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Hi shaz 5 i am sorry to hear your friends mum is unwell in hospital these kind of situations are never easy for those involved.
I think doing a will is a great idea, you can have peace of mind that the chidren are taken care of if the worst should ever happen.
Crikey writing christmas cards already, i haven't started present buying yet either due to kids not coming up with their lists yet, i suggested at the weekend that it is probably because they don't need anything and that we should give xmas a miss this year, i had to laugh as all 4 of them suddenly promised that i will have there lists at the end of the week.
Wheres your son of to with the school shaz? Hope the CSA sort out the maintenance.
Take care of you x
thankyou sally w my son is off too shrewsbury with the seniors its pgl or as they call it parents get lost week lol he cant wait to be honest so weekend il be packing .
i hope so too they get my maintenance sorted they have told me hyow much i will be getting per month just he will not operate with them at all .
no with my friends mom she knows she now as not got long to live she was let out of the hospice so she could get all what she wants to do done . its hard when you look at her and we have a laugh that she is slowly dying for me i always think that they should be in hospital in a bed not looking like her but she is such a brave lady to battle 20 years or more with cancer and i admire her as she as never lost her humour at all even this lastest bleep going into hospital she was making us laugh and playing up the nurses i know now that after she as finished doing what she wants she as said she is going ino the hospice again sad but its a way of life i suppose but i will be there helping her as much as i can x
well im back to work today even though i want to stay at home and in bed so frosty this morning . doing my will this morning be happier after that is is done .
hope everyone is well and as a nice day x
I'm sorry your friend's Mum is poorly. My friend who died recently was amazing too... Thinking of you.
I do have Christmas cards ready to write, but not got the kitchen table clear enough for long enough to think of writing them yet! You're very organised.
I'm afraid I learnt a while back not to rely on anything from my ex. Only because it made things easier... I also wrote a will to sort out guardianship for my children as I didn't feel that living with their father was beneficial. Now they're old enough to stay together, with the older two over 18, thank goodness.
Hi shaz5 so sorry about your friend's mum and I am sure she and your friend really appreciate your support. Hope your boy enjoys his trip.
Sally that was a good idea telling your lot that they can't want anything for Christmas. My eldest told me yesterday he hade decided what to ask for and I said too late, have got yours already 
Hope your day goes ok, shaz
morning all well the week last week has been up and down im still not feeling 100% full of a cold now and it will not go :(
my son is away this week pgl and we are all packed and ready . i will miss him so much and cant wait for friday to come. my friend lent us a suitcase and we found a hole so yest i had to rush to but one but in argos i was buying it and only ordered a rare large case to me i think its a bit too big but i have fitted everything in plus his sleeping bag too . trust me to have ordered the extra arge instead of the norm !
again my friends mom was rushed into hospital sat as i was there it was so sad to see her and yet animals we put to sleep and this is so sad and yet we know she is never going to get any better there is no more they can do but to make her comfortable. she is still in they are trying to find out where the cancer as now gone to the brain or her organs are slowly going but they have sadi it is time to go back to the hospice. which in away is not nice but is the best so so sad to see and yet she still tries to play the doctors up , her sense of humour is fab and that is what as helped her along all this time battling .
csa have got back to me friday and told me that my ex as made a payment of arrears but as yet the money as not cleared and yet he paid by card so they said they will be calling him today and asking him to say when he will be paying me my money each month . what i dont get and is mad is that due to her having a daughter who is staying on at school my money is less plus cause he as said he as a private pension is goes down again . not fair i understand why but not fair as his new partner gets money off her ex so why does my ex as to pay less for his two .
last week too my ex mother in law rang asking to speak to the boys which i did ler her and my little one told her that he may have to give up cubs due to the times and i now work etc and the friend who as him at the min , her son is not ready to move up with mine her reply was tough life is like that fancy telling her grandson that and he is 8 . then telling me that too and he is lucky he is doing something though i could try to do more and i should me trying more harder and making more time for them and they are important . well cause i wasnt feeling brill i cried and cried there is no more i can do i feel crap that he as not been able to do as much as the older one and i feel crap as i work the way i do but i am doing the best i can and the boys are teh most important thing to me more than anything. im not going to stop her having contact but i may have to have a word or too as she neglects to see her son what he has done not me plus how hard it is doing all alone.
