of the day its up to you what you do. I think like Anna, you should be proud that you are trying to support yourself, setting a great example you your child, well done you 
Thank you all for your support, as it really does help. And thank you PQ for such reassurance you must have gone through hell those 2 weeks and maybe it's just stress that I am like this as I went through so much who knows. I will have to wait until I know more.
CleverMummy it is a dilemma if you can lose your benefit. your family should support you in your choices, but maybe your dad is just worried for you.... I think you are doing really great !!
Hello one and all, hope you are doing ok and feeling pleased it is the weekend.
Skyflower, it is horrid to wait for results, I know that feeling, your stomach just does horrible somersaults all the time. The first thing to say is that the sooner you investigate, the sooner it can be treated. The second thing is that even if the very worst diagnosis is given, early treatment is very successful. My auntie had colon cancer 20 years ago and my friend's niece 5 years ago, and the difference in their treatment was huge, with all the advances that have been made in that time. Well done for going and sorting this! we will be with you every day.
Clevermummy, any single parent with a child under 5 is entitled to Income Support so do not worry on that account, however it can be a bit of upheaval transferring on it and off it. In the longer term you will have to work anyway and your dad needs to realise that. However, you might decide to work fewer hours in the end...you need to work 16 hours a week to claim Working Tax Credit. I say do what you want to! and it is good practice to make decisions for yourself
Sparkling that's good if you get on the hip list, it WILL make such a difference to your life. I liked reading on the other thread about your 18 year old's conversations with your friend about aircraft!
PQ hope you are feeling less down, you are right that the girls will pick up on this. A friend of mine once said to me "why is my little boy extra naughty when I have PMT?" I said not only had he picked up on her mood but also she felt less able to cope with it. What are you up to this weekend?
Abbie Lou have a wonderful time in the Cardiff hotel, how exciting!
Sally thanks for the T bag info, I had never heard of it and it's amazing. I also found the 39 ways to lift your mood helpful. Many of them seemed to be about "taking charge" of the situation and your mindset.
My visit to eldest was FAB. He and E are so proud of their little house and I even coped with the cats OK, they did a lovely meal and we had such good fun. I have edited a voodoo story this week (!) and had book club, had to give a talk at Alpha and visited an antiques centre that is newly opened and so interesting.
Let's hope the rather doom-laden weather forecasts won't spoil things, I saw a man staggering along with a sack of BBQ coals the size of Manchester last night and thought "not sure you will be able to use those tomorrow, mate"
Morning louise,
I'm feeling a bit brighter now, I managed to clear a few jobs that had been hanging over me at work which helped. I'm so up and down at the moment its hard to know whats going on.
Today I was supposed to go to a BBQ but the host canceled when they saw the weather forecast so not sure what we'll do now. A games afternoon I think!
Glad you enjoyed your visit to your son's. Sounds like you've had a busy week.
Thanks so much for all your wonderful advice and support! I'm thinking I will actually wait til September when places start taking on their Xmas temps, then I'll have money for Xmas, and then sprog will start her nursery funding in January :-) then I'll decide then whether to continue working or let my temp contract terminate and start hitting the gym more, or both, I'll see :-) hehe stuff my dad though, he's a miserable old trout lol
PQ glad you're feeling a bit better :-)
Sparkling and Skyflower, hope things both get sorted out quickly for you! It's not nice being unwell or I'm pain
Have a fab time Abbie Lou :-)
Hope everyone has a lovely weekend, whatever you get up to :-)
xXx
Well I ve just been up in the loft as A had been complaining of hearing noises above her bedroom. Caught in the beam of my torch I saw a squirel and some bees, then I heard a bird flapping. Seems like there's an animal party going on!! Just called a pest control company and they want to charge over £200 to sort it out. More expense 
. I ended up sitting and crying, I don't seem to have the inner resolve to cope with anything at the moment.
Awwww PQ :-( *hugs* I hate feeling like that :-( can't you buy some stuff to do it yourself? Get a humane trap for the squirrel? I'm sorry they might not be the best help :-( I've never had to deal with something like that before, maybe ring someone like RSPCA? xXx
Good evening all.
Skyflower I hope everything turns out ok. I won't say try not to worry as it's impossible.
