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Hi Sadsy
I'm really pleased that you all had such a great time together. Don't worry about the weight, I'm sure you'll soon work that off ;)
Take care
Alison
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Hi all
Am having a relaxing, quiet day. (well, I have done the shopping, and got the dinner going for later). My sister is coming to see us early evening, and also a friend. Nowwwwwww, normally, I'd be worried about getting everything dusted, hoovered. For some reason, I feel totally laid back, and not bothered at all.
I'll probably be running around like a headless chicken later, you see :lol: :lol:
Glad you're sounding calm.
My lot were pleased to be going back to school! Charming... I'm sure your son was too.
Been working this morning - mass hysteria when my friend the plumber gets stressed it's awful. All was calm when I left three hours later - I'm guessing the two weeks I haven't worked and got paid for will be covered this week. :lol:
Hi Sparkling
Yes, C...... was glad to go back, (away from my moaning). Forecast a lot of snow this week, so hopefully, I can still get him there!
I might sound calm, butttt :o I'm just enjoying being able to sit down, and not having to keep getting up and down. Just realised the time, so soon it's off to pick little un, and either listen to what a great day he had, or listen to him moaning about whatever, simply because he's whacked. Will give him a bath before sister arrives, then it's just dinner to be had. Hopefully, not a late night for him. Doubt if she will stay too long, it gets icy, and she doesn't like driving in it.
Hope you don't have to work too much this week. Are you looking forward to your PJ day? ;)
Take care
Alison
x :)
Ah glad you had a nice time with Arwen and Luke :D :D
Don't worry about Louise looking odd, whenever I look at my ex I think he looks a bit strange, I think somehow that I can't see anymore how I could have loved him and his face just looks unfamiliar without the love, not sure if that makes sense...
Hope that music is on loud
Take care
I so know where you're coming from, Bec.
Sy, I'm so glad you had a good time. It's things like the feeding the ducks and laughter that stick in their minds, I've found. Gifts are soon forgotten.
We've had snow today. A couple of inches... I went out for a walk in it before the children started to muck about and make it deadly!! I love the sound of scrunching snow.
I took more photos, so even more to get around to uploading!
The rabbit is hopping about the kitchen - he's too old to stay out in his hutch. I'm just feeling very guilty now about the guinea pigs - who are clean and dry and have tonnes of hay in their main bedroom of their hutch - but it won't fit in through the door.
I'm hoping the schools will be closed tomorrow as I usually drive my youngest there - although it is walkable, there's no adult crossing them by the school itself, and it's manic there.
I'm not going out anyway!!
I hope everyone is warm and cosy and doing ok.
By our standards, we've had a load of snow.
Just checked the website and the High School is closed. Not really sure what to do about the youngest now though. The snow is still outside and more is forecasted. He missed a load of school before Christmas...
I'm not going anywhere. :D The estate is quite a mess now after a dozen children (including my lot!) have been building snowmen and having snowball fights. While I don't blame them at all, it's a shame they cant leave a nice path along the edge so I could get out if I had to.
I'm such a coward.
I know the people I do my half an hour day won't be pleased that I don't go in, but I have made it plain I can't do icy weather.
Didn't take my son, checked the website, it is closed tomorrow.
We have just been watching Jeremy Kyle, and it came up about a father not being on the birth certificate. My son, full of questions as usual asked if T..... was on his. I explained that he wasn't, as (1)the father has to be there, (if not married), and (2)T.... wasn't interested, and still isn't.
Does anyone (honestly) think I'm telling my boy too much of the truth too soon maybe?
Hi alsioncam, I definitely don't think you are being too honest with your son. I always think honesty is the best policy and it sounds as if you have always tailored it to his age and 'need to know' level. It sounds as if you are doing a fine job and your son is settled and quite happy with the responses he gets from you.
Keep it up girl! :D
Hi sadsy
Sorry to hear that you are having a difficult week. Hooray for pansy sorting the mortgage relief scheme for you! Well done her.
I thinnk you could probably start a whole new career after all the knowledge you have gained since the breakup. I hope that the heating being turned up, cheered you. :)
Have you heard if Luke has been able to go out and play in the snow??
Didn't take my son, checked the website, it is closed tomorrow.
We have just been watching Jeremy Kyle, and it came up about a father not being on the birth certificate. My son, full of questions as usual asked if T..... was on his. I explained that he wasn't, as (1)the father has to be there, (if not married), and (2)T.... wasn't interested, and still isn't.
Does anyone (honestly) think I'm telling my boy too much of the truth too soon maybe?
I don't think so. You're answering him in simple terms, and enough for him to feel comfortable about things.
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Hi Sadsy
I think Anna has a good idea there. As you've found out, there isn't enough support for father's. Going through this you could develop a new career to run along side the graphic design maybe - writing a help-pack or a book.
It does go on for a long time before things get to a point where, on paper at least, things are sorted.
The mental side of things just carries on, I think... I find that issues pull me down and come March it would be six years since I left. It's six years and five months since I first saw a Solicitor.
I'm so glad pansy was able to sort out the mortgage. That is absolutely brilliant. I'm sorry there's a chance the house has to be sold though. I know how hard that is.
That's good to know that you're 'getting there' with the PR and contact. That has been such a hard road for you.
Hi Pansy
It sounds as if between the two of you you've hopefully come up with a solution that could help things be calmer...
I can't imagine how frightened you mum - and you - must be, but glad that she's dealing with it ok.
It's lovely to see you here whenever you can get here. It's good to have updates - I find it comforting to know you're ok.
