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morning all what a lovely and horrible day it is . lovely if you can stay in and just look out of the window , horrible if you have to go out :( . well last night i did no matter what went to see strictly come dancing . my friend had brought the ticket for me to say thankyou for my helping her with her mom etc . got to say wow , fab must go show . to see artem chest was lovley xx it was a shame alot didnt come but it was the weather , we took it slow but wel worth it .
the other week i joined weight watchers and last week was my first weigh in . i was nerous cause though i had been good you always think that you have not lost anything and i had 7 1/2 lb i was chuffed to pieces with myself and this week i have been good again and going to cary on too. went back to swimming last friday so that was good too .
been in to the schools told them what had over xmas with ex and the seniors are going to help my elder one in counselling abit or help how to deal with his anger so he dont take it out on the little one so they are not going to do counselling but to see how he is after his dad coming as to be honest as caused afew teething problems and he is upset with hitting me . though we have talked about it he is still upset but we will get sorted again .
this year is a new fresh start for us all and i feel that this year is going to be a happier one for me .
well best be going lots of ironing to be done as not going out in this . thats the down side to not getting out you find jobs lol x stay safe and take care if you have to go out x
That all sounds really good shaz.
I'm lucky as I can stay in... At least so far!
Hello shaz it really does sound like a new year, new start for you. Well done on the weight loss 
I really envy you seeing Strictly. Glad it was worth it.
You are doing the right thing in getting some support for your boy. He will be facing puberty before too long and so it is good to get some hold on his emotions before all that starts.
How is work going?
morning hope every one is well and ok and the snow as not been too bad . well i have tried to really get on with life and enjoying when i can go out and work really i do pop on to read so i do like to catch up but not always posting, sadly .
well i have been on a date and thougt it was going well , he liked me alot and then stopped texting and calling but its his loss as i see it , sorry if that sounds abig headed but i dont want it too. it would have been nice to know why but life carries on as the saying goes .
well yesterday i was going to see someone and really by accident my ex was right behind me and followed me for awhile . now for a monday i wasnt in the norm place if you like home but i was seeing a friend , well he followed for some length really then he turned off . on the way back i saw him in the road at the lights this time i did lose him and carried on to work and back home again.
it did at first shook me , just seeing him but he did look haggered and not nice . well after work and before i started my next job i went home got changed then went to a friends for a chat as i was going down by me there is afew shops and again my ex was parked up waiting as he knows i would have to pass them at some point in going home or work again but i got worried for my son as he may have saw him so i went into school by this time sadly i was crying and i got mad with myself for allowing him to get to me yet again. they were fab and got my son to walk with my mates son to her house this i was happy with but they werent happy and said it was too close for them and asked me to log it so they called the police and tonight they are coming to interview me .
im ok with this as i need him to stop and just leave us alone but i cant believe he would be at the shops waiting . this is no way near his area for work and really he doesnt live here so really as no need to be here . him seeing me while i was driving as triggered him .
really dont need it and thought i was done and dusted with police . really want to live life now and may be meet someone new but with my hang ups lol who would take this on lol
well rant again over , not liking this snow and loking forward to spring lol
Morning shaz, yes what a shock to see him like that, you thought it was random the first time but then later it seemed more than coincidence. I know you are fed up of police involvement but it seems good to take some action straightaway, at the very least this will be logged.
Re the date, sometimes we will never know what happened, and it is not that they don't like us, sometimes people get scared to get too invovled, it is often their OWN agenda rather than anything to do with us.
Try and stay warm....
morning the police were brill but there is not alot they can do and to get a injuction well thats not as easy , my ex as to be doing things for like 6 months before the courts will act so i just have to keep my wits about me and hope he stays low and doesnt miss behave again
Hi shaz 5, shame that there was not alot the police can do right now, but at least it is logged so that if things continue they can do something, but hopefully this was a one off.