Glad you are feeling brighter PQ. I'm still feeling meh and it's draining me. Would your animals like to come live with the rat (s) under my shed? Turns out they are using my garden as a run to get to next doors pond! Council are coming out next week but it's only £25 as I get WTC. I only get £1 ish per week but I still get it.
Work has been horrible. We've changed computer systems and everyone is snappy and stressed. I sat at work crying the other day telling myself repeatedly that I need the job. Hopefully this week will be better.
J is not a happy bunny. Returned from his dads really quiet. Wouldn't tell me what was wrong,so we did role play with teddy bears. Turns out he is having problems with dads girlfriend. From what I can gather she has started asserting her authority, telling him off and punishing him. I explained that if he is misbehaving then he will get told off, but he says it is for silly things, like asking for a drink when he went to bed. He asked not to see his dad this week, but I told him he needed to go cos dad would be unhappy not to see him. He wants to see dad but wishes 'she wasn't alive cos it would be me and dad'. I had to leave him crying today. Just told the ex to bring him home if he wouldn't settle. Any tips anyone? I feel like the bad guy for making him go.
Hello everyone
PQ you were feeling better and then that happened! poor you...I wonder if the council would be cheaper, could you phone them on Monday? If you really have to pay all that, how about asking your parents for some help?
Clevermummy that sounds like a plan!
Looby how sad for J, well done for the teddy bear role play, it worked a treat. There is little you can do but I think you need to explain to ex that J likes the time with his daddy on his own. At this stage, the girlfriend should be making guest appearances only. Warn your ex (gently) that he needs to handle things carefully to keep J on side. Hope work gets better for you.
It's nearly bedtime and I do hope that everyone has had a good evening despite the worries.....see you tomorrow
OOh morning, here I am again, how are you all today? Let's hope for more sunshine! Cooking anything nice today?
It is a beautiful day today, a lot of people here hoped yesterday for a BBQ and yes it worked, it was beautiful in the evening. Thank you all for your amazing support it is so very helpful to feel not alone with this.
Looby Louise suggestion is really good, I hope your ex can be reasonable about this and see that is is important for his relationship with his son to take things slowly with the girlfriend.
Sorry you are in a pickle again with the animals PQ I just found bumblebees on the side of the house as they haven't sealed it properly and am hearing bees and bumblebees are protected and will fly off in a few weeks and have it sealed then. Squirrels do need sorting otherwise you will have a nest every year as they keep coming back and make holes in your roof. I know it is a lot of money but it does need professional help I think ? did your BBQ event happen anyway as the weather picked up? Or was it something different? Hope you could enjoy it a bit anyway despite the animals (hug) the bird you might catch with a net, they have those at the pet shop...
Couldn't watch BGT last night, so as the children are playing in the garden with the neigbours kids, I will just provide them with some snacks and drinks and relax on the sofa catching up xx
We have just been shopping for school shoes. Five weeks before the end of term and he's worn a hole in his shoes! Only got a cheap pair as they won't fit come September. He's now sat making loom band bracelets., the latest craze at school. Keeps him very quiet!
The problem with dads girlfriend is she is his ex girlfriend, so is not new as such. He came back today and threw his arms around me saying he'd been asking to come home for hours. I ha a quiet word with ex and said that J just wants some time the two of them. I got told to keep my nose out and it's none of my business, that' she is back in his life and J will have to deal with it. Aggressive and lashing out so I know he's feeling guilty about something. We'll see how this week goes
Yes you will, Looby, and J may well decide not to go at all if your ex is not careful. You have done all you can now.
Skyflower I hope you are enjoying your catch-up TV. I have been to church and got some washing on the line and now getting ready for swimming.
Yes, loved the catch up tv it was really funny how simon wrestled for the button when that love song came up, nearly fell off the sofa, then my neigbour came with her little doggie and we had coffee in the garden our dogs running around having fun, which saved us a walk until lightning and the rain came chucking down.
Hope you had a lovely swim Louise
Very difficult one Looby, I am so sorry your son has to go through this xx
PQ actually the bees are not legally protected I read on the internet and the sprays on the market might hold only a fraction of what is needed to control them so it might be better to have it done professionally as they can damage your house and repairs might cost more ?