Hi shaz5,
Life sounds hard at the moment. Difficult enough with the situation regarding your friend's mum, without you ex mother-in-law telling you you're making a poor job of parenting!
Try to keep hold of the postives; I know it can be difficult when life keeps throwing you challenges, but give it a go. There is some money coming to you from your ex. Though your eldest (?) is away he'll be back soon, no doubt with some great stories to tell you. But most importantly, you and your boys are together. Surely that makes it all worth it?
As for the horrible cold - am just getting rid of it myself, so you have my sympathies. But it'll go, colds always do.
Hugs,
Mary x
morning yes my friends mom it is very sad but god knows how but she still finds finds strenghth to fight . i wil be there supporting my friend all i can thats all i can do really x
well finally i have my maintance come through and i know how much i shall be getting each month they rang yesterday and told me . i have had my back pay and they told me he as provided all the paperwork but as tried to stop csa well going through them . but its my sercruity way as all through the break up and police he as not played ball . well its the last thing to be sorted and my will is done and i have appointed guardianship over the boys should anything happen to me so im happy with that .
my son will be having a fab time the teachers have said they have a fab time and here least the weather as stayed dry and to be honest it is mild here so im pleased there . my little one looks lost even though he says he is not missing him he is to a point but its nice to spend time at the night with him.
im doing good on my presents too im surprised really but then im not going overboard and they both dont want much , did some more card writing and posted the ones that have to go aboard im looking forward to putting the tree up soon .
to be honest i have got to stanf firm with my ex mother in law and tell her to either be nicer or leave alone as im doing the best i can and im not going to tell her her son was in the wrong as she is not going to accept that but i really dont need that in my life as yes being a single parent is hard but we all do a fab job and its not by our choice as i tell myself .
I'm please to hear you sounding a bit more positive, shaz5. You're right, being a single parent is a difficult job - but a very worthwhile one, don't you think? 
Am sure eldest is having a great time away - bet you can't wait to hear all about it when he comes back.
As for your Christmas preparations, you sound a lot further along than I am! Will have to find some time to start writing cards and sending parcels soon.
oh yes i love my two like mad its hard and rewarding at the same time best job in the world being a mom.
he will be having fun its the disco night to night he be home tomorrow and with all that dirty washing lol and he be tired so it be bath scrub lol and bed early .
i feel like i want to put up tree but shall wait lol
We're a bit like that here with the tree! Just now they've got the new game, its all ps3 in the living room again, so I may well fast lose this christmas spirit 
I'm sure you'll be pleased to have your son home...
Hi shaz5, I bet your little one is getting excited for his brother coming home, even if he isn't showing it! Are you doing anything special with him, for your last night being just the two of you?
sparklinglime, it sounds like your living room is a hub of excitement for your lot at the moment, are they good at sharing, or are there squabbles?
They're usually pretty good, luckily
morning my son got back last night after 5 as the coach they was on broke down but thankfully the driver managed to get them to a service station. glad he is home and he is so tired it was wash tea then not long into bed bless though he tried to say he didnt want to but he slept 12 hours .
dont think he washed really the whole week lol but some of his washing needed to be washed twice and i threw things away . now i look like a wash room :( thinking of the ironing now joys . he had a good time afew there spolit it and soem were sent home so least the school were on top of it some of the things he did i was surprised he tired them just glad the weather was so good for them.
my boss even let me go early from cleaning to spend time with him which was lovely .
watched children in need with them then it was jungle time again loving brain .
It sounds like eldest was shattered when he got back, shaz5. Very pleased to hear he had such a good time.
That's the problem with going away in any shape or form isn't it - the catching up on housework on the return. I'm sure you'll get there.
It was kind of your boss to let you leave earlier; and good to hear you had time together as a family unit before eldest 'crashed'. It must be lovely to have him home, no matter how much he has enjoyed his adventures!
