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Hi anna
No lol i dident cry at king kong i hve seen it b4 it was just nice for us all to sit down together.
The childern are going to there mums thursday 4 a week but the daughter is back on sunday.
We are going to the cinema tomorrow an we have been baking choc chip muffins today.
Hope u had a relaxing easter too.
Take care
Stuart
Hi stuart, it sounds as though your days are a picture of homeliness!
I hope your muffins turned out well! What are you going to see at the cinema?
Hi anna how are u
Went to watch nanny mcphee it was ok but not the best.
Have a wholeweekend to myself whooooooo
Had a fab night last night got invited to one of my neiboughs houses had a few drinks a laugh an a dance.
She a single mother an she was amazed that i seam to be such great guy.
She was drunk an diddnt understand why i am on my own and that i was quiet happy to sit an have a laugh an a drink with her an not want to sleep with her.
We just chatted she wanted to talk so i just sat an listen then went home.
hope u and ur daughter are ok an enjoyin ur holiday
stuart
Hi stuart
Wishing you a great weekend all to yourself! Don't get bogged down withinternet or TV it can take up too much time, you may turn around and find that it is Sunday evening before you know it!
So your neighbour can see that you are a great guy! You be careful she might be hot footing it over to yours tonight! Us women love a good chat, how does it feel though , if she needed to 'talk'?
Unfortunatley I am on not on holiday this Easter I am working, tut! But its the weekend and all is well in our world, the sun is shining its a beautiful day - oh, I am about to burst into song....do you know Avenue Q? My daughter introduced it to me, VERY funny about a guy trying to find his purpose. It is a theatre show with puppets and actors - hilarious throughout!
What are your plans for your free time?
Hello anna
I dident mind talking to her an listening to her she has a violent ex who she has a child with an he want to get back with her.
The weather is great an i went to st annes for lunch an hair cut.
Just still after 2years trying to find me an heal. Just living day by day still an hope 4 a better future .
My daughter is due back today she likes her home comforts.
Hope u have good weather an enjoy ur weekend
Hi Stuart, my 7 year old son went to see Nanny Mcphee, and loved it last week. Hope you are enjoying your weekend break. Sounds like you had fun at the neighbours, gives you both a topic of conversation, with the two of you being single parents. Its also nice that you let her talk, and you listened, sounds like you could do the same thing one day, (should you need to talk). I tend not to open up to neighbours, I don't like them knowing too much of my personal life, (apart from the ones who've known me since I was in nappies) haha
Enjoy your time with just your daughter.
Take care
Alison
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Hi Stuart
Glad to hear you are enjoying the good weather and there is some quality time with your daughter to come.
That was great having a chat with your neighbour, you might be able to give each other a bit of support. Everyone needs a listening ear. One day at a time is all you can do for the time being and enjoy the positive aspects, like your children and the sunshine.
I saw Nanny McPhee being advertised, wouldn't like to be her dentist!!
Are you back at work this week?
Hi stuart, sounds like a fun evening talking about violent ex partners!!! I am sure it was very good for her to let it all out and hear some reasuring words, just be careful that you don't get too involved in it all and become her sounding board whenever she needs to have a moan.
Enjoy your daughter :)
Hello Alison
My weekend was good enjoyed the break now for this week its just me and R.She loves the time on her own with dad the peace and quiet lol.
I did enjoy time with my neighbour but i have to be careful what i say as the village i live in is where my ex was born so with facebook and that i dont know weather they pass information on you know what i mean.
I do talk alot about what things i have been through and still affect me as i still go to counciling to try an rebuild my confidence and get over bitterness and the feeling of being taken for a ride for god knows how long.But i listen also to other people in the same situation as me and how it affects them.
Enjoy the sunny weather.
Take Care
Stuart
Hi Anna
Yer thats what has happened to me with the girls i have dated b4 they all seam to of have violent exs whats wrong with us men are we not suposed to be gentle men. An when i am i always meet the bad girls lol.
People just find me easy to talk to and get along with but i need to concentrate on myelf as i am still hurt and healing.
I know i am strong an will get there and my children will grow up with manners and respect i do my best for them.
Enjoy the good weather
Stuart
Hi Louise
Yer i am back to work this week and it just me and my daughter think were going to the cinema on wednesday to see clash of the titans.
The chat with my neighbour was fun and she had some major issues and cryed lot and she thanked me for listening. But i know her and know who she hangs around with not the company i wish to keep.
Enjoy the sun
Stuart
Hi Stuart, yes you are supposed to be gentlemen, but unfortunately there are some bad ones out there, as well as women of course!! It's nice to listen to others, but not get too bogged down with their problems, (like I tend to do). Its very important to look after YOU. You're still going through the healing process, and you're doing remarkably well. You have a fantastic relationship with your children, and I'm sure they will grow up with manners and respect, because that is what you are teaching them. We can only try our very best, and then keep our fingers crossed eh!!
