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Pansy

yes, I think she has just found out the hard way about boys & sex!

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 9:20pm
sadsy

Pansy,
I am so sorry for your daughter. It's so awful. She must be inconsolable and angry all at once. It's really upsetting. I still can't believe it. Thank goodness she has you there for her.

Not all boys are the same though...

Sorry I'm back, internet has come on unexpectedly.

sy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:09pm
Pansy

what at home?

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:13pm
Pansy

how did counsoller go ?

OOOOh have you got internet at home now????

And do you have an idea about these instant messanger things, because now I have done it I dont know how to work it, it is far to complicated for me!!

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:17pm
sadsy

Hello Pansy,
One Space is not safe now I am unleashed again! Internet is back at home!

Quote:
And do you have an idea about these instant messanger things, because now I have done it I dont know how to work it, it is far to complicated for me!!

I have noooo idea what you are talking about?

What is it?

sy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:28pm
sadsy

oh, there's a 'Y' thing on your post - where does it go?

click

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:30pm
Pansy

It is so you can instant message, talk online, a box pops up. I only know about it because daughters use MSN messanger, but it carries virus so am reluctant to use that one. Oh no good asking you then!

how did it go tonight, is it helping?

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:34pm
Pansy

:o

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:40pm
Pansy

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Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:44pm
sadsy

Hello,
counsellor say I'm under incredible stress.

I'm still at survival stage - even now - not to look too far ahead. Just the day I am on.
I told him I can't get my eyes done and then tell him I don't have money to pay him. So I will wait till later. Not ethical. First time he lost for an answer. Did tell him about kissing week. He say I need therapy for years to get over pain and trauma of kissing week*.

He say I look very tired and need more sleep. Try take anti-D in morning, as it can interfere with sleep. Not to forget though!

How is your daughter Pansy, it has been so heartbreaking for her. How does a parent make sense of it all for her?
I feel I should apologise for male-kind. It's really upsetting.

Are you having wine tonight?

hug

sy

*of course he didn't!

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:45pm
sadsy

Pansy...

Quote:
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This is, er, very cryptic.

sy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:48pm
Pansy

Oh Sy, I'm really sorry yes I have had wine tonight & am being very stupid again!

I have to put serious head on now because you are suffering. You are under so much stress this week with leaving work & with court case next week & house & not seeing children & I am just being silly again. I'm sorry!

I don't actually know how you are doing it, you are amazing to carry on even. Maybe the worst will be over in a few months from now, it is just so hard that everything is happening to you at once.

You really need your sleep now, you should go & try & get some sleep.
I am glad your internet is working now, so at least you wont need to feel so alone at home.
Big hug ((()))
Pansy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:54pm
Pansy

uummm... yes I deleted it & may have to go back & delete the one before it too.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 10:56pm
sadsy

Oh no Pansy,
have your wine and enjoy it! No need for serious head. Whatever head you like is fine.

Odd that you mention suffering, as I say that to myself tonight in car, "I don't want to suffer anymore".
Feeling sorry for myself. Very self indulgent of me.

I put a note in my calendar way back last month that popped up - to myself - "book blood test for kidney function - hope you are happier now - love simon"

aaaaw, nice of me to think of me, hehe.

hug
sy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:03pm
sadsy

Oh - I've clicked the Y button - has it worked?

sy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:06pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Sy - have you read my very long post yet?

That will have you snoring in seconds. 8-)

Pansy, I was teasing my son about a girl the other evening and then we started to tease my daughter who said

What's the point of love anyway? It brings you no joy

I feel really bad about this, as this is what I've taught her.

Life isnt' easy, and I'm sorry your daughter is finding this out so soon.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:09pm
Pansy

you have every right to think of you at a time like this in your life & YOU need to be at the top of your list.

I am quite sure you will end up with a beautiful life when all the pain has left & cleared way for the new. Thats life isn't it!
& you seem a person who deserves the best.

hug
pansy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:09pm
Pansy

sparklinglime wrote:
Sy - have you read my very long post yet?