Do you still have the snow? Do you have any plans for the weekend?
evening all ive not been on of late too much as gone on really . the police were good and i will keep logging any more things he does . they did give me a number to apply for injuction but if i can get legal aid then i can but i dont want any more costs to be put on the house so im not sure what to do as yet .
to much other things going on very sadly today i said goodbye to my aunt who as been my rock through out all what i have been through , and im still deeply shocked and sadden that she as died . it was a shock and this will take me time to get over if i will , she was my strength x
Awww shaz. I'm so sorry you've lost your aunt.
Hello shaz and deepest sympathies on the loss of your aunt. So sorry to hear the news. Hope you are being very kind to yourself right now
Good morning shaz5, so sorry to read your sad news, my thoughts are with you.
morning all im sorry not to have been on much but really im just trying to get on with life even though there are days i find really hard but have to get on.
Going to friends easter for afew days and that will be nice and a welcoming break .
As for my ex well he as been spotted down by ths shops on more than one time and ive not seen him only the once but the one shop owner as seen him and told me to be careful so least i know and look out but will not allow him to control me or stop me doing what i want and can do . He made his choice now as to live it .
Hope you all are ok
I hope you have a good time with your friends over Easter shaz. This year seems to be flying by.
I have to say that I did look out for my ex when he lived locally, and do when I know he's in the area. At least if you're on guard, so to speak, you can turn a corner and go shopping later...
Hello shaz5 and great to hear from you, sounds like you have plenty going on. It's horrid when you think you may bump into the boys' dad. I was wondering if it would help to have a "stategy" so at least instead of thinking I hope I don't bump into him, you can think IF I bump into him, I will.......This will enable you to take a bit of control of the situation. So would you ignore him? is there something you would say to him?
Hope you have a great break over Easter 
morning all well we went away easter and a much needed break and now only 6 weeks till we fly out and the boys are getting excited . My ex showed up easter while we were away and just posted a card for the boys , nothing inside and to my suprise it was my little one who ripped up the card and saturday as i was out and about he was around again. Im sick of it but the only way i can get a injuction i cant afford it . He as no reason to be this way as his job area is not here plus he can access the motorway near by where he lives now . I have got things in plan as to if i did bump into him , not a nice feeling but i try not to let it get me or think about it all the time cause then he as won and he wont he will get fed up . What he cant handle is i have not crumbled or gone begging to him . Louise you ask is there anything i would say , there is loads but not worth me losing my temper as then i will be going to his level and no i wouldnt want to do that .
Over the last month i have been down with the loss of my aunt keep thinking i shall be seeing her or hearing from her and yet i know i wont and its hard to deal with with even still .
I have had afew mishaps with my son , hitting his brother againand i have been at my wits end with it cause still he wont open up to me and yet i know he as loads of anger to release .
You think you are doing ok and then i take alittle step back and think why ? But ui have to take stock again and i carry on .
I was planning on doing a sky dive this year but gp will not sign medical forms , as im over 40 so at the min it looks like i cant go ahead with it so this as upset me alittle . So as it was for chartiy will have to look at doing something else .
Hi there shaz,
It sounds as though you have a handle on life, even though things are tricky at times. That's always good to hear.
Bereavement is always hard and there is no 'normal' pattern to it; everyone feels the loss of a loved one in different ways. It's only early days since you've lost your aunt. I think it's important to remember those who have gone, though I appreciate that when their passing was recent it can be painful.
Lucky you getting away for Easter - where did you get to?
It's a shame about the sky dive - I have always fancied doing one myself - perhaps you could abseil down a building or a cliff face instead? Less risky but still exhilarating! Which charity would you be raising funds for?
I think 'having a plan' in case you do find yourself confronted by your ex is a useful tool. Try not to worry though - there is a good chance he would rather try to intimidate you from a distance (less threat to him that way...). With a bit of luck he won't continue like this for too long.