Take care
Alison
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Hi stuart, I took the liberty of taking your daughters name out of your post and just gave an initial. (I'm a moderator, so I'm allowed to!) We try and keep these boards as confidential as possible. Especially as you say you live in an area where everyone knows/or likes to think they know your business!
I am glad that you recognise that you can/t give too much to your neighbour at this time as you still need time of your own. I would suggest that she seek professional help, either from womens aid or looks up the Freedom Programme and sees if there is one in her area.
So you are back at work, tut, just when the sun shines, typical huh! I hope that you have some lovely evenings with R. Do you have a garden?
Hello Anna
Yes i do have a garden a rather large one when its birthdays i hire a bouncy castle for the boys and we have a trampline to.In the summer we have bbq an bonefire night its always a neighbourhood party at mine.
Yer there seams to be more help out there for single women than men thats why its nice to come on here as it has both men an women.
I was looking in to joining the local gingerbread around here but when i enquired about it i was told it was just full of women and it wasent a dating agency so i was a bit miffed an did not join.
What about you anna you have a garden and what do you like to do when you have spare time.
Stuart
full and not a dating agency!!
That made me laugh.
But I know where you are coming from..
Hiya stuart, I have a shared garden and a few years ago I got a new neighbour who completely revamped the garden from a squatters paradise to my paradise! Its a good size and I am pretty much the only one that uses it!
Spare time? What spare time!! I love reading and I love socialising, but don't seem to get much time to do either having a full time job and a teenager!
It is a shame you weren't able to join the Gingerbread group, would you ever consider starting a group yourself??
hello Stuart,
Did you get to the cinema? The films I like seem not always to come to my local one so I sometimes have to wait for the DVD. However Clash of the Titans would be much better on a big screen!
I am shocked that you weren't allowed to join the Gingerbread group! Groups are funny things.....When my eldest was a toddler and I first moved here (was married then) I went to the local Community Centre and found the phone number to ring to ask to join the young Mums group. I was told I was too old (29) as they only got funding for under 25s. I expressed consternation and the woman said "they are probably not the sort of person you would want to associate with anyway". I said "And how on earth do you know what sort of person I might want to associate with?" and slammed the phone down!!!!!!!
Hi Louise, how rude of them!
And very presumptuous, even the people supporting young mums are prejudiced against them, poor things they just can't win :(
Hi louise
Dident get to the cinema as my one of my boys fell in on tuesday and wanted his dad and wanted to come home. So his mum asked if id come and get him and the other boy who wont stay there unsless his brother does.This was at 8.30 tuesday night had a bit of a do with there mum as its her time to spend with them so look after them.
Its 4 hours to birmingham and back but he really wanted his own home and bed so i got there mum to pay the petrol and i went and got them i know i am soft.Next day he was as right as rain have i made a rod for my own back i think so lol.
Funny old things groups arent they suppose to be there to help people who are in the same position. Yer right on louise you give them a piece of your mind lol.
Enjoy the sun
Stuart
Hello anna
You had a good day at work,are you enjoying the last few rays of sunshine.
Going to cut the grass this weekend in the garden if weather is nice as its my daughters bd soon an she is getting a new trampoline. Thats my garnden being the local youth centre lol.
What type of books do u like to read .
Stuart
Hi stuart, did your son just want to get home do you think? Was there something going on at his mums that he was unhappy with?
They are little darlings aren't they, dragging us across the country when it is supposed to be our 'free' time! Love them!
I hope the weather stays nice for the weekend and you get your grass cut and you have a lovely time with your family all back together again :)
In the days The Git was having the children regularly, I know every now and then there was a call for me to collect one, as they were ill (no, he wouldn't look after them when they were ill), and by the time I'd get there to pick up a sick child, they'd all be wanting to come home!
Having said that stuart, I only had to travel about 5 miles...
I do think they like to be "home" when they're poorly. I have to say it was remarkable too how they'd perk up (still poorly...) when they got home too. Familiarity, I guess, must be a comfort.
Hope they're better now for you.
Morning Sparklinglime
Yes thanks there better now off back to school they just love there creature comforts.
The things you do for your little ones its like dads taxis lol.
I carnt believe that my little girl will be 15 next month wheres the time gone.She so sensible and no trouble scares me to death that she may soon be having bfs and wearing makeup as shes a tom boy at the moment.
hope you have had a good weekend.
Stuart
hi anna
How are you and didi you have a good weekend.
Got to cut the grass and we made a points target game out of the old trampoline we set it up against the fence and made circle point areas on it with a plate and marker pen then kicked a ball at it to see would could hit the targets.
