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Oh alisoncam I am sure your neighbours were really grateful to have you there to help. My Mum had to be talked through it on the phone. I have heard that we will all have to retune AGAIN in a few months, don't know how much truth there is in that rumour!
Hi Sadsy
Glad you made it to London. Sure you are now exhausted, but it was worth the trip eh? Have a relaxing evening, and a good nights sleep.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi Sparkling
Hope you're having a good day, and your son is feeling a bit better today. How was scouts last night?
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hello
He's a bit better thanks. His headache has eased off a lot. He's been to sleep again on the settee though.
I'm ok thanks.
I thoroughly enjoyed Scouts last night, thanks. I'm quite relieved I did!
Are you ok?
Glad your boy is better today, sparkling lime, there are some very strange bugs going round at the moment!
Hi Sparkling
The best of luck today with the assessment. Hopefully, you'll be walking into the shower in no time! Take all the help that they offer, and more of course.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi Sadsy,
How are you doing? Not seen you around for a while, hopefully you're feeling bit brighter in your self, really hope so.
loads of hugs for you.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi Pansy
How did the dinner go last night with the ex mother-in-law? Hopefully things were ok, even if it was a bit strained. Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi all
Doing a bit of a naughty thing today. Didn't get much sleep last night, thinking of my sister having op today. Trying to stay positive for her, but so worried. So, I'm keeping my son at home from school. He will keep my mind occupied, which is what I desperately need right now. One day isn't going to hurt right? ;)
He has still got a cold, and swollen glands, but he isn't unwell. Now, i'm trying to justify the day off :lol:
Hope you all have a good day, another drizzly day here by the looks of it :cry:
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hello sadsy welcome back. Isn't it strange that it always seems to be raining when there's some u8nwelcome reality looming?
Hi alisoncam, I hope you have a good day with your boy. Interestingly, I read a book called "Raising boys" by Stephen Biddulph. In it, he suggests that every boy (I guess girls are in the same category) could be given an occasional "health day" (rather than a sick day) to spend quality time with their parent, especially if you have several children, so it is one-on-one time. Now, obviously, we at One Space can't say that we recommend you keep your kids away from school on a regular basis ( ;) ) but I am just telling you what the book said......
Hi Pansy
I am glad that you got through the mother in law visit Ok, sounds like she is being very careful not to rock the boat...good! :)
I know you have a lot going on at the moment but you are right, the main focus is your children, so chin up! ;)
Hi all
Just heard that my sister is now in recovery. Not sure of all the details at the moment. I think she went into surgery at 8. I know that sometimes it might take a person longer to be moved from recovery, so I'm not too worried about this, (much).
The ct scan on her lungs yesterday showed no cancer, so that is fantastic news.
Will let you all know how she is as soon as I hear anything, thankyou for your support in this :)
My son has kept my mind busy, which was the whole purpose of keeping him home. I had an unexpected visitor as well, my ex from years ago. It was a shock to say the least. I think I give him the time of day now, because I'm not in love with him, theres nothing emotional there at all, and he certainly couldn't hurt me in anyway. I actually feel quite sorry for him. He has lost so much, some of it through no fault of his own. Anyhow, he stayed for about an hour, (which was enough as my son was here anyway).
I am feeling shattered, so think I shall soak in the bath, and release some tension.
Take care all
Alison
x :)
I'm so glad :)
Such a good idea keeping your son home with you, and I'm glad you got through the day ok.
Hope the bath relaxes you!
Hi all
Just getting snippets of info on my sister via texts. She is in a lot of pain, very sleepy, still on oxygen, and dehydrated. She had keyhole surgery, though better, is still very painful. (I remember mine). That's all I know at the moment. Her husband will no doubt know more tomorrow regarding chemo, if my sister needs it, or any other treatment.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi alisoncam
Good news to hear that all went as well as possible with your sister I hope she had a peaceful nights sleep.
I hope you have a pleasant day today, you deserve it. :)
Hi alisoncam
WHAT A DAY! Your ex turned up as well....golly :?
Glad the news seems hopeful re your sister. Hope you get a more peaceful day today, take care
Hi all
Thankyou for your lovely messages. Not heard anything else about my sister. Should hear something later on though. It is very peaceful here today, my son is back in school, so it is very quiet. Just having a bit of 'me' time. Hope you are all ok.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Enjoy alisoncam!