Well... Devastated mummy and children here.
The rabbit took poorly this morning and has died. My youngest is so upset. He cuddled him, until I persuaded him to put him back into the cat basket that he's been sleeping in since the cold weather started befoe Christmas - he's been hopping about the kitchen and the garden - even yesterday.
So, the rabbit was comfy cosy, but died about 3.30pm. I reckon not so good for about 5 hours. He was a rescue bunny, so "old" when we had him.
Youngest has put him into a shoe box, as he wanted to give a last cuddle, then the two of us have tucked him up with hay. He's in the shed - too cold to bury him as the ground is rock hard...
I know he's "only" a rabbit, but he was such a character and loved a cuddle. We'll miss him.
Hi Sparkling
Animals are very much part of the family, and I know your rabbit used to hop around your kitchen, so it wasn't 'just' a rabbit. That was really lovely putting him in a shoe box with hay.
I hope your youngest is ok, all of you in fact.
Take care
Alison and C.....
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At a friend's house, so just a very quick hello.
I have no internet.
:shock: :o :shock:
Funny thing is, other than the online banking, which I'm getting quite anxious about, I'm not missing it too much!
Take care, and hopefully I'll be back very soon.
:o :o Sparkling, are you saying you're not missing us? :o :o
:? :shock: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Hi Sadsy
Don't know if this link will help at all.
http://www.stedmundsbury.gov.uk/sebc/live/rebates.cfm
It's a site about who qualifies for housing etc.
I don't think living with her boyfriend is going to help her though.
Hope it helps in some way.
Sending BIG hugs
Alison
x :)
She will not be any sort of priority on the housing list, even if/when the property is sold so I don't think even buying her out would help, even if you could :( Social housing is like gold dust and is given to those most in need, which I am guessing does not include Louise, who lives with her boyfriend, is working, is well-placed to obtain private rented accommodation, and is not homeless anyway. Local Authorities have a duty to house children but not always their parents. What they will actually be saying to her is they cannot even accept her on the housing list whilst she co-owns a property. The housing list will be extremely long.
As you do not have the children, it is quite standard practice for the home not to be protected from sale. I am not saying that is right, but that is how it is.
You will need to look for private rented too, sadsy, if this goes through, unless there are any shared ownership schemes in your area. What about staying with your mum for a few weeks, or does this make things complicated in terms of all your stuff?
Hi Sadsy
I'm so glad you had a little bit of luck today at least.
I just don't know what to suggest, I really don't.
I'm sure your GF is giving you as much help as she can.
Stay strong, loads of hugs
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi Pansy
How are you? Is your daughter home yet? (sorry if you've posted about that already)! Have you transformed your house yet? How is your Mum coping? I hope everything is going as well as can be expected for you all.
Not been having such a great January so far, but looking on the bright side, (or trying), it's nearly February, :)
Hope you're keeping ok, and keeping warm
Take care
Alison
x :)
Hi Pansy
You've certainly got a full on weekend. Don't envy you one bit :)
Guess your daughter will be in some pain on Friday, the poor thing. Hope she ok.
BF is a strong one eh? Picks himself up, which is great, and fab that he has your support too.
Have a lovely time tomorrow.
Take care
Alison
x :)
I don't know what to say Sadsy. I still lost the house with four children as the equity was needed to pay off debts. I found a private let, and then that being sold had me declared homeless.
I was lucky.
I had my stuff in storage for a few months in a lock up (a container, not these you see on tele) and it was nice and dry and stuff stayed ok in it.
I don't know what to suggest.
I'm just sorry you're facing this.
:o :o Sparkling, are you saying you're not missing us? :o :o
:? :shock: :lol: :lol: :lol:
Not at all... :D
Got my essay finished and sent before coming here - how's that for being good?!
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Hi sadsy
One of the worst things about parental separation (after the loss of day to day contact with the children of course) is that so many people lose their homes. I am sorry you are facing yet more upheaval and am glad that the hearing has been moved. As for your stuff, yes you can store it although this can be expensive. Do you think Louise will be wanting some of the stuff?
Hello Pansy
Good luck with getting the room ready for your daughter and I hope her operation goes Ok :)
I went over the word count with the essay - and would have liked to have written more.
It's probably rubbish, but at the end of the day, I've said I'm doing the courses to learn, not necessarily to pass (don't get me wroing, I'd love to!).
I worked reasonably hard this time as there were no disruptions, unlike with the first two with my neighbour, really, and other hassles. Less hassles and I've coped ok.
I did fall apart with the last one - which has basically been missed. Just to see now if I can get a reasonable mark this time.
Thanks for asking...
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The funeral was very emotional. Youngest and I were hugging each other and bawling our eyes out. It was horrid as water had to be bailed out of the grave - which got me... He had to be buried though, the weather has turned quite mild now.
Thumper, however, is making us laugh. He'll never be a Zach - which is not why he's here - but looking at him, we can see that Zach was an old bunny - but much loved.
Hi pansy, my daughter had glandular fever a couple of years ago, she was really ill for a couple of weeks and basically slept through them, then she seem to get better.
I didn't think she was that bad, although whenever she has a sore throat now, she groans that it is glandular fever coming back. :?
I hope your eldest manages to whizz through it. Glad that you other daughter is still with her father, meaning:
a - that you only have one sick teenager to deal with
b - it sounds like it has worked out ok for her???
Sorry to read about your mum, I hope that you can support her through all that she needs, but PLEASE remember to look after yourself.
Did you make any new year resolutions??