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I, too, hope Sy is Ok. He may just want some time to himself with this latest development, hopefully he will come back for some support when he feels ready
Hi Symon.
It's good you got your message across there. It does seem to be a very valid one to me.
Don't do anything today - not even upping the medication. It's a terrific shock and it needs to sink in.
Then maybe we can post and see what the day brings and what ideas come to mind.
Today you need hugs - and we do have loads.
Please. Don't rush into anything. Be calm for the children.
xx
You are not a big girls blouse. Blooming heck, I'd be crying too.
Glad Luke is counting the days - not long at all now. Don't worry about twinkle twinkle... tomorrow...
Thinking of you loads Sy.
I had weetabix with cornflakes. Yum.
Hope your mum enjoys the film.
Hope the chocolate and the crisps were enjoyable.
Hugs sy
Hello Sy
Glad you came back to us :) You really will be creating a stir in the neighbourhood rushing around naked with your butterfly net ;)
Yes that's a great idea to contact CAB, you need someone to be able to look at the whole financial picture with you. How about that financial adviser that was in touch with your Mum?
Your counsellor is right, one day at a time and as for having a cry, well I think that is normal and you WERE concerned that your feelings were a bit "numb", I am glad you are able to express feelings about this and let out a bit of the stress. You KNOW you are a strong person...the end of your relationship was an even worse thing than the end of your job and YOU HAVE COPED! So be assured that you do have those inner resources, even though it may be difficult for you to realise that now. You have some good friends here and lots of support AND.....you are seeing Luke tomorrow so there is motivation, you must be strong for him, Sy. Don't tell him about your job loss, it will only involve more comeback from Louise and that is what you don't need right now.
There's a few practical things to do and you won't feel like doing them but here is a suggested list:
1. Go to http://www.thisismoney.co.uk/redundancy-calculator and find out your redundancy money
2. Get in touch with the mortgage company and tell them what has happened and that you are seeking financial advice, ask them what package they can offer to someone who has lost their job (there are various schemes recommeded by the Government)
3. Get in touch with the CSA and say you are being made redundant and therefore will be on Job Seekers Allowance for the time bieng (child support will be £5 a week out of this, by the way)
4. Get some fresh air and buy some fruit and healthy food ;)
More later.....
Sy - you're always telling me that there's someone out there for me... At least you're a hunk!! Vanity - excellent! I know I have lovely eyes (used to have lovely feet and hands too :roll: )
I am glad you're seen CAB.
World's your oyster now.
Ex got made redundant, and he phoned me up in tears, he was so shocked. (This was almost four years ago - oh heck, or even almost 5, when he would talk to me).Told him it's not the end of the world. By then he had decided to be a nurse, and that is what he's doing - nursing. He's passed some exams now, mother-in-law was telling me, so he's getting there.
So, when you're coming to terms with this, maybe you can have a think about where you want to go... Male modelling perhaps? ;)
Also, with redundancy, I don't believe this is taken into maintenance, as you will be needing this to live for now.
Loads of hugs.
Good luck with the phone call.
Difficult to know how you stand, I guess until you know your package.
Good luck with the badminton! That's where I met The Git! They were good days. I hope I will be able to play again.
Don't worry about telling Luke. He can help come up with some genius ideas about your new business venture! Honestly sy, think big, think what you realistically can do - the global email you put out shows you're very able.
You may not feel strong, but like it or not, you are and you need to be now. You have been strong for a while - don't always see these things when you're living it.
That is such a lovely email.
I played badminton with the children last year - my son was so cocky (the oldest) as he thought he'd hammer me!! He didn't - so the skills are still there :D One of his friend's mother was wathcing and commented on my ability. I was good... Club standard, not county...
I'm glad you've made the phone calls. Are they going to write to you?
You don't have to say, but what is it you do?
I know it's hard, Sy. But you'll be ok. It's amazing what we do get through - just you don't realise until you look back and think, yeah, I'm doing ok.