I hope he had a good sleep and has filled you in with the tales. Glad he had a good time.
In the days my lot went to summer camp I think they just wore the same clothes all week! They were made to wash hands, faces and brush teeth though..!
Hope you have a lovely weekend together.
Hi shaz5, me too! I am glad that you are back to your little unit again. I bet your eldest has excited the little one and he is now looking forward to the adventure himself!
sparklinglime, credit to you that your children do not sqabble over playstation, this is often a cause of family contentions!
morning all here is a horrible day the rain is pouring . been up since 5 could here a drip like sound even been up in the loft but unable to find anything so its bugging me.
well all sorted and washing all up to date glad it was last week he went and not this week with the weather being so bad.
well its been over 3 months since we went to court and yet my ex seems to have only wrote 1 letter teh boys are not bothered but me im upset thought he would have tried more even wrote to see how the older one is after being mugged but nope nothing , have had his mom have afew words with me saying that i have got to try more harder and do more with the boys as to her im not doing much hello i work 2 jobs etc ......
how can they switch off , how can they have a life and say or write nothing to them its like i never existed to him but i suppose im to blame for all of this i get that bit as its his way of dealing with his guilt . the kids know they understand and have already made up their minds of him with out me saying nothing but at times it is still hard to deal getting better i must say but i still get down days but i snap out quick i suppose im healing more now . none of his family apart from his mom stay in touch and she only when she wants to have her say or when she feels like ringing its not every week well it will be their loss and the boys are doing well with mad old mom lol well best be going off to drop my son at school cause of the rain is so bad
Hello shaz5 It's weird isn't it that after all the upheaval, the dust has settled and you are thinking what next? and as you say, you are astounded that the boys' dad seem to have just moved on with scarcely a backward glance. Luckily your boys have a lovely mum
I wonder how positive an inflience their grandma is if she criticises you? Just keep an eye on that. The least she can do is treat you with respect, don't forget the cards are in your hands and she will have to play it by the book if she wants to stay in touch with her grandsons, sorry that sounds harsh but let's be realistic!!
Hope you dont get too soggy today, it is pouring here too.
morning al thankyou louise yes both boys have been wanting loads of cuddles this week more than ever , even the oldest one and he as been texting telling me loves me loads which is lovely . it is hard to deal with how they can just switch off but they do and its very hard to see and live with when you are here left but do have me and i love them to bits
today i have gone baking mad and baked loads of muffins white choc chip milk chip and peach ones using tinned peaches so when i go to visit my friends mom in hospital later i shall take her some and the nurses too . least its dry here and sunny though cold
That sounds lovely
Mmmmm muffins! Did your friends mum enjoy them? And the nurses? I imagine your boys had their fair share too, any left??
morning what a week , the muffins went down well with the nurses and yes we were we fed up lol of muffins in the end . the hospital last week at the close the ward due to a sick bug but my friends mom was allowed visitors as she was so poorly . she was 70 monday and she wanted to see her birthday and bless her she did for abit as sadly she lost her battle with cancer and past away in the early hours of monday. the hospital were fab and allowed us to have a party for her on the sun as we brought it forward and not everyone came but she had throughout the day about 30 people which was nice though she heard voices she never saw but was so lovely .
now im there for my freind and her two children not nice this side xmas but is there ever a nice time .
so ive not been around much to go on here . presents all brought and back to wrapping just got to do the kids . cards are all wrote and posted and even though sunday was so busy i did put the tree up and looks lovely and my little one as put his small one up in his bedroom . its coming around so quick .
last night was catching up on the jungle and strictly and chillin .
hope everyone is well least today its not frosty here or raining which is nice
Awww shaz, I'm so sorry your friend has lost her Mum.
Your Christmas preperations are going well - my aren't Hopefully I'll get cracking this weekend as the following weekend I'm away from my niece's wedding...
Hello shaz5 I am so sorry about your friend's mum and I am sure your friend is plesed to have you there to lean on and it sounds as if her mum's last day was the best that it could be.
