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Poor C.
Hope you're able to get some answers today hazeleyes.
Hi everyone,
It's a grey start to the week here. Very dull outside and I did NOT want to be parted from my quilt this morning. Ah well...
A busy day lies ahead; a quick flurry of necessary grocery shopping followed by a 6 hour shift at my 'new' job (I've been there since the beginning of October) selling lovely smelling products with a bunch of mad though adorable colleagues. Will finally get back around 7 this evening to put A to bed before (no doubt) watching a load of nonsense on the TV before collapsing back into the aforementioned quilt.
What's everyone else doing with their day?
Hoping you get some concrete answers from your GP, hazeleyes - thinking of you and C x
hi well raining hard ere, very dull, well my eldest daughter as gon bk uni today, she stayed last nyt after not seein er for 7 weeks, i do miss er, ad gud chat tho last nyt, and er brothers and sister pleased to see erx
Pleased you were able to have a good talk with your daughter, kiera. It must have been great for you to spend some time together.
hi yes it was really gud,we stayed up late watchin father ted lol, sooo funny, xx
Hi all,
A is ill again and off school. I left her on her own for a couple of hours this morning as I needed to go to work...sharp intake of breath!....but my neighbour was in and kept an eye on her so all ok. Her drama school did a variety show for children in need on saturday night and she was out with her dad all day yesterday, she's been a bit run down recently and I think its was all a bit too much. Looking at her now I think she'll be back to school tomorrow.
Hope you get somewhere at the drs today hazeleyes and that C is starting to feel better.
Your day sounds busy Mary, at least you should smell nice 
Perhaps we should rename Mary, into Lucious Mary
Hope all goes smoothly, and you're back under that duvet before you know it!
Sorry A is poorly Pq. Like you say, it could have all been a bit too much for her, with the show etc. Hope she feels better soon.
None the wiser here 
The lump has gone down, but still visible, and still able to feel it. Dr asked about Friday night (hospital) He was gobsmacked, as he'd, not only spoken to the Dr that was waiting to see C, but had also faxed a letter!! Anyhow, urgent scan to be done on C's neck. I assumed I'd be sent to the hospital today for this, but no longer works like this, so don't know if GP putting urgent on the form, actually will be seen as urgent! Another blood test to be done on Wednesday at 9am. GP wants me to ring him Wednesday also, to let him know how C is doing (isn't that nice of him) Appointment for next Monday to see and check C over, and even though C is still taking the antibiotic from Friday, Dr wants him to extend it, for another week, so another prescription for that. I asked about school. See how he is, and also how C feels about going on Wednesday. Blimey, I know he's been poorly, but I do feel he could go tomorrow, but Drs orders and all that!!
Hi hazeleyes,
Your dr sounds very thorough, probably best to keep C off school as long as possible this time, to try and make sure it doesn't come back again. At least if anyone at school gives you a hard time you can say its the drs instructions as C has been so poorly 
. How about you? Have you been feeling ok?
Hi Pq. I'm good thanks. My Dr is extremely thorough. Hmmm, keeping C off school as long as possible? I know what you're saying, and also the GP of course, but to me, C is okay to go back. Saying that though, his temperature was up earlier, and so out came the nurofen! I've spoken to the Headteacher, and asked if he would need a letter to confirm C's visits to Drs. He suggested I photocopy hospital appointments (haven't got any, apart from heart hospital) He knows that C wouldn't be off unless there was a valid reason, but a friend did suggest getting a letter for the authorities. Anyhow, rang surgery, and there is a charge, according to the secretary. Told me she'll get back to me regarding letter etc. Hopefully, I'll be able to pick it up when C has the blood test Wednesday (saves me on fares)
How's A feeling now? Hope she's rested this afternoon.
