hello

Hiya
Thanks Sparkling and Sadsy. Can't get my head round anything today. Obviously, all I can think about are my sisters. Does anyone know where I can pick up one of those self-wills? Do you know what I mean? All of this today has made me determined to write it all down properly about my wishes for my son.
Sadsy, am really glad you had fun with the new woman. I guess you'll be seeing her again then ;)
Sparkling, your leg sounds really nasty. If there isn't any improvement Monday, I would go and check it out again. Migraines are awful things. I always felt terrible the following day too, felt like I'd been kicked by a horse. (Not that I know what that really feels like). I hope you are feeling much better today. It was probably brought on by everything you're going through right now. Thankfully, since having my son, I've only had about one migraine. Before that, I used to get one nearly every week. Anyhow, take care
Alison
x :)

Hi Mousie
Thankyou for your post. Everyone is so kind. Earlier this year, my brother had to have triple by pass. 2009 hasn't been a good year at all.
I read that you are decorating at the moment. Well done, I absolutely hate it. I love starting it, but by the end, I just thankgod that it is finished. I need to touch the paint up here, but I keep thinking, another year won't hurt. Bad aren't I?!!!
I hope you are having a relaxing evening. I need to get some sleep soon, I feel whacked, god knows why, I've done nothing
Take care
Alison
x :)

Hi Louise
Thankyou for your support. I am really glad that I got to speak to her. She doesn't live far so maybe when she doesn't have visitors, I will go and see her.
Hope you have a good Sunday
Take care
Alison
x :)

Hi Alisoncam,
sending you lots of strength & hugs.
take care of yourself!

Pansy

have had no texts today as i expect he is with her . his loss not mine if he carrys on they wont want to see him

lets wait and see on the texts this is the longest that i have not texted him especially not telling him what the boys have been up to and the longest that we have not spoken even when we were on hol or he was we would talk about the boys . maybe this is a step in the right direction and it will start to get better from now on

we got chicken and the smoke dector keeps going off , the pots keep on burning

dont worry i will keeping my guard up this time cant through it again with the no sleeping and not eating . lost 5 lbs in a week under 8 stone now cant remember when i was that

hi alisioncam
i have to be in control for the sake of the boys , maybe it is easier now as i have not had any contact with him or have not seen him. that will be the testing bit when he comes round but the longer he stays away the easier it should be i hope .

the chicken was ok and the potatoes were not burnt in the end and the veg was easy as you put it in the microwave and hey presto it is cooked . have to have different veg as the boys eat different ones .

speak to you soon take care :)

Hi All!
just wanted to say hello to you all. I am sorry I have not been here for a while but as well as having a nice couple of days away I also had a terrible time with my ex contact week which has resulted in me now having to go down the legal route.

I wrote a really long post the other day explaining it all, but because I was not in right frame of mind, I lost it all !
I am not up to going into details at the moment but basically as I predicted when he went ( I just knew that 2-3 months down the line of him drinking would get him to the stage where he lost it!) His mentally health has gone! he was a nightmare & I cant have him ever stay here again or the children go & stay with him in Scotland because he is not responsible enough in this state of mind & is drinking. He has managed to mess with their minds & my eldest has lost it totally now. Luckily we have got her CAMHS appointment on Wednesday, I have solicitor on Friday. He is at his Mum's house, went there Friday, gets train back to Scotland in about an hour I hope he will be on it! he took the key, have to get locks changed too! had to get friends & family in the house until I could get home when he was here! ruined what was going to be 5 days away for me, but then that was his plan. No one else can have me, thinks he owns me still & has right to come in house when he wants.

well thats it in short hand without the details, cant cope with details at presnt.

sorry I have not been around to support others on here.
I did manage to have a nice time the two days I had & was very lucky I had the support of someone who really could have done without all that trouble! I wouldn't have coped as well without him.

Pansy

Loads of hugs pansy.

xx

Hi Pansy
So sorry you didn't have such a good week.
Sending you strength and hugs.
Take care
Alison
x :)

Am off for support from solicitor today to sort out contact & divorse!

to think I was devasted two months back! is hard to imagine now, he is a changed person! or maybe he isn't & I never noticed. OMG!

Then off to CAMHS team to save eldest daughter from the same fate!

tell you all how it goes later.

Pansy

Oh heck sadsy. I'm sorry.

Hugs

Pansy, hope things go ok.
xxx

well all went ok with solicitor, she is going to send a letter with the contact details I have asked for which is that he sees them only under his Mum's supervision once a month either sat & sun individually or from sat to sun overnight but again only at his Mum's house under her supervision. And that he calls once a week on Saturday. I have asked it to be noted that I will not stop children phoning him if they wish at any time.

Divorse will be put as adultry, but if he refuses to sign that she said there are plenty of reasons for unreasonable behaviour which she said will be worst for him.

of course he could put in for a contact order, is that what it's called ? I forgot now. Again she said his drinking history & childrens wishes along with statments from the people who saw him during that few days would be taken into account by cafcuss, is that what their called? sorry am all over the place today!

CAMHS for eldest, at level two at present but can go to level three if we want to get particular help. I have asked for cognetive theraphy for eldest, as well as counselling. She will get 6 sessions, then if more needed still, then it will go to level three where she will be able to accsess psycologists etc

Have appointment for 13 yr old very soon to get her possible ODD diagnosis and have son's proposed statment to read through & agree!

Maybe one day we will all be sorted out!!!!!!

Pansy

Hi pansy

Sounds like things went ok...

Hi all
After such a bad week of things, ie, my sisters news plus my son and the bullies at school, tonight we having friends over for a sleepover. It is my friend and her son. It is all last minute, so now I have to have a mad dash around getting clean bedding etc, tidy up, blah, blah. My son is really looking forward to it. (He's even offered to tidy his bedroom) Yeah, right!!!!! I am also getting excited as it means I'll have an adult to talk to, and won't be questioned on the characters in Ben 10! This is a ritual every weekend, and still I forget :lol: :lol:
I hope you all have a great weekend.
Take care
Alison
x :)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY ANNA!

Pansy x

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR ANNA
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU

Have a wonderday day.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dePMU8R131s

You had better not be sitting!!! :o

You said you were pacing! Get up & get on with it & take your own advice!

Pansy xx

Job 2 - that's a good idea.

:)