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hello All,
Had nice relaxing weekend :D , apart from blocked ears!(nasty wax!) -which probably drove BF mad!, was like talking to a very elderly lady I would think. I was so relaxed I fell asleep on sofa not long after Dvd started, how rude of me :lol:
Ikea was good, did his kitchen plan :roll:

Ex won't sign for adultry, silly him! will be sending out pappers on his behaviour now, he won't like that!
I still need to find out what I need to do to get him off tenancy. I don't think he will sign himself off, so it needs to go to court & be decided. Should not think I will have problem there as he left, is living with other woman & I have all the kids, don't think somehow they will give tenancy to him! another thing he is being silly about :roll:

I took my children into a professional drug & alkahol help centre last week so they could have all the types of drink problems explained to them by someone other than me! I think my younger daughter has better understanding now she has heard it all from someone else, so I think it helped.

Not much else going on really.....oh! the man still comes every two weeks to put down poison for the rats!! still have them!!

Pansy x

I'm up early as I'm feeling pretty rotten!!

Diocalms to the rescue as I have things to do.

It's cold...

I'm glad the centre was able to explain things to the children. I think that a third party doing this works well - with me I have to say the primary school were absolutely brilliant. (New Head now, so not sure they would be now!).

Flaming rats. Horrid they're still there!

Glad you had a good time. :)

hello sparkling,
yes I am glad I thought of doing it. At least they know I'm not making things up about their Dad. The person we saw was someone he used to see when he went there so she knows him too. Not that she said anything to the kids or me about him personally of course, but I think it helped that they knew she had known him.

Yes RATS! I cant believe they are still around it was summer when I called them out! they are in the loft. I am very worried they will cause damage to the wiring!

Pansy x

Hi all
I have just spoken to my sister. Her chemotherapy will begin in about 2 weeks. She went to the hospital yesterday to discuss it all. The chemo will last for six months. First week will be via the drip, the following two weeks it will be tablets, which will be done at home. She isn't sure if the 4th week, there is a break or not. She couldn't remember everything she was told. They talked about various symptoms the chemo can cause. I told her to look through the leaflets as no-one can be expected to take in all the information, when there is so many things going round your head. My sister then told me that she wasn't given any leaflets!!! That has absolutely shocked me.
She has to have another scan for the lungs and liver, and will be regularly monitored. The nurse also asked if anyone in the family had ever had cancer, so my sister gave a list of the members that had, and where their cancer was. Apparantely there is a test for members of the family to have. The nurse is going to look into that!
Hope you are all having a good day.
Take care
Alison
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Hi Louise
Yes, she does have a Macmillan nurse. She has seen her twice at the hospital, and has her number should she need her for anything. I told my sister to ask for leaflets on her next visit. I think at the moment she is trying to deal with one thing at a time, which is absolutely normal of course. I guess I would have the test, should the nurse come back with all the information, and it suggested that all of the immediate family should have it.
Really cold today, and just cannot get warm. (I hate this weather) :cry:
Take care
Alison
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Loads of hugs Alison
xxxx

Hi All - nice day today?

Hi Sadsy - I am fairly sure you will already know about this but I came across the Home Owners Mortgage Support Scheme which people can apply for if finding it difficult to pay mortgage repayments and apparently in Bristol there have only been 2 applications for this scheme this year. It is available nationally but I am not sure it is really being advertised to people. Do you know of it?
Here is a link if not:
http://www.hm-treasury.gov.uk/press_135_08.htm
Good luck!
C-L

Hello everyone
I hope you are all ok. I'm thanking god that it is Friday. Feeling shattered. Went to my sisters yesterday, to help with the cleaning. Her hoover is soooo heavy. Woke up this morning with awful pain in the back. (made mental note to get her husband to buy new lighter hoover). My sister is doing ok. She had a phone call when I was there from the hospital. She has to go next week for a consultation with the nurse who will doing the chemo. My poor sister was shaking as she was writing it all down. We had a great chat, and some laughs. She is looking better than last week.
Once I'd picked my son up from school, I was exhausted, but of course, still had to do dinner, and the normal stuff, but I put myself to bed at 7 :o , and relaxed watching tv.
I'm also thanking god that my son has had a brilliant week at school. No bullying :D :D :D I just know I couldn't have handled that this week, and then I would have beaten myself up, thinking I had let him down. But, like I say, everything has been great.
I hope you all have a great weekend.
Take care
Alison
x :)

Hi all
Thankyou for your posts. I didn't think I was actually going through anything regarding my sister. As far as I'm concerned, I was being the strong one, as I always am, I was supporting her, because it is my sister who is going through this. I face every day stuff being a single parent, which is bloody hard, I have had no one to turn too, even my sister.
Just had a long conversation with other sister. Told her how I felt. I have been left alone without family when I've had operations for pre-cancer. I have these once every 2-3 years. Yes, I am bitter. I am the first to step in when someone needs me, they have their own kids, adults, and yet, they aren't around when something needs doing. Bloody families!!!!
Am really upset now, don't get me wrong, I will do anything for anyone, so why, when I need help, no one is there for me?
Sorry folks for this

Hi all
Thankyou. Furry, you are so right about choosing friends and all that.
I was on such a downer last night, think it's all caught up with me. I don't begrudge helping anyone, but I just wish sometimes, people would think about me for a change. It is very upsetting, but I guess we are all made different!!!
I spoke to my sister this morning, (not the one with cancer), and we spoke about Christmas. I hadn't even mentioned what I was doing, but she quickly got in that she was having a quiet Christmas this year!!! In other words, my son and I aren't included! Sod the lot of them, that's what I say.
Think my weekend is going from bad to worse, my digi box gave up on me last night too. Thought it was the fuse, but no, it has definately gone. Yes, it could have been worse, could have been the washing machine, or fridge I guess.
Hope you are all having a better weekend than me ;) At least the sun is shining.
Take care all
Alison
x :)