Take care x
Hi shaz
Loads of hugs - you'll miss her forever, I'm sure as you were so close to her.
I think you're very brave even considering a sky dive! I think the suggestions Mary's suggested need bravery too - as you can see I'm a coward!!
I'm sure the 6 weeks will fly by
morning i went to friends... it was nice to get away . Yes he is a distance from me but never the less still not nice , but im hoping he will get bored one day .
we will be doing it for prostate cancer as my friend who we went to see her dad as it , my neighbour too and the friend im doing something with he as it and he is the youngest person here to get it and also his dad too so we thought of that . So we will have to get thinking caps on as to what to do now and may be absail will be it but he as already done one i wanted to do something we havent done but shall see .
yes i was very close to my aunt and she was a mom that my mom was not and still can hear her voice and just think she is on holiday and she will call , think my cousin thinks the same she is away yet we know she isnt and it will hit when the house as been sold .
Hi shaz 5 it is great to read that you guys have been having a good time and you are all looking forward to your holiday.
I am so sorry to hear about your aunt, I guess that this feeling that she is 'just' away may last for a while, maybe this will makes things feel easier as time moves forward.
There has been a lot of talk about us trying to 'feminise' our boys, that we want them to 'talk' about their emotions, but actually maybe they aren't built to do that? They need to express their anger, hurt, upset by doing physical things. So try not to pressure your son to tell you what is wrong as he may well find it difficult and you probably know the answer anyway.
On the other hand, boys will be boys, they fight to assert their pecking order, it is human nature, of course it becomes serious if your youngest is getting beaten up without fighting back. One thing I have noticed years after being in an abusive relationship is that I always think that my daughters emotions, behaviour etc were to do with her father letting her down. It is only now I watch my friends children and realise that all children cry, get angry, sulk, throw things, hit things etc etc. So rather than reason it all back to your ex we need to think about assertive parenting.
If he is just being horrible to his brother to assert his power/authority, you can say to your son, it is not ok to hit X and make him take some time out in his room. If you feel that he is getting carried away you can acknowledge that he feels angry "You look like you are feeling really angry about this" and then perhaps tell him what you do when you feel angry or the behaviour you would like to see instead and then move on and change the subject. (In this way you are also giving him 'naming' words for his feelings and alternate behaviours).
After saying all that, what techniques do you use?!
morning all with my older son i do let him have time out in his room and he knows my cousin he can call and vent out at . we are getting a punch bag and a basket ball so he can go and shoot and vent out that way . he as calmed down and he knows he as done wrong and we have agreed to leave what as happened in the past alone now and if he chooses to want to know about his dad he can come and ask and we shall chat then.
he is growing up too so his hormones are kicking in and i can see this too . on a friday night he as joined a youth club so he can mix with other children his and older than him and as really liked this so he doesnt come swimming with me on a friday night now . i have also given him some jobs to do around the house and alittle more responiblitiy around here too and he likes this more in looking after his brother helping him through his homework etc and he likes this .
its hard and cause even though you have to go through all the pain of a breakup you forget they too have to go through it . well busy getting things ready for holiday as not long now and really cant wait we need the break and im not even taking my phone so it will be acomplete break .
well im enjoying the sun this week and enjoyed walking my little one to school each morning and is helping with the diet too and up to now i have nearly lost 2 stone so im well happy .
we have a nice long weekend coming up hoping the weather is going to stay nice cause on saturday the local pub where we go is holding a chartiy duo for cancer and im selling and baking cakes for it and the boys are enteringa tug of war and helping too , we just need the sun lol
Hello shaz your weekend sounds nice, hope it IS nice weather and you have done really well to lose all that weight it also sounds as if you are doing the right thing with the boys
morning all well i have just got back from my holiday we went to alcudia for a week and had a fab time and a very much needed break and the boys loved it and to see their faces on the plane well priceless.