Dont know if anything was happening at his mums they dont say much when they come home.I think as they get older they aint going to want to go to there mums just as there sister doesnt now.
how was your weekend did you get any sun and relax time.
Hi stuart
Anna is out of the office for a couple of days.
Your target game sounds fun, I always think that things that are free or cheap make the best games, the kids just love to spend that quality time. Yes it is school again today, my son didn't want to get up, I had to chivvy him along. Back to nagging them about homework again, eh?
Hi Stuart, my son is being given a trampoline with the net around it, (not sure if I really want it to be honest) Have heard some stories about these being soooooo dangerous!
They must really feel settled with you, wanting to come back etc. Is a long journey though!! Hope they went to school ok. My son wasn't that keen, but is full of everything they've done today. Hasn't stopped chatting and singing since he got home. Oh for the peace again!!!
Take care
Alison
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Trampoline is now in the garden. My nieces partner delivered it just now, but apparantely I wouldn't be able to set it up. (MEN, haha)!!! He has said that he will set it up at the weekend, which gives me time to cut the grass. Might even have a little go at assembling it, or maybe not!!! Think I would have to get another net though, as it's been out in all weathers, so think could be holes etc. Anyone any idea where I can pick one up, or as Bubblegum says, GOOGLE is your friend :) Freecycle maybe. I'm learning, I'm learning!
Hope everyone is having a good night. Take care
Alison
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That's lovely Alison! Your son will love it. My lot are forever pleading for a trampoline, but our garden is unsuitable - teeny and mainly concrete!! Daughter does argue that the net would stop them falling onto the concrete...
I have seen trampolines on freecycle here - at least two and it was this year, so you never know!!
Stuart - my eldest boy is 18! As you say, time does fly by. My daughter is still very much a tom boy at 16...
Not so sure lovely is the right word Sparkling. By the time summer is really here, my garden will be taken over by the all in one swings, seesaw, plus the trampoline, and then the big pool. (got a big one, so I could go in too). I'm such a worrier, that last night in bed when I shut my eyes, I could see children bouncing on it, then bouncing over the fence to next door!!! BOING BOING
Our neighbour had a trampoline, alisoncam and she found that it is was Ok if just her two went on it but all the kids i the neighbourhood would want to be round (my boy included)
When I say neighbour, her house is at right angles to mine. I can stand on my back doorstep and shout my boy in for his tea and he would hear me if in their garden. The neighbour in between has a garage so when standing on said step, all I can see is heads popping up and from time to time (no bodies!)
Anyway I would think the likelihood of injuries is more if there are multiple children on it. My neighbour made a rule that only two were allowed at a time, but that is quite a wide trampoline.....what do you think, alisoncam?
I agree Louise, only two at a time. Have been speaking to two Mums this morning about it. Different views from both! I'm going to google to see if I can assemble it, although somehow don't think I could, (not on own anyway). My elderly neighbour thinks I'm completely bonkers, but the way I see it, the garden is for the kids too, when C is older, he won't be wanting to stay in there, (but for now, he has no choice). My garden will still look pretty with the flowers etc, but its as much mine as it is C's, and he is very careful with the plants and everything.
Hope you all have a good day, lovely sunshine, but wind is cold.
Take care
Alison
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When I lived on the main road, I did have swings and a slide, sit on tractors etc, as the children were stuck in the garden unless I took them out. I had loads of space for that though.
Don't try to assemble it on your own. I'd worry... I have no doubt you can do it, but it might hurt your back...
Sorry. Don't mean to nag...
Go ahead and nag Sparkling, I do listen I promise.:) C would love that sort of garden, with a tractor, but unfortunately for him, we don't have many here!!!!
Afternoon ladies
The trampoline is coming tomorrow and no doubt the kids will want it up asap lol i have first dibbs on trying it out hehe.
Soon as the weather gets better no doubt the pool will be coming out to and water guns and the smell of bbqs yummy.
An quiet evenings having a beer on the decking and reading a book.
And me teaching the little one my football skills lol.
Hope everyone is fine and dandy.
How are things with you alison an sparkling.
Your summers sound like heaven Stuart. Of course you have to have first go on the trampoline. Wouldn't expect anything less, haha. Don't bounce over to the neighbours though!!!
Take care, and have a good day
Alison
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I use to mow paths in the grass and the children would run along them or use them as roads for their sit on toys...
Ah the memories.
Really, the garden was the only thing I did miss about the laughingly called family home. However, I wouldn't have been able to look after it now...
I have images of people bouncing over walls now!
