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I'm so glad that all is as good as can be. As for the school, it does always seem to be those who bully who do get the attention, yet even with the attention over the years he doesn't seem to have improved?
Dentist was a clean, so nothing horrendous. I was there 40 minutes, but I reckon 5 minutes for the clean and the rest talking and having a laugh... Tut.
Youngest at the orhodontist tomorrow.
Back and right leg are killing me. Could be sick with the pain. I think I may need a different chair at work.
Have done Beavers this evening, although I did mainly sit!
Have had a few sarcy emails from the Cub leader. Sad really as we used to be so close. July was the first biggest hint about me not carrying on, and still the hints come. Daughter goes instead, but she's not always going to be able to make it. Scouts now meet on a different night, or I'd have lost too many to football.
Sorry to moan. Might just go to bed... So exciting my life 
Hi all,
no essay writing for me today - whole day at uni, tomorrow and Thursday will be the same. The target of 600 words should really not be so bad, should it?!
Sparkling, I hope you can have a nice soak in the bath and make your aches go away!
Hazeleyes, well done for standing up!
Wishing everyone a brilliant evening! x
Good morning all,
Hope all goes well at Uni, Hopeful
How is the pain this morning, sparkling? Do you mean that the other leader is suggesting that you give up the Scouty stuff? What a cheek!
Hazeleyes, big relief for you at the hospital. So is there any treatment needed now or is it carry on as you were? I continue to be astounded at the school's attitude to this boy and his shenanigans. What is sad for him is that when he gets to secondary school there are much more draconian measures such as suspensions and expelling. The school is not doing him or his family any favours by not taking this seriously at this stage.
How is everyone else, pq, kiera?
Good morning. She's only "suggesting" I give up the Cubs. I questioned why her daughter was running the show, which is why its happening. She's a young leader and should, in theory, do what the adults arrange... For the evening of the AGM her daughter organised a walk in a local beauty spot, so of course no parents attended. When I commented on the clash I was told that it was getting dark and it was now or never. Being the "other" leader, really we should be doing a programme... Walking away is far easier. Just I know my daughter will not have any input and will be told what to do. Not really how things should work.
We have changed the nights of scouts to a Wednesday. I hope I remember
Pain isn't good, but at least after today I can rest. I think I may have strained muscle with wheeling on the chair between desks at work - which we do - instead of getting up and walking across.
Youngest having more of the train track brace put on this morning.
I hope today is a good one for everyone
hi everone can you show me how i can chat her i dont know becuse im new her thanks ?
hi what ap to you today lol?
Hello karim, did you say last time you are in a dentention centre? Are you not living with your children then? I gave you a link to a dating agency yesterday, click here to see it, as you seem to be interested in finding a new relationship. We do not have a chatroom
hi i think il clink on to datein site lol just messin ha
Good one, kiera 
Sparkling, good luck at the orthodontist. Yes I can imagine that whizzing on the chair wheels is not good for your hip, identifying what has caused it is half the battle.Hope it feels better soon. And by the way is is WEDNESDAY so you need to go to Scouts!
Another palava here. C was complaining of sore throat last night. Calpol and bed. This morning, high temperature, sore throat, so I got him an appointment for 8.50 with GP (I was lucky) Dr is saying, he wants blood tests (no appointment for 2 wks) also said, it could be all to do with the flu and infection etc, but no school until Monday, with him resting (fat chance) I of course went into panic mode, who is going to have him as I need to go into work. Rang elderly neighbour, who didn't seem keen, but I was pushy, I have to say. Anyhow, got to work, explained everything, and the Head was just saying, 'yes, no' Frustrating for me I have to say. C was texting me on way home 'where are you?' My head felt like it was going to explode, just cannot believe that he is having more time off!! Picked him up, neighbour asked who would look after him tomorrow, I say 'I don't know' and then she said, 'oh well, I'm sure you'll think of something' C said at home, that he was only allowed to charge his laptop (he'd been watching a film) for 10 mins, then they'd said 'that's enough now' Obviously not, so he'd sat there, bored to tears, no one talking to him, which of course hasn't gone down too well. So, I rang the school secretary, and she has assured me that I won't be losing money, not to worry, which has really put my mind at ease. I was totally in panic mode, wondering firstly, how I'd manage this month, and secondly, what on earth are the staff going to think. Feeling a bit more relaxed now, C is playing on the floor with lego, and again, looks okay, but I shall adhere to what the GP is saying. What a day!!!
