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A quick hello from a sunny but breezy Cornwall. Survived the drive and J only asked are we nearly there yet two hundred times. Have told him daddy really likes to be asked that question on the drive home! My accommodation was upgraded so I have a bend new caravan with a floor to ceiling window at one end and a stunning sea view. Thank you Haven! We've been to the beach and been out dancing. I now feel like my holiday has begun. Hope everyone else had a good weekend x
Ooh how absolutely lovely Looby! (now all you need is the sun....ooh who said that?) I had to giggle about you saying J's dad would love lots of questions on the journey, naughty naughty 
Have a wonderful time.
How is everyone today? PQ good luck for your date, heh heh.
I love it when if gets light early and all the birds start singing, mind you although my meditation thing was lovely yesterday I had to drive home 25 miles in torrential rain. We had a Chinese takeaway tea last night although son insisted on "nothing spicy in case of bad snogging breath" haha. At least he came home alone after his night out so I felt OK to be in hair rollers. Eldest is still house hunting, has found an ace one but now his housemate is not sure he can join him as his first wages are not until the end of August, think he is seeing if The Bank of Mum and Dad can help out. In the meantime eldest has given him till Wednesday to say yes or no and if no, he will choose one of the one bedroomed ones instead.
Hope you all have a good day 
I know it is Father's day and that throws up a LOT of stuff for some of us....our own Dads, the fathers of our children, and I will do a special thread about that
I'm enjoying the long days too.
I hope the drive home didn't take away the benefits of the meditation Louise. Yet again, you have made me smile with the comments your youngest makes! Your eldest is very sensible.
The caravan sounds perfect Looby. Hope you have sunshine, and a great time.
Hi all, another dreary day here. Worked yesterday Came home and ex asked me if I'd planned anything nice for him for Father's Day Like breakfast in bed or lunch?!!! Is he having a laugh!? Sorry dear when you decided our life together was over you lose all that kind of thing too! Bloody cheek! He's bloody lucky he card a card and some chocs! They were good too as I pinched one when he went out!
Wow he was lucky to get chocs, Rosie. My eldest got youngest dragooned into a joint card and a small mystery gift (well, a mystery to me anyway 
) and youngest is dropping it at his dad's care home, think his dad is out today but they will speak on the phone
Hi all Happy Monday!
sparkling, can you believe we are almost at the longest day of the year? Then the days are going to start getting shorter again already??! My leg isn't too bad as long as i keep it elevated, which is incredibly annoying, I start to get on with ordinary life, then it feels uncomfortable and I have to go and sit down again, grrr - thank you for asking though
Looby your caravan sounds divine, I love it that you have been to the beach and had a good dance and that you are now in proper holiday mode. ENJOY!
HI Rosie78, I hope that you manage to sneak another chocolate when no one is looking!
Louise, I hope that your ex was suitable grateful for mystery gift and card from the boys.
Grey sky here, but my phone says that the weather is going to get better through the week, although I am not sure whether to trust that anymore!!
Morning all,
I've had a very busy but lovely weekend. I really enjoyed my friends wedding reception. I don't know her new husband very well but I could see he makes her very happy. My date went well, he seems very nice, so we're going out again this week....eek!
I take my girls shopping and pay for presents that they give their dad for birthdays, fathers day and christmas. He doesn't help them I might add, apparantly he doesn't want to waste his money! Maybe I'm a mug for doing it but it gives the girls pleasure to be able to give him something.
Hi pq, your weekend sounds goooood! I am pleased to read that you are going out again this week, thats exciting!
It is a shame that the girls father doesn't make the effort that you do, the girls will notice it and in the future when they are older, they will make up for it I am sure 
Hi All,
Glad to hear your leg is on the mend Anna though you still can't ride yet, are you able to do your sweaty yoga?
PQ it sounds like you've had a busy weekend, how exciting you have another date in the week, any ideas/plans about what your doing yet!!!
Hi Rosie78 i hope you have had better weather today
Hi looby how's the holiday? it's great isn't it when you get up graded, i'm looking forward to holidaying in Cornwall in August.
Louise i hope you enjoyed your day off, anything interesting happen!!!
