hello
We used to have mice in the amusingly called 'family home'. Not rats in the house, although I did see them outside...
Sy - go to badminton. I know it will be a struggle to get yourself there when you're feeling down, but you need to do this for you. You can do this.
Hello hello!!
How is everyone? Sounds like Y could be busy in the evenings, but please don't leave us.
I am sorry for upset caused over the kissing week, although this was very sweet and caring I felt that it was beginning to get a bit raunchy :o and I had to borrow Louise's imaginary specs and peer over them at everyone to remind them that this is ultimately a parenting support online group! And we didn't want to be X-rated!!! I felt a liitle mean, but I have to be bossy thats my job.
So no-one is to take is personally please. It is great reading your posts from the last couple of days, I wish I had been online too for chat. When we first started this site, I tried to run a Wednesday Night Natter and every Wednesday I would be online waiting to chat to people all at the same time. However it never worked, tut, so it got scrapped.
I am going to set up a new group on the boards and call it Evening Chat Room, (no this doesn't mean that after dark activities can go on here!!) it is so that if people are online in the evening and want to chat more than leaving a message on a particular subject then they can go there. I will let you know when it is set up and I will move this post to that section.
Pansy I hope you daughter is brightening up this afternoon, she needs a girly treat with her mum, is there anything you can do, to remind her that she is great?
Sadsy - fantastic news about your internet being on at home, I bet you are well pleased, good idea of sparklinglimes to go to badminton even if you are not feeling like it, you will feel better afterwards.
Sparklinglime - your post about the homelessness is fantastic and definitely NOT boring or snoozy, be proud of what you have achieved and then being able to write it down so clearly.
Speak on other threads soon :)
Oh sadsy
It was lovely that you felt free and happy enough to want to be kissing everyone!
The last thing I wanted to do was hurt anyone, It is important that everyone visiting the site feels safe and happy here. .
We think you are fab and we love having you on the boards and everyone enjoys your messages, when you turned formal and that was really funny, so please feel free to share hugs etc, just no swapping of bodily fluids!!! :lol:
I now declare the Evening Chat room open!
If you are online in the evening and want to chat more than leaving a message on a particular subject please visit here: http://groups.onespace.org.uk/viewforum.php?f=23
You can also find it at the bottom of the list of Online Groups.
I have decided to leave this topic here as it has been really useful and can carry on being used, so please feel free to leave messages here too.
Hopefully the Evening Chat room can be the one place where you can find everyone.
That's lucky, as I have run out of Zambucca at the moment!
Please do feel free to join in the Evening Chat, everyone. I think it is a fab idea and will be popping in from time to time in the evenings, accompanied by my trusty imaginary glasses heh heh :D
Hi Sadsy
You have had one of those "moments". I don't mean it only lasts a moment, it is like a body blow. As you say, it is horrid to think it has all come to this. I hope badminton will help you; it is good to make the effort to go even when you don't feel like it.
Hopefully there will be some members on Evening Chat when you get back....
Been running around. In-laws for tea, then youngest to football, then shopping, collecting youngest and depositing three children at their dad's.
Eldest and me then making a mad dash to get to Halfords before it shut, only to find that the belt he needs for his car wasn't in - as promised :roll:
I was so hungry, I just made me an omelette before sitting down - and ate that at 9pm! Waiting for the children to come back now. The Git had asked for 6 - 8, but told him that I would take the children there after youngest's football. No idea what time they'll be back, although 'now' is actually the two hours up! We shall see.
Third time he's seen them during the holidays - the other two time were 6 - 8pm.
I'm so glad you went to badminton Sy. It's a routine, and the routine is going to be important.
Try and write down, if you can, what's going on. Maybe we can break it down and reason things through.
Remember with Solicitor's letters. They write what they're told to by their client. And boy did I come to understand that when I was getting divorced. Again, try and say what's written, and we can work through them between us all.
We're all here for you. However bad a day, we're here.
Well, at least I am now I'm not lurking after my blip... And even then I was lurking...
Oh heck pansy, I am sorry.
When we moved we had to part with guinea pigs, and when we were homeless, we even had to consider parting with the dogs - and had found a home for them, but wonderful people at the kennels homed them for over two months, and never charged me a penny. The were brilliant guys.