Sparkling hope you're feeling better, pain wise.
Louise, do you have plans for tonight?
Hope everyone else is okay. Thinking of you Hopeful. x
Aw Hazeleyes, you're making me feel really guilty because I would send my lot to school unless they'd throw up over my feet (almost). :-/ Still, they survived. Hope C is ok. xx
Uni was fine. More of that tomorrow, plus a meeting, plus taking a friend to a sign language tester session, plus another meeting - woohoo.
My own signing lesson tonight. :-D
Hopeful are you seriously telling me you are taking up signing lessons? Glad that Uni went well.
Hazeleyes, great to hear that you will still get paid, always a relief. Being a working parent can be very stressful at times thats for sure, but we get through it somehow!
sparklinglime, your message about the scouts really got my back up. Do you 'elders' have meetings to discuss the future of the group?
Hi karim, how are you today? How is your child doing at school? Are you working?
Hi kiera - now don't you go running off to a dating site - there is plenty of time in your life for all that! Have a little bit of time for you methinks! No complications for a while eh?!
Hi everyone else, I hope you are well 
Hi Anna, I'm barely getting through it, it's been one thing after another for weeks!!
Hopeful, if it was up to me, C would be at school, but the Dr has said no school for the rest of the week! C has been through so much lately, and he's taken a battering. We all know our kids don't we, and I know, C isn't right in himself, which is worrying to say the least. Good luck with the signing language.
well got big nyt friday nyt, a charity nyt, 2 strippers lol drag act and disco, cant wait, got regular babysitter, my dawter mates sister shes nice she 24, x
Good luck with the signing Hopeful. Going back a few years, a Mum of one of my daughter's friend did signing. She travelled miles to go to classes as she progressed and really enjoyed it.
Have fun on Friday Kiera.
Hazeleyes, I remember having flu when I was 8, and was home alone for most of it as my Mum was working. I was off school for three weeks and remember feeling blooming awful.
C goes back, he will just get poorly again. My youngest is the same when it comes to his asthma.
The Scouty thing... The other leaders/helpers who were at the AGM are rather upset about what the cub leader said in the meeting, as she was very critical of the scouts, even though no cubs or their parents (bar one) were there. We have a amateur radio club sorting out an international event for Cubs and Scouts over a weekend. Most of the day on Saturday and Sunday. I'll have to be there as cub leader has expressed no interest in it. Really, she should be making sure the cubs take part. I have emailed her. Have had a chat with daughter and asked her to make sure she takes her polo shirt to college tomorrow as she goes straight to the hut. She can make sure that the Cubs support the event.
Trying to sort out the future of the group will be very difficult without the parents of all the sections supporting us. I do feel that it is up to the leaders to encourage the parents. Difficult when the leaders have to be encouraged.
meow meow meow... Sorry to rant about it...
Having taken it very easy I like to think the pain in my leg has eased off. The challenge will be going upstairs...
Your night sounds like a good laugh kiera.
Hazeleyes, my youngest caught swine flu a couple of years back, it knocked her out for over 2 weeks, she also had a couple of relapses. I think flu is underestimated, it really takes it out of you. I think yr dr is right to say C needs to take some time out to recover, and if your work have said you will still get paid thats a big bonus.
Hopeful, you pack so much into your life, I have taken a leaf out of your book and signed up for a taster Zumba class they are running at work. Its on a tuesday and I can only make it every other week when my girls are with their dad but its a start. Really looking forward to it.
Haha, Anna, I've been going to signing lessons for about two years now! It's not 'official' but I took the level 1 exams in April. So I'm not doing even more, just not any less. It's great fun, and now we're starting on Christmas carols which we sign to the public outside the cathedral. We did that the last couple of years, too! :-)
Hazeleyes, I wasn't critisising (how do you spell that), and if I could, I would offer to sit with C, so you can work :-) - probably he DOES need to have some proper time out from it all. Hope he is ok.
PQ - I wish I had more time to pack everything into my life that I'd like to try/do. I'd love to take up piano lessons again (haven't done that since starting uni), try my hand at painting, walk more, read more, learn sailing etc etc. There are just so many things that sound soooo interesting and fun!!!
