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Sy, quite seriously, I can never see me with a boyfriend again.
Wonky legs are an immediate bad start, as there would be no walks, and a small house packed with children and our things means there's no room anyway!
Besides, the cat likes having most of my bed to stretch out in!
Sadsy I hope you have not been fibbing, like Pinocchio :-) Seriously, I think if any of us look for long enough at ourselves then it is easy to start thinking these things. I know if I have a spot on my face, it feels the size of a 50p piece and I think everyone is noticing it but actually no-one is going to get that close and from ten paces it is probably invisible.
Sparkling lime, never say never, but I think you are saying "not now". Life will be very different in ten years' time but it is good to take these things as they come and be happy with how things are in the present.
(...rushes to mirror and examines ever-lengthening nose with horror....)
Better hadn't. I have such a cute nose. If I broke it I'd be so upset (how vain can you get??!).
My children all have the "Jones" nose, thank goodness, as The Git's nose is not the nicest I've seen...
Don't push to far with this drugs thing Sy by contacting these people. Personally I can only see this as making waves and not acquiring anything relevant. Making things more acrimonious will not help with things.
All you can do is put evidence you have forward. Hear-say will not be considered.
What did the solicitor say when you asked about residence? I'm guessing this will be something where CAFCASS will come into it - even if it does involve being "nice" when you don't really want to be.
Hello sadsy
Fathers can and do get majority care of children but it varies from family to family and you need to be guided by your own solicitor. You do need to submit any evidence you have about the drugs and ask that your children's mother's fiance is assessed as to suitability. You could also ask that CASCASS is in touch with the children's school as authorities are really only concerned if there is a detrimental effect on the children.
Wishing you well with it all
Sorry I did not make myself very clear. I meant that the school may be able to provide some confirmation of any detrimental effects to the children and any dealings with the two adults that may have worried them....and authorities take more notice of what is said by the school and the Health Visitor etc than what is said by the two warring parents
Hi Sy. I don't think you should have any doubt whatsoever that your children think about you. In years to come, you can produce all of this evidence to show how much you fought for them. You are doing everything that you can. Sometimes when they don't want to talk, or seem distant, it is possible that they are either watching tv, playing, etc. I know it is easy for me to say, but please don't take it to heart. Once when my son's 'sperm doner' rang, (he had a certain time, but chose to ignore that), my son was watching tv, and couldn't be bothered, so the sperm doner got most of upset and didn't bother ringing back!!!!
Of course they think of you, it is just that most children live in their own, egotistical world and so cannot be expected to be as thoughtful as an adult. It can be really hurtful to us (well, it is to me).
You have done a lot today. The Sports Centre thing sounds good. Bladder on a stick? now THERE'S an image to conjure with, lol.
Hope you and GF will get some time to relax this weekend
Sadsy I think you would go down a treat at the school play in a jester's outfit, lol
I am sure L will do very well in his play.
Hope you have a good weekend
He has no reason to interfere, and I'm sure the hall will be big enough for you all.
The Git doesn't come to anything now (although I always prepare myself for him turning up), but it was ok sitting on opposite ends of the room! Your focus is the children anyway.
Hope you and your mum have a good journey and really enjoy it. I'm sure L will be chuffed having you all there...
Welcome back, sadsy
Your poor mum! The last thing she needs is that sort of call.
This hot weather has a lot of answer for in terms of people not agreeing with each other. There were a few days the week before last where everyone in this house disagreed with everyone else (and most of the rest of the world)
What does today hold for you?
Your Mum is young.
My auntie is 88 and is very active still.
I have to say, the way you have spoken about your mum, I thought she was older.
Don't tell her off again though. She's being put on the spot and wants to do the best for her son and grandchildren. A call like that can catch you off guard.
She really does sound like a wonderful Mum.
Cherish her.
Hi Sy. I am sure GF is right. Women always are you know :)
Enjoy L's show later. I'm sure he'll do you proud as always, and do as GF says, don't ask ex's boyfriend about drugs. To antagonize him isn't a good move.
Your Mum definately isn't old, but I'm sure she looks as young as Pansys!!
Take care
Alison
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Hi Pansy, I'm soooooo glad you said Sadsy's lost the plot and not me hehe.
How are you doing? Hope things have settled a little bit for you.
Take care
Alison
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Hi Pansy, well done for surviving the first year. You've had many ups and downs, but you've pulled through each hurdle. Keep looking toward the future :)
Uhmmm, Prince Charles talks to his plants too!!! Says it all really hehe
Take care
Alison
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OMG Sy, only a man would say that! How did L's play go? I'm sure you and your Mum were really proud of him. Was A there as well? Hope it all went off ok.
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Hello sadsy
One of my favourite sayings is "Sometimes I sits and thinks. Sometimes I just sits" Does that sound accurate?
Sorry but I did have to do a small "delete", especially at the request of the person the comment was about. Also if there is any mention of PMT I would keep your head below the parapet, there are too many of us ladies on here for you to say things like that! Look forward to your moral dilemma, though, as long as it is not about "gardening" or similar, lol
Am lost now. Wasn't that just about a bush or something? Guess I'm missing something here, oh well, comes with age I'm sure hehe
Pansy, I would vote yes on all hehe. DEFINATELY the pmt bit!!!!
Hi pansy, I can't believe it has been a year :O
It is always good to be able to look back and recognise that you are in a better place today than a year ago. You have been through so much, with more ongoing, hopefully there will a time when this is all in the distant past and you feel strong, confident a completely different woman!
Its great to have you on the boards, when you have the time, you have been a great asset to One Space, please treat yourself to something nice from us :)
Tut, my imaginary glasses are scarcely in their case these days!
No gender bias; the gardening thing was only deleted because it gave some personal info about someone else, whereas the next gardening reference was to some action that might be taken by the poster themselves. DOH! I have confused myself now, no more gardening references please (plough your own furrow, reap what you sow, call a spade a spade, phew got those all out of the way before anyone else does)
So: how is everyone's Tuesday going then? :-)
My Tuesday is going absolutely great thankyou Louise. Enjoying a little chuckle on here, as I'm sure others are too :)
Weather not wonderful. Has been raining on and off all day. Dare I say this, but it is of course good for the garden!!!
Hehehehe
I've just come to the conclusion that I'm permanently grumpy.
No excuse needed...
Sparkling, you're not grumpy. You're 'perfect' remember? hehe
Sounds like L did well in his play, sadsy, you must be very proud :-) yes , after a sitting day, you will probably get a more active day.
Sparkling lime, you are about as grumpy as a teddy bear i.e. never. What you sometimes are is justifiably cross or upset about bad things that happen.
It never used to hang down so much.