the charity weekend went well raised £190 just in that day . my neighbour who supported me through court past away and he finally lost his cancer battle so thursday we are going for a curry in his honour and looking at doing something to raise money for prostate cancer was going to do a sky dive but my gp wont sign medical form to allow me to do one so looking at a walk i think have to get thinking cap on.
the boys are well and settled down now which is great and now the weather as turned out nice hoping it lasts but we are here . hope everyone is well x
Hello Shaz, glad that you have had such a good holiday. Sorry about your neighbour, such a lovely person and I am sure glad to have helped you along the way. Raising money for the charity feels like a good way to honour him
Just had a sneak peek at Alcudia - wow, it is beautiful. Well done you, it sounds as though you are doing a fine job.
morning all well im back to the routines now. the curry we went out on was in his honor and about 30 of us went and we said afew words it was fitting for him nice but sad too. since back from holiday i have had a fab parents evening for the older one , his first at seniors school and i was proud as to how well he is doing and how well on target he is and what he could get by the time he reaches yr 11 . with everything that as gone on he could have quite easily gone off the rails but no instead he didnt. this week he as exam week so he is ok with that .
well with the ex not sure how he as or why he as or even how low he can scroop but he has , i should get my csa off him every 13th of the month so this month i looked and hadnt recieved it rang them up and the csa had already wrote to him and have rang him nothing i have since heard through grapevine its mostly likely he as stopped the paymente cause i have beeen away and on a plane ! how low can you get to be so silly now if as got himself into more debt and trouble cause he will end up paying anyhow just that for now im with out it will be tight but i can cope and im lucky that i did base things without any money off him but always knew it would be tight , just didnt think even he would be so low , still trying to get at me and not thinking that its the kids he is harming , me i didnt cry or worry or get upset im just glad that i have been through csa and they are on to him .
other than this we are fine just wishing the sun would come back hope everyone is ok
Hi shaz 5 glad things are going well for you and that you have your finger on the button as far as finances go. Yes, where has the sun gone? Glad your son is doing so well at senior school, a tribute to you and how steady you have kept things
morning all hope you are enjoying this lovely weather and still no let up . we were only saying yesterday we never get a build up to this hot weather its either cold wet or baking .
my son was 12 yesterday and he had a lovely day , his dad did his usual and turned up to post a card through the door the evening before he is doing it now to try to get a sight of the boys, which he knows he cant but still tries. he as moved house and this time its not too far away from us took a drive past last night so at least i know actually where he is so i can not avoid or keep looking over shoulder but im aware told myself that that would not happen any more looking over shoulder he made his choice so am i now. it is hard cause i would like to have had a court order on him but cant afford it . when we went to court and he was told to write to the boys each month that as not happened 2 since sept and nothing this year at all .to be honest i kind of knew he would drop off with the letters but thought he would have tried abit more but hasnt and as i had to inform the schools that he has moved address just in case i was told that he as never been intouch with them to see or have them send any details about their education sad really cause they are his boys .
one good news came yest i rang csa cause he stopped paying me and as i have his new address i rang to inform them onloy to be told that he as made a payment now and he as to pay me 100 amonth in arrears on top of what he as to pay me so i was pleased about that . he thought he was probably getting at me and going to get away with out paying but now he as ended up paying me more whoops !
Happy 12th birthday to your son shaz 5, I hope he had a super day and there was enjoyment all round. How did he respond when he saw the card from his dad?
I remember feeling like you do, glad that my ex was staying well clear, but also slightly unsure how he could be like that? Wanting him to make more of an effort (for her sake) but also knowing he was showing his true colours. I still feel like that now, I suppose.