Doing some of that reading now, I think! Good night all! x
Good luck with your studying, Hopeful. I remember you signing the Christmas carols last year. In the opening ceremony of the Olympics they had a deaf-hearing choir who sang and also signed, did you see them? I have done some Makaton but of course that is quite basic.
Kiera another night out? good for you! it is lovely to see you doing some fun things for yourself
Sparkling the situation sounds very political. I agree the leaders should be encouraging the parents but surely the parents should be interested anyway? Hope your daughter remembers her shirt! How is your leg this morning?
Hazeleyes, soooooo frustrating when a child is ill and you need to go to work, I know that feeling all too well. I used to feel really backed into a corner, thinking I can't do right for doing wrong, I am trying my best and going out to work and the odds are stacked against me. But we got through it and you will too, I promise. Your neighbour had obviously decided there was a limit to their help!!!! Maybe you could decide there is a limit to YOURS the next time they want errands running? 
Anyway do you think C would take vitamins? he does sound as if he has been knocked for six, poor little chap. Hope he makes a good recovery soon
PQ that's good that you have signed up for Zumba. I have started ba new exercise DVD at home, pretty basic movements but lots of reps. My friend said he would do it too but when it got to the dance section he rushed out the room, claiming he needed to go to the loo 
Serious talk looming with youngest, he has been "enjoying" himself a bit too much since his 18th and when he stays out late, his body clock goes to pot, Now he is a technically an adult I have to start off in a very casual fashion so that hopefully he comes to the same conclusion I could have told him in a short sentence half an hour earlier
Good morning all. Louise, I started C on the vitamins the week he had the flu, though of course some days, he 'forgets' to take them. That of course is my fault, as I forget to give them, hehe. Aww, your son is enjoying being an adult, though of course, it's all new to him, and hopefully he'll realise the stuff about the body clock. I'm sure with your 'gentle' persuasion, he'll soon come round to your way of thinking.
Sparkling, hope you managed the stairs okay last night. Glad you're getting some rest. Did your daughter take the shirt?
Hopeful, I know you weren't critisising I also remember you signing the Christmas Carols last year. Wow, where has the year gone?
Pq, zumba for you too? Well done, even every fortnight is good. I don't think I'd have the energy for anything like that, just watching would make me ache all over
Enjoy your night tomorrow kiera. Will do you good to get out.
C is supposed to be going to London Zoo on Saturday. Has been arranged for ages, as it's nephew's birthday. C has never been, and is so looking forward to it. Told him, he has to get lots of rest today and tomorrow, and then we'll see how things are. Fingers crossed. Have to say, I'm concerned that it might knock him back again, especially walking for such long periods on the day. During half term, he's been asking to go to my sisters, which I'm not totally keen on. He went before, and I didn't like it at all. If I have the money, I could take that time to paint my bedroom, as I'd promised myself, after doing his in the Summer, but still.......
hi everyone just wana say best thing i ever did get rid of ex, im alot happier and my kids are alot happier , ive got my mate bk and avin nyts out again, whereas bfore i cudnt go out or id b followed yesi av court but i expected tht as these men use courts to harass us, so wots new, tahnk u everyone for ur support and its possible to get out abusive relation ship im livin proof of tht thank uxxxxx
will im okay but i dont have mach tim if you can sand me your nambr we can chat in phone lol ? x
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Afternoon everyone, thought I would pop in and say Hi.
hazeleyes, I keep meaning to get some vitamin tablets for my son and maybe even myself, especially with the winter coming up.
Enjoy your night out tomorrow night Kiera. pq I used to go to zumba when I was with my husband, but since we split 4 months ago I haven't really had the chance to go as he doesn't want to have my son over very much. I'm lucky if it's once a week when I have to go to college to study for my accounts qualification. But I would love to go back.
I'm a lot happier too Kiera, really enjoy having my independence as I always felt I was walking on eggshells in my marriage and it was easier most of the time not to ask if I could go out with my friends. Now I feel I am having the life I want, even though financially it is tough sometimes. My car is in for it's MOT today, really hope it passes, had to buy two new tyres yesterday but hopefully that is it.
Louise, I have a 14 year old and an 8 year old and you think they will get easier the older they get. Is that the case, or does it get harder?
karim prob dont understand u lol well he does but hes totally ignoriun wot ur sayin to himx
Hi Princess.
