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Hi Sadsy. Hope you got a good nights sleep. The weather is gorgeous isn't it? After picking up C from school as well as a friends son, we took them to the pub to watch footie. The boys loved being there!!! After that, we came back to mine, boys played in the pool, and us ladies shared a bottle of vino. It was a lovely afternoon and evening.
Are you a footie fan? I actually can't stand it hehe. Hope you get to chat to L tonight.
Have a lovely day. GF's tomorrow?
Take care
Alison
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Hi sadsy it looks as though are staying awake well into the early hours, could you perhaps put a time limit on the recording you are doing? Are you getting out into the sunshine, good Vitamin E!
alisoncam, it sounds like you had an absolutely lovely evening! I love it when things fall into place like yesterday did! It makes you good to feel alive and as if everything is alright in your world! I hope that you enjoy more of this weather, I bet the swimming pool is fantastic, ummmm splish splash!!
Back from Scout camp. Great weekend.
Sy, remind me please, why are you typing out all the calls with the solicitors?
Hi Anna, yes it was lovely on that afternoon. Pool is lovely and big, so C and I were in it yesterday. We always bring a bit of a picnic into the garden too, which is lovely.
How are you finding this hot weather? I guess it's ok if you're able to just sit around, but when other things need doing, like shopping, school run, housework (WHATTTTTT)!!! the heat can then get to you. Today I thought it best to stay inside, as I was extremely hot, and C said the same. We did go in the garden about 5, and he then splashed around with the hose spray. Hope you're managing to keep cool.
Hi Sparkling, I've posted to you on the evening chat. Glad you had a great weekend.
Hi alisoncam, I have been thinking about one of those pools this weekend, my only worry is that we would use it this year and then we wouldn't get another summer like it again for another 5 years!
I do have a cheap paddling pool though, which I have paddled, sat and kneeled in when the heat got too much!!!
sadsy, have you had a good weekend?
Hello sadsy
Glad the weekend went well, sounds pretty busy though.
See what the solicitor says about the transcript. How come this conversation was recorded and by whom? I do agree that hastiness may not be the best policy but you have a right to ensure that your children are in a drug-free environment
Hello sy hope you are well and keeping strong.
My brother has a simular situation where he had 3 children with his ex g/f who turned to drugs.
When they split because she couldent kick the habbit she somehow kept the kids,but my brother kept fighting for the right to have the children.It was soooooo frustrating for him knowing what his children were going through.
Well in the end he now has all three children living with him and his new g/f and her two children.
Like you i know you will never give up on them and you will have your reward and respect in the end.
Good to be going for advice with this one. Recording stuff is so difficult. I told The Git that I was going to record conversations with him at a mediation session, as he was denying having made arrangements... Another long boring part of my tale...
You need to get PR sorted Sy. While you may not be able to go and get the children without permission, I see no reason why you cannot be requesting residence... But then that's me repeating myself. :-D
Glad you had a good weekend.
It's good that your son has the phone. He knows it's there if he wants to use it. I bought mobiles for my older son who was 12 at the time we split to use. I always kept it topped up. He chose not to use it though - but knew he could phone his Dad at anytime. Don't be cross with him.
Loads of hugs.
Hello sy
Yes we will help and support you thats what were here for, Your children have the right to the best possible up bringing and your ex is just putting up barrier after barrier to try and make you suffer which is well out of order.
Any sensible person knows that it is better for the children to have a relationship with both parents if they are stable and thinking straight.
Hug Stuart
there's definitely more success now with the father being the pwc.
Unfortunate thing here Sy, is that you didn't have PR. When you tootle along happily with life, these are things you don't think you need to be concerned about. How wrong can we be with hindsight?
This is from someone who is bitter, but has been able to keep it in a box - although I've not learnt of a way to glue the lid on ;-) Many blips, as you know. Try to direct the anger you feel. It's holding you back and stopping you getting well - which worries me greatly.
Focus on the good bits, and with the not so good bits, they need filing, so you can deal with them in an admin way and not emotionally.
And when you master that bit, let me know!! See if you can do it in less than the years it took me - although I'm sure if I had been able to go and sit in sandhills I would have recovered quicker. Wonky legs have certainly not helped.
Give your Mum a hug. She's wonderful.
Hello sadsy
I think you have a good chance of getting Parental Responsibility. Good luck.
I said to you a couple of weeks ago about the beyond anger/hate emotion maybe being total and utter detestation. That obviously didn't strike the right chord?
Hi sadsy
I feel sad that I can't name that emotion for you but maybe you are right: it is better without a name.
The editing of posts is normally done by Anna and myself, and will also be done by our new moderator Helen T. We follow guidelines given by One Space and sometimes that means we have to remove some parts of peoples' posts. I am sorry if that is annoying.