That will have you snoring in seconds. 8-)

Pansy, I was teasing my son about a girl the other evening and then we started to tease my daughter who said

What's the point of love anyway? It brings you no joy

I feel really bad about this, as this is what I've taught her.

Life isnt' easy, and I'm sorry your daughter is finding this out so soon.

I know awful isn't it, that they have to find out about life!
you just want to protect them from everything don't you. First her Dad went now she feels used by boyfriend & is really regreting what she done.

Dont feel bad Sparkling, they all say that anyway, no matter what they have been through, ha! teenagers.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:13pm
Pansy

It wont work Sy, you have to have yahoo messanger yourself for it to work, then you can message people with it, but I'm not sure I have done it right anyway, I dont like these things may scrub round it if my friend cant help, I'll ask her tomorrow.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:16pm
Pansy

bubblegum has got one of these yahoo things I maybe I could ask him if I cant find out.

you should be sleeping!
go to bed!

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:19pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

he's nodded off reading the very long post I posted.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:21pm
sadsy

You two,
why is boys causing pain an inevitable fact of life?
Surely both sexes stumble through teenage relationships hurting eachother?

Except me, got burnt a couple of times at school then waited till I was 27. Aah well.
I miss school sweetheart Debra's hairy legs. She was so cuddly. sigh

sy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:23pm
Pansy

sparkling I didn't find that boring at all, I don't think anyone did. I am glad you posted it, it really makes you think how easy things can change, all these things we take for granted!

I often thought that maybe ex would end up a homeless person on the streets one day, because I often had a feeling he would just vanish one day & no one would know where he had gone. Dont know why really.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:25pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

It's just that in this case Pansy's daughter's pain is being caused by a boy, and it was a comment my daughter made....

It's not being a generalistic debate against boys, honest. My son has had upsetting things from a couple of girls.

I think this board shows the pain that either sex can cause against the other.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:26pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

See, at this point I could say to Pansy, aren't blokes sensitive?! Taking things personally 8-)

But I won't... :D

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:27pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Changing subject while Sy snores after reading aforementioned post.

Pansy, do you get DLA for your daughter? I get it with my son who has aspurger's.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:29pm
sadsy

help,
where is this long post - I've got to lay out cushions on floor in a mo...

sy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:30pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

a few threads below this.

My story, homelessness...

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:31pm
Pansy

do you know I'm seriously starting to wonder if I have an eating disorder! :lol: I cant believe I am drinking this wine & not wanting food or maltesers! I have only had 4.5 point of food in weightwatcher terms, today. And all my clothes are starting to fall off! I am so pleased but dread the day I will be binging again, hope it never returns!

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:31pm
Pansy

sparklinglime wrote:
See, at this point I could say to Pansy, aren't blokes sensitive?! Taking things personally 8-)

But I won't... :D

:lol:

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:32pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

I can down a bottle on an empty stomach and be fine.

I've never had a hangover, even in the days when I used to have the odd night out.

Two years and nine days since The Git last had he children stay there.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:33pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Pansy wrote:
sparklinglime wrote:
See, at this point I could say to Pansy, aren't blokes sensitive?! Taking things personally 8-)

But I won't... :D

:lol:

:D

8-)

:roll:

xxx

;)

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:34pm
Pansy

sparklinglime wrote:
Changing subject while Sy snores after reading aforementioned post.

Pansy, do you get DLA for your daughter? I get it with my son who has aspurger's.

yes I do sparkling & son also. I don't know how I'd cope without it! Also cares allowance because although what CA you get it taken off any income support, you are given a premium on your income support because of getting CA, if that makes any sense. Hope you are claiming that too Sparkling.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:36pm
sadsy

wooooot?
Wheeeeeeen have I ever taken things personally?