The rest of us leaders were talking yesterday evening. Unfortunately if a leader isn't enthusiastic then you can't expect parents to be. For me, I've said that when the hut is demolished I won't be continuing with the group.
I'm having a sort of easy day today in the hope my leg will continue to get better. I was quite worried on Tuesday night.
It has been raining here all day, although it has now slowed down from the torrential downpour. It's been quite nice to have some settled weather and sunshine since the last lot... 
The dog is still refusing to go out though! I don't know how she does it.
Hope you're warm and cosy hazeleyes.
Hello princess. Well if the stories on here are anything to go by, the older the children get, the worse it gets, hehe. You're at the teenage stage already with one of yours, how are you finding it?
Warm and cosy thankyou Sparkling, have been doing some reading too on the Kindle, as well as washing, cleaned the bathroom, and quickly nipped round to the shop. Left C indoors for 15 mins. I feel a bit odd at the moment though. Very hard to describe, but it's like inside of chest is pumping loudly, with flutterings too. Wierd explanation, but it definately feels odd.
Kiera, Karim can definately understand, he read your posts fine at the weekend. I actually think he is choosing to ignore. Tut tut!! Glad you're feeling much much better. You certainly sound a lot calmer than you used to. You're on the way up kiera
hiya yep he can understand well he wil just get barred if he carries on ignorin lol im alot better hun, thts cos i got rid of horrible man , bin rainin ere alday, i get tht still, heart pounding, x
Hi everyone
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hazeleyes, I know you found it hard when C went to your sisters last time, but it sounds as though he had a great time, it does them so much good to get away from 'mum' for short bursts. Why do you think you are getting heart palpitations? Is there anything that is concerning you at the moment, that you haven't mentioned on the boards?
Hi kiera, I loved your other message, to actually read that we supported someone leave an abusive partner makes our job SO worthwhile. It is brilliant to read that you are happier, the children are happier and you have your friend back - all great stuff!! Hooray. As you know leaving an abuser is one of the hardest things to do and I think you have a lot of potential for helping other women who are in the same position as you have been.
Hi sparklinglime, do you find your leg gets worse in the cold and rain (sorry if have you mentioned that before 
) I hope you are cosy tonight. I completely agree with you that the leaders need to 'lead' the parents, it must be a really frustrating situation.
Hi Princess72, it is so fab when you realise that you are happier isn't it! You ask whether raising your children gets any easier and the answer is yes and no! We have to keep rethinking our strategies as their ages and needs change. However I do believe that parenting alone gets easier, the longer we do it!
Hi Hopeful, I can't believe that I forgot that you did signing already - apologies! I hope you got some reading in today
pq - great to hear that Hopeful has inspired you to join Zumba - you get such a feel good factor after exercise, it does us a world of good.
Hi karim, I hope you are well and beginning to realise that people aren't allowed to give out their phone numbers on here or chat privately, but are very welcome to join in with conversations and make online friends.
Louise - good luck with 'the chat'!
I hope everyone has a warm, relaxing evening - I certainly plan to!
Evening,
Its grey and rainy here. Things are deffinitely calmer with A which is a relief.
Princess, I'm learning fast that parenting is something you learn as you go along, just as you seem to have 'cracked it' they launch somehing else at you. The parenting advice on here has been invaluable for me, especially to help me get through the most recent events with my eldest!!
Kiera, it is lovely to hear you sound so happy and relaxed, I'm so happy that you are enjoying life so much.
aw thank u anna, well its true one space av bin sooo much support, thank u, anna how wud i go bout helpin other women in abusive relationships, i av bin there and dun tht as u no, xx
Good morning!
Kiera you are ALREADY helping other people by being on here. In the future you may be able to do some work for Women's Aid, maybe as a volunteer to start with and they would give you some free training....so that coule be a possible plan for you, how exciting!!
PQ, I think you are spot on with your comment...every time we think we have "sorted" this parenting mularky they come up with another challenge. Glad A has settled down a little, let us know about the counselling.
Princess72 you already have some experience of teens. If I had to take an overview of parenting, I would say that after the challenges of baby and toddlerhood, things become a lot more settled and then gradually crescendo towards about 12 when there is a sharp upward line then the line goes pretty haywire until about 17 when it starts to ease off (slowwwwwwwly)
Sparkling it is all change with the scouts, not always a good thing. Your dog must have the bladder of a camel!