I'm sorry things are still ongoing hazeleyes. Glad this lump has gone down though. xxx
You were up late Sparkling
Don't know what's happened to my sleep pattern, but it's been out of the window for months, and I'm fed up with it
Need to go to Post Office today, and I must pay the Council Tax (can't put it off any longer) I seem to have fallen behind with a lot of payments (not the council tax) since the Summer, so now find myself robbbing Peter to pay Paul. Reminds me of the days I was on Income Support, and not liking it at all!!
Hope you all have a good day today. How is A Pq? Is she going to school today? C is still snuggled in bed, so shall leave him to wake on his own.
I went to a housing association meeting last night - I'm on a few tenant forum thingies with them.
Last night they spring a merger plan, months into the process, on us. I came out with a few comments, and the members of staff who are not management were patting me on the back as I left!! Can't remember what I said, but apparently it was well said.
Hoping that I can leave work on time today as I need to sort out the car that has a flat battery...
Glad C is cosy :-)
hi i really want a job now, my little girl b in nursery hopefully in january, 10 hrs free funding, want to do health and social care ,so looks like il b going college, this 2 yrs i avnt worked ,my littler girl is 2 now, always worked shifts, got to do summatx
Morning,
A is much better and back to school today and I am back at work, life returns to 'normal' (whatever that is!)
Hope C continues to get better hazeleyes. You mentioned earlier that your sleep pattern has been out recently...I find exercise really helps me when I am going through an insomnia phase.
Going back to work sounds exciting kiera, are you thinking about becoming a carer?
Good luck with your flat battery sparkling, hope you get out of work on time to fix it.
How was your day Mary? Did you come home smelling lovely?
yes bin a carer for quite few yrs now, i was doin nights but cudnt go bk to my jobafter i had my daughter, no1 to have her, so wana go bk work nowx
Yes, good luck with the 'normal' thing, pq Glad to hear 'your' A is all better now.
My A is very chuffed with me as I brought all sorts of goodies home from work last night. I am having a small attack of the guilts as I am working into the evening a lot recently; although I still get to put A to bed I aren't spending much quality time with her. I know I'm working for the benefit of both of us, but it's hard not to feel a pang of 'bad motheritis'. Will let you all know if I figure how to be in two places at the same time...
Appparently I do smell 'luscious' - thanks for that, hazeleyes! - when I come in, but I've grown immune to it. A always comments on how lovely I smell though, which is nice (and I get lots of cuddles so she can 'smell' me ) I'm sorry to hear C is still a bit under the weather. I'm very impressed with your account of your GP though - talk about thorough (and genuinely interested by his/her patients' well being)! Good luck with getting a dr's letter without the fee - sounds like it shouldn't be too big an ask.
By the way, I know what you mean about robbing Peter...sounds like every month in our household!
Well done for saying the right thing at the right time, sparkling! hope the car is up & running again now.
College, eh kiera? Do you have a local careers centre who could supply you with the information you need to start looking into courses etc? I'd love to go back to college again, so I'm excited for you!
Hi luscious mary, hehe. Are you working later because of Christmas? I think we all feel a pang of 'bad motheritis' at times don't we? It's horrid when the guilt sets in, but then we have to remind ourselves that working must surely benefit us.
Pq, I'm sleeping, but awake soooo early. I seem to get around 4/5 hours, then that's it. On weekends of course, I can drift back off after a few hours of waking, but school days are a different matter. Though school days have been rare of late!
Sparkling, I hope you manage to get the battery sorted. If it's not one thing it's another!! Hope you're okay.
No news from surgery yet, regarding the letter, so if nothing still this afternoon, I shall ring them again (on the chance, secretary has forgotten) I'm still no nearer to getting out, I'm not even dressed. Also need to buy an iron. Mine stopped working on Sunday, changed the fuse, tried to clean it, but as cold as ice!
I'll post my iron to you hazeleyes... Having said that I used it twice last week!!
I placed an ad with the jobcentre this morning for a full time clerk. Boss hugged me and said there'll always be a place, but I can't do full time at the mo with my lot.