Goodbye's are horrid, I know. I've had to make so many.
Do say goodbye to them though - you could have friends their Sy, who could be adding so much to this different life you're having to build.
Hello again Sy
When you step back and think about it, of all the stresses that life can throw at you, you have now had to cope with three of the most major in recent weeks. So be kind to yourself and don't expect too much. Well done on the phone calls. The "comeback" I was talking about re Louise was perhaps her throwing a wobbler about "Where is the Child Support coming from then?" and I just wanted you to have got through the first few days before you had to face that.
Sparkling is right, you could keep in touch with some of your colleagues from work?
Keep looking at the butterflies! Are they called Painted Ladies? (no jokes please :lol: )
Re hunks and hunkesses:
Has anyone ever seen a creaky old film called "The Enchanted Cottage"? it is the love story of an ordinary couple and they live in this cottage and as they go through the door they both become beautiful. You realise by the end of the film that the cottage is not enchanted at all, it is that they are beautiful to each other
AWWWWWW!
Thursday - Cubs and Scouts night for me.
All those little cherubs.
And shortly, we're off to Tesco!!! The children didn't want to go during the day, but like going at night. They know I see those I used to work with (from my nights) and they know I'll talk for ages, get distracted and then they'll chuck stuff in the trolley!!
My daughter has a camp this weekend too, so she needs to get supllies in for that. Isn't it lucky the stuff that they used for the last camp still hasn't been kept??!!! :shock:
My son dislocated his knee just before Christmas 2007, and watching him play badminton made me realise that he doesn't move his feet enough... So he ended up having a lesson!
Do any of your colleagues play badminton? A thought. I was with the same club for years, and I had a great time with them - pub after. It was good.
My eldest wants to be a graphic designer.
You sound a bit calmer about things today. To have an email like that shows that you're very well thought of. I think that was lovely.
If HR are offering courses, then look at them with an open mind. You never know, something might appeal - even if its only as a hobby.
The Explorers are having a practice hike for the duke of ed bronze. They have to do the 'actual' one before the end of the holidays too.
My children moan a lot, but seem to come back from hikes with a smile on their face.
You wouldn't get me in a tent. 8-)
virtual badminton - my speciality from the back of the court... cross court drop shot - rarely returned :D
With the Scouts I did a programme called 'hope' from the scout site. The Scouts had to write their hope for the future.
I wrote - to see my children grow up well and happy and able to achieve their dreams.
Then you had to write 6 points to achive this.
1 To keep them safe and secure
2 To love them and keep them healthy
3 To encourage them to do well at school
4 To encourage them to do their homework and coursework
5 To qualify to be a driving instructor to have the income to get them through college/uni to enable them to reach their dreams
6 When they leave home to travel around Britain via Scotland on a very long holiday alone!!
The Scouts thought it was lovely and cheered - except my three who were round the table who looked at each other grinning! (Daughter was in the committee room with the Explorer Leader).
Oh wow, you travelling round Britain!
We could have tea and cakes at Fenwicks when you go to south east!
How many years will I have to wait though?
sy
About 8 years. :D I keep saying if I save £1 a week, I'll have loads to spend!! Just haven't got around to that yet.
virtual badminton - I see your drop shot coming and it's slow to go over net so I can get there in time. I see you race to get to me. I try a drop too but hits the tape. I congratulate you through gritted teeth. Your serve.
sy
Now when it comes to serving, I used to have a brilliant short serve, and then in one match, I just couldn't serve short. Fair play, the county player I was playing against spent ages trying to see where I was going wroing. I can even feel where I'm going wrong (pull back before hitting the shuttle, when before I'd just hit it superbly!! :D )
Anyway. What I'm trying to say it, I serve high to the back of the court...
Oh No Sy :( I'm so sorry!
Now you have got me worried, please, please come back on & post & let us know you are ok!
Paula