Great news about the CSA, very pleasing to hear a positive story.
morning all ive not been on here of late not alot as gone on just getting back into the swing of school runs and work again now . didnt do much over the summer holidays really .
sorry anna my son throw the card away and well the present was £20 gift card no note asking how they are schooling nothing the new address was written on the gift card and the back of the birthday card . sad really that he cant write to them like he is supposed too , it has been nearly a year since he last wrote yet in court he was told to write a letter each month to them .
least he is paying csa now and as to pay back pay now so he is effect paying more when he should have just carried paying .
they have settled back into school and seem to be doing well and they are happy now no more counselling for the older one that has finished so thats good news .
my little one as his birthday coming soon so off to get afew things for him today not till oct but before we know it will be here as this year is flying by .
Hello shaz, good to see you, was just thinking about you yesterday and wondering how things were going!
Glad to hear that things have settled into a more peaceful mode, I agree it is sad that he does not even write to them, the boys must feel very hurt, you are keeping things steady for them and that's the best you can do, as long as they know they can discuss their feelings with you (which they can) then they can feel secure.
Any ideas what your youngest would like for his birthday?
hello louise no i have no idea though he wnats a playmobil areoplane which i have got him and afew dvd disney ones jungle book and bedknobs and broomsticks as he loves muscial films mary poppins and chitty chitty bang are his favs and watches loads , if the weather is nice we will go out for the day if not may be the pictures and meal .
going round the shops the other day and can see christmas food and cards coming gets earlier each year , though i have made a start when out if i see anything i do get if able .
today we are all having a pj day had washes and pjs on , kids have done homework and i have done washing and ironing and about to cook dinner and then i think chill out day as weather out doesnt look nice and they say we are in for alot of rain but dry here at the min
An ideal day for a PJ day!
Glad they've settled into the school routine Shaz.
Sounds as if you have got him some lovely prezzies as well!
Hello shaz5,
Great to see you! Sorry to hear about the hot water situation, are you able to have a shower etc?
I expect that was a shock to see your ex like that and yet to think about the fact that he and his family don't have any contact with the boys.
It's kind of you to help your friend who is going through some problems but my suggestion is that you don't get too drawn in, you have worked very hard to get to where you are now, two years down the line and it feels important to me that you don't let anything drag you back down. Having said that, of course you want to help a friend and if she is experiencing abuse, although not physical, do encourage her to call your local Women's Aid (click to see) as well as using her solicitor, so that the burden is not all on your shoulders.
Hope your class behave a bit better today at school, I agree that wet playtimes can make them unsettled!
This wet weather is a bit of a shock to the system!
Hope the hot water gets sorted out quickly...
morning all well im trying to carry on and live life and just get on with my life but every afew months my ex pops up doing something like driving by , watching us every sat as i go to collect the boys from karate non payments of csa now this ! yesterday as i was going to work i get a call from the senior school asking if i was aware that my ex had gone into school asking about our son. asking how he was and taking photos of him in he told the school of his change of address and that was to enable him to be closer to them . when the school asked if he was able to see them he said he hadnt but that was only cause he was on bail !!!! no no no we went through cafcass and 5 sept last year he was told no face to face contact only by letters which he does not send now at all. when the teacher said that she had the court papers and this was not to her reasoning that he should not be here while my son is in school and was told that if he did come again he would be told to leave and police may be called . he was taken aback so the teacher said and thye have agreed to send any reports to him but they were doing this anyway but he is saying that they dont send but they have checked and have been sent out all his reports .
when i came home from work i called the courts to see what i could do they told me to go to a soilctor and get a form c79 and it will cost about £200 and get my ex back to court to re tell him the terms of the court order . legal aid as stopped but that doesnt matter cause owing my own home i have to pay back legal aid which i owe the solic for my divorce and that as gone on the house so i cant afford to another lot and i want him to stop and stay on the right side of the law and at a loss as what to do next or go . i did ring my solictor who did my divorce and she as left now . is there anything anyone knows that i can do to get him to stop ?
i have come along way and im not going back no way im not going to live life looking over shoulder either no then he is winning and its not games but no not going to be scared to live but i have to be aware of his next moves cause like the school asked why now after all this time wanting to come in and see them as he as never been to the senior school before .
well rant over just not nice feeling again inside at all boiler fixed thats a bonus i have had to tell my older son cause just incase he saw him walking home he totally broke down last night screaminmg why why cant he just go and leave us alone im trying not to cry but i am and its anger then i dont want to go down that road
Hello shaz, he does seem to keep popping up and when you have a child or children with someone, unfotrunately this will be the case until they are older.
