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Thinking of you, IDT
Hope you are ok, and let us know your news and how you are feeling
Hi IDT, have been thinking off you, can i uncross everything now?
Hi all x
I now have residency of five of my seven children
Three tough days at court but now it's over.
jeeze he's picking up speed but you know it's not sunk in yet x
Huge congrats IDT. All that worry you went through and if I am correct you did a lot better than u were expecting. Enjoy!!
Thankyou all Charlie :)
How are u ?
Yes all that worry indeed but I was faced with a caffcass recommendation to the farther so the three days were needed and my worry was not waisted as it was a close deal but it's over kinda x
Hi IDT, u r welcome. Plse dont get me wrong, am not trying to be smart, am just trying to help you deal with 'worry'. Someone said to me y'day its like riding a rocking horse - it gets u nowhere! Lol.. must admit things r difficult for me at moment. Cant open up now but may have to as am struggling with things. Take care and enjoy your children.
Hello IDT, that is very good news and I am thinking that it is the two oldest who will be living with their dad as before? That worry was a lot to go through and I think all charlie was saying that you had had a lot of unhappiness because of the whole thing and it wasn't neccessary for you to go through that (thanks to CAFCASS eh?) Now....here comes the hard part, it will take a while for the dust to settle so don't expect too much of yourself just at first. One day at a time and all that.
All charlie we are happy to support you, do start a new thread or revive an old one if you want to chat things through.
hi im doing this aw really pleased for u, well donexx
Hi all Charlie, yes I see what u mean I'm not a worrying person and I often say to people there's no point as the outcome will be the same, but as Louise said with the help of the lovely carcass lady she put us through unecasery worry and stress including my children, let's just say there a big fat complaint coming her way , on her incompetence these are children's lives she's playing with, the judge didn't Luke her evidence.
He manipulated her completely then her report lacked substance because there wasn't any.
Louise I had prepared myself so much for it to go his way, now I'm all over emotionally but flat and I feel like why do I feel this way, I carnt believe it's over but he's been weird it's spooked me a bit.
Hope your ok all Charlie you know were here if u need us x take care.
hi how are u, my ex is tryin to manipulate everyone asround him, but cfacss lady isnt seein thru his lies thank god , and she as recomeded no contact at all with my little girlxim anxious bout court next week, yet ive dun nothin wrong, mad how we feel ,x
Hello IDT it is pretty normal how you are feeling, there was so much worry and tension that after the initial "phew it is all over" relief and happiness, flatness usually follows and it can take a while to get your head round it all....so please be reassured that it is normal 
Hi Imdoingthis. That's great news regarding residency. Well done.x
Thankyou Hazeleyes
Kiera Hun it will be over soon your on the last bit now, is the lady still going with u to court? You have caffcass on your side and that's good x
Glad to know it's normal how I'm feeling.
He's not done anything but he's unnerving me.
Great news IDT 
Thankyou Sally
Hi IDT, I was really pleased to hear about the residency news, however I notice that you have also said...
jeeze he's picking up speed
but it's over kinda
but he's been weird it's spooked me a bit
He's not done anything but he's unnerving me.
So it sounds as though things do not feel as settled as they should, do you want to share what else is going on for you?
Things are not settled he won't leave things it's been non stop with him this weeks been orful one thing after another yesterday I was arrested and bailed it's just non f*****g stop.my feelings are Im past caring I'm never going to tell the police anything again, its time to let him get on with it If every professional he's come in contact with carnt see it then so what I really do not care any longer and I'm not going to be held acontable for anything he does no one carnt say I havnt tried x
hi im doin this u as arrested and bailed yest, what for, omg ,its ur ex that shud b arrested x
i feel it wil never b over with my ex, neverx
Hi Imdoingthis. He had you arrested? Can you say what for? Surely someone in authority has to help you? You've just got residency of the younger children, so could the arrest jeopodise this in anyway? I'm so sorry for you Imdoingthis, and really don't know what to say really. Please keep looking here, as I'm sure Louise and Anna can advise something. x
Just wanted to add, don't give up. You've done so well, and fought a hard battle. Please don't let him win now. Keep on fighting. x
Thankyou both x
I'm stuck in this situation
I was arrested for perverting course of duty,
I don't care I really do not
He carnt hurt me anymore no one can he's done it all x
Thing is Imdoingthis, he can and is, still hurting you, and someone somewhere must be able to help you. Have you told your solicitor of the latest developments? He will only stop hurting you, when he is stopped, which is why you have to keep fighting back, and not give in.