I do hope that you can use the information you have from the recording to check out the safety of this child and also to sort things out for your own lovely children.
Good luck with it all today, sadsy :-)
That was a long day for you, sadsy. Bet you were exhausted. Hope you have managed a decent sleep so that you feel fresher today.
Hello sadsy
Thank you for that medley, I can hear the music in my head now :-)
Ooh I thought that was Alison Moyet (or Peggy Lee, although you are not old enough to remember her)
As for drug usage, one of the best sites is http://www.talktofrank.com/ Although it is intended for youngsters, I have found it to be down-to-earth and realistic for parents too.
Hi Sadsy, on many occassions, my 7 year old and I have had tinned tomato soup and bread for our dinner, so yes, I would join you. Sometimes we have to survive on beans on toast for a few days, but then again beans are part of the 5 a day thingy.
Have a good evening.
How did the CAFCASS go last week?
Take care
Alison
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I made it clear in mediation session that I wouldn't swap weekends, as it meant we couldn't arrange things during the year.
He never asked though, but I would have refused.
There will be times that you won't be able to have them Sy with things like family ocassions, which is to be accepted.
I'm not sure what you can do about the lateness. My friend struggles to get her son to school on time as he hates it so much. He's in Year 6. She's dreading him going to the secondary school, and is relieved that she has been able to move closer in the hope of getting him there before lunch time.
I hope you and your mum enjoyed the wedding.
I'd have the bread - not the tomatoes though...
Recipe for homemade tomato soup:
Saute a chopped onion and stick in a few dried herbs if you have some, and a pinch of chilli powder. Add a tin of chopped tomatoes and a few cooked lentils, put on a high heat for a short time so it goes more mushy (no need for a blender, ha!) Delicious and has protein in too, and no salt or nasties.
Hello sadsy
I am not turning the thread into Recipe Corner, don't worry. Hope you get a reasonable result from the CAFCASS meeting. You're right though, a link to that recording would not be permitted on the site.
Hope you get some helpful information from the drugs link. Keep on thinking about NICE letters you might write or receive in the future, too
Hi Sy, sorry the wedding didn't go without any hitches for you. I'm sure your Mum won't stay cross with you for long. She was probably just disappointed in the fact that you'd had glasses of wine, and of course we all know booze and tablets don't mix!!TUT TUT, hehe. The doubt that you saw in the bride's face could have been sheer nerves, so don't be worrying over your cousin. I'm sure too most brides and grooms have 'doubts' on their wedding day.
Give your Mum a ring today, and tell her you love her loads. You'll be forgiven in a flash, though of course you might get a lecture!!! That's what Mums are for afterall!
Hope you have a good day
Take care
Alison
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Hello sadsy
That whole trip sounds a nightmare! And such a long, long drive (you seem to specialise in those). I feel sure that your Mum was just worried about you. About time you had afternoon tea again methinks. York is a beautiful city, it is near my neck of the woods but it has a very lively nightlife and I had a terrible night in a hotel there myself once.
Sorry about the lentils,lol. You would need about two tablespoonsful for one person, cover with plenty of water, boil and then simmer for 20 mins and drain. You can get different coloured lentils, they are usually near the rice in supermarkets, I just buy the cheapest colour. Saute is just another word for fry. I have been watching too many rubbish cookery programmes.
As for looking back at this time, you can be proud of how you have survived all this and have stood by your children despite the obstacles put in your way. Gold star for you!
That's so sad for your Granddad.
Hmmm... Map reading. I'm not too bad at this, but often get lost but can usually sort it out - which impresses the children. I'm so chilled with getting lost they never get concerned!
Weddings. I'm going to one on 24 July. They're good friends of mine, who have been living together for 13 years. I don't see the point (and told him so.... :-) ), but they do, which I guess is all that matters. She's 60 and he's 53, so I guess they'll be ok.
I've no food in for me (I'm fussy) so I've had weetabix for tea. Three children have gone off to their father's, eldest has his music playing loud enjoying the quiet (which sort of sounds like a negative!)
Hi sadsy, have a look at this link....may be useful?
http://www.dayoutwiththekids.co.uk/things-to-do-family/Romford/Play-Parks-and-Great-Outdoors
Poor L, falling aasleep in class, I hope you get to hear from him why, maybe he was just exhausted from a fun fuelled weekend with daddy.
Great to hear that you managed to find a suit so quickly, that really is a turn up for the books. I hope you enjoy the weddings and the weather holds out for them. And great way to thank your mum by fixing her computer and hoover, I am sure she was pleased.
Sadsy, hear alisoncam, you need your sleep, it is so important and perhaps rather than thinking of it bringing tomorrow closer, think of it a time to shut down and stop thinking about everything, hey and weekend sounds something to look forward to.