Hi Alison
Sorry you have been feeling down over the last couple of days. You have been doing so much to help your sister and hold all your own family bits and pieces together that it is no wonder, it is all catching up with you now. Do you allow yourself any 'me' time? I know it is really hard to do but it is really important. I think it is a bit like spending special time with our children, that if you can get into the routine of spending special time with your children on a daily/regular basis then it is easier to do and remember to do. Equally you can then get into the routine of having some regular time to your self to do something nice. It doesn't have to involve loads of money or going out but something that you enjoy doing or helps you to relax.
As for family members - I agree with the comment about not being able to choose family members and that just because we are from the same family, we can still be very different characters. I believe in the idea of karma that if you do good, it does come back to you but it make take time so fingers crossed!
Hope that helps and hope you have a nice weekend.
Cheers C-L

Hi Claire-Louise
Special time? What is that? Haha. Even when I want to relax in the bath, my son comes in and sits on the loo for a chat, or to read to me :lol: :lol: Of course, I have tried locking the door, but he'll sit outside and chat.
When I get on the computer, he then decides he wants to do something on it! Today has been a bit of a battle between the two of us. Yesterday, I did my cleaning, and the living room was spotless (no toys, books). His bedroom was tidied, (toys and books in their places). Today, it is back to normal with his stuff in every room I go in!!!! I could rant and rave all day, and it wouldn't bother him. Some days I am on the verge of tears through sheer frustration, and then I remember what other people say, (their kids have grown and left home). They always tell me to let my son enjoy his childhood, the mess won't last forever, soon he will be all grown-up and I will wish for these days back! (can this possibly be true) :lol: :lol:
When I am really peeved off, totally fed up etc, that's when the smallest things spiral out of control. I guess we are all like that eh?
I was just chilling out enjoying my dinner, when 'splat', my son drops his pizza on the carpet. Another mess to clean up. Somedays, it's never ending isn't it?
Despite my moaning this weekend I wouldn't be without him, and I love the ground he walks on. He's the reason I get up in the mornings I guess, he's the reason I smile, I just love him to bits.
I hope you are having a lovely weekend, and hopefully no mess in the house!!
Take care
Alison
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Did I mention that my daughter's arm is in plaster? :roll:

Hi There Alison - Sorry to hear ebout your neighbour, I hope things are better for them today. How are you? I agree that Louise's idea on timings is really useful. I use an egg timer for my son's time on the computer (he is into Ben10 too!). He can tell the time but it can be a real struggle getting him off so the egg timer serves as an extra reminder! My children now use the egg timer for me when I am on the computer too which is amusing! But you could try that idea for allowing you to have some space as well - might be worth setting him up with something before you do your thing aswell but I know what you mean, it is hard my children always want to play near me rather than in the palyroom upstairs. I have started to do something my mum always did with us where I put all the toys and bits on the stairs that belong upstairs and each time everyone goes upstairs they have to take something up. We always have a toy tidy up before bath time too. And we have a group cleaning session each saturday morning too - but I am a real slave driver and have been told by friends that I run a real 'tight ship'!!!
About the digi box - do you know about freecycle? Do they have it in your area? If so then they often have digi boxes on there which people are getting rid of and are free - there is not anything wrong with them generally just people moving on to the next best model and chucking out their previous one so might be worth giving that a go. Could be a good way to cover the period until you can afford a new one at least.
Hope you can have a good nights sleep tonight with less worries and be in touch soon.
Cheers C-L

My daughter (and two of my boys) have been doing a weely water thing at the local national water centre. Yesterday they were asked if they wanted to go windsurfing, and three did. They have a simulator on dry land - four foot in the air on a wobbly thing, and over concrete :roll: It was windy yesterday, and a gust of wind caught the sail and threw my daughter on the ground. Lucky really she landed on her hands and not her head.

No breaks, but as her wrist is tender they now automatically plaster it (scaffoid?). Back in two weeks when she'll have another X-ray which will show if this bone has broken or not.

Thirteen year old was bouncing around the house, as he's won... The last one without a plaster cast, that is :D

I'd just like to say that an arm in plaster is so much easier than a leg in plaster!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sparkling- hope daughters arm is better soon, sounds like a bit of a weird activity to be doing over concrete!

Louise- well done for going to the gym! I am still going, try to go 3 times a week for an hour. I am really seeing a differnce now. My tummy is going down & legs are taking shape. BF's tummy is getting bigger though, shhh! I keep telling him it isn't :lol:

Alison- I can't believe all you go through. you are such an inspiration & still find time to come on here & help others.

Hello to everyone else.

I am going for a personal record today, you may have noticed, I am answering as many posts as I can & bringing old ones back :lol: needs shaking up a bit on here :lol: :lol:

Pansy x

Maybe I have developed ADHD?

I seem to be hyperactive on these threads. Really need to get up & go to gym now I think!

Pansy x

I done it! been to gym :D prepared dinner ready to put on when I have collected daughter from college.
unfortunatly still have lots of tidying & cleaning to do. Am also avoiding solicitor form & phoning up about car repairs that need doing! so am now back to DSD for 45 mins until I have to go back out. will then be evening by the time I have done dinner etc, no time for phoning about cars. will do tomorrow.

WHY am I writing it all on here?

am quite sure I have gone mad today!

Pansy x