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Hello Sy
The doc is right, you do need to eat. But it must be nice to be slim!
re beds, my feeling is to be guided by what the kids want. Arwen may well want to be back in her old bed and if she wakes you will probably hear her, you don't sleep that much :( if she gets upset dont be too quick to think you have to take her back to her Mum, she may settle after a while. Maybe ask Luke if he could sleep upstairs with Arwen as he is helping daddy by keeping an eye on her?
Hope the garden is nice this morning :) I have a buddleia in my garden which if course attracts the butterflies. It was on the news this morning about the Painted Ladie but that traditional British species were at risk as a result.
Hi Sparkling
Did you really go to the supermarket at 11pm? At Christmas, you know the last shop where you get veg etc? I always hate the crowds so I get up mega-early one morning and go....oh! the feeling of smugness at 7am when I am wheeling my trolley OUT. (we still haven't got a smiley with a halo have we?)
Re your "Hope" at Scouts, that was wonderful and brought a lump to my throat. I like your prirorities! I bet your children were very proud of their mum!
By that way, that reminds me of a short course I went on about being the parent of a teenager. It was organised by Relate. You had to put down three terrible things about your teen and three wonderful things on a chart. Then they went round the room to read them out. I came away from that course with MY priorities sorted and appreciated what my teen really meant to me, and that the "terrible" things weren't that bad after all.
Way to go!
virtual badminton - I send you to your forehand back corner, i have strength to do it. gonna keep you at the back so see when your return weakens and falls midcourt. See if you start puffing too.
muuuuhahaha (evil laugh)
sy
I'd do a cross court drop...
I'm good you know. :D OK, was good :lol: :lol: So I'm playing to my "was good" standards here... I always played singles against the blokes as the women weren't (and I mean this in the nicest possible way...) strong enough - well, one was...
Happy busy life did you say??? This is a mega rant. I really want to cry, I feel so used.
Flaming demanding friend - who I love dearly, but she does do my head in. She's not well, so I was in boots at 9am buying flaming complan and build up and metatone, as she's moaning about the weight falling off her. Yet she seems able to take the dog to the beach.
Got there, and she didn't hear me ring the door bell. She lives 13 miles away.
So, I'm now down to almost the red on the car, and still need to drive 11 miles to the hairdressers with my daughter this afternoon. Enough money for the haircut, just hope the car can hold out until Tuesday for fuel. £5.49 in the bank.
I had the flu in December. I was so awful for weeks. Still managed to cook Christmas dinner for everyone (including her). Broke down in January, as I'd not been able to tidy up - no energy. She offered to come and tidy, and I'm still waiting!
When she had vein surgery I took her to and picked her up from Llandudno. 60 miles each trip.
She manages to manipulate her friends to do all these things for her, without acually doing anything in return. She had an exhibition earlier this year. I printed programmes, help her name all her work (over 100 pieces), changed all the programmes as stuff got swapped round - all that paper, and all that ink. She was so stressed, I have never been thanked.
She's 65. I feel mean being angry at her. I love her to bits, yet I just sometimes wish... but what's the point. All this wishing doesn't get anyone helping me out.
I think I might go and sit on the loo and cry for a bit.
Sy.
You do need to eat. You have to have the energy to have fun with the children. If Arwen gets upset do anything - you know I do random dancing and singing. She is at home. She should be fine - you just don't quite know what has been said to her recently. Always be positive about their mother, and remind them how nice it is for mummy to have a break, knowing they're safe and happy with you.
Hopefully you can have a picninc or something? Cheap and cheerful - always the best. My lot had a ball silly time shopping at Tesco!
Hi Sparkling
Did you really go to the supermarket at 11pm? At Christmas, you know the last shop where you get veg etc? I always hate the crowds so I get up mega-early one morning and go....oh! the feeling of smugness at 7am when I am wheeling my trolley OUT. (we still haven't got a smiley with a halo have we?)
Re your "Hope" at Scouts, that was wonderful and brought a lump to my throat. I like your prirorities! I bet your children were very proud of their mum!
By that way, that reminds me of a short course I went on about being the parent of a teenager. It was organised by Relate. You had to put down three terrible things about your teen and three wonderful things on a chart. Then they went round the room to read them out. I came away from that course with MY priorities sorted and appreciated what my teen really meant to me, and that the "terrible" things weren't that bad after all.