Colleague and I have split the work into 3... A few applicants already - some with degrees! Not sure how many hours I'll be left with. It might even be 16 still, shall have to see. It can't carry on at the more or less full time at the moment.
Also if it does snow I can get away with 'having' to go in!
I'm waiting for the AA. Apparently you can't jump start a 308. My fault for abandoning it. I'm putting the key back on my keyring and it can have a run into work every now and then.
Still waiting 
Nearly fell off my chair laughing, seeing a vision of you ironing Sparkling
Twice in one week, blimey, you're doing great girl! Thankyou for your kind offer, but I'm now the proud owner of a brand spanking new one (yet to be used) I do hope something can be offered to you on the work front. Working for a friend is hard, but at least you know them, so that's an advantage maybe, or disadvantage sometimes in your case.
Dinner nearly ready. I have fish, C is having chicken dippers
Scrap the fish. Picked up wrong one, got fillet, instead of cod. Bum, bum, bum.
Oh I loathe it when that happens to me & I don't realise til it's too late, hazeleyes. Bum indeed. Did you end up sharing C's chicken dippers?!
On the iron front; I think mine is about to give up the ghost too. I'm hoping I can encourage it along until after Christmas, but I'm not convinced I can. I envy you you shiny new one
Yes, I'm being 'luscious' longer to keep the Christmas shoppers happy - though it''s been quiet the last few days. The recession is still biting quite hard here I think.
Any progress with the dr's letter?
And sparkling, please say you're not still waiting?!
AA man was, well, a very nice man - a very very nice man He's not convinced the battery will hold out though as its not used often enough now I have the motobility car. Took it for a long drive with the older two, and we did have a laugh. Will now see if it starts in the morning and I'll have to go a very long way round.
I think work should be ok. Can make hours up with self employed bits. Also, there will still be a need to cover days off in the office. I think I feel guilty about saying no to full time, but I'm still needed at home.
Glad the thought of me ironing made you smile!
The spam on this board in the mornings is certainly getting worse...
I'm still thinking about cutting my hours sparkling. I know we will be hit financially but it probably will be worth it. My line manager is on a secondment to another hospital at the moment but as soon as she comes back I'm going to talk to her about it.
I've got one of those steam generator irons, I got it a couple of years ago when I was doing some ironing to earn some extra money. Its slowly falling apart, I have to use a spanner to get the stopper off to put more water in it and the protective cover has come off the water pipe so its easy to burn myself if I've been using it too long, but its so good and I know I won't be able to afford another one that I keep eeking it out a bit longer.
Hope you're car started this morning sparkling.
Yes, sparkling - hope the car was firing on all four cyclinders this a.m. (you're right about the spam - our IT guys are aware of it & taking measures to reduce and/or prevent it).
Finding the home/work balance is a tricky one, isn't it? A has a teacher training day on Friday, (and for once I'm not at work) so we're going to spend the whole afternoon together - she's at her dad's in the morning - which I'm really looking forward to.
Well done everyone - we've made it as far as Wednesday! The weekend is almost in sight
Hi all, just popping into say hi, I do read the boards, but have been really busy with the technical side of the website. Please bear with us.
I took the car to work today - driving the wrong way up the A55 on purpose to the next exit, turning around and then going to work the long way round! I did the same, almost coming home. As it was 4.30pm finishing I was shattered.
Not a good day at work. We really can't do anymore than we do from that office, but the engineers really have done their utmost this week to lose every contract we've worked so hard to get, I reckon. All these applicants, but colleague and I aren't convinced we'll be holding onto contracts to employ someone full time.
What difference a day makes.
And Scouts this evening. Bloody awful. Not often I say that. They wanted games, and I felt they deserved a chilled night after all the work they put into the Remembrance Parade. Just awful.
Tired. Bed, I think.
What a day sparkling, I hope you had a good night sleep ready to start all over again!
I was late out of work yesterday, it had a massive knock on effect for my whole evening, ending with dinner at McDonalds, my idea of hell but the girls were made up.