Sending hugs and strength. Wishing somehow, someway I could ease all this sadness. Even the weather is sad here.
part of the lyrics from Take That, The Circus "Said It All"
All of the miles of words we've spoken
All of the lines that got away
Didn't we take the time to say them all
I think that must be quite satisfying really. That part of the song moves me to tears, as I had so many questions that I know will never be answered.
I'm so glad your badminton is coming back - told you it would (**know all grin on face**)
Solicitors - just try to remember their being told what to write. Not so much a fight, but persistance in putting your view point forward.
You can do this Sy.
Take care
Hope tomorrow is a better day for everyone
You'll soon be smashing along with the best of them!
I'm sure you'll break your heart this weekend - and who can blame you?
You're sounding positive about the future with the training - that would be good. I've no doubt you'll succeed.
Arwen - not unusual at her age - easily distracted.
Luke - bless him.
xx
Good morning everyone
Only sparkling lime made it into Evening Chat then? do try it out, guys, then others will join in if you are in there :D
Pansy, sounds like you had a heck of a day. Every day will have its challenges during this time (some more than others) It will get better eventually, you have to hang on in the meantime.
Sparkling what time did the children get back in the end? Were they Ok?
Sadsy this vision you have of yourself as a little boy, have you talked to your counsellor about this? I ask because many counsellors (not all) will do some work with clients and their "inner child" and this can be very helpful and healing. So I think it is a good thing you are thinking about this.
Hi sadsy
Good Luck with the meeting, you know, everything that you have gone through in the last 2/3 months sets you up in good stead for any future venture you wish to partake in. You have shown on these boards that although times have been tough, you have soldiered on and you will succeed. You have been through more in the last few weeks than many people go through in a lifetime. Be proud, that little boy inside is proud I am sure, and when the dust settles you will find him again and re connect and enjoy him.
Great to hear that the badminton went well, it sounded as if it actually did help your mood, would you agree?
How was it? Do you feel a weight off your shoulders? Did you get the extra training?
Oh heck Sy.
It's happening to so many now. It's as if the whole country is overwhelmingly sad.
You have great talents, and can learn quickly, from what you've said, so I'm quite certain you really do have a great future ahead. Finding the strength to turn things round though is what will be the challenge though.
I'm so sorry this is happening.
Scouts night for me, so I'm not sure if I will make it to the evening chat room. At least not until about 10pm. I need to leave for Scouts at about 5pm to take a tent down. We have a fitness instrucor coming this evening. I think I'll go into the committee room!!
Loads of hugs. These virtual hugs are sincere...
Children were home shortly after I posted. Funny. Last time they came home - that night when I planned my birthday evening out that was cancelled - they'd had loads of biscuits and sweets and even brought some packets home. Yesterday they just had the usual DVD (which they enjoyed - they go for two hours, and he always rents a DVD for them to watch - can't beat quality time :roll: ) and no treats. Shows the last evening was a sabotage plan.
You'd think that being married and having no responsibilities would mean he could just leave me alone, wouldn't you? I've never interfered with his choices. Other than refusing to tolerate them going on while we were married and him brain-washing the children...
Git.
It's done.
I'm out.
sy
I'm sorry.
With the 'Y' thing. Might work if we both click on it to open a window...
Need to go to town. Back later...
You take care
xxx
Hi sadsy, as I said earlier, you have been through huge overhaul in every aspect of your life.
Your mental state is probably not as sharp and controllable as it would normally be in less pressured circumstances, so just be kind to you, give yourself as many breaks as you can and when things start to settle, you will find that everything is clearer and easier to cope with.
What are your plans for the rest of the day? Are you still in work?
Hi pansy, sorry to hear that you had to lose your animals, I hope it wasn't too depressing for you and that it actually makes you feel a little free-er from any extra responsibilities, that you don't need at the moment.
Your poor daughter, she has been going through tough times too at the moment. I hope you are finding the strength within to look after her, as well as your other two and yourself? It is so not easy is it?
I am excited for you to be having friends to stay, my daughter and I love it. Do you have plans, or will you just be able to hang out drink tea and chat??
Whatever you do, have fun and speak to you soon.
Ooh, secret special plan!!......what is it??
Sorry, I'm struggling.
So mixed up at the moment.
Moving rectangles around on a screen not that interesting.
sy