Way to go!
Other than the 10 year old's strop - he's just had one, I'd find it hard to put a bad thing down! They're really tremendous children, I just hope I've not been too awful to make them this way.
They love late night shopping - nice for me to catch up with some ex-colleagues too. Vile night manager at the mo though.
5am Christmas shop - you can't beat it! Lovely atmosphere in the store too. I loved my Christmas shifts! I would manage to get the longest queues chatting happily. People skills :roll: :D I loved it there...
I think people might go quiet as they have things to sort... Poor zane - I've posted, but I'm sure there's little to comfort her or her children at the mo.
My youngest was so upset when his dad didn't text to see how he was after he broke his leg. That was the point where I decided I would no longer keep him informed of anything. The Git, I'm sure, will tell people I'm awful for not telling him what goes on, but he didn't enquire how the eldest was when he dislocated his knee. Ex had been at the badminton club that night, and phoned me. He just went home - didn't get in the ambulance with my son.
Until ex didn't give a toss when I thought our fourth child had died (sorry sy, I know you've lost Daisy) when I was 20 weeks pregnant, I had always said 'our' children. Never occured to me to say 'my' children. Since then, I do say 'my' children. It's as if he has no interest.
I can't change that though. It's hard to get to the point though of accepting that the "other" parent doesn't give a hoot. My heart goes out to zane and her children. It's a horrid realisation.
Yet, what's going on with you is equally horrid, as you're being restricted with contact, and you shouldn't be.
My ex could choose to see this lot every day... He chooses not to.
When he moved across the road - well, 5 minute walk away - my children were so happy. My daughter called in - as I would expect them to be able to do. He turned her away at the door saying he was busy. She broke her heart when she came home. She never called in again. I think that's so sad.
They're really nice children. If they were horrid and a irritating, I could understand.
Page bouncing. Really does my eyes not good - and its only know I think of word and copying it to here! :roll:
virtual badminton - grrr, I couldn't get there in time, it toppled over the tape!
very floooky.
1:0 to you. Your serve.
sy
Now, Sy, you're not 'letting' me win, now, are you?
My ex did that once, and I was so chuffed I beat him - "I let you win. Well done" he said. I never booked a court for us to play again. Much rather loose...
High serve, to the back. Whoops, didn't go far back enough...
(Could this be another chance to show one of my clever skills that annoyed that nice chap who helped me with my serve so much? Oh, yes, and a top RAF player, who I actually managed to get a grin out off....)
Go delete that bit out the post... think of "our" Louise here.. :D
He doesn't miss them - he'd see them regularly if he did. He now lives the other side of town - about a mile away, at a guess. He's never missed them. The first night after we moved my daughter phoned to say goodnight - left a message. I reckon he came home from work that day very, very happy, knowing we wouldn't be there when he got back.
The older two had mobiles (they were 12 and 10 then) as ex told mediators he was scared to phone landline incase I answered. I swear I wasn't abusive - angry, yes, but I'm sure I wasn't abusive to the point he'd fear me. So I told them in mediation the children had the mobiles so he could contact them direct.
He never did. There's never been a point those phones haven't been topped up so the children could phone him if they need to. I know my son did when he went through his bad patch 07/08...
He made a point of telling my daughter he wanted to come to her parents evening, and when was it. I texted him as the date had changed on the school calendar. He ALWAYS has a copy of the calander as I make sure the children give him one. My daughter phoned him "are you coming or what?" as we left for the meeting (I wouldn't have stayed had he been there) No he said - she cut the call off!
Does it sound like a parent who misses the children?
virtual badminton - no I'm not letting you win! I'm trying my hardest, do you mind!
Aha, I have my chance to show you my devastating power with your midcourt fluff. I put too much power into it trying to assert myself and it travels quite flat angle across net. It's fast though, what are your reactions like?
sy
oooo heck - I was waiting for a smash!
flat return straight at you!
hahahahaha!!!!!!!!!! Excellent edit!
xx
virtual badminton - it bounces of my racquet side collar bone. 2.0 to you. I smack my leg with racquet to wake me up and ready for your next serve. Feeling flustered now.
sy
Another high serve (gets boring, but you can get excited over the return :D )
That's pretty quick though.