Although I have just seen it is 3.45, so your peace has been shattered by a 7 year old charging through the house no doubt. I hope your batteries are feeling re-charged and you enjoy your evening!
Good luck with your course, sadsy, it's always hard to pick up the pieces and start something new. You haven't mentioned your counselling for a while,are you getting on Ok with it?
I bet you won't have a dumb day!
I hope you find it really interesting and that you enjoy it.
Hi sadsy
4 days of training in web design sounds great. I am sure you will have a great time, learning wizzy tricks and being around adults. This will be for you and your future. I hope you enjoy it and get loads out of it. :)
Hi Sadsy
Best of luck today. Knock their socks off!!!! You will be great.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi all
Spoke to my brother-in-law this morning. My sister is doing ok. Surgeons took a foot of the bowel. Now they have to wait for results on it from the lab, then they will know what form of treatment, if any, to give her. She doesn't have a bag, which is also good news. It's all looking good at the moment isn't it? Don't know how long the results will take, hopefully not too long.
Been on the phone all morning with son's half-sisters mum. Her house is due to be re-possessed if she doesn't come up with the mortgage money by next week. I think she has managed to scrape bits together in the last year, but I don't hold out much hope for her this time. Social services are involved with her for one thing and another, and she feels if she goes to them for help, they will immediately take her children. If the house is taken away, she feels the social will take the kids, and she will end up in a room. (She knows someone that this was done too). I've advised her to go to CAB before anything happens regarding the house, but she says she will wait. I have obviously offered to help with a roof over their heads, but I live in council property with only two bedrooms, and she feels social wouldn't let me even have my son's half-sister. What a mess she is in. I also know that the council wouldn't let me have people stay for a long length of time, but at least she would know they had somewhere to go. She has phoned the children's father, (my sons and her daughters), but I knew that would be a waste of time. He gives Jack S.....
Why would he be bothered if his daughter ended up in care, he doesn't pay, hasn't seen them etc. Boy, he makes my blood boil. I wish i was in a position to help her, but it's hard enough just with me and my son.She has tried all different options, so she is well and truely stuck I think.
Alison, I'm so glad that the news is sounding positive with your sister.
I'm sorry that your son's half-sister's mum is facing this. In theory, if she's had notice of eviction she can go to the council and be officially declared homeless. Yes, she and the children may have to go into B&B, but it will mean that in time she will get a house.
I really hope you don't mind me saying, but if they thought that she was able to stay with your, then the Council will let that happen and not treat her with any urgency, as she will, in theory, have accommodation.
He is a total git, but if he's anything like the father of this lot, I doubt very much he'll worry. He won't see it as his responsibility to sort it.
Hi Sparkling
I think if she doesn't pay by the 15th, then they will serve the eviction order. She said that it has already gone to court. Don't know much about it, but she has taken out another 2 on top of the 1st mortgage!!!
You're right of course, if she does stay with me, then she wouldn't be seen as urgent. Then again, the council would only let her stay with me for a short period, (I think). It's not really a solution as they live so far away from me. I was just thrown when she said the children would be taken from her.
The funny thing is, (well, i don't really mean funny). Her ex husband who is the father of the two older children is messing her around with the money, and then my son's father, and her youngest childs father, (the same) has never paid ANYTHING, and he is calling the other man a b..........This fella has no idea at all, that he also should be paying for his children. How mad is he??????????
How are you doing today? Might catch you on line later. The little fella here is all excited about the history museum tomorrow. Oh yeah, (my worst nightmare came true), he has been picked to bring a violin home!!!!!! I have to pay £5 for a term, butttttt, they are saying to get it put on house insurance. Problem is I don't have house insurance :lol: I have nowt worth stealing :lol: So, not too sure about it, I have had tears obviously from him, so I've said perhaps I'll need to discuss it with the head. He has never picked up a violin in his life, so how he was picked, god only knows.
Anyhow, take care
Alison
x :)
Well you will just have to see what the head says about the violin. I know how you feel, we had the same thing with a cornet, our neighbour joked that she thought a baby elephant had moved in next door.
It's sounding hopeful for your sister, let's hope they have got all of it out and she can make a decent recovery. Lots of positive thoughts coming her way!