I am wondering if you need to "do" anything at all? After all the school knows exactly the position and obviously stuck by it. One thing you could consider, which would be cheaper than the £200 would be to get a solicitor to write a stern letter to him reminding him of the terms of the court order. However, why don't you drop a line to our Legal Expert and check things out, no cost at all
Sorry to hear about how upset you have been though, and that you had to talk to your son about it which unnerved him. You have handled things so well and I am sure that you know he will still need reassurance that everything has been done to look after you all and that he can come to you with any concerns. And what about you? the anger this has understandably brought up, you need to do something with it, one really good way is to let it out physically.. do you still go to Zumba?
I'm sorry he's not sticking to the order shaz.
evening all no sparklinglime its not nice at all . no louise with my cleaning job i couldnt do zumba but do swim twice aweek and thats with the boys too .
well today i went to the cashpoint bumped into a school friend got chatting and this guy walks past starring at me lots , as im chatting away i gathered who this guy is and its my ex's new partners son . as i say bye to my friend i turn around as there in a silver car is my ex starring right back at me . he doesnt get out she is driving but he would be looking as to where the boys were and they were at karate and i was on way to getting them after bank .
its not a nice feeling at all and it feels like he is brewing up for something but not quite sure as to what he is going to do. i know this week he will be playing a visit as next saturday its my little ones birthday buts its a question as to when he will visit and will it be night or day ??
yes my doors are locked but im trying not to look out alot but its un nerved me at the min more than i thought just when i thought i was doing well he as done this but the question is why and why now why in oct do you visit the schools as much as im trying not to read to much into it there as to be a reason and this is what the police said too .
i go to the cash point and then that happens think if he was on own would he approach me who knows just so scary and yet there as to be a pattern before the police can do anything which upsets after he was found gulity before of breaking my hand but every time he pushes the line of the orders that is on him
my older one says he is ok but is quite which worries me alittle cant and wont let him go backwards after doing so well
surely he can be made to stick to the order now too many things are cropping up
Hi Shaz, have you dropped a line to our legal expert? you might decide that you need a non-molestation order. Do check about the legal aid as well, as if you have reported DV in the past to outside agencies then this can allow you to get help.
hi louise yes i have dropped a line to them just waiting for a reply, legal aid as stopped now i was told and cause i own my own home it is charged to my house so really i dont get it my head is just in a spin and im trying not to allow him to get to me but somehow it has and ive been upset over the weekend . just cant see why the police cant just go and warn him to stick to court order of no direct contact and leave us alone which is all im asking but they say that he is boring the line again and not quite crossed it which is no good to me .
why do they do this when they wanted to leave and have a new life my be he is seeing that the grass is not greener but not my doing
Glad you have emailed our expert, there might be a suggestion as to the way forward. Funny you should mention about "why does he do it?", my friend and I were talking yesterday about this...there is a feeling that they want US to regret their leaving and not to get on with our lives, and the old saying "the best revenge is to live well" is true. He is the loser on this one, shaz, not just of his boys but also of what he had/could have had with you. If he regrets it, it's too late now. Hold your head high, you have done so well.
I know I'm repeating, but so awful for you.
One day my ex stepped out in front of my car in the Asda car park. I couldn't believe it... I braked... 