Yes, Christmas is creeping up and you sound as if you are getting on well with it. I am always sorted pretty early because I have a completely unfounded fear that something will happen to stop me doing it in the last two weeks.
What are the boys getting this year?
evening all i have a poorly little man today coughing and his chest is not good doctors tomorrow as he as asthma so he is not well today had such alot i wanted to do tomorrow but that will have to be put on hold .
my little one is having a 2nd hand ipod as they both love their music xbox and ds games and music mainly they are having got them clothes too . still got theirs to wrap as yet . i have been handing out my presents yesterday so that was nice . so glad my little man wasnt ill yest as he and the older one past their orange belts and they then he had his beavers xmas party .
thursday night just as i was going to go to bed i heard a car outside the house guess what it was my ex , he came to drop letters but didnt rush to pull away . i got anote too saying thankyou for the pictures i sent him of the boys and they had one each gone smaller now the letters have for them since september this is his 2nd where as he should have been his 4th . we were at court and there i said what would be best for gifts voucher but he as still asked them what they would want him to buy and give them , he is not getting that he cant see them face to face . it did unnerve me that night . when you think all is quite he pops up and does something and i just want to be happy now and left alone . would like to think that one day i may meet someone but its harder than you think .
its a cold night here going to put the kids to bed early and curl up and watch tv later looks like my little one will not be going to school tomorrow and the older one as the day off teacher training
Good morning shaz 5, you always manage to pack so much into one post!
I hope your youngest managed a decent nights sleep and wasn't up coughing poor little thing, coinciding with asthma, its not nice for him.
Well done to both of them getting their orange belts, you must be a very proud mummy! Do you have them on display?
And xmas party too, they have been busy! As you said everything today can be put on hold and you can spend the day with your boys.
It is unnerving when your ex just pops up as and when they feel like it isn't it? And we have often said on these boards, it is often when everything has gone quiet and we are finally at a place of peace with everything. However I am glad that he didn't ring the doorbell or cause any trouble. It sounds as though the letters will be sporadic, do you think your boys will want to contact him back? Or will you remind his mum that if he wants to get anything for them, to put vouchers in the post?
morning all ive got two poorly boys :( little one as a chest infection and the other is running a temp says is head and tummy hurts but ther is alot of sick bugs going about . 5 in the school i work in went home yesterday not nice so it be a day staying put i think .
anna no they have to use their belts when they train they did so good .
the letters are slowly getting shorter and i think it will come when they wont get any more they are still sure that they dont want to have any contact with him so im leaving it not nor would i push for them to see him or read the letters they know as to where they are kept should they want to look at them . well i had a text message through my house phone on sunday night from his mom asking what she can get the kids saying it was from the ex when i rang her back last night i said why didnt you pick up the phine and ask , saisd she didnt think i was in had tried once, said had she upset me i said well yes you could have popped over wroet or tried more on the phone!then tells me that she cant be bothered going to a toy shop now its too much and she as left it too late so will money do . well its something i suppose but why ask if that is what she intended to do . i did say i was sick of the whole side of taht family not bothering with the kids to see or ask how they are then i put teh phone down as could not be bothered to say much else . well off to nurse to sick boys
Aww sorry your boys are under the weather. So many bugs around right now. Hope you are looking after YOU in all this.
The boys' grandma does seem to blow hot and cold with you, you can only do what you feel comfortable with.
Stay warm!
morning what a cold day just been out to de ice the car and to drop off my son who is going back to school today well they both are but im not happy but its the school play for the younger one and older just wants to go back roll on next week when we breaqk up stay warm and safe if you have to go out not nice
Hi shaz yes it is very foggy here and I popped to the shops and felt as if I had to drive in slow motion, that is after all the de-icing of course. Hope the school play goes well
Enjoy the play.