Nothing really interesting happened my end, i finally got the blanket i was crocheting finished Yippee, A wanted an advance of money to get a ticket to see Union J in January, so i have suggested that it can be part of her christmas present, which she has agreed too. P is either getting organised because she is off to Exmouth camp next week or she has not got her nose stuck in a book, and K finished his exams on Friday and has been celebrating with friends most of the weekend, and L has got my head in a tiz by keep changing her mind about what she wants for her birthday in a couple of weeks. Kids!!!!
Hi all,
Glad Father's Day has been and gone. My kids came home raving about their wonderful weekend, which was just about bearable until out came the gem, "Daddy and J say it's normal for children to have 2 mummies and 2 daddies" - not in my bloody book they don't! Hate that woman for thinking she has a role in the upbringing of my children. Over my dead body. Her moral compass is way off course - "hey girls, pursue a married man, get him to dump his wife of 7 years and his 2 kids, then expect to bring the kids up with him once you've well and truly made life difficult for her!" I am ust abut calming down now 5 hours later...Grrr!!
Hugs sarahb...
I used to buy gifts for my lot to give to The Git pq. Again, except for one mother's day, he never helped them to sort things. In fact I'm lucky if I get anything from my lot!!! After my birthday and last Christmas I'm not holding my breath. I stopped getting gifts when The Git married The Gittess - I figured it was then up to her.
I'm trying not to think about Friday being the longest day - yet I am. I just can't think about the days drawing in again. Winter's seem so long.
My neighbour crochet's blankets Sally. I'm glad you've finished yours. I never did master crochet (other than circles) or knitting.
I hope everyone is ok.
Th sun is shining here, but our office will be nice and cool (it's in the back of an industrial unit). The men kept coming in to tell us how warm it was outside - colleague and I were wearing jumpers!!
Hello one and all
Sarahb34 not surprised you were furious at that one! Over the years you will have to bite your tongue so many times. At ones stage I used to reckon that I had achieved my own homemade tongue-piercing. As the girls get bigger, they will see that families come in all sorts of shapes and sizes so just bide your time.
PQ you are doing the right thing by encouraging the girls to mark special days, even if their dad does not. Glad your date went well and you will be able to enjoy another this week. I always reckon that most people can put up a decent show on the first date and it is the second date that is the important one (especially does he tell the same jokes! and does he remember the things I told him about myself last time)
Sally, life sounds busy in your house. Hope your daughter enjoys her camp
Anna I am so sorry that your leg is still painful, you really did sustain a big injury there and although it is annoying, it will just take its time (grrr)
I had a very busy day yesterday, gave lift to a friend whose car was going into the garage, went out with same friend and had a PC (posh coffee) OF COURSE. I had had youngest's girlfriend in residence the night before as they both had the morning off work so I was happy to go out and leave them in peace 
. He made me laugh because when she arrived the previous evening, he had gone into the kitchen and got himself a glass of orange and a yoghurt and did not even offer her anything! I said "So you have just got yourself a drink?" he was quite shamefaced, not used to looking after anyone else you see. In the evening I went out with another friend and her husband to a wine bar place where I had a burrito, yum. Three counselling clients today and housegroup this evening.
How is everyone doing today?
Hi all, I have come to show off: I got 83 % for my dissertation!!!! Yay!!!!
Also, it is finally warmer than 12 degrees in Kent (I think 21 today) and I have just been on a lovely hike with a friend.
Taking daughter to orthodontist now. All good.
Great mark, Hopeful! Whereabouts in Kent are you? I'm down in the South East corner....
Woo hooo Hopeful, absolutely fabulous result, three cheers for you! the weather has warmed up for your achievement!!
sarahb34, it is hard when you hear these things, as Louise says in time, they will just go over your head, you will find your own happiness and be glad that someone else is dealing with your ex rather than you!
Hi sparklinglime, I have been wearing a jumper back at work too, I prefer to be too warm rather than too cold!
Glad you finished the blanket Sal and Louise you really must take a break on your days off!!! 
Ah, SarahB, I am in that town where they split the trains from London - we're not supposed to name names here (unless it's really big, like London or Bristol or Manchester). We also have a lovely hop party every year. :-)
Thanks for the congratulations everyone. I have to say I am a little bit smug! 
Well done Hopeful. Really pleased for you - and feel proud.
Wow hopeful that's really good!! Well done x
WOW and DOUBLE WOW Hopeful that is a fantastic result well done to you, an outstanding achievement! Glad you have some sun at last.
Anna how is your leg?
Youngest is fedup because of money. He had plenty of wages but has spent it all. Hope I am not expected to feel sorry for him!