Loads of hugs shaz. I know you'll be keeping a note of everything though. And do phoen the police if you're afraid.
morning all yes louise i think you are right he wants me to be sat home still pining for him i suppose and not getting on with my life and happy again well im not and yes there was a time when i really was upset over it but i have moved on and i would never have him back . yes you can get over a try to mend it after him having a afair but that would take time and lots of talking and counselling but its the lies on the computer and other things that is too much plus cause he as hit me before he will do it again . his fault is he doesnt talk but thats down to him now not me i wont go back form where i have come from it has been a long road but he is not taking me back . he will show at some point this week as saturday it is my little ones birthday so he will show and may hang around sat hope not but with him you have to be aware .
i have kept a note of all the things in the book that i started when it all started and never thought it would be out again .
what he cant deal with is i havent come running back or i dont react when he does things well i will not and he have a shock to learn that im doing fine and do not want him back and he as to deal with it each time he does something the police will be called and hopefully they might do something if he continues being a pest
Yes, shaz, I am sure you have got a really good grasp of what is going on
hello well ex played up again and still boreding his order , friday night he was waiting for us to come home then came to the house in the hope to catch the boys he dropped off my sons card to which he is supposed to post through the mail not to my door ! then yesterday morning as i was taking them to karate he was down the road just sitting there it wasy little ones birthday so he was trying to see them it is now driving me mad . after going into the school trying to see them telling them he as moved closer to see them and yet in the card as not wrote a letter asking anything plus i really did think he would have wrote to me saying something but no nothing so is he playing mind games yes i think is he trying to get a reaction out of me yes but im not biting but it is gettinbg me mad .
i have wrote to the legal adivisior on here but not heard back yet , someone as asked me to go to a solicitor and get them to write to him asking him to keep to his order but really he as not listened to the police when he was on bail , not listened to the courts so what hope is there left for me living this close is scary though i try not to get to me i want to be left alone and let the kids live their life and be happy which we were till this .
what i cant undersatnd is that he had not been to school when they started their new schools so why now and then not write to them in over 10 months im not getting i know missing csa payments is his way of playing mind games and to get at me but before i even reacted csa got to him this is not making sense at all
you can see that it as upset the boys alittle and it is hurting to see this
we stay strong and tryt o carry on cause this is all we can do will there be a end to this all i can see is police again
Yes I can see that it is very upsetting for you and the boys. Our Legal Expert responds to queries on a first come, first served basis so if you have not heard back by Tuesday night, come on the thread and let us know so we can chase it up.
Stay strong, as you are doing, we are here to support you
morning all ive still heard nothing from the legal experts ive not had much time before to get on here with work trying to get my phone sorted which today as got to be sent away to be repaired and going to doctors as im alittle stressed out again . after telling myself i wouldnt i have
i just cant seem to understand why go into the school after now and not even send a letter asking how they are or after half term its my little ones parents evening i have had to ring the school to see if he as booked a time as not to bump into him even on the carpark they have said heard nothimg from him and i have gone over again that while my son is there he cant enter the school but the deputy just said he would give him another time but i said as to be when C is not there i just hope that the school sticks to this if he does try to go to parents evening im not saying that he will show .
i feel that now he is trying again to do things towards the older son just like he did when on bail as when he showed up at his school for the first time the week he said he wanted to attend parents evening there
oh why after now and why cant he just go live his life
least here its half term this week and though i have still got to clean im only in for 2 hours and then i have the rest of the day for to do what i like just hope weather is alittle drier the past 2 days have been really nice but woke up to heavy rain again this morning
Hi shaz 5, you NYE sounded great, a happy one had by all.
Great idea about the book, I have found that when there is an incident, once I have written it down, it then stops swirling round my head and I can get back on with my life, it feels like I am taking control of the situation.
I also recognise you not wanting to take the incidents over Christmas any further, you just don't need it and it doesn't seem so important as the more serious incidents. Its a shame that the Police can't just nip over to his house and give him a warning isn't it, however, once you have been 'through the system', you soon realise that things aren't really how they should be, its a very complicated and complex system!
I think your new door sounds very exciting and another thing in place to help you feel secure and another step into the future (ha ha literally!)