If you need to serve them, you can give them to her on Sunday when you take the children BACK...
I'm sorry, but I can't help you there.
Sy
Recorded mail an excellent idea! Try not to worry about Arwen, as sparkling says it is where she lived before and there are lots of things to do to distract a little one so that she enjoys herself. They especially like a parent being silly at that age. Another thing that I used to do is get a teddy or dolly and make it do something naughty (ie whatever the opposite is of what you want Arwen to do) Then pretend shock and say "Teddy! I can't believe you just did that, that's so naughty. Where will I ever find someone who can xxxxxxx ? (the thing you want her to do). Bet you a blue Smartie she will do it ;)
Sparkling
Now I don't know much about Badminton but I do know about human nature and I can tell you this......your ex did NOT "let" you win, you beat him fair and square!!!
Hmm your friend....you do get people like that. I guess you have threee choices. 1. Carry on 2. Drop her 3. talk to her about her behaviour. I had an annoying friend once and I decided to talk to her about our relationship. I got a load of abuse so I took option 2.
haha!! I never thought about me 'actually' beating ex... He was very good though. Played for the County B team...
As for the silence. Honestly? Far too soon to want another relationship. Learn to get on with you and learn about you first, then maybe... You'll understand what you would like in a partner...
Like me realising my situation at the mo is the one that works best.
As for friend. I find it hard to hurt. She can be very pathetic. She's sent a few grateful texts!
I now have short hair!
Just eating chips, shall focus on other posts in a mo :D
Personally, I think education needs to be at least similar to yours, so you can talk at the same level.
I know that might sound really, really awful (and I'm not well educated, honest!), but I think you do need to have a decent conversation about things.
I still think you need a blank sheet for now though. :roll:
My neighbour 'popped' in.
That was before 7pm... Been sorting out her computer. HAHAHAHA - now there's a joke! I honestly hope it works tomorrow. At least her virus protector is updated 8-)
Goodness no. Far from ready. Takes ages to learn to know you :D
Luke's plan is good. Have plenty of fun ideas incase she does get upset - I doubt she will, as she is coming to her home. She may have two homes now, but that is her home too. Don't you dare take her home! Just have a dvd to hand that she likes. Luke will have to remember where you're up to with Eragon!
You get anxious, she'll get anxious. If you relax, she'll be relaxed. Take my word for it.
She'll be pleased to see her pyjamas, I'm sure.
I guess it's excitement. :D
I'm lucky. I don't like fresh cream!
I will be making a cake this weekend though. 8-)
victoria sponge, butter cream, rasberry seedless jam, icing, candles...
I do make a very nice cake. This will be cooked in a roasting tin though - doesn't last long with this lot! :lol:
It is. :)
It is. :D I'll be 47 - although I've been telling everyone I'm 47 for months already!! Always make myself older than I am - which used to drive my best friends nuts!
I'm not a big fan of birthdays though - too many cards missing now, with my friend gone too...
But the children are looking forward to it!
Can't decide whether to buy myself some sparkling wine or cider though... decisions, decisions. :D
I still don't think I'll drink it even if I did. You never know with this lot when I'll need to be driving...
Eldest working 12 - 5pm
Daughter being picked up by me from camp at 4pm.
Should be able to get around to a birthday tea!! I have a lemon tart in the fridge, lemon curd tarts, crisps... Sparkly candles 8-) lemon slices (I like lemon!!) mini short bread, gingerbread men, ritz.
I will be feeling so sick!
Going to take the children out for a meal on Tuesday, to where the eldest works! Someone can make me an ommelette for a change. I'll just swallow lots of xenical.
Happy Birthday!
Zum Geburtstag viel Glück
Zum Geburtstag viel Glück
Zum Geburtstag liebe Sparkling
Zum Geburtstag viel Glück
hehehe
sy
Thank you very much. :D
And in Welsh - Penblwydd Hapus. (birthday happy :shock: )
Sunday... might get slightly merry on Sunday.
I can usually drink like a fish though, and never get drunk (tipsy, yes) and have never had a hangover.
I guess, you are all having very happy lives at the moment, it's so quiet on here.
That's a good thing.
sy