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sadsy

Paulasgems,

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I thought I cant have 3 all with something wrong, but apparently I can!

Paulasgems, you have 3 lovely children. You have taught them so much. They are not wrong as such, just have a tendency towards certain behaviours, which we all do. It's what makes us unique characters. It is not your fault in any way. Please don't torture yourself.
Who wants to be "normal" anyhow, how dull is that?

Your daughter has sought/agreed help. I am still so amazed and impressed by that. I know it is your teaching that has given her the maturity to do this. That lovely noble spirit you have.

Night night

sy

Posted on: August 4, 2009 - 10:57pm
Pansy

thanks for kind words. I'm ok about it honest, I just think I should have done something sooner for her thats all.

shame about your wish list, no excuse though, you can do it again, you may think of more things!
goodnight, now remember, sweet dreams no sour ones ;)
Paula

Posted on: August 4, 2009 - 11:50pm
sadsy

Hello Paulasgems,
hope you are having a sunny day. How about chasing butterflies with fishing nets? Can be fun? Work for me.

Also, badminton tonight. 30 new people to meet :o been 14 years. bit scared.

Also, have no shorts. Need to look in reigate at lunchtime.

love

sy

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 7:34am
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hi everybody

Sy you had better get some shorts otherwise you will shock 30 people :oops: Anyway you can get a much smaller wasit size now! Have you had a look at the ACAS website as sparkling suggests? How did counsellor go?

Paula it is always easy to look back and regret things, but now you must look forward and get the hlep and support you can and stay stong for your lovely children

Sparkling, glad the cards are up! Hope you have a good day today

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 10:15am
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

sadsy wrote:
Thank you sparkling:

I'm going to find a poem for you each day as it's your birthday week:

There are times only when a Mother's love
Can understand our tears,
Can soothe our disappointments
And calm all our fears.

There are times when only a Mother's Love
Can share the joy we feel
When something we've dreamed about
Quite suddenly is real.

There are times when only a Mother's faith
Can help on life's way
And inspire in us the confidence
We need from day to day.

For a Mother's heart and a Mother's faith
And a Mother's steadfast love
Were fashioned by the Angels
And sent from God above...

huug
sy

That's so lovely. I know it wasn't meant to - but I do miss my mum. It would have been her birthday this month.

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 10:55am
sadsy

Hi Sparkling,
your mum is with you all the time, she is part of you.
All the things she taught you. Are with you every day.

love
sy

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:03am
sadsy

I'm feeling overwhelmed. I can't be employment law expert by tomorrow for meeting.
I have too much on. I can't fight all these areas of my life at once.
sy

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:13am
sadsy

Also,
my American colleague has gone today (redundancy) and sent me a lovely email from work. I know she is having a hard time. I'd like to invite her to visit One Space so we can look after her for a bit.
sy

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:21am
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

ACAS site. It's excellent.

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:21am
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

sadsy wrote:
Also,
my American colleague has gone today (redundancy) and sent me a lovely email from work. I know she is having a hard time. I'd like to invite her to visit One Space so we can look after her for a bit.
sy

Is she a lone-parent too?

It's good that you'll be keeping in touch. Horrid, horrid time.

While I hate being on benefits, at the moment it means I'm secure - how sick is that? It gives me no pleasure.

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:22am
sadsy

Sparkling,
please write all your symptoms and circumstances and history for your illness and I will ask my step cousin.

He has just qualified as a doctor. I say I have a challenge for him.

love simon

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:29am
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Poor man - it will put him off!!

So long as he is equally nice and kind to those who are thin and fat - as the fat ones need to be believed when they say they don't each much, and to be nice to those who don't or do smoke.

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:30am
sadsy

Yes she is a lone parent.

sparklinglime wrote:
sadsy wrote:
Also,
my American colleague has gone today (redundancy) and sent me a lovely email from work. I know she is having a hard time. I'd like to invite her to visit One Space so we can look after her for a bit.
sy

Is she a lone-parent too?