How is everyone else? Is C back at school now hazeleyes?
Hi sparklinglime, you do sound exhausted, I hope today you can have a chilled one.
Hi pq, McDonalds! Shocking, you are a single parent, you must work, clean, cook and keep up the best possible standards and not let the side down! Ha ha! Thank goodness for fast food eh! Even though we feel terribly guilty about it, the children always think that it is fab, so all round it was a good decision by sounds of it!
I hope everyone has a happy Thursday
PS - Apologies about the Spam - we are working on it...
Yes anna, its funny how these things are perceived! I feel like I'm in the bad parent club but my girls think I'm the best mum in the world....think I'll bask in the latter and forget the rest
Absolutely, I like your thinking! You are the best mum in the world pancakequeen! No one could do a better job than you in bringing up your girls
Hello all!
I am sitting here smelling lovely (even if I do say so myself!) after doing a morning shift at the 'grindstone'
I'm going to A's parents evening shortly, but I have no concerns that I'm going to hear anything I don't want to, as she thrives at school (so far - I never take anything for granted if I can help it!)
Hope everyone has had a good Thursday?
hi well got big night out sat nyt, cant wait, goin for chinese tomoz to china town with mate,av couple cocktails,my mum watchin my little girl and goin shopping for 11 yr old sonms for new clothes for school trip monday for 5 daysx
Finished work at 4.40pm and have decided to go in tomorrow as I've not booked in all the stuff for next week that I should have.
Taking MiL to station quite early as she's off to stay with one of her daughters for the weekend.
Did the Cubs this evening, which was fun. But someone has tried to break into the hut over night and the lock is broken, as in buckled. Managed to slam it shut, and phoned the police to see if they'll drive past to check it - seems that is too much to ask. Seeing I've voted for goodness knows who today I shall complain
Somewhere I have a new lock. I have the keys... Just need the lock. I'll go up with a torch to sort it then.
We have now had almost 40 applicants for the job. Boss seems determined it should happen - and me too. Colleague and I have split the work, and I think there's enough for me to keep my hours - or perhaps make up a couple of hours a week with self-employed stuff. Fingers crossed.
One of the managers from the contract came to speak to the engineer who had made absolutely school-boy errors today. Probably more effective than anything we could have said. Colleague and I followed it up with a few blunt phrases after.
Is it too early for bed?
Hazeleyes, how are you, and how is C?
It sounds like life is a bit obstacle ridden at the moment, sparkling. Hope you're ok with it all?
And no - it's not too early, if that's where you want to be x
I think I might start wrapping some parcels tonight...
I'm still not in bed. I've been trying to find this lock for the scout hut! And failed! I'll buy a new one tomorrow after I've dropped my Mother-in-Law off at the station.
Then of course, I'll find it!!
The police have phoned and will be driving past it tonight to keep an eye on the place. My son stopped off on the way home from work too.
I am going to bed now, however!
I hope you got some parcels wrapped Mary. I need to start buying some. I've got bits for their stockings, and that's about it. We've written a list out too for those we want to buy gifts for.
I've had an email from my sister and she's going to my niece's wedding next month. It will be the first time that my brother, sister and I would have been under the same roof since my Mum died at Christmas in 1996!! Must take a camera...
Hi all. Just a quickie to say I'm still alive and kicking! A full on week here, as I'm working all day, to make up some of the hours I've missed, with time off with C. Not quite going to do it all for payday of course, but ....... Waiting on blood test results. Hopefully, will get them back today. Urgent scan hasn't arrived. C still has a lump, but not anything like it was. Starts his second lot of antibiotic today, finished last weeks one. Poor lad, but it seems to be working, which is the important thing. Me? I just feel totally wrecked, no energy in my poor decrepid body!! Have to say I was a bit short with neighbour last night. She rang to say that her phone bill is in, and she's put the money in an envelope. In other words, wanting me to take it to Post Office for her next week. I told her, I didn't see me getting there, because as I had missed work, due to no one being able to have C for me, I probably have to work all day, every day next week too. She replied 'oh dear, what will I do then?' I replied, 'I don't know, it's awful isn't it, when you have no one, but you do have your sons!' I actually wanted to say, 'bloody ask them' but of course I didn't I'd like to think the next time I need a bit of help with childcare, she would kindly say, no probs, bring him over, but this of course won't happen. Was I being mean to her do you think? Actually I don't care
Have a good day everyone, will catch up with news, hopefully tonight.