I think fog is my least favourite weather to dry in, with ice a close second.
morning the play was nice my son was in the choir .
well the morning as not started off good had a letter through the door again off my ex this time its a threatening one. i wrote back saying that what he could get the kids for xmas had been sorted in court via vouchers orhe could pass money on towards a bike. he as wrote back telling me that he as wroet to his solic to instruct me to go to court as i have got the csa on him and he had to pay a back payment towards me and that all the csa and the past court costs have caused him alot of money and strain but if i am to say that the back payment of the csa is the bike money then he will back down and least that way it will save me all the court costs and looking silly and facing prison as csa wasnt to start till nov but i got on to them earlier in the oct so im now facing prison .
im going to call my soilc today and see where and how i stand plus i want him to stop turning up at the house im trying to stay calm but its his last grip on trying to get a hold on me and he isnt liking it that im getting on with life etc
I'm glad you're going to have a word with your solicitor. Personally I'd leave it to the CSA and sort out gifts alone. The Git was a pain the first birthday and Christmas we were apart.
Perhaps a court order is needed to keep him a certain distance away from you and the house?
xx
I'm glad the play went well shaz 5 and that you are contacting your solicitor over how you stand with the CSA and back payments etc, would have to ditto what sparklings said with the buying of seperate gifts.
Let us know how you get on.
...and by the way, shaz 5 please do not let him cause you a moment's worry about the "prison" idea. If there was any confusion over the dates, this is surely easily explained by the stress of the aftermath of an abusive relationship?!Let us know what your solicitor says anyway.
Glad the play went well. I remember my boys getting so excited to be in the nativity.
When does school break up?
evening all i did get intouch with my solic and well i cant repeat what she said but she had recieved aletter from his solic and she just throw it away as he as nothing to say or do and what you said louise is what she as said plus the csa worked quicker than i thought and as i havent had a payment in nov that back pay was it and i start from now bascially he looks like a idiot and if he wants to go to court then let him it will cost him dearly and if he keeps coming doing this then im to go to the police .
there is no way he is going to get to me now ive come too far and yes its hard and sometimes lonely but i have come too far to let him get to me now or upset me anymore . he is trying his last grasp at control over me and its not working sorry . anyway for him to keep popping over is he missing us lol if he didnt then he would just put a stamp on them , are well its his choice and its too late to turn back ive turned a new leaf plus i found out too much .
aweek to go till we break up and i cant wait roll on next friday then over the xmas period we are going to the panto again so looking forward to that .
i think the kids are ready top break up to be honest its been along term this time .
Yes and with all the bugs around, everyone is ready for a break I think, shaz.
Glad your solicitor put your mind at rest. Yes there will be some lonely times sometimes but you are moving forward all the time Shaz we are so very proud of you here on One Space!!
hello all its a very wet christmas eve here just getting the house tidy and then relax this afternoon. ironing can wait will do the things i need thats all . its as been a horrible week here and very sadly i have had to call on the police again due to my ex but i have to wait till the 27 till the officer who dealt with us before is back on duty as i feel comfortable with her. last thurs i had the letter through the door over the back payment of csa to which i was told ignore well he asnot stopped i agreed for peace to use that towards bikes off him for christmas using my aunts phone then on sat i recieved a text call off his mom saying im being nasty and evil not returning her calls refusing her to see the kids well im sorry i saw red and told her we had gone out friday night to friend for a meal than sat morning i was taking kids to karate so how was not able to answer my house phone things were said and i went mad at her told her son was no snow white in this !!
well yesterday i agreed for her to come at 1 to see the boys and drop off presents well he came with her to drop her off i went mad asking what part of no direct contact does she or he not get ?????we was waiting up the road for her it was a planned staged visit things were said and i told her these boys by the family had been tossed aside and forgotten and she as a nan had done the same she told me it was my fault for not visitng her . then she went into teh kitchen and called his new partner to go and collect her well my son went mad and when he saw the card and what he had put went made it as taken me hours to calm him down even on the gioft card he as put we have agreed the payment money he has given to me will be put towards bikes my son as ripped up his card and the off his nan well they are in the bin unopened .
words fail me and i sit crying typing this as i really dont know where to turn i was doing so well when he collected his mom she was in the car too i know he will try anything to get at me my aunt texted saying why cant he leave alone at first he said what as he done wrong and why should it (being our son) be upset he is turning up at night .