It's good that you'll be keeping in touch. Horrid, horrid time.

While I hate being on benefits, at the moment it means I'm secure - how sick is that? It gives me no pleasure.

sy

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:32am
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

she should come and join in the fun.

How would you feel actually knowing someone on here in real life though?

I couldn't be so relaxed with what I post - which could well be a good thing for others!! :lol:

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:35am
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

You looked at ACAS yet?

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:36am
sadsy

ACAS, I'm very tired. I look now again at website.

Re american colleague, I not know her very well. Never met her.
I just wanted to help her. She coping with more than redundancy.

I can't research tonight, I'm trying badminton again.
Very nervous. Have no shorts.

sy

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:51am
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

jogging trousers? Don't need shorts straight off...

It will only be difficult the once. You'll be looking forward to it by the next club night!

Glad you're looking at the site. Could be that there will be an ok offer on offer - cross fingers.

I'm thinking of you loads sy.

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 12:54pm
sadsy

I need all the info. Then I'll pass it to him. See if he or colleagues have any ideas.
You must be totally honest and accurate and not leave anything out.

He is nice. I'll be relaying info.
sy

sparklinglime wrote:
Poor man - it will put him off!!

So long as he is equally nice and kind to those who are thin and fat - as the fat ones need to be believed when they say they don't each much, and to be nice to those who don't or do smoke.

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 1:44pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Good luck with badminton tonight, sadsy :)

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 4:41pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

No badminton update?

I really do hope you had a good evening, and are still playing - or in the pub!! (It's where I used to go after badminton - in my young, and free days!).

Hope you'll be ok tomorrow.

Posted on: August 5, 2009 - 11:20pm
Pansy

take it you had a good time then Sy? maybe he met a girl :o :lol: :lol:

I am picking up ex tomorrow, see other post for details 'first contact for 5 wks'

Hope you had really good time tonight what ever you done ;)
Paula x

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 12:30am
sadsy

Hello,
no I didn't meet a girl :(

Louise has had the phone cut off, so no internet until monday. Might be able to use my mum's at weekend. Didn't understand because £50 going out of my account each month to BT. Spoke to India, they say they send my overpayment to.....Louise as a cheque!

Got my redundancy meeting no2 today. Was going to take 2 foot white teddy as companion. Manager tell me if I want future freelance work might be best to take to different meeting....hehe

not read posts, hope you all OK.

Love
Sy

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 9:02am
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello sadsy

Hope your meeting goes Ok, what a pain about your Internet. You can go tot he library but sometimes they are only open on Saturday mornings over the weekend.

Take care

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 9:36am
sadsy

Paulasgems,
have you got rules in place, don't want you get hurt!

Also beware desperate "make-up" sex - not good in long term!

Oooh goodness, I will worry about you.

Love

sy

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 9:48am
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

yeah, but was the evening good? :roll:

Hope you've cancelled the DD to BT.

That £50 - you could perhaps say it's maintenance? It will cover 10 weeks worth when your not working (CSA says £5 a week when you're out of work) Or is this me being horrid...

Feelance - excellent, and you could work from home.

Perhaps it's wise to not take the teddy in (big briefcase, maybe).

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 10:23am
sadsy

Ho hum,
5 mins to go. Have to take on 2 experienced senior people. My poor brain.

hehe

sy

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 10:53am
Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Good Luck we are all rooting for you, imagine them naked! I am not really sure what they are meeting you for? Is it just an official sorry and goodbye?

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 10:59am
Pansy

Good luck from me too Sy! :)
Paula x

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 11:13am
sadsy

I did all my questions.

Then asked the guy if I could come and stay with him when I lose my home! :lol:
I'm so mischievous. He say "you know how many children I have!"

He came to me afterwards and said it really hurt him. I gave him a hug and said he'd be OK and I understand what a horrible job it was. He said guys shake hands.

love
sy

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 12:02pm
Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Oh well I'm glad its all over now.