Hazeleyes, just keep an eye on those palpitations, I know there can be a link to menopausal symptoms but if it continues do go and see the doc. And of course there could be a link to stress after all the worry about C. Hope he is doing Ok today.
Hello to everyone else. Hopeful, hope your day goes well.
..oh and I had the "chat" with my son. He is 18 now so I have had to approach things differently. I always find that keeping it casual is a really good ploy; in that way he does not think "she is on my case", he will listen. Humour also helps.
I basically said I could not tell him what to do, but I cared about him and he was risking his health by mucking up his body clock. I then said I am delighted you are having fun nights out but then lying in bed for ten hours afterwards going "eurrrggh" (I did an awful impersonation at this point) was not attractive. I said to him if I discovered that eating granary bread made me lie in bed for the next ten hours going "eurrrgh" then what would he advise me to do? He was laughing by this stage and said yes you are right Mum (hooray!) I said when you DO have a big night out, the next day limit the "Eurrrgh" time then get up, go for a walk, get your body kicked back into routine. He agreed and I quickly changed the subject while the going was good!
Aw, picking moments, huh Louise?
I had such a full day yesterday that I didn't get time to even switch the laptop on!
Today is mostly a chill day - although I will hopefully try to make a start on the essay due on 5th November (all about pulmonary embolism).
Tonight I am going to Zumba (again!) and then am picking up No1 son's girlfriend and her, No2 son and daughter (maybe we'll convince No3 son, too) will go to No1 son's restaurant (where he works, not his) and have a meal for No1 son's birthday that he can cook for us. :-)
PQ, I don't think I will ever learn parenting. I think I make most of it up as I go along, and sadly what works for one child, doesn't necessarily work for the next...!
Hi Louise, I too came up with the same diagnosis as you. I think it's all connected to be being stressed over the last few weeks, regarding C. Had it through the night, and earlier this morning, but it's gone at the moment (fingers crossed, gone for good) If however, I experience it again, I shall definately get it checked out with GP. Really scary feeling.
Hope everyone is having a good day. Just waiting for water to heat up, so I can go and refresh myself in the bath, and a long awaited hairwash. Doing some chores indoors, so hopefully a restful weekend.
C won his homework last week, which means he gets none this weekend. What could be better than that!! Whoopee
hi Louise thank you for that link bout i cant goo for that link becuase we hav jast 50 mint and not alot be in facbook or daitn chat . i dont live wiht my son 7manth im in dentetion my son wiht garn mam i dont see him 3 manth i miss him so mach i dont know what i do i ben uk 8yers ?
hi kiera how ar you i hope you be okay ? my sapil not soo good lol but my english is ok
im in detaetion tis like prison bu mach betr we can los competr 50mint ever day and we have mobail phone we have work good food we hav to waet so i dont know and i miss my son alot i cant see him becuase hes in cardiff 3 hor far to me .
hi well spoent lovely day with my little girl, went macdonalds and cheeky chimp like a wacky, she ad alot of presents,im getin ready to go out now lolxx
Happy birthday to your daughter, Kiera Have a good night out
Karim, you are not seeing your son at the moment because you are in a detention centre, and you came to the Uk 8 years ago is that right? And you get a short time on the Internet each day but you are not allowed to use Facebook or dating sites? Have I understood right? You must miss your son very much.
Hopeful the night out sounds lovely!
Did you have a nice bath, hazleyes?
Ohhh so much work done today, I am surprised my eyes have not turned into mini computer screens. Curry tonight I think!
Hi everyone
not been on here in a while as been playing `doctors & nurses` - wow, such fun - :o)
I guess most of you `mums` knew what exactly what I meant, little man is all better now.
I was just catching up on this forum and noticed that: 1. Arsenal seem to be ok 2. Most of the comments are from the North (and all from wom*n - *cough*, mums) lol, someone is trying to date and the site banned it, another wants to be an ` assistant` etc etc. - I missed much of the ladies chit/chat but it did make me smile - obviously not at the people who were asking about genuine help!
M66
Bath was lovely and relaxing thankyou Louise. Your chat went well with your son then. Am pleased he's taken it on board, and he does sound really sensible (especially with you there to guide him)
kiera, have a great night out. Happy Birthday to your daughter, glad she enjoyed McDonalds.
I'm glad the chat went well too
I hope your daughter enjoyed yer birthday Kiera.
I've been ripping cardboard today. I'm sure that eventually we will finish sorting stuff.
