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"What happens if I disagree with the findings and recommendations of the report?

If there are inaccuracies in the report, write to the CAFCASS Officer without delay asking for the report to be corrected.

A common mistake that parents make is to believe that a CAFCASS Officer is being critical of them, when the Officer is simply repeating allegations that the other parent has made. Your opportunity to defend against the other party’s allegations, should they be sufficiently serious, should come in court.

If you disagree with the recommendations within the report and/or find it contains factual inaccuracies, you are likely to want to make the court aware of this, and cross-examine (question) the CAFCASS Officer in court. The Officer will normally only be attending court if directed to do so by the Judge. If there are aspects of the report which you disagree with, you should consider asking the Judge to direct that the CAFCASS Officer attend court for this purpose.

You also may wish to enter a ‘Position Statement’ into court upon receipt and consideration of the report, but before the next hearing. In this, you might choose to set out what parts of the report (if any) cause you concern. Briefly set out those concerns (or alternatively comment that you are in agreement with the CAFCASS Officer’s recommendations) and hand your Position Statement into the court administration department. Also deliver it to the other party and CAFCASS, ideally 48 hours before the next hearing. This pre-warns the Judge of any issues which may need to be considered and allows time to consider your ‘position’ on their report.

While technically, any statement should be requested by the court, in practice, most Judges are appreciative of being pre-warned of any issues which may arise at a hearing. Be aware though that on rare occasions, a Judge may refused to accept the Position Statement if he did not direct that the parties should prepare one. The key is to keep a Position Statement short, ideally to a couple of pages. Do not assume that any statement has been read prior to walking into court, as time pressures on the judiciary sometimes prevent this. Make sure you raise any issues verbally as well."

OMG! This is the Havering/Ilford one, parts of Ofsted's findings Dec 09:

"Management information is often out of date or inaccurate and few performance targets are met. Complaints handling and the contribution by Cafcass to the promotion of improved outcomes for children and young people are inadequate, in particular in private law, where the impact of family breakdown on health, education and economic outcomes for children is not well considered or addressed."

"However, the effectiveness of first-line managers is not consistent across the service 

area. Significant challenges remain for national and local managers, including 

"Performance management is inadequate overall.

The service area is failing to meet its key performance targets. Despite a clear focus

on performance management, the service area is not improving the quality of

practice and timeliness of service provision quickly enough. The Quality for Children

(Q4C) performance management system has the potential to provide robust

information to drive service improvement but data about the quality of practice are

not captured or used consistently. Too often shortfalls in practice are only identified

retrospectively, thus failing to have the required impact on practice or on outcomes

for children and young people.

Service data, particularly information about children and families who use the

Cafcass service, are not reliable and are misleading. Consequently, the information

provided in the service area cannot be relied upon by managers as a basis from

which to make effective decisions to meet the needs of children and young people."

GF is going to her village show. I will miss going, but is probable for the best. 

I was particularly interested in the display of local men's prize spuds. There were 3 entries last year with GF ex winning 2nd prize for "best presented spuds 2009". Lovely condition and size I heard.

Will miss the village display of remarkable local melons too, sob. 

sorry - I watched carry-on movies as a child, am claiming innocence on ground of diminished responsibility

Hmm, have printed off the solicitor's form for consent from GP.

I didn't like the wording and the solicitor has made the mistake of sending a word document to me. Sigh. When will these people learn?

Have changed the wording to something I'm more comfortable with. Lol.

Wonder if she'll notice?

Hug sy

night night.

sy

Am fearing failure at rescinding police harassment letter. sigh. I find it hard to bare unfair things.

Might have another tea and look at Cafcass report marking-up.

I want to concentrate on prepping for getting back to work, but I am so behind with the legal things.

Sparkling, how will GIT and GITESS moving help you? You won't get the opportunity to mow them down in ASDA car park if they go. 

Thank you all for your comment. Back to school is tough time. I do not get any information from ex as to what the children need. If she did I would rather not give her cash, but the item that was needed.

I have bought winter coats (TKMAX is great for these) and those horribly expensive shoes from Clarks and school equipment off ebay, as well as the proper direct deductions from my benefit.

I ask for info from the school regarding what items are likely to be needed during the year or if there are any excursions and their cost.

This is quite a hot topic so I will try not to cover much more. I hope I am not judged too harshly. When I have an income I may be better placed to help, however relations are so poor because of the protagonistic arena that is family law that I will get little info from ex.

I'm not feeling guilty at having a horse ride today to keep me going (£15). I only have to walk into the children's empty room, still and quiet to find any sympathy for ex rapidly evaporate. Also, the purchase of a £700 fish tank and and at least £100 of live stock affects my trust in her judgement.

I can remember speaking to ex's lover and attempting to make bridges in the early weeks, however keeping A back for 1 month after she was taken was the end. A line was crossed for me, fuelled by L arrogance. There's no way back.

BBQ - wasps are a pain this time of year, they seem so desperate.

Scarcasm - it does slip in from time to time - I won't let points go uncovered or job responsibilities go unmet. I am a pain in the butt.

Counselling - Mum coming with me tomorrow night. Dynamics will be a bit different. Wonder how it will go?

GIT - maybe a term I am earning? I reckon he would respond more to requests for items than to cash. It might give him back some of the fun of parenting, choosing shoes or clothes etc? All right it's a long-shot.

Dentist - "The Iranian Torturer" says I need a crown. She was very nice to me and knows full well what Citalopram is. I just need to make sure she uses anaesthetic.

Yeovil - this garage has just supplied GF's car back worse than when it went in. Am worried now when I take mine down. Gulp.

Am thinking of the future, and how there can be any communications when the lawyers have gone away. What will happen? My original plan was that Relate would find a way of us still communicating about the children. Sadly that did not work, I just cried for 30 mins and then we were told we were unsuitable.

Am I doing enough for the children? I am worried now. I am still paying off ex's debts. I just don't know.

Sy

Ugh, my mac's fan is about to fail. It is making tremendous racket. I think the laptop's major operation will have to happen soon. Have been putting it off. All those tiny weeny screws.

Have a battery to fit in the espace. Will it come to life?

I don't see that children asking for something specific that they need is a harmful thing unless abused as a method by a parent. I reckon it would work where parents hate eachother and cannot bare the thought of giving cash to their ex.