Re your boy's half-sister's mum, be careful. You have been so kind to her and it would be all too easy to have this to deal with as well as your own stuff. And sparkling is right, whilst she has a place to stay, she is not an urgent case for her local council. If she is not in arrears with a council property then they have a duty to house her as well as the kids (if she was, they only have a duty to house the kids) She can get a private rented place with the help of Housing Benefit/Local Housing Allowance in due course, provided she has no more than £16k equity left from when the house is sold. She could get in touch with Shelter, who specialise in housing advice(see http://england.shelter.org.uk/) Take care of YOU in all this, alisoncam, I know you are a supportive and kind person but remember what I said about setting boundaries, you have enough on your plate in supporting yourself, your boy and your sister,........ :)
Hi Louise
Hi Louise
She wouldn't have a penny from the house, she is in serious trouble with debt. I have thought long and hard about this, and as much as I feel so sorry for her, I can't realistically help her. I can offer her support of course, be at the end of the line for her, but that is it.
You are right Louise, I have enough to deal with right now. I think emotionally I'm too worn out to be dealing with it.
Everything is crossed where my sister is concerned. All looks good for her right now.
The violin hasn't been mentioned since we first came home. We are at the moment having a conversation regarding throw away cameras. My son is going to the museum tomorrow with the school. They are allowed to take the cameras. He doesn't quite get what I am saying about them. He has told me that when they leave the museum, then they have to throw the camera in the bins :o
I have explained it until I'm blue in the face, but he insists that the teacher has told the class this, and basically, I know nothing. (he didn't say this of course) :lol:
He has a digi one, so he knows that can be put on the computer, but the throw away is a mystery to him. Anyhow, I've now given up before I end up pulling my hair out.
Now, if I became a teachers assistant, then he'll really think I know as much as his teacher. :lol:
Take care, have a nice evening
Alison
x :)
Hi
I have looked at that louise, thanks. I will speak to her tomorrow, and give her the details. I have also found this site. Wondered if someone could give me comments on it. It's a site about repossessions, and what the homeowner could do. Don't know if this could help her in anyway. I know she doesn't want to move out (obviously). I just thought this might be a way of her staying.
http://www.quickpurchase.co.uk/content/eviction-notice?gclid=COi80sSFrp0CFUxs4wodEnVzkQ
Thanks in advance
Take care
Alison
x :)
I almost think she would be better going into B&B. I don't see why anyone would want to seperate her from her children over debt.
B&B would be awful but a means to an end to getting a secure tenancy with a housing association or council. Honestly, knowing that where we are now is secure is heaven sent.
Hell getting there though, I know.
You being there at the end of the phone will be so fantastic for her. As horrid as it is, personally, I think that's what the offer should be.
Teaching assistant would be brilliant. I filled in a form at my local education authority, but never got chosen - my Welsh isn't that brilliant! It's a few years now since I filled one in though.
Finished Scouts late this evening. It was ok though.
Hi sadsy, sparkling
Thanks for the posts. I will at some point speak to her today. I'm hoping to go and see my sister this morning. Will drop my son at school, come back home and ring her husband to check.
Catch you later. Sadsy, I hope yesterday went well for you. Take care all
Alison
x :)
Hi alisoncam
How are you this evening? Did you get to see your sister? any news? So many questions :!:
I agree with sadsy about that website, sadly, vulnerable people who are about to be evicted can grasp at straws and someone COULD be out to make a quick buck so it is always better to be safe. Shelter are really good.
Oh, by the way, that made me laugh about the cameras. Your boy is just at the age where "teacher" is the Big Authority on everything. It used to make my blood boil when mine were that age :x - it is much better to be like you and laugh it off.
Hi all
I went to see my sister yesterday, and I was really surprised! Although very gaunt looking, she actually didn't look as bad as I thought she would, (weight wise). She has been constantly sick, which the doctor said is due to the fact, that the cancer was blocking food from going through. It is obviously making her feel wretched, but hopefully in a few days, things will settle down. She did say that she feels like just giving up, but that of course is because of the way she is feeling. She actually is a fighter, so to hear her talk like that was distressing. I took her for a little walk, (along with the drip). We had a few little laughs, and I told her that I thought she was looking ok, and that I'd been shocked at seeing her. She has heard for weeks how thin she is etc, so she didn't believe me at first, but she did say that it was lovely to hear. They have weighed her, and for her height, she isn't doing too bad. She still isn't eating, and is dehydrated still. No results have come back yet, so she won't know about further treatment, if any, until then. Will keep you all posted, you've been great with the support, and it is fantastic for me. :)
My son had a wonderful time on the school trip yesterday. (He brought the camera home). He has a tablet before the journey, he was really sick on a coach once. So, I gave him one before I left the school in the morning, and I gave the other to the teacher with instructions, and saw her pass it to the classroom assistant. My son told me he wasn't given it!!!!!!! Good job he wasn't sick, as I would have really created about it. The little fella is still asleep, and it's just gone 10. He must have worn himself out at the museum!!!