So he wasn't a touchy feely person then?!

What does the rest of the day hold? Its weird but I imagine that the last thing you want to do is any work?!

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 12:08pm
sadsy

had some work come through. See if I can get it done this afternoon. May be off tomorrow. No internet though. Only if I visit my mum's. All neighbours have locked down their wireless broadband, so can't piggyback on their connection. lol

love sy

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 1:32pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Like Anna says, it's done now.

I'm so sorry this is on top of everything else though, I really am.

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 2:13pm
sadsy

Thanks sparkling,
are you OK today?

I have been discussing my dating prospects. I would now consider dating a neanderthal woman from the ice age years, to go with my primal diet. If it didn't exist for our primal ancestors I can't eat it. Nuts and berries and mammoth burgers. No mr kipling bakewell tarts. Of course M&S existed in the last ice age.

sy

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 2:22pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Hello sadsy

Good you have got the meeting out of the way. I am glad you asked the guy that about where you would live.....bit of a reality check!

if you are going Neanderthal then that cuts out the Quorn, anyway :D

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 2:42pm
sadsy

I still have Kevin the baby Quorn, he's growing fast and has a new friend, also orphaned, called "Ivan" I think. They've disappeared for a bit into Louise' old closet. Kevin not so well behaved now "Ivan" on the scene.

FREE THE QUORNS!

sy

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 3:35pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

Tell them to come out of the closet!

Posted on: August 6, 2009 - 7:22pm
sadsy

Hmm Kevin and "Ivan" have had a fight.
They're not talking with each other and Kevin has wet in the corner. sigh.
Not sure where "Ivan" is. I'm going off this Quorn Care Centre thing.
Also, "Ivan" seem to be putting on a bit of weight. He very bossy and taking all the food off Kevin I think.

FREE THE QUORNS!

sy

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 12:35pm
sadsy

Very lonely last night.
Been hugging pillow.

Children not have much to say.
Thought up new telephone game with arwen.
I make weird noise, and she have to guess the animal that makes it.

Am limping and hobbling today from fighting league players at badminton.
14 years too long to come in at that level. Fought them, tasted blood in my lungs from stretching breathing. Be OK.

Met a nice little lady who she say she gets grumpy, as her joints very stiff, all broken from 5 days a week squash she used to play.
I like grumpy ladies. I give them big hug. They just need love.

All my stomach muscles ripped, and muscles on thighs sore. Soles of feet too.

Can someone say "there, there you brave thing!"

I'm such big baby - lol.

Love sy

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 1:06pm
Anna
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

There, there, you brave thing!

Ouch :o I know how much pain sport can bring after years of not doing it! Did you enjoy it though, that is the question?

Great idea for the telephone game. It must get hard speaking every night and thinking of something new, so well done you! :)

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 1:48pm
sparklinglime
DoppleMe

Ah yes, but all those aches and pains are from exercise playing a game you enjoy.

Clearly a strong group of players. It might take a month or so for you to get improve. I don't know your age, so unless your 93, it might not be to the standard you played 14 years ago...

The pain will lessen as your muscles remember what they're doing.

I think it's brilliant you've been, and hope you go again. I takes a few weeks to settle into a new group, and for them to get to know you too.

Loads of hugs Sy.

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 3:54pm
Pansy

Sy,
just wanted to say what a brilliant Dad you are! You are fantasic to think up things to do on the phone like that.
I'm sure they must really look forward to your calls as well as seeing you. :D
And sooo well done for going to badminton 8-)
Paula

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 4:58pm
sadsy

AND MY BOTTOM HURTS!

sy

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 6:36pm
Louise
Parenting specialist DoppleMe

I expect you will hurt all over for the first few times, it will take a few weeks. Don't forget your stretches afterwards :) and a warm bath.

I bet those "grumpy" ladies went home all a-twitter, having met a "new nice young man" at Badminton.