What's everyone up to today? I have a meeting with another counsellor this morning. Still laughing from last night, my friend at housegroup has a very lively two year old and he loves making those pretend pizzas in a play kitchen for his teddy. He sits teddy down and enquires what toppings teddy might like. "Mushroom? Ham?" What we were really laughing about was teaching him to say "jalapeno" HA
That's sweet.
Oldest should have been doing loads to help here yesterday, but disappeared. The other three and I were carting stuff about though (big things being collected by the council today). He had promised, I sent a text, and he clearly didn't give a monkies.
At least we had a good weekend.
He ran out of money on the 6th - and there's still a long time until payday.
He's not paid any money over this month, so I am seething really.
I can see I will having to fill in the housing forms for him. He wants to live closer to work, and he may be able to get a one person unit there. Some parts of the town are quite rough, but I actually think that is what he wants. We're overcrowded here, which might help his case.
Busy day today with scouty stuff and the GP. Wearing my work's polo shirt so he can see that I do actually work - not that it will make any difference to negativity. I do think that GPs should interact positively with patients, however against the grain it might go...
Ah yes, there's always so much month left at the end of the money, isn't there?!
Louise, I don't remember mention 'sun' (what's that????), just that it was warmer. Sigh.
Meeting a friend for lunch today - I am finally having a bit of a social life back!
Hi Hopeful, great news about your disertation, you have every right to 'show off' you deserve all the praise and congratulations .
I've had a torrid couple of days with A but we seem to have sorted it now. It appears there are some problems with a girl in her class. A is having a meeting about it today but if it isn't sorted I will go in myself. This girl did something similar to A in year 6 of juniors but because her mother was a TA there, in my opinion, it didn't get handled appropriately.
The sun is trying to break through, at least its warm!
Hi all, the weather here is divine, I hope that everyone will endeavour to enjoy it for a little bit this evening?
pq, it's good to read that you got to the bottom of A's behaviour, I hope that the meeting goes well for her and that you don't have to step in. Lots of positive attention for her this evening I bet. H too of course!
Hopeful, how was lunch? I hope you are still in your celebratory mood! Will you be celebrating with your children? I was thinking a treat for you as a family can show your boys how worth it is to knuckle down and get on with courses?
sparklinglime, your eldest is obviously far too busy doing grown up, independent things than to be helping doing family things, I think it is a difficult time for them. If you can help it, try not to do the housing form for him, you can offer to 'help' him with it, but he needs to get it and have a stab at filling it in himself. I hope docs wasn't too awful?
Hi Rosie78, I hope your day is going well?
Louise, it is lovely being around little ones now isn't it, especially as ours are so much older
hi everyone hope everyone ok, well my sons new laptop cum today, my son not seen it yet hes at his nans,he also as footy tournament tomoz, my eldest dawter meetin up with me tomoz to watch him play then gona av bbq,meant to b nice weather, ope so anyway lol, its lovely today, then got big nyt out with my dawter for er birthday, my mum babysitting,and i wont b at court for ages, so im happierx it went my way x
Eldest is gardening Th housing form is in a clear pocket, and keeps getting moved aside.
Explorers this evening for youngest, so his friend's Mum and I will be, hopefully, having an ice cream.
It's been a beautiful day here. Weather forecase is unsettled again after today.
Breathing a sigh of relief as I have had a fair bit of supply work in the last few weeks which makes up for losing my work at the local High school when the Year 11s left....great apart from the stress of calling in extra favours for childcare.
The Ex was supposed to pick them up and have them til 6pm today - the extra 2.5 hours he took me to court for and paid £200 for the priviledge - but he couldn't make it today. Ok, I was given 3 days notice but still....grrrrr....
Working tomorrow and Friday too so have just taken the girls to the shop for a 'treat run' to celebrate. Sweeties for the kids, diet coke for me...trying to stick to my diet in order to bag myself a nice new bloke in the summer! Always feel more positive and happy in the summer months.
Just out of interest, how many of you have re-married or live with partners after the Big Bust Up with the children's fathers?? Sorry if that's nosey but just wondered if it was just me that found it almost impossible to have time to meet new potentials...!
I did meet someone, but it just started to slip into the same pattern as before, so I finished with him.
