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Hi Sy,
I dont know if anyone has already asked u this, but are u in any position to go for custody of ur kids, both financially and time wise? I was reading one of ur other posts on the site, and I really think that if u can u should. I think u would have a good case.
I agree.
Don't be sorry, we're not saying this to make you feel bad, just we believe that's a viable option.
I'm glad you're having a snooze - and without tablets, excellent!
Write things down - it might clear things from your head. Seeing things on paper might help you think 'no, I can't do it' or 'mmm, food for thought'.
Honest, none of us want to be pulling you down.
Well done for opening the bank statement.
You can see what extras have gone out, and many of those have been one off payments.
I'm sure you can find a cheaper deal than BT...
Orange - know it's difficult with the timings for the children - cinema needs to be on a Wednesday... Just incase your mum fancies seeing a film. Two for one tickets there.
Your post is far from tedious, it's a good starting point.
No comment about tiling, I never mastered it! Tiles are falling off the wall here, and I have a 99p shower curtain parcel taped to the wall to replace tiles that have fallen off. Curtain leads into the bath, so water stays in the bath. Very effective. I have a clean one to put up, but wonky leg makes all this difficult. I'm only having strip washes at the mo as I can't get into the bath for a shower (horrid thing to admit to). I'm clean though! I'm just dying for a shower - how frustrating, says the GP to this.
Fuel for contact visits won't be changing, but can be used for CSA purposes, as that is a hefty sum.
If overdrawn - do you need to speak to the bank?
I don't see anything wrong with a rant room, but possibly people will just post there own rants anyway...
Hello everyone!
It is great that you are able to support each other through difficult times in your lives. Your early posts may make you shudder, Sy, but they have already been of help to both Paula and zane, just as vickstick and sparkling have been a help to you. The other thing I would mention is that we have over 800 members and some choose not to post, but many choose to read and learn. Helping each other through is what it’s all about.
Paulasgems, how proud you must have been of your daughter! :D It is wonderful when our child does something really fab and feels that sense of achievement. At times like this, you HAVE to congratulate yourself on being a good parent and having brought up a wonderful child. Good idea re the notebook.
Sy well done for looking at the bank statement. :shock: One of the major obstacles to money management is avoidance. The first step is to face up to it. It does sound odd that there is a new direct debit on there, though. By the way I am not cross with you ;) . Re the custody issue, I understand perfectly where sparkling and vick are coming from but I do think that you are not necessarily in the right place to face that legal battle right now; I think that it would be great to get established contact up and running and then consider your position, so do think carefully.
Zane, glad some of the posts have helped, good to see you on this thread, keep posting! You are still in terrible shock after what happened and please promise to be kind to yourself over the coming days and weeks. :)
Vickstick, you’re right, it does get easier and you’re also right that no-one believes that at the time. Thanks for your words of wisdom. 8-)
Sparkling hope you are Ok this morning. You always make me laugh when you talk about your visits to the doctor, he always seems to say “how frustrating” whatever you tell him! Perhaps you could go next time and say “hey I have won £1 million on the lottery, how frustrating that it wasn’t £2 million!!!!”
:lol: :lol:
As for me, PHEW the car only cost £30 :D
sy.
You've had some big life changes very recently, and it's going to take time to adjust. Don't be too down on you.
Now stop checking up on us in work! :D
I doubt your going mad.
I told my GP I need help as all this is in my head - he seems to think not...
I'm going to say that to my GP Louise!! I've got a horrid feeling I have an in-growing toe nail!!!! Aghhhhhh!!!!! My son has had two done, and I really, really don't want an ingrowing toe nail. :o
Sy - why are you online? :roll: :? :roll: :D
xx
Awww, that's so sad - and you know how sad she feels...
I burnt my wedding photos... Very soon after leaving. I felt - and still feel - very betrayed.
I've not regretted burning them yet.
:lol: :lol: :lol:
sparklinglime wrote:
I burnt my wedding photos...
I slashed canvas pic of the 2 of us with a stanley knife!!! :twisted: :twisted:
I would have done that had I had one of those!! :D
so Sy... It's after 10am
sorry, but I'm getting something to eat in between posting. Not had anything since midday!!
Doesn't mean you can't rant. I'll read and see if I can join in :D
Poor "our" Louise!
Boy I was hungry
I'm deprived. No one wants to talk Scouts! :D
hahahahaha!!!!
I think it's given me a focus. Can't make out the Beaver Leader though, she seems to want to be very independant, which isn't the idea of the Group thing.
District Commissioner wants me to be a Group Scout Leader rather than a manager - means managing the adults, taking pressure off him. Might help with a future CV if I go into politics, as my tutor has suggested, rather than the driving!!
I hope you sleep Sy.
Be good at work tomorrow! Resist looking on here - I worry. Although, I'm sure I'd do the same now!!
Good morning, I hope you are all behaving yourselves (looks sternly over imaginary glasses) :lol:
You have all been busy. Hope you don't get swine flu too, Sy :( How did you get on at the counsellor?
Sparkling hope your toe is Ok, bet the doc gives you the usual "reasons" for a possible ingrowing toenail :x
Hope everyone else Ok today. I have got a load of wasps in my air-brick. Trying to avoid the cost of calling in the Council like I did two years ago :shock:
Aww bless her Paula, what has happened is bound to have made her "regress" a bit (sorry, that's a horrid word but children generally go back to way that they coped in the past, cos they don't know how to cope with the present trouble). What a worry for you! :(
The GP may be able to refer you to Family Therpay through your local CAMHS (Children and Adolescent Mental Health Services). If not, Relate have a fab service for young people aged 10 upwards, called Relateen. You contact them through your local Relate, which can be found here:
http://www.relate.org.uk/NearestRelate.asp
Hi Paula
How upsetting for you too.
My 13 year old's friend is having dreadful anxiety and panic attacks at the moment, the stress it's putting his parents under is immense. He has night terrors too. He feels 'safe' with us, so hopefully, she does get a bit of timeout when he's here.
When I had physio two years ago (when my body locked up), family counselling was suggested then, but at the time things were bad with ex. I was worried that it would get back to him, so never did go.
I think you're so wise all going to the GP, as there's so much to deal with. Loads of hugs for you all.
well.
I think that's my story told.
I've just been made redundant.
I think that's pretty much it from me.
bye
Oh God no Sy.
I'm so incredibly sorry. I was so hopeful for you.
I'm sorry.
Oh my goodness Sy, that was NOT what you expected......what a terrible shock for you. SO sorry, we are all here for you. I know there will be lots of practical steps to take but first it is about looking after yourself. When do you finish work?
Me again - yes, so soon :D
As for now contact is every other weekend, are you able to get a Friday and Monday off when the children are with you? Have extra time for holidays with them?
Just a thought, which I'm sure will be greeted with not much joy by the other party.