My children have finally agreed to helping me to get the craft stuff out of the garage Bet the'll forget!!
I have a question for the lone mum parents of children - in your opinion, any or all of you ladies - what do you think the loss of contact with a real quality dad has on any of your children?
Perhaps a vote would be nice
M66
Any child is going to benifit from contact with a positive 'quality dad' ...or 'quality mum' for that matter. Sadly sometimes one isn't avaialable, in which case they can do perfectly well with just a mum... or dad.
I think it's more to do with quality rather than quantity.
I vote for a mum and a dad when ever possible.
: )
I think losing contact whith either parent is detrimental to the child.
for me, I want my children to have contact with thier dad as often as he and they want/need.
Early start for me today. They delivered my new table and chairs bright and early at 7am . At least I don't have to sit in til 12 waiting for them. My girls are out with thier dad today and my best friend is coming up....not sure what we're going to do yet but really looking forward to some me time. Work was manic yesterday, I was so exhausted last night.
M66, hope your little man is much better now. Did you have to take time off work to look after him?
How was your night out kiera, hope your head is ok this morning!!
Hope your children don't dessert you today sparkling, and help you with your things. My girls are very good at finding other things to do rather than help me out with 'boring' things.
Hello sparkling, good luck with the decluttering, it can seem never-ending but each step is a bit nearer, and think how fab you will feel to get it all done.
Hope your son is lots better, mark66. I agree with Bubblegum, two decent parents are best but if one (either mum or dad) is not around then one can do a great job.
How is C, hazeleyes? I was thinking about the zoo trip. And are you feelling better yourself?
Did you have a good night out, kiera?
PQ hooray you got your furniture, have a lovely time with your friend.
Hopeful how is the studying? Princess72 how are things in your house?
Saturday, hooray! Hope everyone has a good one
I agree with Bubblegum.
You cannot make a parent a quality parent. They can only choose to be one.
Hope C is up to the trip hazeleyes. xx
Good morning all. Well, I was apprehensive about C going, still a bit of a sore throat yesterday, but wouldn't take calpol! I decided in the end that he deserved a treat though, and the zoo is something he's wanted to do for ages, so off he's gone, wrapped up, with his lunch etc. I have ironed, stuck the hoover round, and dusted in C's bedroom (so far) Off for a bath in while, then lunch, then, who knows?
C's sperm donor is a waste of space, and C is much better off without him, so in my case, one parent is better than two, and we're well rid
Lovely to see you here Bubblegum
Did you do much de-cluttering Sparkling?
pq, have a lovely relaxing day with your friend. Really pleased the table etc has arrived. Better early, rather than waiting around eh!
What are you up to today Louise?
Hope your night went well kiera.
The appointment went well thankyou. Nerve wracking morning to say the least. Got to hospital, and first thing was the ECG, then weight and height. Next stop was the Dr. C had more things on his chest, and a scan. In total about 20/25 mins, so very thorough. To begin with, he started the scan, then shot over to the desk to write something on C's notes. Then he immediately asked me if there were any illnesses in the family. I think that part shook me up, and my heart was in my mouth, thinking oh god, he's found something! Anyhow, after the examination, he said he thought he'd seen a little hole in the heart, and that's why he'd gone over and over the same spot, but it turned out it wasn't, what a ruddy relief that was. C does have an innocent murmur, so obviously I'm not concerned about that (well you know what I mean) Chest pains, the Dr thinks are muscle pains, and the tiredness that C describes in his legs, he is putting that down to the fact, he had flu, then the week after he went down with an infection, so it has 'knocked him for six'. Fantastic news anyway, now I can get a decent night sleep.
How did the dentist go Sparkling? On second thoughts, don't tell me the details, you know what I'm like with dentists!!
Hope everyone else is okay.
Louise, the letter handing over was, shall I say, a bit mad on my part. I'm afraid I lost it a bit with the teacher, especially when he started the sentence with 'J is a special' That's as far as he got, because then I jumped in, saying I didn't want to hear anything about that, blah, blah, blah. Have to say he was brilliant, and did tell me that no way would he let a child get away with anything, to which I replied 'Heard all of this before, and still I'm stood here' In my letter, I did state that at the VERY least, I wanted the boy to apologise to C. On leaving school at 3.30, another parent was having a go about the SAME boy!!! We shall wait and see......