I've been on my own for over 6 years now, and while I do get lonely (not that I'm a good catch or anything...), I've just found it far less complicated with only my lot to sort and not have to worry about upsetting an alleged adult...
hi i met sum man but he cum out with disrespectful comments. warnin signs he sounded like my ex so told him do one
I've recently joined an internet dating site as I wanted to meet someone. I've had a few dates which haven't gone anywhere but have recently met someone who seems to be really nice so we'll see what happens.
Hi all, it is good to hear your news, unfortunately I am rushing off to get my daughter to the coach station as today is the day she flies to Zante! Fingers crossed she will be safe, sensible and anything else to keep her from harm.
I'll be back tomorrow
SarahB, it took about 3 years after first husband (who was abusive) to find somebody new. Sadly, he died, but he was really lovely and the children adored him - it was like he was the 'real' dad. So you see, there's hope! :-)
hi everyone hi anna aw zante nice ive bin twice, lovely place, it b lovely weather unlike ere, i ad a date for 1st time since my ex a year aga,but he said sum disrespectful comments so got rid, i dont want meet anyone,b on my own now for while, i need more time i reckon, ope everyone okx
Morning one and all
It's important not to let our bad experiences put us off meeting new partners but as kiera says, also vital to be aware of any old patterns repeating themselves and to read the warning signs. I know lots of people who have happily re-partnered, if that is the word! the oldest was my friend who got remarried when he was 60. And I watched a dating show last night on TV with a couple of almost 70 on their first date so never say never
How is everyone today? Hazeleyes, we are missing you, hope everything is Ok with you.
Sparkling, things sound challenging with your eldest at the moment. My eldest has just signed for a studio flat near his job, one of many in a converted weaving factory from the 19th century. I honestly think he only grew up properly when he moved out so is maybe when your eldest finds his feet things will change for him too? Did your painkillers do the trick last night?
How was your night out, kiera, or is it this weekend?
PQ I am presuming the date went well? Hope A has settled down
Hopeful does it feel very different having put all the academic work behind you?
Rosie, sarah, how are you both?
My youngest had a rather late night out with The Beloved so he is still snoring away. Got some errands today and very proudly reading a book my good friend has written, is amazing to me to "know" someone who has done this!
hi my night out is sat night, i ad bbq last nyt, my parents cum, was gud, drank bit to much malibu tho lolx
Oh dear, sore head time 
Hope your night out with your daughter goes well on Saturday.
Morning all,
The date went well, he's nice and we got on well so we'll see what happens.
Glad you enjoyed your bbq keira, not a fan of malibu myself, had a bad experience with rum when I was 15 and have not really drank anything rum based since then
I was so tired last night I went to bed at 9pm so feeling much brighter today. Just about to embark on re-fitting my bathroom so will be wandering round B+Q etc this weekend, whats everyone else up to?
Hi everyone, my daughter got off to the airport ok last night,so I have the weekend to myself, yeehah! I have a friend coming tonight and going for lunch tomorrow, still chomping at the bit to get back on my bike, but I think I am going to have to wait a few more weeks, at least until the scabs have disappeared!
pq, it is really nice to hear that you are enjoying the dates with this chap, so you know what you are looking for at the moment? Friendship and fun just for you or a step father for the girls too?
kiera, malibu is lethal!! Your bbq sounded nice though I hope you have a good night out and let your hair down. My daughter has gone to Laganas, apparently this known as the 'strip' so although I imagine the island is gorgeous, I think they will see little more than the bars and the swimming pool of their apartment!!
Hi Hopeful, yes, do you feel freeer without the pressure of essays? When I completed my course and handed in all my work, I spent the next couple of weeks, thinking that there was something I must do, but couldn't put my finger on it! I suddenly had lots of free time!
Lovely weather here, long may it last into the weekend. Enjoy everyone
Lovely weather??? Its raining here.
Anna, the dating is all for me at the moment, if anything were to get serious I would rethink, but the last thing I want is a string of 'uncles'!
A very quick message from work (don't feel guilty as covering for colleague who's gone to the dentist).
Router is well and truly conked out... So it might be a while before I pop in.
Hope everyone has a good weekend.
hello im 48 male looking after my son he has been liveing with me 3 years now i also have two girls that live with there mum.. just wondering how do you do it and have a full time job.??
Morning one and all
Welcome along to the chat section pw. Are you working fulltime yourself? I became a single parent when mine were 3 and 8 and have always worked but always part-time, but still plenty of hours, up to 30 per week. It can be really tough at times. Do you see the girls?
