hello
Thank you.
xxx
I'm guessing you'd have gone, Sy. I really hope the interview goes really well.
Hugs for that, and for all the other nighmare issues.
Hello sadsy
I am not surprised you are tired with all that has been going on!
Hope today has not been too bad. I think the counsellor has had a good idea about the opening of the statement, there are bound to be a lot of things in it that you disagree with and which you feel are untrue.
Hi sadsy
Glad you feel it went well today :D
Hellooo Sparkling,
thank you for your support.
Have taken the evening off. Will have a T in a mo. I thought I got on reasonable well today.
May go to bed early, so tired. It's stress I think.
Arwen is very keen on bunnies. She has never had one close up.
She has Watership Down on her mind. hehe
Hug for you sparkling :)
Funny you should mention Watership Down - I was looking at the sky yesterday morning imagining Zach racing around the skies with Hazel... Of course, I cried!!
I'm glad you feel you got on ok. Just remember how brilliant you are.
The children give us strength Sy...
here is the hello thread, for those who were wondering!
Hi Sadsy
I know how hard it is to lose your appetite when you are going through stress etc. The very last thing you want to do is eat, but you have to Sadsy. You need all your strength and energy to get you through the next 3 weeks. Even if you can't face a meal, just eat little and often, a slice of toast, boiled egg, soup, etc. (your GF knows I'm right)haha
Take it easy, and get in that kitchen!!!
Take care
Alison
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It is good to find this - I know I'd been looking for it!
Does it matter if Louise gets annoyed?
The children would love being with you (just my view point...)
90 pages?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kick up preverbial backside - look after yourself Sy.
Hugs
So glad your daughter's doing well pansy.
I agree about the site. I guess we have to get used to it though!
No, I can't get used to this at all!!!
My son at home again today, the school bullies have definately got to him this time, maybe because this one is a year older? I don't know. Another restless night, so that tells me a lot!
Pansy, I'm glad your daughter is getting along ok, even if it is only hobbling at the moment. At least the operation is over and done with.How's it working out for all of you now she's back home? Hope everything is going smoothly. How about your Mum?
Sparkling, I will catch up, but I'm still having problems with the thing, so bit more patience is needed, (by me of course, not you)!!!
Take care all
Alison
x
Hi Pansy
Your poor Mum, all that she is going through, and then your Nan is horrible to her. I guess you can't put it down to her age if she has always been like that. That is great that your Mum is thinking ahead (just in case) I imagine it is a very frightening time for her right now, with the uncertainty of it all.
Its fantastic that you are doing weightwatchers with your Dad, and would be lovely to spend time also with your Mum. It sounds like you have a very full life Pansy!
How is the weightwatchers going? Do you cheat a bit, with the chocs etc, or are you very strict with yourself? I decided to stop smoking New years, and i have been pretty good, only lapsing a few times. Last night however, I lapsed a lot. A friend came, and with her came the bottle of wine. She smokes, so I was so tempted, and then I caved in. (very naughty of me). I am going to have to knock wine on the head too, as I can't not smoke with the wine, though I have had it before, and not the cigs. That time though I was on my own, so maybe that made the difference.
Early in the morning, god knows what I'm doing up!!!
Take care, have a lovely weekend.
Alison
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Hi Pansy
thanks for the update. Life is still pretty busy at your house, with everything going on. It sounds as if you are reserving judgement about how it is with your daughter back.
I am glad the knee op went well, though.
Your poor Mum! There is a lot for her to face up to at the moment and your idea of spending some time with her is a great one. Things where she uses her sight for a lovely view or an art gallery for example?Can you also have a think about things she could do with less eyesight if that does happen? Music? Audio books? I used to help care for a lady who was visually impaired and what she really liked were things which exercised her other senses, so she liked garden centres with scented plants and to explore different fabrics in shops. Hopefully it will be a long time before your Mum will have problems and she can enjoy her painting. Sounds like she is pretty determined, despite your Nan.
Hello alisoncam
That's really worrying that your son is having to go through that again. I suppose it is yet another trip to school to try and sort it out, is it?