Hope you all have a lovely peaceful weekend. (someone remind me what that is again)
Take care
Alison :)
Glad he had such a nice time, I looked at the Radio Times today and saw that Jurassic Park was on and I thought of your son, although JP is a bit scary for little ones of course!
I am sure you made a fantastic difference to your sister by your visit, alisoncam. When people are very ill, many visitors preserve a sort of "sacred silence" as if the person has become a saint overnight. Much better to chat and joke as usual and keep her grounded. I am not surprised she feels so wiped out, just give her some time and encouragement. How did your foot appointment go this week?
I'm so glad you've seen your sister. Glad for you both, really.
Glad your son had a great time. Hope the photos will be good!
xxx
Hi Louise
He watched Jurassic Park the week before last I think. I told him, it might be a bit scary, but he wasn't bothered. In fact, he didn't flinch or turn away once! He wants to watch Jaws when and if it comes on tv again. I've told him all about it, but also told him it is obviously just a plastic shark, and how the cameras work etc. He can't wait, but I'm not totally sure on that one! If it gives him nightmares, then I'm the one who has to get up to him!!!!
My sister rang me this morning. She sounded brilliant, so much better than yesterday, her voice was strong and I noticed the difference straight away. :) She hasn't been sick since yesterday, but is still unable to eat as her mouth is very sore. Nobody can tell her why, it isn't thrush or anything, but it's got to be something. They have told her if she can start eating today, then she can go home tomorrow. So, she will definately try. We had loads of laughs on the phone, which cheered me up no end. I will go and see her next week, and do some cleaning, ironing etc for her. (that'll be fun, as I can't even be bothered to do mine) :lol:
Having a relaxing day. Been to the shops, now I'm back in my PJ's. It's a gorgeous day, but my son is happy messing the flat up, so he's in his element. I've positioned the chair, so I'm not looking at it! :lol: :lol: :lol: I didn't bother with the hospital for my foot. (am hiding from you now). I figured it was a waste of time, to sit there for ages, only to be told again, that it will take time. (can I hear you tutting), oh no, thats what Sparkling does to me, haha.
Have a lovely weekend.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Tee hee!!
I do hope you're enjoying a pj day - even if you did need a break to shop!
Don't blame sparkling lime! :lol: I totally understand about the foot thing (I haven't even taken my imaginary glasses out of their case!) as it must be so annoying and feel like a waste of time.
Glad your sister is rallying :D
Maybe if your son has any nightmares, a good "remedy" might be to play-act the film the next morning, he could make a cardboard shark etc and various teddies etc could be the people on the beach, sort of to debunk the scary bits
Hope you have a good day today
Hi Sparkling
Just seen something about new scout rules. Copied the link, but don't know really what it is.
http://uk.news.yahoo.com/21/20091011/tuk-new-rules-threaten-scout-jamborees-6323e80.html
Hope you're having a good day. My son loved all the typing he did with you yesterday. Once he's on, you can't get him off :lol: :lol:
You and he are firm buddies!!! I was so long on the phone, (I did warn you). Anyhow, hope to catch up soon.
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi all
My sister rang me earlier. She is home from hospital, and feeling good. Still not eating, but thats due to whatever it is going on inside the mouth! She returns in 2 weeks time for check up, and hopefully, the results.
Thankyou again for all the support you have given. Your posts have been great, and have really lifted me.
Take care, have a wonderful afternoon and evening.
Alison
x :)
Thanks Pansy.
Hope your life is going ok at the moment. :)
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi Sadsy
You are really kind. I guess like everyone, we all just have to get on with things the best we can. I have to say I'm just so grateful I found One Space. It has given me a true insight into how others cope, and it certainly helps me. It also allows me to let off steam, and everyone understands because we are all going through similar circumstances.
Hope you've had a stress free day.
Take care hun
Alison
x :)
You are both coping really well with your stresses and still finding time to help others.
has been a privilege to meet you both.
Hug
sy