ive called the police but the officer who dealt with us is not on till 27 and there is so much to go into its best to wait i dont know head going around .
his mom said that they dont recieve the letters off his dad or anything that he passes on i said like what gifts i replied there has not been any i just sling them with out the boys knowing , i replied that the letters stay on the table for 2 days and then they are kept in a box for when the boys are ready
what a start to christmas im trying not to let it get to me but its really hard to hear my son scream out and then the little one too just like that friday night wasnt nice i just want to be left alone and to live my life now
Hi shaz,
It's a wet Christmas Eve with us too.
Firstly, I'd like to say 'well done' for holding it all together. Though yet another horrible situation has been handed to you by your ex, you are coping. Yes, you might have a cry and I agree, it is horrible when your children are upset to that level (especially by their dad) but you are managing the situation. You've come on to the boards to get what's gone on 'out of your system' and you have a plan to contact the officer you know is best placed to deal with what has gone on on the 27th. This is all good stuff
Do try not to let it spoil your Christmas with the boys - your ex does not deserve yet another victory, no matter how small. As for his mum - it sounds as though no matter what you do, it will be wrong. You know you're a great mum to your sons and it seems to me that you only ever want what is best for them.
I hope all three of you have a lovely time, whatever you do.
Mary x
Loads of hugs Shaz.
At least you know that come Thursday you can talk to the police officer that knows the case.
I hope you're able to enjoy the next couple of days. Unplug the phone, and have the mobile on silent.
morning all christmas day was ok kids had loads .today we are getting washes but then its pj day all day . still cant get rid of this cold or cough . ive not heard anything more my aunt did text him to ask why and his reply was to her , what is actually our sons problem? its been nearly two years he as to get over it and live with it he as a new woman!he drops off letters at the night cause he cant afford stamps as i have put him in money troubles and if our son as not got over it what as happened then may be he as to question the level of couselling he has supposed to have had cause by now it should accept his dad and his new partner so it will have to live with it and get over it .
please im no expert but son was 9 when he saw his dad hit me we have been through crown court , police etc he worshipped his dad and his dad told him he loved me and we were going to be a family for ever then the same day he left and i picked him up with my cousin. now from having everything in his world fall how can he just 'get over it' like that and be normal like what he wants . it as always been the kids saying and doing that they do not want anything to do with their dad and now after sun they dont want to see their nan either.
well they can think anything they like i have never twisted the kids but it does hurt they are both still snuggled up in bed . im going to have a lovely bubble bath and relax today
Glad you had a good Christmas Day
It sounds as if the boys' dad will always twist things round to try and make himself look better. I do have to say though, that he is contradicting himself if on one hand he is saying well the counselling can't have been very good then, and on the other he is saying your son "should" be over it by now, when the first part of that sentence implies that your son was so upset that only the very best top quality counselling would have helped!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
These coughs and colds are really lingering this year, especially the coughs so I hope the PJ day helped.
well went to see the panto today and it was out of this world . kids really enjoyed it. yes pj day was fab .do you know what with my ex i just cant be bothered any more he can say what he wants and hide from what he has done and what he as said but karma will come one day to him and that is when i will smile . i know when next week comes he will be on the phone to his solic im surprised i have not had a not through the door to be honest . think he has realised that now he really as lost his son for good .
here 2013 will be the best year for me and i really hope that things start picking up and we can finally but the last yr and half behind us . got the holiday in may to look forward too and we really could do with it now .
I'm glad you enjoyed the panto.
Perhaps he has now realised how things are.
Hi shaz,
You can't beat a good panto
I hope it does prove possible 'let go' in terms of your ex and his attitude - and that you get a chance to live your life with the boys as a family unit.