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 7:26pm
sadsy

I don't care about this bloomin "nice new young man" they've met, what about me! That's what I'm on about! :lol:

love sy

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 8:23pm
pinkgrapefruit

Sy, well done for going! I'm quite amazed by how jealous I am, I'd love to start doing something like that. I've always got an excuse tho - can't afford a babysitter everyweek - but in reality I think I'm just too nervous. Used to be really confident and strangely I still am when I'm out and about with son - I just push him in front of me and we're fine! - but the thought of going somewhere on my own and meeting other adults terrifies me. So well done you!!! I hope you keep going, the first week must be the hardest.

Bec x

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 9:11pm
sadsy

Paulasgems,
thank you so much for your kind words. Am trying hard to be better dad. Am still making mistakes.

Luke is jammy tonight. I had a couple of easy ones for him to guess, oink for pig and neigh for horse....then, I dreamt of a really hard one....

sluuuuurp - pop sluuuuurp - pop sluuuuurp - pop

have you guessed it?

He guessed straight away! How did he do that! Well done Luke!

The answer is bellow, every 4 letter:
asjnjuzytfreetreauiothgreatgr

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 9:16pm
sadsy

hellooo bec!
how are you!

Bec wrote:
Sy, well done for going! I'm quite amazed by how jealous I am, I'd love to start doing something like that. I've always got an excuse tho - can't afford a babysitter everyweek - but in reality I think I'm just too nervous. Used to be really confident and strangely I still am when I'm out and about with son - I just push him in front of me and we're fine! - but the thought of going somewhere on my own and meeting other adults terrifies me. So well done you!!! I hope you keep going, the first week must be the hardest.

Bec x

Oh, I'm on drugs, so I can meet anyone at the moment. :lol: Told a 20 stone wrestler in IKEA today "what are you doing taking my trolley!". I'm staying on these anti-depressant things forever, they is cool. Or, it may be that I have lost almost everything and a little embarrassment doesn't register on my scale at the moment.

They tease me at work that I'm only going because of those cute badminton skirts. As if I would....
Besides, they don't fit me. :lol:

Do you know any other parents? After a while, when you know them, you could do babysitting swapping. Like when other parents go out you babysit, and vice versa?

What would you like to try becs, try something unusual, like body combat, or Karate? Or diving is cool!
Noooooot line-daaaanciiiing?

If it's a sporty thing, conversations are fairly short, as the activity takes up the most time. Short hello and goodbye and how are you.

Remember bec, you are more than a mum, there's lots more you can be, not instead of being mum, as well as. A growth thing, I guess, or reconnecting with pre-mum bec.

Not sure if I'll go to that club again just now, they are very serious and probably get fed up with me. There's a Friday one that's easier. Couldn't go today to try it, can't walk properly! My bottom hurts.

Did you do the park visit today? How did it go?

Not done holes in my ceiling yet. Thank you for your kind words. Very lovely of you.

huug

sy

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 9:42pm
sadsy

OK,
mum tell me I only come round for internet connection!
I'm so hurt!

Best drive home before all the water pours out of the espace.
Not sure when I'm on next.

Miss you all very much.

love sy

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 10:12pm
Pansy

I have been really silly! :oops: I did not realise until the other day that anyone could read these messages without registering, I found out by accident when I forgot to sign in but could still read messages. I am now quite worried because I have used a user name I use in other places & it is therefore obvious it is me! I thought because I had password that he wouldn't know I'd be ok. I am so silly, it took me to long already to change my password & the chances are he may have been reading my emails, in which case he would have seen what I have joined. I changed all my passwords over a week ago now, starting with my emails, but if he knows I come on here he can still read them. I cant see a way of changing my username on here? :roll: oh I am so silly!!!!!!!! :x
Paula

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 10:58pm
Pansy

.
Oh what a mess & how stupid can a person be!!!!!!!! :x

Posted on: August 7, 2009 - 11:08pm