I've no doubt you'll find the lock after buying a new one, sparkling...that's how my world works too!
Sounds as though you have a family reunion on the cards at your niece's wedding. Are you looking forward to it?
Yes, I got a start made on A's presents and one of the few parcels I have to post is nearly ready to be sent. My friend's daughter's birthday is next week, so I'll send a card and prezzie for her in with their Christmas gifts. I love wrapping presents
You sound like you are 'running on empty', hazeleyes. I'm glad to hear C is improving, but don't forget to look after yourself too. Will you have chance to put your feet up a bit tonight? (And I wouldn't worry about the exchange with your neighbour. It can be really hard to be patient and generous with others when we feel under pressure - not least when there's an ill child involved. I am horrendous to be around when A is poorly!)
Speaking of A - I knew parent's evening would be ok, but was surprised and very pleased to find out she is now in the top set for maths Maths has never been my 'thing' - although I am a total mistress when it comes to running the household finances; it's a case of having to be - so she must get her ability from her dad. Not so impressed to her that my daughter had rolled her eyes at her form teacher recently (thankfully, said teacher had a sense of humour about it. But words will be had about how inappropriate that is...) Louise, if you read this following your return I require no comments about 'wondering where A gets that from'!
Happy Friday, hope it's a good one.
geting ready to go out for the afternoon, kid free, a break, ordered my sons clothes online for his school trip mondayx
Hi hazeleyes, I wouldn't worry about your neighbour, If they are decent people they will understand the pressure you are under, if they are not then you have let them know that they can't take advantage of your good nature. Make sure you look after yourself this weekend and have some downtime.
Eye rolling is an issue with my A too Mary, it drives me mad. Problem is I don't think she realises she does it half the time!
Only a few more hours of work and then its the weekend....yay. Going to do the parkrun again tomorrow morning, try and knock a few seconds off last weeks time 
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Your afternoon to yourself sounds nice kiera, hope you have a lovely time.
Glad it's not just my A, pancakequeen! I suspect she may also be blissfully unaware she's doing it. We have had a litle chat earlier - I made sure she knew how proud I was of her too.
We've been into town to do what was left of A's christmas shopping this afternoon (a token present for her dad, my mum etc.), as she had a teacher training day. We had quite a nice time pootling about the shops together - though I was glad to get home, as it was getting darker and damper as the afternoon progressed.
I've heard good things about parkrun, pq - hope you have a lovely weekend and that you shave at least 30 seconds off last week's time
I hope you have asome quality time to yourself too, kiera - and that you don't end up with a sore head in the morning after one too many cocktails!
Welcome to the weekend, everyone!
What plans do you have for the next two days?
Help!
got to have the conversation about Christmas with the ex tomorrow. Last year we spent the day together but won't do that this year because of his 'new' partner. He emailed me the other day asking what days J was with who, what was happening on the day and were we buying presents together or separate. I replied with my ideas of what could happen and he replied back that it wasn't all about me, he had every right to have J as well and he'd had a difficult year so deserved some happiness!
i proposed that he had J from Saturday until Christmas Eve afternoon. I said he could come round to see J open his presents and could spend as much or as little of the morning with him as he wished, before taking him to his house at 2pm. I suggested that he came back to me 2pm Boxing Day and was then with me until Saturday, when he then went to ex's until New Years Day. I have to work New Years Eve, so this made sense to me and I thought it was more than fair. Am I wrong? What has anyone else done? Don't want tomorrow to turn into a slanging match so want to make sure I'm being fair!