Hopefully we will have a better summer this year and we can all do some of the things that Stuart decribes so well.....although the Victor Meldrew in me reminds me that whenever I am sitting in the garden with a book and a cup of tea, some so-and-so always starts up their mower, sets off a concrete mixer or starts playing some awful music. At the moment, one of my neighbours is having a patio built, obviously by a couple of "lads" rather than a professional firm and judging by the noise they must be making every flagstone from scratch. I might just get my own trampoline and bounce over the wall!!!!
Oh alisoncam I know you like to be independent but do accept help putting the thing together, sparkling is right about your back.
Let us know the update on the trampoline, Stuart
Testing! Have been trying to post replies to old threads but the site won't let me :o(
Hi alison
Yer summers are a good times get friends round and have fun and a laugh bit to eat. I love to do the cooking on the bbq when it comes out men get the urge to cook lol.
My neighbours are a old couple if they see me bouncing over the fence they might get a shock lol.
How are you and your little one it sounds from your replys that you have things sorted with your household.
Take care have a fab day.
Stuart
Hi chaps, I am back! I have had a couple of interesting days of seminars and meetings!
Trampoline in the garden eh? My daughter would love it, a couple of years ago we had new neighbours and they bought a trampoline, they put it away in the winter and we haven't seen it since!!
I have a friend who has one of those paddling pools but huge for adults! Many a fun time had in that! Roll on the summer! Its been lovely here, but still a chill in the air especially later on in the evenings, last night my daughter and I were discussing warm summer eves, mmmMMMMmmmm, lovely!
Hi harissa
I am sorry to read that you are having problems with posting on the site, I will get someone to look into it.
We are receiving you loud and clear at the moment! How are you, long time no see! How is your boy?
Hi Harissa
Hope you're keeping ok.
Hi Anna, welcome back. Hope you enjoyed the seminars and meetings! Did you go out at night, hehe. What a waste of the trampoline. Maybe you could ask about it, and perhaps they might offer it for a good price. You never know your luck, or should I say, your daughter never knows her luck!
Sunshine is brilliant today, but I am freezing. Not worrying as Sparkling said in another post that she felt the same in Wales.
My neighbour (downstairs) very kindly gave me his bbq last year, so we had a few, and some with friends here. I absolutely love them, but hate cooking on them. I tend to half cook in the oven first, (which I guess defeats the object, but I know the meat is cooked then)! Perhaps I'll get Stuart round, hehe
Hope you're having a good day
Take care
Alison
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Hi Harissa, hope you're ok. I'm sure your 'replies' will be sorted soon enough. Hows everything with you? I hope things have settled down in your neighbourhood, and with your son.
Take care
Alison
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Hi alison
Yer id be there an do my gordon ramsey bit on the old bbq an have a few bottles of wine lol.
No trampoline delivered on wednesday they rang today to say oh it wount be there till saturday boo hoo oh the sun better shine on saturday.
You can put ur feet up alison an be waited on pmsl an catch some rays.
Hooe everyone is feeling good.
Stuart
Hi alison
Yer id be there an do my gordon ramsey bit on the old bbq an have a few bottles of wine lol.
No trampoline delivered on wednesday they rang today to say oh it wount be there till saturday boo hoo oh the sun better shine on saturday.
You can put ur feet up alison an be waited on pmsl an catch some rays.
Hope everyone is feeling good.
Stuart
Hi Stuart, how disappointing for the children (and you of course):) Its supposed to be gorgeous at the weekend, so I'm sure you'll all get lots of bounces. It's not Gordon that I'm after, I'd rather have the french fella, (oohhh, what's his name)? I could listen to his accent all day. I do like Gordon though.
Put my feet up, lapping up the rays, with suncream of course, glass of wine, sounds like bliss. Then of course, knowing my luck Stuart, there would be some neighbour deciding on a bonfire in the middle of my blissfullness, haha.
I hope you have a great weekend, and maybe manage a bbq too.
Take care
Alison
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Hi alison
You mean marco piere white that french fella lol. it will probley take me all day to put it up anyway and then test it.
Dust down the bbq then find out i aint got no gas left just my luck.
So ur away 4 the weekend with family lucky u where in beautiful england u off?
Stuart
Off to Peterborough Stuart. Normally colder there lol. Am looking forward to it though I have to say. My son has a chest infection but he's well enough for it, and he's spoilt rotten, so thats him taken care of!!!
Marco, thats the one. Write on your shopping list, GAS FOR BBQ. Don't do a me though, and forget to look at the list, or not take it at all!!!!
Have a good evening, am off to plump the pillows now.
Take care
Alison
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Hi stuart, your easter sounded lovely, did you cry in king kong??!
It is good that you are able to talk with your ex about contact now, as long as you can do that amicably you can't really ask for more!
Have the children gone to their mums yet? What are you up to?