It won't be over because he carnt handle I got away and he won't stop because he doesn't until he wins and he's getting desperate now
Kiera they just don't give up do they? X
X post hazeleyes
He's not hurting me because when you've been hurt you become numb to it he doesn't hurt me anymore emotional physical whatever it doesn't bother me anymore.
Yes my solicitor knows.
Is it possible for you to move away, and he can have access to the children, via a third party? Have you spoken to Women's Aid or anyone today?
No iv text the wa lady but he's not answering me maybe she's off work x
Hopefully, you'll receive a reply from her soon. Does yesterday's happenings mean you have to appear in court?
Don't know yet I'm on bail depends on cps x
I don't think she's working she normally would get back straight away x
This is what is missed in that this is why woman stay It's sh*t for woman to leave The police were going to take my phone for the 3 months, he's allowed to do all this u see he can of course do whatever he likes and no ones going to stop him are they ..
I don't have the answers Idt, but women do break free, and someone, one day, will stop him doing the things he does. I understand how you feel about the police, but I still think you should still report everything he does. They have to log all incidents, and this of course strengthens your case against him.
hi hun so u got arested for perverting course of justice, law stinks, it really does, mye x as faked a profile on facebook and pretended to b sumone else, i fell for it, he now as my new nu, hes not allowd to contact me, but he as, its all bein brought up in court next tue, feel it wil never end, i want to move away so ex cant find us,my ex stil tryin control me as eh now as my new nu, and i was spkin to him but i thought it was sumone else, he as seen my pictures on fb, even tho i blocked him, ive deactivated my account, im sorry hun ope ur ok, these men do giv up hun in end, well ope so, im worried wot my ex wil do as cafcss as recomeded no contact with my little girl, sic worryin,
I just carnt believe this I'm writing on her because I ha e no one to talk to about it he's got tunnel vision he's on one I'm tired out ok well just ignore him have a drink
( wonders off to find wine) x
Hi IDT, I am sorry to read how wretched you are feeling right now, you really are going through the mill.
What has your solicitor said? Have you heard back from Womens Aid?
No reply from wa solicitor said see what happens
Fingers crossed you hear something tomorrow Idt. x
hi hun imere tonyt if u wana chat, i do understand wot ur goin thru, i cud do wiv a beer,. got non in, ope ur okxx
Hi Kiera thankyou
Iv had a glass of wine :)
I just want to live my life Kiera he won't let go ges getting wores
I think we are going through simler but our ex 's are behaving different?
we are goin thru similar arnt we., well i dont see my ex he live smiles away thank god, plus hes not allowed to cum nr me,xx
It's mad all this x
I wish he wasn't allowed to come near me x
Hello IDT
How awful for you to be arrested. It just never seems to end for you (but it will be resolved in the end, it just seems like that right now) You will probably be on police bail, rather than be charged with anything.
Keep on trying to contact Women's Aid today and let us know how you get on
No reply from wa lady today :(
Are you able to speak to someone else in the office, or will you leave it until Monday now?
Hi IDT, how are you doing today?
hi im doin this how are u todayx
Hi I feel back to square one this man doesn't just get it does he? Not goi g into detail but let's just say iv gone backwards and this is the last thing I needed. He's never going to stop iv sent strings of text to wa lady she's gonna love me when she returns to work on Monday. Got no sense of reality again back to f***ing chaos my poor kids :(
Yes it must be hard for the children as well as you, IDT.
Has their dad been violent against you again?
The WA lady will be in touch with you when she gets back to work, I am sure, Please try to stay as calm as possible, I know it is hard to get back to reality after a stressful court case but you need to keep things as level as possible for the children.
hi im doin this gud luck in court, my ex as hacked into my account on fb, i deactivated it, he pretended to b sumone else, he now as my mobile nu ,i feel sick, it was in the report,report stil in my favour tho, poice were called twice in nov just gon to his house where he lives with his kids, he was agresive with police,aparently he ad dyed his hair for the drug test results when he got told he shudnt, sick them givin him chances, police found loads canabis last nov, i want to no why he isnt locked up, i cant move on at all, feel he is stil controlin me,