The cigarettes thing will come and go, don't beat yourself up about a little backslide. It is definitely more difficult when you have had a drink or two. Fresh start today, eh? You're up early, like me. What's on the agenda today?
Hello sparkling lime
How are things at your house?
Hi Sadsy
Six months is no time at all, so stop beating yourself up. You're doing really well, and coping considerably considering what you are going through. We all take our stresses out on our nearest and dearest, so I'm sure your Mum understands perfectly.
I hope you're managing to eat and sleep properly. The sleep thing is a major problem with me right now, though last night I did ok.
Keep smiling
Take care
Alison
x
Hi sadsy
alisoncam is absolutely right, 6 months is nothing what with all you are dealing with. If it was just a broken heart, it could still take up to a year if not two to heal, but you are dealing with
the breakdown of your relationship
the breakdown of engagement/access to your children,
possibility of losing your home,
losing your job
battling through the court system
searching for a new job
dealing with emotional issues
the loss of your step father
.......plus more
SO many losses in such a short space of time. Please recognise this and give yourself a break, it will take time to plough through so many different emotions and issues.
Keep looking after yourself and perhaps take time out and treat your mum too, I am sure she does understand, but a little TLC can go a long way.
I hope you slept well, great to hear that alisoncam did :)
I agree that six months is a very "short" time to expect yourself to feel better after everything that has happened. What can be astounding is how the other person can become transformed from the person we once loved to an adversary of such extremes. The way that so-called "truths" can get twisted is also amazing!
The legal system does not help. It can be cumbersome and feel very unfair.
Your counsellor will be wanting to help you change your thought patterns to value yourself more. Hear, hear!
Take care
You take care Sy. You need to eat healthy to keep well for your children.
I can look for something for an age, give up and chuck the 'other half' of it away - and then find the missing one...
As has been said 6 months is no time at all...
Hugs.
Hi sadsy
Great idea about writing negative thoughts, it will hopefully help you to see how they impact on your life. I am sure that your counsellor will have mentioned this to you but remember:
Beliefs create thoughts
Thoughts create feelings
Feelings determine actions
Actions create results
So sometimes we have to re-evaluate our beliefs in order to move on in life.
Hi all
This cold weather seems to be dragging on and on and on. I for one am totally fed up with it. Snow flurries yesterday, but amounted to zilch, thank goodness. I have my Drs appointment on Thursday morning, so hopefully get a few things sorted.
Claire-Louise, didn't you have Drs last week for blood test results? I hope everything went ok for you, and look forward to seeing you back on One Space.
Sparkling, best of luck at the hospital tomorrow. Don't worry, you'll be fine, and the specialist will be great I'm sure :)
Louise, hope the fog soon disappeared the other night, would have been an ideal time to go out in PJ's, no-one would have seen you, and then you could have bragged that you'd done it, yeahhhhhhh.
Anna, I see things are still being worked on in here. Twice I had to wait for an e.mail to let me back on. I guess if ever it wouldn't let me back, I would be able to register again???? I imagine you're getting frustrated with it all too. You'll get there in the end I'm sure.
Hope you're keeping well, and looking forward to half-term? I can't wait!!!
Take care everyone
Alison
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I'm only moaning here today. Feel so sick and terrified.
I really do hope it goes well tomorrow Alison. Its so, so wrong that it was declined. (I'm repeating myself aren't I?! :-) )
Hey Sparkling
You moaning, never :) :)
I know you're worried about today, but I am sure it will be absolutely ok. You have my permission to bite my head off it is doesn't. (Actually, bite the specialists head off)!!
I should have booked a double appointment for tomorrow!
Sorting things out again today in the flat, so far I have managed to bag at least 7 bags of rubbish!!! I haven't even finished yet. Guess who has to walk it all round to the tip! My back is really playing me up now, but I can't sit down for long, as it needs to be done. My sister is staying the night on Friday, and at this rate, she won't be able to see the bed she is sleeping in, let alone sleep in it! I've just sat down for a coffee and biscuits, so.........