got big nyt out tonight, cant wait,x
Sounds fair to me looby. I've just had the xmas conversation. Last year he came round early to watch the girls open their presents, I went to lots of effort to make sure he was included, bought presents for him from the girls, even gave him something from me. He came empty handed, didn't even help the girls buy something for me. He gave me half the money towards the girls presents so didn't do anything. This year is different as we haven't had a good year and he is not welcome in my house anymore. The girls wanted him to come round again but I said no. He is going to pick them up in the afternoon and have them overnight, he hasn't asked to have them more than this.
Had a good run this morning, knocked 30secs off last weeks time so really pleased. Taking the girls for a haircut later, its been very amusing listening to them talk about what they want done (they don't go to the salon very often and are very excited!)
Did anyone watch children in need last night?
Well done Pq on the run. I'm so impressed. I think Looby and yourself are being more than reasonable regarding Christmas Day and the children's Dads. I fortunately don't have any of these problems, so I count myself extremely lucky.
Mary, a great parent evening for you. A brilliant well done for A on being in the top set for math. You sound like me regarding the math stuff. C is absolutely brilliant at this subject too, and he definately doesn't get it from me. I say it's from my Mum, as she too had a great brain (won't give the sperm donor any credit whatsoever)
Sparkling, how are you? Really hope everything works out for you, workwise. It's another added worry for you, which you don't need. The wedding sounds lovely, and it'll be nice to see your brother and sister too. Only a few hours, so I'm sure you'll all survive it, hehe.
C's parent evening was Wednesday, and it was all positive stuff. Great behaviour, popular in class, extremely helpful, top groups for all subjects. Actually, all these things are said on each and every one of the parent evenings, so I hope this doesn't change in High School!! Plodding along at school (me that is) Need to start thinking of Christmas and what to buy for C, so have asked him to jot a few things down, as I'm at a loss. Oh well, I'm sure it'll come together as it always does. I'm finding it hard to believe that it's nearly upon us.
Hope you're all having a good weekend. Weather, dull, dark and dreary. Loathe it!
So good to read that there have been really good parent evenings. Youngest doesn't have his until next year.
I decided to have an ill day, as I have an awful sore throat and I have a migraine. Ill day started after I gave the back part of the kitchen a good clear out and hoover. It looks rather nice, and I deserved to have my snooze and snore while youngest plays on the PS3.
Middle two have been out with their friends and had a good time.
I can go to bed now, I think.
Tomorrow, if I'm not too ill ( ) I shall tackle the kitchen table.
I also need to see if my friend is about to see if there is a role at work for me. He stated there was on Tuesday, but the way his wife turned her back on me and ignored me yesterday talking through applicants, I'm not so sure.
Work is not a good place at the moment.
I'm sorry that Christmas is causing problems. I've been lucky as so far The Git has not asked to have them over Christmas. He came to us for morning and dinner the first two years, and then they went to him for a couple of hours (including dinner) the third Christmas. He never got them presents, and us splitting up and him refusing to pay the agreed half (had kept him informed all along on what "we" were getting) meant for the first time I put 'from me' labels on stuff! (Juvenile probably)
I have told this lot (bearing in mind youngest is 13) that they'll be having stocking this year and that will be it. We're focusing on the magical build up side of things which mega missed last year. I'm off on Monday (even if they phone) to carry on sorting.
It will be nice to see my niece getting married. She's 35 and I think my brother never thought she would settle. I must get some photos taken of me and my siblings. I might even frame that one.
I must book a Travelodge - travel up for the day and stay overnight after it.
I will thankyou Mary. A few friends have mentioned Glandular Fever to me today. This would also make sense. Infection after infection, swollen glands etc. Shall run this past GP, he'll probably say 'have you been on the internet again?'
What me?? Never Doc, hehe.
Time for bed soon. Last dose of the day for antibiotic.