Here's to 2013 - let's hope that its an outstanding one for us all x
morning well i rang the police who really couldnt help me but gave me a national number who may be able to help me and do a injuction on my ex but its the weekend and have to wait but im hoping that he will have finally got the message but deep down i feel there is a storm about to brew . i feel nothing towards my ex is uppose i feel sad that he as gone down this route but in the end he wil be the loser not me as the boys are doing great and we have become so close and tight bonds .
i have wednesday got to go to the solic to sign some final papers and i will let her know whats been happening over christmas never know she may drop a letter off to his solic i just want to be left alone he did what he did the kids have made their little minds up but that is nothing i can do about it im hoping 2013 is a better year and things start to improve
Hi shaz,
I'm sorry you've got the feeling that something awful is going to happen. I hope you're wrong and that your ex has finally got the message.
It sounds as though you have a tight family unit with your boys and that you have a reliable solicitor. Both really valuable resources to fall back on, should you have to.
I hope 2013 is a happy & peaceful one for you.
Mary x x
Hi shaz5, Happy New Year, I am so sad to read what happened over Christmas, it is often the time when they rear their heads and cause trouble. He feels he has rights and is being treated unfairly, however without a thought of how his children are feeling. I am sorry to hear that you had a running with their nan too.
Have their been any more incidents, or did you have a smooth New Years Eve? I wish you all the best for the coming year, you know we think you deserve it :)
hi happy new year to all . where do i begin lol yes christmas wasnt very nice but we made best of it wasnt keen on staying at home being last yera we were at friends and after what happened just before with my ex it did un nevre us but not anymore im not allowing thsi to carry on new year new me and he can carry on trying to gasping on straws but he as lost the best of everything and he as to realize that he was in the wrong and the kids have minds of their own and they have.
new year was fab we went to the local puba nd the kids were able to come too and they had agreat time and there was a band on and kids thought it was fab. i try to go out when i can and going down to the pub the locals there have been fab and i ahve made some nice friends and welcomed us in so thats nice and my best friend her children are older so when i go out they baby sit and the boys are happy as they see me happy.
yes ive been intouch with the police and solic and yes i can fight till i drop and i ask myself when does it stop so ive decided that i shall log everything down in a book of what he does and his mom and even log it at the station if i have too and if things get worse i shall call 999 but for now i want to leave the past and move ahead . yes the number the police gave me did call backand they said i was to call the courts and have him arrested but really he is wanting to see his kids and cant see what he has doen so im hoping the text my aunt as sent as hit home time shall see . with him hitting me well going to court for that is right and im glad i did that but this is it worth it really if it carries on i shall call and take it further but for now i really want to live and forget it and leave the last 18months in the past or box if you like that i have put things .there as to be a time when it stops and thsi is it ive had enough of police and courts he wont win though this has never been about winning or point scoring but i really had enough new eve saw to that for me and going yesterday and seeing solic as i had to over paperwork made me see myself and by boys have a life and this year sees to it . i have had my home telephone number changed as from today so they will not have it so they cant contact me other than by post and i changing the door this will make me feel safer plus ive always wanted a new door so thats happening in jan soem time :)
my ex moth in law well not alot i can say but again her loss i know as a mom you see your children as being right but she should have been there for the kids and being supportive for them more than ever and she wasnt . and again she hasnt seen her son in the wrong that he as done and i will not allow any more hurt from her or son to destoy us anymore .for coming to the house well yes he got a reaction from me but im not wanting to send him to prison for that i have the boys to think of and would they really want that deep down they are hurt but if it gets worse i will call and press charges but for now i will ignore him and im happy to live my new life x
evening all not been to work to day not felt so good and all over the weekend i have been supporting my friend as her mom was rushed into hospital but still she is hanging in there how she gets her fight from is outstanding . tomorrow im going back to work cant afford not too also im off to the solic in the morn to get a will sorted as if anything should happen i want my kids to get it all plus get them sorted as they will not go to their father so its best to get it done now . ive begun writing my xmas cards out today i have made a start doing ok on the presents too not so good when little one cant make his mind up and wont give you a list ! this time next week my older one will be away with the school for 5 days i will so miss him .
csa as been on to me as my ex will not answer anything from them and as he should have started to pay maintance as from last thursday as part of the divorce and was stated in those papers too he as not paid a penny to me . still as to try to do the last dig .