Will catch you later
Take care, and DON'T WORRY
Alison
x
Keep taking deep breaths, you will be fine, have something nice planned for afterwards and let us know how it goes.
Warm hugs :)
Hello sparkling lime, let us know how you got on.........
Had an X-ray and I have severe athritis in both hips.
However, I'm too young for a hip replacement.
To be fair, he was a great bloke and wasn't scathing with my weight at all, saying it isn't selective by size. He warned me the boss would comment - which he did, and I don't blame him.
At least I can now write a letter to my GP for an apology for not taking proper action back in 2005. I know I'm big, and deserve all that comes my way, however, I don't think it means that you should have to face rude GPs who just dissmiss symptoms.
I've learnt a lot today, which actually helps me cope with the pain.
I now have a blue badge - which is wonderful. I've also qualified for DLA on advice of the practice nurse (who's rather disgusted with the GPs - she knew my mum too).
I told him how fantastic my children were (carrying shopping etc) and how lucky I am. He reckons they will be better children because of it (not sure they'll agree mind!).
The best part is that he's going to write to the GP so I can get some effective pain-killers for bad day.
I'm young still it seems!
Hi Sparkling
Good to know you're still young! I'm pleased that things went well for you. You now know what you're dealing with. GP's do get things wrong, but she was horrid to you, and yes, you deserve an apology. Just be careful though that 'the witch' doesn't strike you off the books.
I'm delighted you got the blue badge, no more worries about the parking and distance. Also for the DLA, you so deserve it.
First things first, get the pain-killers sorted. A bit of relief for you.
Take care, and have a good day
Alison
x
Hi sparkling lime
Glad you have got a proper diagnosis now and things can be put into place to help (blue badge, DLA, painkillers). I feel sure that however slim you were, you would still have this problem, it might be made worse by being bigger but that does not mean that it is "your fault"(otherwise everyone over size 10 would have arthiritis!) Doctors can demonise us. I have a close friend who gets breast cysts from time to time. She is told that smoking aggravates them and so gets "told off" every time she goes for treatment. Not likely to encourage her to go to the doctor if that is what she gets!
And hey......you're young!!!!!! I agree with the thought that the kids will be all the better for helping. As parents, our main job is to equip them to be adults so it's Ok for them to take some responsibility. As you know, I have a fairly draconian chores regime for mine but my eldest said to me how glad he was, as when he left home he was quite capable of looking after himself.
Hope you are feeling positive now that things are getting sorted?
Oh Sy....
I'm so sorry that you feel you're not doing so good. I can totally understand why though. I sometimes feel if we don't know why we're not so good that maybe its time to worry.
Luke must be feeling so very unsettled having had the call cut off. I understand that we hope our children will show support for us, yet it doesn't seem to happen.
Not a comfort I know - and I'm sorry.
Loads of hugs.
Soon it will be time for the daffodils to come out and longer evenings. Some how that does seem to help.
Please keep looking after you and try to keep strong.
Hope your mum is keeping ok.
xx
Bicycle time maybe?
Hello sadsy
I have passed your comments on to the powers that be!
It's understandable you feel down, the hassle is going on and on.
I have to say, though, that if any of us expect our children to appreciate us then we will be waiting a long time. Don't think too badly about Luke not calling back; don't forget he is only 10 and in his own interests he needs not to get too much hassle from Louise.
Hope you have a good day with them today
I do hope you have such a lovely weekend with them.
Children seem to take things for granted, I know. I think I was about 25 before I even vaguely appreciated my parents, and probably after my Dad died did I actually appreciate my Mum...
I know it doesn't help.
You are fighting for your children's right to see you. It is their right.
I can't find words here that are going to be any help. I just wish I could. You had so many blows hit you too close together Sy. You need to somehow accept that its hard going and not be too down on you or the children.
It can take years to adjust.
I hope there are many moments filled with laughter too. Hold on to them.
Loads of hugs.
Hello sparkling lime
I am glad you have managed to have the funeral and mourn the passing of your lovely Zach. Also it is great that Thumper is making his presence felt.
Sending you a big hug :)