Aaaaannnd no more talk of clothes falling off.
I'm still trying to recover from kissing week.

sy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:36pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Pansy wrote:
sparklinglime wrote:
Changing subject while Sy snores after reading aforementioned post.

Pansy, do you get DLA for your daughter? I get it with my son who has aspurger's.

yes I do sparkling & son also. I don't know how I'd cope without it! Also cares allowance because although what CA you get it taken off any income support, you are given a premium on your income support because of getting CA, if that makes any sense. Hope you are claiming that too Sparkling.

Yes, I get that too. Huge difference!

No one ever adviced me to claim until I was getting income support.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:37pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

sadsy wrote:
wooooot?
Wheeeeeeen have I ever taken things personally?

Aaaaannnd no more talk of clothes falling off.
I'm still trying to recover from kissing week.

sy

Who was talking of clothes falling off? What have I missed?

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:38pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

I so want toast

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:38pm
Pansy

sparklinglime wrote:
I can down a bottle on an empty stomach and be fine.

I've never had a hangover, even in the days when I used to have the odd night out.

Two years and nine days since The Git last had he children stay there.

Oh no! I never thought before. No respite for you either :( well I say either but hope my ex will come once a month like he said so I can go away or out alot!

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:40pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Nope. No respite.

Not a day when I haven't had to sort out tea - even if its buying fish and chips as I can't face cooking!

I try and focus on the fact the children are happier.

But I'm so tired. So very tired.

And mother-in-law telling me how happy The Git is - well, he would be wouldn't he??? To be fair she is his step-mother, and is very supportive.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:42pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Two years since I last went to the cinema!

A year now since I last went for a bar snack - it was after a Scout camp, and I went out with the then Leaders...

Sad, isn't it? No wonder I wallow!

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:44pm
sadsy

Here it is,

Quote:
And all my clothes are starting to fall off!

M'Lud - how do you plead to the charge of wilfully mentioning clothes abandonment in presence of Sadsy? Do you deny the charge?
Pansy - no sir, I'm really very guilty M'Lud
M'Lud - SEND HER DOWN!
M'Lud - er, leave the maltesers there on the parapit, please.

sy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:47pm
Pansy

Well do you know I went no where when ex WAS HERE! or We went nowhere, even. Like i've said before emotional prision I lived in! life has passed me by for years, but I am planning on living it from now on!

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:48pm
Pansy

sadsy wrote:
Here it is,

Quote:
And all my clothes are starting to fall off!

M'Lud - how do you plead to the charge of wilfully mentioning clothes abandonment in presence of Sadsy? Do you deny the charge?
Pansy - no sir, I'm really very guilty M'Lud
M'Lud - SEND HER DOWN!
M'Lud - er, leave the maltesers there on the parapit, please.

sy

typical! only you could pick out a sentence like that!

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:51pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

hahaha!!

Clothes abandonment!

I wouldn't dare. The laughter would be deafening.

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:51pm
sadsy

Quote:
life has passed me by for years, but I am planning on living it from now on!

GGOOOO FOR IT PANSY!

Cheeeer!

sy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:51pm
Pansy

sparklinglime wrote:
hahaha!!

Clothes abandonment!

I wouldn't dare. The laughter would be deafening.

Yes actually...that would go for me too!

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:52pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

I'm not sure if I'd know what to do on a night out now! Although, sadly, I have no one to go with anyway, so little point worrying!

:lol:

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:54pm
Pansy

can you hear the coggs working sparkling??

he is trying to think what he can say to us now! :lol:

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:54pm
sadsy

Sparkling!
that is too long!

Quote:
Two years since I last went to the cinema!

I would offer to babysit, but I fear you would return to find me all trussed -up and hanging upside-down from the kitchen light. "Oh yes, they've been good as gold!". "Movie any good?"

sy

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:55pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Eldest can babysit!

Heck, the whole forum could go for a night out!

We should all watch a film that's on tele (sorry bubblegum) together and chat about it on here!

That would be a night out for me

Posted on: August 18, 2009 - 11:57pm