Morning, thanks everyone for the advice about the animal park in my loft. I did a bit more ringing around and found a company that is a lot cheaper and local so I've booked him to come out this afternoon. Unfortunately our council only come out for rat problems, they have a lot of info on their website about everything else including bees. Apparently some bees are endangered and can't be eliminated so I'm hoping I have a bit of luck with this one. As for the squirel, since I went up in the loft we haven't heard any more noises so I'm hoping he's moved on, if I get the hole repaired quickly I might be able to aviod that cost of catching it!
Well done PQ, so great you found a cheaper option!
Hellloooo, ( long time I know)...
Lovely to still see some old faces on here and new too....
Just wanted to catch up with you a bit...
I've been in my new house just over a year now, and it's great.The neighbours are fab, and it's a proper little community here. We have both got into gardening( who'd've thought it, as I've never been before), and we're also trying to grow some veg. G has finally built his Koi pond too, but just found a major leak so we will be trying to sort that out tomorrow.Then we need to start decorating the inside of the house.
Here are some pics of ehat we've done,( hope the links work):
My daughter has just finished her first year of A levels, so hopefully she will get the grades she wants.
I'm still working for the Agencies, there's not much about, so might have to consider looking for a p/t job at some point.G's job is very stressful at the moment. He thought he was going to be made redundant but they've given him much more resposibility without the pay rise or grade that should go with that, so he gets very stressed.
Hoping to get married September next year ( when G hopefully finally gets all his stuff sorted with his ex).
My 50th coming up this September, and my present from G is going on a murder mystery on the Bluebell railway so I'm really really looking forward to that, ( it's a three course meal with a 20's theme so he's going to dress up as Hercule Poirot and I'm going to wear a 20's beaded outfit).It's all very Agatha Chrisitie.
Think that's about it for now...hugs for you all ((()))
Hope all went well with getting rid of your infestation today PQ!
Good to hear from you looby, hope the situation with Js dads girlfriend improves. My youngest is in to the loom bands too.
How was your weekend in Cardiff Abbie lou?
Yes Louise, the list was about being proactive, which is why i think i found it so helpful, the main thing that i learnt is that you don't have to accept how you feel, our feelings are generally motivated by some need that we have and it is figuring out what our need is and if we can do something about it.
Hope you had a good weekend clevermummy? how was your weekend sparkling?
How was your weekend with your parents Sally? You seemed to be away much longer than a weekend !!
I had to cancel my plans to go to my parents skyflower, my dad was unwell (he has dementia) and when he gets an infection his behaviour can be upsetting for the children, we are planning to go this weekend instead. I ended up in the park with my youngest both days as she wanted to go bike riding.
Well the sun is out here this morning i hope it lasts all day
Morning all,
The pest control man came last night. He sprayed the bee nest and set the squirrel trap and charged me £155 for the privaledge! Hopefully the suqirrel likes bounty bar and gets stuck in quickly!!
Sorry to hear about your dad sally. I hope he recovers quickly from his infection.
Had a thunder storm last night but it was quite short lived thankfully. And today the sun is shining again
Send to friend
Hi Louise and everyone I had so much fun with my family, my father though needs someone to visit every day...
When I came first day he had cooked "a meal" for the neigbours, walking to the spare room asking them to sit down and not understanding why they would not come ? The desert was green and looked like it could walk? so I cleaned it all up and as we visited twice a day I could see a major improvement as he then seemed to understand everything and we could hold a normal conversation. I did cry as I feel guilty to leave him, my brother sleeps there once a week and my other brother visits every week but it obviously is not enough and he definitely does not want to go to a home, which would be so much better. I cried as I have no one here and everyone there, but I will have to wait at least 5 years before I can return.
I am so lucky to have met everyone here which kept me sane going through all the Courts and all the harrassments. Today is a beautiful day and I have nearly finished all the laundry and downstairs is clean it is just upstairs that needs dusting and vacuuming,
I love my house as it is just so peaceful and relaxing and so amazing with bay window and my bedroom with an arch window, just love my car as it makes these trips so effortless
Hope everyone has an amazing day as lately it has been raining so much xx