Sparkling we will miss you if you are offline and hope you are soon back with us
Kiera enjoy your night
PQ good luck with the bathroom browsing, I am off to Homebase to buy a stepladder in their discount weekend
Anna my youngest went to that same resort a couple of years ago, it did not sound as bad as I had imagined, they had a really good time and hopefully your daughter will too. His best night there was when a group of other lads thought his friend was one of the Arctic Monkeys! lots of photoshoots and free drinks haha.
What's everyone up to today?
thnak u louise i wil, my mum babysittin, and boys sleepin at nanas,its rainin here in north west, gona make big fry up soon,bacon, eggs free range of course,beans,mushrooms,saugages, well my dawter wil b 20 on monday,so proud of er,she aplied for volountry work in prison, she as bin accepted,plus she does volountry in my sons school as assistant,she gets er exam results monday, very proud of erx
Hi all. Good to read everyone is well.
Had some absolutely fantastic news this week. C was put forward to enter the Junior Math Challenge across the UK. 240,000 pupils entered, and really it is for year 7's (C is in year 5) 21% received the bronze certificate, and C was one of these. Am so proud of him.
Hi all, seems like we're finally going to have a really nice day today!
Yes, I am missing the academic work, but then I can always work a bit on dissertation - they've suggested that I publish it, so maybe I'll do that.
Still in pjs will have to drag myself out now!
Big well done to C!!! :-)
Have a lovely weekend everyone.
Hi. Just about got a breather today after a 4 day week....God, it nearly killed me! Made far worse by the fact that I was babysitting a class of Year 6s who really don't want to be at primary school anymore!
I am genuinely concerned about how I'll manage to cope when the girls and I are back in our own home without the support of my parents and I'm trying to juggle a 3/4/5 day week with their needs. They were both so clingy and demanding last night that the only way I could appease them was with the promise of a dominos pizza....
...it worked, thankfully.
My parents have taken them and my niece away for the night camping...rather them than me but I do appreciate the break - allows me to do things like this!
Great you got a break, sarahb. As I said in the above post, I have always worked, and became a single parent when they were 3 and 8. My "top tip", for what it's worth, is planning, especially with regard to food, even if it means coooking tomorrow's tea at 9pm and putting it in the fridge, also a good idea to cook double of some things and freeze. Minimise your chores as well. The girls will get used to the new regime, you will have to explain to them that mummy goes to work to get money for food etc
Big well done to C for his Maths Certificate, hazeleyes and another big well done to your daughter, kiera and good luck for her exam results. Bet you are both full of pride for your children's wonderful achievements.
Went to talk to neighbour in the garden today, came back in to find the house filled with smoke, I had left the grill on! What worried me more than anything is that the smoke alarm didn't go off so I am off to get a new one, it is not just the battery, it is that eldest almost pulled it off the ceiling recently when he was cross that it went off. So a reminder to everyone to make sure yours are ok too
Hello all, love hearing about your expriences with online dating as have heard few horror stories and although im no where near ready im intrigued by them and one day i may like to date i guess!!
Louise you have reminded me thanks i must buy a new smoke alarm!
im ok, thanks to those of you that have asked. Have told my ex a few times that we should just move on and make life as pleasant as possible for everyone, he agrees but we shall see,
Have had a nice day with the kiddies at the garden centre which has a nice little soft play area, then a friend and her little boy came over and then i took the kiddies to maccy d's for a treat, they loved it and so did I! feeling much more positive :)
Hello all.
Am back from my lovely holiday. Where did that week go? Bit wobbly at the minute as I feel as though my heart has been ripped out and left behind as J is still down there. Am also surprisingly sad about leaving ex down there as well. Think it's because for a couple of hours today we were a 'normal' family on holiday. J enjoyed having both of us there and was telling everyone who'd listen that he'd got his mummy and daddy today bless him. He sobbed when I left, he was distraught so I spent the first few miles driving with tears rolling down my face :-( Ex has text me to say that he's ok and to see if I'm ok. When he's like this I can see the man I married and not the idiot he's been the past couple of years!
Will catch up with everyone's post tomorrow. Also need to catch up with the washing. My living room floor looks a tip at the minute!
Hello to everyone and hope your days will go well. I will be back later to catch up properly after my meditation. Looking forward to recharging the batteries!